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AriAngel

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I'm curious as to whether others have noticed any link between camming and their self esteem?

I haven't started officially camming yet, but I've been practicing getting more comfortable on cam and I've noticed that the more I do it, the higher my self confidence seems to go? Its kind of empowering. I had a really low self esteem before, but it seems to be getting a lot better. Looking at myself on cam and getting good feedback from viewers is doing wonders.

Has camming effected your self confidence negatively, positively, or not at all?

Thanks in advance! :)
 
I'm curious as to whether others have noticed any link between camming and their self esteem?

I haven't started officially camming yet, but I've been practicing getting more comfortable on cam and I've noticed that the more I do it, the higher my self confidence seems to go? Its kind of empowering. I had a really low self esteem before, but it seems to be getting a lot better. Looking at myself on cam and getting good feedback from viewers is doing wonders.

Has camming effected your self confidence negatively, positively, or not at all?

Thanks in advance! :)
I had the very same experience in my beginning years of camming.

Unfortunately there's also the effect that after all this time camming, I've started tying my self-confidence/worth to how well my day/week/month on cam is going, and when it isn't going well, it's hard to feel positive. So be careful of that and don't let yourself get into this mindset!
 
I'm new and I've experienced the same thing. I used to feel so self conscious about my pointy boobs, my tummy, my nose, my arms.... My girlfriend has helped me feel prettier, but camming has gone a step further for my self esteem. Receiving compliments and even just having people interested in me aesthetically have kinda gone to my head. My opinion of my social skills has been a little shaken, but....I always knew I sucked at that lolol.
 
There is a link yes. Before camming I hated my body , my butt and my face and everything else mostly. After camming for 5 yrs I am a confident woman, love my body and myself . I honestly never in my life felt this way about myself. The short period i stopped camming ( few months ) I felt like a boring regular woman in her 40's lol. Not fun. Cam work made me see my self worth and raised my self esteem like I never thought it can happen.
 
This is an interesting topic, and a complicated question, I don't know if I would define self-esteem and self-confidence as the same things, so I guess it depends, yes and no for different reasons.

At first it definitely got my confidence up, it's hard for it not to when you have people complimenting you all of the time and literally giving you money because of your looks/personality. I was never exactly insecure if I'll be honest, but certain angles and stuff I previously found unflattering, I realised were angles most men love *ahem* lying back with legs apart and pussy facing towards the camera *ahem*. It's pretty flattering when people choose out of thousands of girls, to spend their time and money on you.

But... As Amber said, this can take an uglier turn. For me, if I happen to have gained weight or am bloated and start getting bad sessions, I automatically blame my weight, or something else about my looks I'm insecure about at the time. I need to remind myself constantly that I have cammed very successfully at a range of weights and I managed top 100 during one of my heaviest times, and in reality, my success has generally been lower while I've been slimmer. But it still preys on my mind. It can also be easy to compare yourself with other models, there will always be the popular girls who fit current western ideals of female beauty in some way or shape, the kind of women who most women compare themselves to, camgirl or not. It can be easy to compare your position with theirs, which isn't helped by the fact that many members believe that it's only top 20/top 100 models who are successful cam models, when realistically any girl consistently in the top 1000/2000 is earning similar levels to most lawyers, doctors and many other qualified positions, with consistent top 100 girls well into the top 5% of earners. Top 20 MFC girls are the best paid girls in the porn industry.
So I guess if you spend any time watching top girls, checking out instagrams or looking at high ranking girls on twitter, then you are going to feel an impact on your self esteem, something similar to all the other non camming women in the world who look at gorgeous and apparently successful women online. Except as a camgirl you are thrown into an industry where you are working on the same site as women who are the very top of their game, and can view them in their workplace and directly compare yourself to them. In comparison, it would be like being constantly reminded of how successful all the CEO's are, or of any other tiny percentage of people who are hugely successful, and made to feel guilty for not being at that point.
It's all about your perception of success and your perception of self. At first camming for many is like, "wow, I just earned HOW MUCH?!!" after a few hours, which is a brilliant attitude to maintain (if you can). Eventually you may start to feel disappointed by that and will not understand why all these other girls seem to be doing so much better than you, even if you are still doing far better than the majority of the girls on the site. Sometimes a controlling micromanaging member will criticise you and make you feel lazy. I was once told by an old regular that it was pathetic that I only made about top 800 monthly with my camscore, which made me feel ashamed of what I had perceived as success.
It wasn't the first time I have been told stupid things like this, and all of these aspects of camming can take huge hits on your self esteem, because as far as you can tell, why should you not be as successful as such and such girl? You both started with a computer and a webcam. It can be very easy to make yourself believe you have failed, or you are just not enough. This isn't just camming, if you start a sport and you've got experts next to you then it can seriously limit your progress as you fear making a tit out of yourself. It's just harder with camming where just up the page a bit, while you're hearing crickets, there's a girl with 1000 viewers bringing in your weekly aim every hour, and getting crazy tips which would put a deposit on a house. All of this could be very damaging to your sense of self-worth.

Social media in general is becoming a big issue in causing mental health issues in young people, whether due to lowering self-esteem or causing addiction. At least one very successful and hard working cam model on MFC seems to have a genuine addiction to camming which is apparently put above her mental and physical health, I am certain there will be more, just in the same way you get with lots of social media stars. So while yes, it can be used as an amazing tool to help gain confidence, similar to sites like instagram, it could also easily lead to warping and lowering your self-esteem.

For any girl looking to get into camming, if you are prone to getting issues with self-esteem, I guess I would recommend protecting yourself in various ways, maybe by limiting how much you watch other girls (especially top girls), and by refusing to compare yourself to their success. Set achievable expectations, and reward yourself when you meet or exceed them. Set ideas in mind before you ever start camming of what you would be thrilled to make, then write those down and remind yourself of them to try and maintain perspective.
While this isn't exactly the topic, it is kind of related with the health element of self-esteem: Camgirls, please remember to take breaks and look after your health when you need to. Camming is physically and psychologically draining, and with it can come fears and insecurities that if you take a break or don't come online your followers will move on or will be angry/upset with you. This could lead to not taking enough breaks, or (like me), lead to being so insecure I fear coming back. Even if you're getting pressure from certain members, remember that your health and wellbeing is always more important than their sexual entertainment. Fortunately most members I have been close to have stood by this 100% and will be hugely supportive.

Other aspects of self-consciousness which are related to camming, which may be a good idea to keep in mind: Bear in mind what society thinks of your job. Not going to lie, it's not confidence inspiring when most people you'll meet in real life will judge and disrespect you when they find out about your job. It's not good on confidence if you are successful at camming and no one in real life gives a fuck about all that hard work you put in, and all those great ideas you put together. It's not great on the self-esteem having to lie to people about what you do for work. It's not great either if you decide to leave the world of camming and are unqualified in comparison with your peers, as all that time and energy put into the camming world no longer means shit. It's not fun when people who you thought were trusted friends (or partners) lash back in a disagreement by using "you're a camgirl" as the ultimate justification that you are wrong and a bad person and have no leg to stand on in other topics (like rape or sexual harassment).
On the upside it can be very good for self-esteem when you're earning more than most people from far less hours, so if you are clever and make the most of your earning potential in improving your life, then you could even gain a slight superiority complex.

None of this in any way is to say don't cam, camming is a great gig and I believe the pros tend to outweigh the cons, but the cons should be kept in mind while camming so you can ensure you don't run into them, or that if you do run into them, you know how to deal with it. While on the surface I would say camming has given me huge amounts of confidence in myself, being completely honest with myself, it has also removed confidence in other areas which are hidden under the surface, some of which only became apparent after leaving the camming world. For anyone thinking of using camming solely as a way to raise self-esteem, I would probably say it is not an effective treatment for low self-esteem. If you want to gain confidence and get better at speaking over webcam and feeling comfortable with people seeing you naked, then it would definitely help that. Not necessarily that you will feel any different in your sense of self-worth, but practice makes perfect.

I hope this made sense and maybe helped answer the question.
 
I dont do social media for cam work and I'll never do it. I'm fine like that. :)
 
@IsabellaSnow I agree with your cons, and I have noticed that the temptation to compare myself to other girls is damaging, so I will heed your advice! Though, I have to say...those cons are nothing compared to the equivalent in the publishing industry. I tried to get into self publishing world a year or two ago, and it's awful. So much work put into writing fiction and then no one buys your books, while others get publishing deals because they know someone in the company. In camming, even starting out and having a minimal following, you can make some money and gain some fans. It seems to be one of the least crappy industries in the gig economy. So that has been a contributor to self-confidence for me, after the soul-destroying experience of trying to get people to buy my fiction.
 
@IsabellaSnow I agree with your cons, and I have noticed that the temptation to compare myself to other girls is damaging, so I will heed your advice! Though, I have to say...those cons are nothing compared to the equivalent in the publishing industry. I tried to get into self publishing world a year or two ago, and it's awful. So much work put into writing fiction and then no one buys your books, while others get publishing deals because they know someone in the company. In camming, even starting out and having a minimal following, you can make some money and gain some fans. It seems to be one of the least crappy industries in the gig economy. So that has been a contributor to self-confidence for me, after the soul-destroying experience of trying to get people to buy my fiction.

I hear you, until fairly recently my mother was a successful author and is pretty well known in the writing world in terms of teaching and doing talks, so I grew up going to a lot of events and talks in that world. I even got a job in marketing at her publishing company a bit under ten years ago, it was around a time where a huge amount of authors started being dropped because of the recession, it's a very competitive industry, even more so now with Amazon causing issues. The only thing I will say, is while publishing companies are more likely to take on and put time/money into already famous or known authors, and the publishing industry is dying, if your work is good and sell-able and you push hard for it in the right ways, or make necessary edits to make it easier to read/sell, you will likely get a publisher interested eventually so it is worth keeping on trying. It's not easy to get people to buy a book, by asking someone to read your book you are asking them to give a significant amount of their time, and therefore the book needs to absolutely be worth their time not doing more productive things. It is a tough industry, but that is a decision everyone makes when they independently go into something artistic. It not the sort of work that many people walk into and "make it". Being able to complete a book is an amazing skill, and the publishing/book industry is not good right now. It's really hard, I remember when cuts were happening one of my mothers books got a prominent fiction award, but because the publishers didn't do much publicity or get it into the supermarkets, it failed to get onto the best sellers list. Once that happens it's nearly impossible to get a book out there.
Camming is not that different, it is rare that any of the successful models you see just walked in and got the position they have now, and camsites bring all that traffic in like a publisher would, it's just there is far more demand for camgirls than new books. Working as an independent camgirl I imagine would not be that much easier than trying to get people to buy self-published books. You also do get models who walk in with a foot in the door. They may know another successful model, they might have worked on other sites, have modeled before or have a social media following already. They may just be at the top of their game on their brand research which gives them an edge over other girls. And let's face it, looks and personality are hugely important. If people don't like how you look, it could be hard to make a living off camming.

Camming is much more like a day job in the sense that you earn each day as you go, so yes in a way you could say it is great for that, most girls can get on and earn an income. But there are also loads of girls who earn peanuts, no one is interested in them, their camscore tanks and they get next to no exposure which means they are stuck in a total rut or not earning. Those who have success on webcam sites are just the girls on the winning side of the coin. For every girl who finds success on MFC for example, there is a girl struggling with a camscore under 1k. I have never been at that point as a cam model, but I believe that for some it can be a soul-destroying struggle of even earning minimum wage on webcam, so I would not say it is nothing in comparison, just that you are having a much better time of it in the cam industry, and for that I am very glad! And I hope you continue to have confidence in yourself, and that camming continues to be a solid source of income. Perhaps if you haven't lost the energy for the publishing world completely, the extra income and time will allow you to fund your writing career taking off.


Back onto the self-esteem/confidence topic. One thing I have always loved about camming is that you cannot get fired! If you want to take a break, go travelling, sit in your pjs, or generally be a slacker, it's ok, the cam world will still be there. Leo or one of his colleagues aren't ever going to try to micromanage you. A member might, but no one actually on the site is going to kick you off. It's also pretty cool that even if you have another source of income, camming is a great safety net that you can always come back to. I would say that the empowerment of that feeling is pretty good at raising self-esteem. I also find that my self-esteem rises when I see how many members remember me and welcome me back even though I've been travelling, have lived as a student and generally have rarely had the internet and the circumstances to cam for god, like 4 years now since I was full time! And yet those friendships remain. That people who have found you while searching for porn, and like and appreciate you as a person so much that they will still think of you, send you presents, tip at Christmas, wish you happy birthday and such, and generally want to keep in touch, even 4+ years later. That's gotta be pretty high up there in raising self-esteem. It takes a while to build those friendships, but it is definitely worth it!
 
@IsabellaSnow I'm partially envious that you got to work in publishing, although I probably would have been eaten alive in that industry! But yeah, I'm still one of the girls making about minimum wage from camming, so I know what you mean about the other side of the coin, but I'm still hopeful for the future. Whereas book publishing, I was making one billionth of a fraction of minimum wage. So comparatively, camming is like a breath of fresh air lolol.
 
This is such a good topic! And what great input. My partner was mentioning that since I've started filming on the regular I seem to be more confident and even that I seem to be communicating my needs better. While I'm thinking of camming I haven't done that yet, but looking at the advice here I'm going to be careful to remind myself not to fall into a bad place, If I do.
 
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@IsabellaSnow I'm partially envious that you got to work in publishing, although I probably would have been eaten alive in that industry! But yeah, I'm still one of the girls making about minimum wage from camming, so I know what you mean about the other side of the coin, but I'm still hopeful for the future. Whereas book publishing, I was making one billionth of a fraction of minimum wage. So comparatively, camming is like a breath of fresh air lolol.

It was actually a really nice and fun industry to work for in my experience, I worked for a fairly large company in London and loved the place. The people in publishing were much nicer than those in marketing, but everyone was pretty nice to me. From the inside you can see how they would have their "big fish", in this case it was focusing on a guy who had brought out some famous films and had then written a similar book, so basically all of the attention was focused on him, with minimal/next to no attention on other books, which is sad to see. It's a harsh industry for authors, but nice on the inside.
I hope you keep on doing well on cam and enjoying it! It definitely sounds more reliable than what you were doing before!
 
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