Came out or being found out (as a camgirl/guy)

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Hi everyone! This is my first time posting and I would like some advice/criticism/stories. From your personal lives about how you came out to your friends/family or if you were found out, what happened and how did your life change?

I started camming about almost 2 months ago now and I really love it because I realized I don't have to work for anyone possibly for a long time or ever again as long as I keep this up and invest my money well.

Anywho, I have only told a couple of people. It was fine, but I guess I'm mostly worried my family will find out but I know if they do I am not really screwed if I am, it's just how to deal with it if it ends up going south.

I would like some advice on how you all handled it then and how it is now. Especially with all this crap going on, lol.

I've been a bit lonely about talking to people about this because I usually vent about work stuff but since this isn't something that's not common and or is looked down on, I hope to possibly make some nice conversations/cam friends to just talk to here and there :)

I have accepted that I may be found out one day but I guess I just need some personal stories to either reassure or just cope with the fact that it'll happen since I haven't been able to find many :/
Regardless, I appreciate anything c:
 

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...I really love it because I realized I don't have to work for anyone possibly for a long time or ever again as long as I keep this up and invest my money well.
Technically, you're working for the platforms. They make it very clear they don't want you engaging with your customers outside of their purview. On the personal finance side, yeah, making money is pretty cool! Can't knock it.
I'm mostly worried my family will find out but I know if they do I am not really screwed if I am, it's just how to deal with it if it ends up going south.
Option: cross that bridge when you reach it, or come out clean. You could keep on hiding indefinitely, but living a double life isn't much fun. At least not to me!
I would like some advice on how you all handled it then and how it is now. Especially with all this crap going on, lol.
If you were more specific, you'd probably net more relevant responses. As for all this crap going on? It's just part of life!
I've been a bit lonely about talking to people about this because I usually vent about work stuff but since this isn't something that's not common and or is looked down on, I hope to possibly make some nice conversations/cam friends to just talk to here and there :)
I have a feeling some of that good stuff is locked away in the Models Only section :giggle:
I have accepted that I may be found out one day but I guess I just need some personal stories to either reassure or just cope with the fact that it'll happen since I haven't been able to find many :/
Maybe look into coming out stories, period?
 

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We normally talk about outing or coming out on your own in MO, since it's more personal. If you get verified, you'll be able to search more.

I'm happy to share my worse case scenario of being outed. I'm not trying to share this to scare you, just letting you know what could happen so you can be prepared.

When I was outted to my family, my husband got all the blame. He was making me cam. My mother threatened to picket with her eight brothers and sisters outside of my husband's and i's home that would have outed me to my community. Which is dangerous to my safety. Also was threatening to use her power and influence so that my husband would never find work in any of Florida's hospitals. My father who has told me my whole life he would kill a man he believes have hurt me so I believed him, threatened my husband's life not once but several times after. Once on Christmas Eve!

We got restraining orders to stop the harrasment and to show them they have zero power with their threats. I ended up getting doxxed a couple times after because no one could keep their mouth shut about me after I asked them to respect my privacy let alone keep my secret

I went 3 years no contact, and just this past month my father and I started texting again. We have since mended our broken relationship, and I told him I'm not going to tolerate threats of violence, because there is literally no reason. Especially since since they were very VERY wrong with their judgments.

Therapy and time helped a lot. I'm not ready to mend things with my mother, because I don't have the confidence that she will respect me and my choices without being toxic.


Sorry, again not trying to scare you. But what happened to me is probably the most batshit initial reaction I've seen on this forum. But I have been seeing a lot more good on family finding out then how it used to be. Times are hopefully changing!
 
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We normally talk about outing or coming out on your own in MO, since it's more personal. If you get verified, you'll be able to search more.

I'm happy to share my worse case scenario of being outed. I'm not trying to share this to scare you, just letting you know what could happen so you can be prepared.

When I was outted to my family, my husband got all the blame. He was making me cam. My mother threatened to picket with her eight brothers and sisters outside of my husband's and i's home that would have outed me to my community. Which is dangerous to my safety. Also was threatening to use her power and influence so that my husband would never find work in any of Florida's hospitals. My father who has told me my whole life he would kill a man he believes have hurt me so I believed him, threatened my husband's life not once but several times after. Once on Christmas Eve!

We got restraining orders to stop the harrasment and to show them they have zero power with their threats. I ended up getting doxxed a couple times after because no one could keep their mouth shut about me after I asked them to respect my privacy let alone keep my secret

I went 3 years no contact, and just this past month my father and I started texting again. We have since mended our broken relationship, and I told him I'm not going to tolerate threats of violence, because there is literally no reason. Especially since since they were very VERY wrong with their judgments.

Therapy and time helped a lot. I'm not ready to mend things with my mother, because I don't have the confidence that she will respect me and my choices without being toxic.


Sorry, again not trying to scare you. But what happened to me is probably the most batshit initial reaction I've seen on this forum. But I have been seeing a lot more good on family finding out then how it used to be. Times are hopefully changing!
Technically, you're working for the platforms. They make it very clear they don't want you engaging with your customers outside of their purview. On the personal finance side, yeah, making money is pretty cool! Can't knock it.

Option: cross that bridge when you reach it, or come out clean. You could keep on hiding indefinitely, but living a double life isn't much fun. At least not to me!

If you were more specific, you'd probably net more relevant responses. As for all this crap going on? It's just part of life!

I have a feeling some of that good stuff is locked away in the Models Only section :giggle:

Maybe look into coming out stories, period?
haha thank you so much for your feedback! Yes I am still working for the platforms totally. Lol but it’s still the most flexible job I ever had! I mostly searched via Reddit which is probably why I haven’t found much...plus it’s only been a month and I’m still figuring out stuff 😣 but thank you again!
 
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We normally talk about outing or coming out on your own in MO, since it's more personal. If you get verified, you'll be able to search more.

I'm happy to share my worse case scenario of being outed. I'm not trying to share this to scare you, just letting you know what could happen so you can be prepared.

When I was outted to my family, my husband got all the blame. He was making me cam. My mother threatened to picket with her eight brothers and sisters outside of my husband's and i's home that would have outed me to my community. Which is dangerous to my safety. Also was threatening to use her power and influence so that my husband would never find work in any of Florida's hospitals. My father who has told me my whole life he would kill a man he believes have hurt me so I believed him, threatened my husband's life not once but several times after. Once on Christmas Eve!

We got restraining orders to stop the harrasment and to show them they have zero power with their threats. I ended up getting doxxed a couple times after because no one could keep their mouth shut about me after I asked them to respect my privacy let alone keep my secret

I went 3 years no contact, and just this past month my father and I started texting again. We have since mended our broken relationship, and I told him I'm not going to tolerate threats of violence, because there is literally no reason. Especially since since they were very VERY wrong with their judgments.

Therapy and time helped a lot. I'm not ready to mend things with my mother, because I don't have the confidence that she will respect me and my choices without being toxic.


Sorry, again not trying to scare you. But what happened to me is probably the most batshit initial reaction I've seen on this forum. But I have been seeing a lot more good on family finding out then how it used to be. Times are hopefully changing!
Ahh! This does freak me out LOL but I really really appreciate this. The fact that you are able to still stand up to your family because you know that they have no power over you is amazing! I’ve read only a few where people’s families took it pretty well but rarely ever when the situation becomes crazy! I hope everything mends or blows over! Thank you for giving me your side of your story. It definitely mentally prepared me for the “absolute worst” event.
 
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May 19, 2020
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We normally talk about outing or coming out on your own in MO, since it's more personal. If you get verified, you'll be able to search more.

I'm happy to share my worse case scenario of being outed. I'm not trying to share this to scare you, just letting you know what could happen so you can be prepared.

When I was outted to my family, my husband got all the blame. He was making me cam. My mother threatened to picket with her eight brothers and sisters outside of my husband's and i's home that would have outed me to my community. Which is dangerous to my safety. Also was threatening to use her power and influence so that my husband would never find work in any of Florida's hospitals. My father who has told me my whole life he would kill a man he believes have hurt me so I believed him, threatened my husband's life not once but several times after. Once on Christmas Eve!

We got restraining orders to stop the harrasment and to show them they have zero power with their threats. I ended up getting doxxed a couple times after because no one could keep their mouth shut about me after I asked them to respect my privacy let alone keep my secret

I went 3 years no contact, and just this past month my father and I started texting again. We have since mended our broken relationship, and I told him I'm not going to tolerate threats of violence, because there is literally no reason. Especially since since they were very VERY wrong with their judgments.

Therapy and time helped a lot. I'm not ready to mend things with my mother, because I don't have the confidence that she will respect me and my choices without being toxic.


Sorry, again not trying to scare you. But what happened to me is probably the most batshit initial reaction I've seen on this forum. But I have been seeing a lot more good on family finding out then how it used to be. Times are hopefully changing!
Also may I ask (if it’s not too personal) how you were lured? Was it by your family member who found you or did you tell someone or?? Only if it’s not too personal!
 

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Also may I ask (if it’s not too personal) how you were lured? Was it by your family member who found you or did you tell someone or?? Only if it’s not too personal!
A clip of me kept going viral for several months on many platforms. First I saw it blew up on pornhub, then Reddit, then twitter, then instagram, then finally Facebook. Once I saw it was being shared on Facebook I knew it was only a matter of time before I get outed. It was out of my control because once the internet takes ahold of something, there is no removing it. I think I requested removal once. I didn't want to create a Streisand Effect. Hoped it would of gone away on its own. Well it didn't. I briefly was a meme for a week. Lol. Financially wise, it was great.

My dad's best friend saw it at work, who then told my father, who then told everyone.
 

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I agree with others, there is a bunch of stuff in the MO area that is very helpful.

When I got outted, it was painful at first but it turned out to be a 'life reset' moment. I cut many 'friends' out of my life because, nastiness, childish and creepy. My much smaller circle of friends are good peeps and I am happier.
 

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there's a book by jizz lee called coming out like a porn star that you might find helpful. It's a collection of personal stories from people in the adult industry
 

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I was lucky enough that I was able to come out to 90% of the people in my life without any major negative social repercussions. I’ve always cultivated a very liberal friend group so none of them batted an eye.

I didn’t come out to my family but I know them finding out was inevitable. So I prepared how I would talk to them about it in advance, along with sources I could show them. Because I was able to calmly and comprehensively talk to them when the time came, it went as smoothly as it could have, all things considered. They weren’t thrilled but I was at least able to help calm some of the worries and misconceptions they had. That being said, my immediate family is pretty open minded so I acknowledge that In some cases, no amount of prep will get you a positive outcome. Either way, I highly recommend preparing exactly what you want to say to your friends and family ASAP. If nothing else, it will make the coming out/outing conversation much less stressful when the time comes!