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Does anyone have experience with long flights here? I'm preparing for a 15 hour flight to Colombia tonight, and the longest flight I ever had was 5 hours. Any tips will be greatly appreciated.

Sorry to inform you I don't have any good news. It's a nightmare and, pardon my French, a pain in the ass.
Tips, you ask? Get slightly tipsy. Works like magic to me. Good luck.
 
Ahh Dan you crack me up. Tips? Valium. Actually I haven't taken it on a flight, my doctor said he didn't want to give it to a girl travelling alone, but my flight neighbour had it and was out like a light. I was very jealous. Other than that, steal as many flight pillows as possible and build a fort. Drink the complimentary alcohol if they have it. If you want to sleep get a window seat or you might end up woken up every ten minutes by annoying flight neighbours (assuming you're in economy). And make sure you have enough water and sweets to help with the pressure.

As for the original OP, I am actually with someone right now who was a virgin when we met. He wasn't at an unusual age to not have had sex, and he is younger than me by four years. I didn't actually know that he hadn't had sex before when we slept together, I knew he was inexperienced but he had for obvious reasons not wanted to share. I would have slept with him anyway, but I felt bad for not making it more... special? We are still together nearly three years later so I guess it was special, but I think I would have been a lot more sensitive to his inexperience in the moment had I known. I still think it was pretty funny, not quite "inbetweeners" awkward (if anyone has watched it, the british version I mean), but still a few funny awkward moments, and because I am experienced the whole experience was pretty terrifying for him. Once I learned that he really didn't have any experience I was able to talk to him about what I wanted, and seeing as he had no previous ideas of what to do, he did everything I wanted without all the ego bullshit I have had from other men. I've never experienced anything like it, and that is definitely a good thing. With most men oral sex has been an uncomfortable experience, and no matter how much I explain what I like and don't like they don't seem to listen because they "know better". It usually takes a while into the relationship to get to a point where I can have an orgasm. This was not the case with my current partner, it was mindblowing from the start and has only gotten better with time. So I definitely think so long as someone is willing to listen and communicate then lack of experience is not a negative. I often hear people (usually older guys) saying that older guys are better in bed due to experience. I have slept with people of all ages, and have never found this correlation. In fact, in my experience the opposite has been true. So I guess the main thing is, if you haven't had sex before then let the other person know. If it deters them then it's better that you don't sleep together anyway, but if it doesn't deter them it means they can make the experience easier and not ask too much from you straight off the bat. Communication is key.

The only downsides to a lack of experience is that I think there are benefits to having played the field a bit in understanding what it is you like and don't like, as well as discovering differences in sexual styles. I also find it's sometimes easier to explore with a new partner, as when you get into a relationship you've worked out what feels great physically for both of you and what doesn't feel so great, but when you get into a new sexual relationship you relearn sex all over again while getting the novelty experience. You can then notice new things which work/feel good and bring them into other relationships.

As for reasons why people might not be sexually active as adults, there are loads, most of which don't mean there's anything wrong with the person's ability to connect in a sexual relationship. Sometimes it's a lack of confidence, sometimes it's just lack of opportunity, and sometimes it's being picky. You might also be respectful of women/men and not want to just "score" at the first opportunity if you think she/he might be drunk or you can't read whether their into it or not and don't want to push it. Some people don't want to just have sex with people as soon as the opportunity is there, for some reason though there is a toxic culture that men are just waiting to get laid under any circumstances, which just isn't the case for everyone. I have no issue with a man who hasn't felt the right person/moment has come along for them to have sex, and I guess it's pretty complimentary if they choose me. Obviously if the reason someone hasn't had sex is because they're not very nice, or go after girls for the wrong reasons, generally give off bad vibes or have zero interest in having sex, then that's a whole different matter. But just going by someone being sexually inexperienced, it might be a small deterrence, but if I like the person then it would not stop me from starting a relationship.
 
Virgins are fun. :)
 
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So I definitely think so long as someone is willing to listen and communicate then lack of experience is not a negative. I often hear people (usually older guys) saying that older guys are better in bed due to experience. I have slept with people of all ages, and have never found this correlation. In fact, in my experience the opposite has been true. So I guess the main thing is, if you haven't had sex before then let the other person know. If it deters them then it's better that you don't sleep together anyway, but if it doesn't deter them it means they can make the experience easier and not ask too much from you straight off the bat. Communication is key.

Yep, communication is key in everything. It's important to listen and learn what each person likes, or doesn't like. Even if it's just something simple. As the experiences grow, things will change and may find new things that both like, even if one is far more experienced than the other.


As for reasons why people might not be sexually active as adults, there are loads, most of which don't mean there's anything wrong with the person's ability to connect in a sexual relationship. Sometimes it's a lack of confidence, sometimes it's just lack of opportunity, and sometimes it's being picky. You might also be respectful of women/men and not want to just "score" at the first opportunity if you think she/he might be drunk or you can't read whether their into it or not and don't want to push it. Some people don't want to just have sex with people as soon as the opportunity is there, for some reason though there is a toxic culture that men are just waiting to get laid under any circumstances, which just isn't the case for everyone. I have no issue with a man who hasn't felt the right person/moment has come along for them to have sex, and I guess it's pretty complimentary if they choose me. Obviously if the reason someone hasn't had sex is because they're not very nice, or go after girls for the wrong reasons, generally give off bad vibes or have zero interest in having sex, then that's a whole different matter. But just going by someone being sexually inexperienced, it might be a small deterrence, but if I like the person then it would not stop me from starting a relationship.

There's definitely a variety of reasons, of which I fit into a few you mentioned. Though, it's not that I'm a virgin. I just haven't had it in a long time for many reasons.
 
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Taking someone who's never fired a gun to a shooting range SUCKS ASS, they're terrified, have no idea what they're doing, and you spend all your energy making sure they don't fuck up to the point where someone gets hurt. I imagine it's the same with an inexperienced sex partner.

Also, never really a good idea to buy a car new, but that's just mostly because of depreciation.
 
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There's definitely a variety of reasons, of which I fit into a few you mentioned. Though, it's not that I'm a virgin. I just haven't had it in a long time for many reasons.

I know loads of people as adults who are like this and go for long periods of time without having sex, nothing wrong with them, they're good looking and charismatic, it's just not something they've put much emphasis on in life for various reasons. It's strange though how when women do this it is seen as being perfectly normal/acceptable to make that choice, and in many way it's idolised, but if a man hasn't had sex for a while it's often assumed it's because there's some flaw in him which means he has failed to get sex. Granted it is generally easier as a woman to have sex and more men tend to be open to "getting it where they can" so to speak than women, but those stereotypes aren't true for everyone. Sure if you only socialise in bars and nightclubs the stereotype might be reinforced, but I'd say a majority of my friends are picky with when and who they have sex with. I don't know what the actual statistics are, but I would hazard a guess that while the majority of people do have sex at least once in their late teens/early 20s, it's not uncommon for people to then go for a while without.

Edit to add: Dan, I expect to see pictures of your pillow fort. Safe travels!
 
Taking someone who's never fired a gun to a shooting range SUCKS ASS, they're terrified, have no idea what they're doing, and you spend all your energy making sure they don't fuck up to the point where someone gets hurt. I imagine it's the same with an inexperienced sex partner.

All depends on the viewpoint. I enjoy bringing new shooters (firearms or archery) to the range and helping them out. I think I get just as much enjoyment out of doing that as I do if I'm the one shooting. Maybe even a little more.
 
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I know loads of people as adults who are like this and go for long periods of time without having sex, nothing wrong with them, they're good looking and charismatic, it's just not something they've put much emphasis on in life for various reasons. It's strange though how when women do this it is seen as being perfectly normal/acceptable to make that choice, and in many way it's idolised, but if a man hasn't had sex for a while it's often assumed it's because there's some flaw in him which means he has failed to get sex. Granted it is generally easier as a woman to have sex and more men tend to be open to "getting it where they can" so to speak than women, but those stereotypes aren't true for everyone. Sure if you only socialise in bars and nightclubs the stereotype might be reinforced, but I'd say a majority of my friends are picky with when and who they have sex with. I don't know what the actual statistics are, but I would hazard a guess that while the majority of people do have sex at least once in their late teens/early 20s, it's not uncommon for people to then go for a while without.

Edit to add: Dan, I expect to see pictures of your pillow fort. Safe travels!

Gotta love the stigma's which are put out there... :p
 
Well, that is something I wouldn´t judge never. I wasn´t with nobody before my actual partner and he didn´t mind it. Who am I to judge that?

I think if someone loves you accepts you how you are. And at some point, one day needs to be the first time.
 
Answer: "Yes!"
I have "de-virginized" ^_- and it was the greatest relationship ever!! Sadly! :( He didn't tell me that he was a virgin! I found out after! :(
So, I didn't have that choice. But I liked him enough, I'd have said yes regardless.

That said, I turned down a different virgin and he turned into a monster... (pretty random haha)
 
Yes!

Trying out something new with a partner that they've never experienced before can be a lot of fun if they enjoy it, too. With that perspective, I think being with a virgin could be quite exciting since you're regularly being put in the experimental phase and experience all of the emotions that come with it, both the good and the bad.

Whatever their reasons for being inexperienced, I don't see it as a turn-off. My only worry would be that I'd potentially make them hate something just because I wasn't very good at it - I'm not too sexually experienced, either.

I wouldn't actively search out virgins, though, and I'd be suspicious about those who do.
 
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There's nothing wrong with adults who happen to be "virgins"! (The concept of "virginity" is a social construct that needs to be retired) There could be soo many reasons why they haven't had sex - sometimes it's as simple as they just didn't have anyone to hook up with yet ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I've dated multiple "virgins" and I'd rather be with someone who has no experience but is excited to learn, than some fuckboy who ignores my pleasure LOL
The only problem with adult "virgins" is that other people judge them! Society/mainstream media make us think we're not normal if we don't perfectly fit into these ridiculous roles they've created for us. I think the pressure to become sexually active for men is "toxic masculinity". As if you're not a real man until you have sex :facepalm:

http://www.doctornerdlove.com/the-problem-with-male-virginity/

https://goodmenproject.com/sex-relationships/disrupting-the-fear-of-virginity-dg/

 
Taking someone who's never fired a gun to a shooting range SUCKS ASS, they're terrified, have no idea what they're doing, and you spend all your energy making sure they don't fuck up to the point where someone gets hurt. I imagine it's the same with an inexperienced sex partner.

Also, never really a good idea to buy a car new, but that's just mostly because of depreciation.

You don't really get hurt with an inexperienced partner unless they lack common sense.

I'm not really a gun person but I'd kinda expect the same there really?

Guns can kill you, dicks can hurt when inserted too strongly or jerked around. Start off slow, whats so hard to understand?
 
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