Does anyone know anything about seekingarrangement.com?

[Hmm]

Is it best to just be straight up and honest on sugar daddy sites, or not?
I'm new to all of this so I don't know what to do for the best.

I've basically decided to try the whole sugar daddy thing to try and get help for my mental health issues.
I was hoping to find someone who would help me pay for weekly counselling sessions(about $80 each session) in return for well, whatever they want really. I'm so desperate at this point for help, that I'm willing do do pretty much anything to get the help I need.

I don't know if it will scare guys away if I say on there that I'm looking for someone to help with counselling because I'm so messed up.
But on the other hand, I wouldn't want someone to waste their time on me to then find out I'm crazy.
I've always thought it's best to be honest from the start instead of faking normality!
But I really do need help, so I don't want to ruin my chances of getting it.

I've considered camming and or escorting, but my mental state is so bad right now, I know it will only damage me even more.
I don't want to try and get the money together from multiple people. I hope to just find some person to help me.
I'm probably living in a dream world and maybe this isn't even possible. But I thought it might be worth a try.
Plus I have to get to know someone quite a bit to get intimate with them, so I don't think escorting would work for me.
I was hoping to find someone that I could meet a couple of times, get to know, and then maybe they start to give me financial help in return for me giving them whatever.

Does it work like that? Can it work like that?
I'm so new to it and so confused and just don't know what to do for the best.
I need to try this though.


If anyone knows a better place to ask this, please let me know.
I haven't got a clue what I'm doing really.

If you read all this and are thinking bad things can you try and put them in a nice way please, as I'm very fragile right now and am likely to take it the wrong way... which is why I need help so much.
I'm scared to post this because I have visions of everyone being horrible, although I know this forum is a nice friendly place.

 

[KitttyMina]

Hey Hmm I've been on SA before and I'm gonna have to say you should be careful. I know I can't stop you from doing anything but if you think camming would not help your mental state then SA probably would not either. Most of the guys on there are married and are looking for sex because for some reason or another their needs are not being met. They sort of expect sex at some point. It is very rare to find a sugar daddy on there who is purely platonic.
Also, you might want to refrain from posting that you're doing the sugar life to help for counseling. That can draw guys who will use that to exploit you because they know you're in a vulnerable state. Just to be safe.
Another thing, some guys like to pump and dump. So always follow get your money first if you plan on actually doing things with them. I personally think camming is safer mentally for me than SA since people online are not going to be ones who can run into me around the cities.

Have you looked into free counseling? I know I've struggled with some serious stuff and free walkin counseling has done wonders for me when I had no money to spare. Anyways I wish you luck, and feel free to reach out to me if you really need

 

[yummybrownfox]

SA has a forum, so I recommend you read that forum before you start...so you know what to expect, and don’t end up having some guy on there posing as a “sugar daddy” taking advantage of you with your bills still NOT being paid.

There are a lot of fake SD’s on there treating the site like it’s Craigslist/Backpage...just using the site to get laid. A legit SD will actually want to help get your bills paid, and isn’t going to message you things like “So what all do I get for X dollars? How many times can I see you? What are your do’s and dont’s?”

 

[Hmm]

Hey Hmm I've been on SA before and I'm gonna have to say you should be careful. I know I can't stop you from doing anything but if you think camming would not help your mental state then SA probably would not either. Most of the guys on there are married and are looking for sex because for some reason or another their needs are not being met. They sort of expect sex at some point. It is very rare to find a sugar daddy on there who is purely platonic.
Also, you might want to refrain from posting that you're doing the sugar life to help for counseling. That can draw guys who will use that to exploit you because they know you're in a vulnerable state. Just to be safe.
Another thing, some guys like to pump and dump. So always follow get your money first if you plan on actually doing things with them. I personally think camming is safer mentally for me than SA since people online are not going to be ones who can run into me around the cities.

Have you looked into free counseling? I know I've struggled with some serious stuff and free walkin counseling has done wonders for me when I had no money to spare. Anyways I wish you luck, and feel free to reach out to me if you really need

I wouldn't actually mind the sex if I got to know someone and liked them. To me it seems just like using a dating site but getting money?
Giving sex in return for getting help I desperately need seems like an okay deal to me!
I have a bad relationship with sex though so overall that probably wont help me. I've been friends with guys before who have bought me things and I've felt bad and like I don't deserve it and am a waste of their money, and thought I needed to have sex with them to even it out. And have had sex with guys and done sexual things I didn't want to do, to make them like me. There was a guy a few years back that I really liked, and he wouldn't give me his number, he said he was too old for me. But he kept getting me to do sexual things saying it might make him change my mind. I did so many stupid things and never got his number, I feel so stupid for it now. But I believed him and thought he'd like me more if I did everything he wanted.
And I was so poor at one point I would offer friends sex in return for food.
Kind of embarrassing to admit these things.
So yeah, sex in return for help doesn't seem too bad to me considering!
I could never be an escort because I have such low self esteem, I wouldn't believe that I would be worth the prices. I would probably charge really low because I wouldn't feel worth higher prices, and attract crazy murderers or something.


About the free counselling. I've been asking for help from my doctors for years.
I live in a country where health care is meant to be free too.
I had a really bad year last year, and ended up in hospital multiple times from suicide attempts. The last time, in December, I ended up being sectioned in a mental health hospital.
I've still not received any of the help I've begged for. Which has made me realise I'm going to have to find the money to get the help myself, because doctors are useless.
I know it's not healthy to hate myself as much as I do, and think my life is so worthless.

Unfortunately I can't afford to pay for it myself though. I can barely afford my rent and food most months, so I don't have anything spare to pay the weekly sessions for counselling. And I know I will need it weekly because I'm so in need of help!


Sorry if I've got into too many personal details on these posts. Or if I've posted about sensitive things I shouldn't do.

 

[SaffronBurke]

To me it seems just like using a dating site but getting money?

Yes and no. Honestly, having someone only pay for therapy sessions as part of a sugar relationship is not ideal, you're going to be way shortchanged for what you're providing.

Check out some tumblr posts under the "sugar bowl" tag to get a better idea of what sugar dating is, it seems you're setting very low expectations for yourself.

 

[JickyJuly]

Camming might be an option that fits you better. You don't have to be the person who needs therapy or needs to feel validated by men on cam. You can make a whole new person. You could easily make $80 a week, and you'd be less out there.

 

[Hmm]

I'm a ex camgirl, and doing that is part of why I'm so messed up now. I mean, I was messed up before I did it, I thought camming would improve my confidence and make me like myself more. Instead I just thought everyone was lying when they were nice, and only took notice of what the haters and trolls said, and ended up hating myself more than I did to begin with. I noticed flaws about myself that I didn't even notice I had before camming.

I want to get better and go back to camming eventually. But I know I need confidence and self esteem first.
As well as be better mentally. I used to come off cam and want to die, just because I had had such a bad day and couldn't reach my goal. I'd sit there for over an hour and not make anything and think of all the things that were wrong with me, and all the reasons I should die. I'd try and sell things for really stupidly low, because I was so desperate to make ANYTHING, and when people wouldn't even pay the low prices, it made me feel even worse. I used to think I must have been really ugly and gross and a waste of space and life because people didn't even think I was worth $1.

I think I might have just given away who I used to be. Please don't put it here if you think you know, and PM me instead. I don't want this being linked to my name, for when I do come back. I don't want cam people to be like "oh well you was willing to meet people then, why not now?".
Although I know there's a chance of it being found out anyway, because nothing is totally secret online.
But I made this account to try and avoid it as much as possible.

Plus is people on the sugardaddy sites somehow find this post, I don't want them finding my cam stuff.
I'm probably being over paranoid here!




Also I just found the forums on the sugar daddy site, thanks to the person who suggested it. Now I feel like a giant plum for putting this here. Although I don't know anyone there so it seems a more scary place to ask things.
I remember from being here years ago, that everyone was nice and friendly.

 

[KitttyMina]

Hey Hmm, the sugar life isn't as easy as go on dates, have sex, and get money either. There's also a lot of emotional play and support that you have to offer and in the position that you're in I'm afraid you would be taken advantage of. Not to mention I feel like it would be a lot of personal investment for not much back if all you're asking for is help with counseling ($80). You'll almost have to be their therapist in a way and you're talking about trying to get a therapist yourself. I would not even mention it, until you've really found someone who's trustworthy. But Like I said I can't stop you so I might as well help you if you do decide to do it. depending on where you're located, even a first meetup to get to know each other I would at least ask for $100 minimum even if it's for a purely platonic dinner date. Some girls would even ask for more.

As for the camming part I get that you had a bad run with it but to be honest I think its a pretty good option for you. You're in control! Ban the negative nellies! Create a warm atmosphere for yourself. Or even create a new persona for yourself!
May I ask why you think you can handle in real life situation vs camming online? No biggie if you don't want to.

Also, I would definitely search around and try out different types of mental help. Psychiatrist can help with prescription help if you feel you need those. Different psychologists provide varying types of therapy and treatment plans. One might not work for you, but another might. I might suggest you find someone that specializes in cognitive behavioral therapy since it seems like you struggle with intrusive negative thoughts about yourself.

 

[MojitosJourney]

Hey beautiful. I think you could try it. Like the other ladies said, you will have to be strong - weed through the "fake" sugar daddies to find the real ones. But it sounds like you're in a situation that a lot of "white knight" type sugar daddies would love - you're struggling, and need their help, and they get to "save" you. The right type of sugar daddy would work well for you.

Personally when I am feeling really vulnerable though, sex work always just makes things worse. It requires a strong sense of self and boundaries. If you do take the plunge and try sugaring, try to take notice of if you are feeling better or worse from it. If it's making you feel worse, get out -fast.

PS- separate thought, but I offer free emotional support to strangers on the internet - if you ever need someone to talk to, please DM me!! I'm not a counsellor, just an open-minded accepting non-judgmental person who likes to help. Hugs. My twitter is @MojitosJourney.

 

[MadJohnson]

Is it best to just be straight up and honest on sugar daddy sites, or not?
I'm new to all of this so I don't know what to do for the best.

I've basically decided to try the whole sugar daddy thing to try and get help for my mental health issues.
I was hoping to find someone who would help me pay for weekly counselling sessions(about $80 each session) in return for well, whatever they want really. I'm so desperate at this point for help, that I'm willing do do pretty much anything to get the help I need.

I don't know if it will scare guys away if I say on there that I'm looking for someone to help with counselling because I'm so messed up.
But on the other hand, I wouldn't want someone to waste their time on me to then find out I'm crazy.
I've always thought it's best to be honest from the start instead of faking normality!
But I really do need help, so I don't want to ruin my chances of getting it.

I've considered camming and or escorting, but my mental state is so bad right now, I know it will only damage me even more.
I don't want to try and get the money together from multiple people. I hope to just find some person to help me.
I'm probably living in a dream world and maybe this isn't even possible. But I thought it might be worth a try.
Plus I have to get to know someone quite a bit to get intimate with them, so I don't think escorting would work for me.
I was hoping to find someone that I could meet a couple of times, get to know, and then maybe they start to give me financial help in return for me giving them whatever.

Does it work like that? Can it work like that?
I'm so new to it and so confused and just don't know what to do for the best.
I need to try this though.


If anyone knows a better place to ask this, please let me know.
I haven't got a clue what I'm doing really.

If you read all this and are thinking bad things can you try and put them in a nice way please, as I'm very fragile right now and am likely to take it the wrong way... which is why I need help so much.
I'm scared to post this because I have visions of everyone being horrible, although I know this forum is a nice friendly place.

I'm sorry to hear that you are going through all of this! I share the concern that some of the others on this thread have raised about becoming an SB while you are vulnerable, but I admire you for giving it a shot if you choose to do it.

I've done it from the SD side, although I'm not currently sugaring and honestly not sure if I'll go back, for my own reasons. That said, I'm happy to answer any questions you may have about it. Feel free to PM me.

 

[Pure_emotion]

I've been on this site for a while, but wasn't such a great experience for me. Considering your past relationship with sex, I dont think its a good choice for you. Guys on this site just want to use you , to pay or not really for sex, they are not into classic sugar daddy/ sugar baby relationship , more into pay to play. Imagine you are with a stranger in a hotel room, and he asks you to take your clothes off and suck his dick and then he would pay you, You do that and he "forgets" to give you the allowance or whatever you wanna call it. How you would handle this? Besides that, some can actually harm you physically , so be prepared for this too. There are only 1% of men who are real sugar daddies and those want absolutely exclusive relationship . That means dedication and not a lot of women can do that. Especially if you have mental issues , that would be so draining for you .

I think your problems come from this "I know it's not healthy to hate myself as much as I do, and think my life is so worthless. " You need to make peace with yourself first, then make a plan for your future and in time you will realize you dont need a dick to have a life like you want .
Be strong ! You can do anything you want to do . Thats just what most people do, that is what makes us different from other mammals.

 

[yummybrownfox]

I've been on this site for a while, but wasn't such a great experience for me. Considering your past relationship with sex, I dont think its a good choice for you. Guys on this site just want to use you , to pay or not really for sex, they are not into classic sugar daddy/ sugar baby relationship , more into pay to play. Imagine you are with a stranger in a hotel room, and he asks you to take your clothes off and suck his dick and then he would pay you, You do that and he "forgets" to give you the allowance or whatever you wanna call it. How you would handle this? Besides that, some can actually harm you physically , so be prepared for this too. There are only 1% of men who are real sugar daddies and those want absolutely exclusive relationship . That means dedication and not a lot of women can do that. Especially if you have mental issues , that would be so draining for you .

I think your problems come from this "I know it's not healthy to hate myself as much as I do, and think my life is so worthless. " You need to make peace with yourself first, then make a plan for your future and in time you will realize you dont need a dick to have a life like you want .
Be strong ! You can do anything you want to do . Thats just what most people do, that is what makes us different from other mammals.

I agree. Most of the men on that site don't wanna hear anything about a monthly allowance, unfortunately. And the ones who do ask you what monthly allowance you're seeking...even when you tell them an amount that's considered "on the low end," they act like it's unreasonable or like they can't afford it. LOL. They have no business being on there then.

These guys either need to read up on SD/SB arrangements, or they need to take their time-wasting asses right back to Craigslist and/or Backpage (You can tell that's where they came from), and stop trying to pose as sugar daddies. Lol.

 

[pussyboy_prince]

These days SA is just the bottom of the barrel of escort clients trying to take advantage of non-pros in every way possible. If you need to get to know someone before having sex you will struggle on there. Those johns will withhold financial support until you fuck them, and for the most part if it doesn’t happen by the 2nd date they will stop wasting their time on you. They’re looking to get laid for as cheap as possible. $80 for counseling is not much. You’re better off finding a real life boyfriend for that amount. Most can afford it. On SA you’re basically going to find cheap-minded johns who will be delighted to fuck you for $80/week but will not respect your boundaries and will not be any simpler for you emotionally in the long run. If you’re not ready to treat sex as transactional then I suggest you don’t try the sugar bowl out. You’ll be disappointed to find that most men there are looking for escorts who simply don’t know the worth of their services yet or the boundaries that they’re entitled to. Most have seen escorts regularly in the past but discovered SA as a “cheaper option”.

 

[Anatomica Doll]

I agree. Most of the men on that site don't wanna hear anything about a monthly allowance, unfortunately. And the ones who do ask you what monthly allowance you're seeking...even when you tell them an amount that's considered "on the low end," they act like it's unreasonable or like they can't afford it. LOL. They have no business being on there then.

These guys either need to read up on SD/SB arrangements, or they need to take their time-wasting asses right back to Craigslist and/or Backpage (You can tell that's where they came from), and stop trying to pose as sugar daddies. Lol.

yuuuup!!! this is EXACTLY why seeking arrangements crumbled for me. you will literally come across more /salt/ daddies more than anything worth your time.

 

[NoelleBright]

I agree. Most of the men on that site don't wanna hear anything about a monthly allowance, unfortunately. And the ones who do ask you what monthly allowance you're seeking...even when you tell them an amount that's considered "on the low end," they act like it's unreasonable or like they can't afford it. LOL. They have no business being on there then.

These guys either need to read up on SD/SB arrangements, or they need to take their time-wasting asses right back to Craigslist and/or Backpage (You can tell that's where they came from), and stop trying to pose as sugar daddies. Lol.

When you really sit back and pick apart what guys on SA are looking for, what they really want is a girlfriend who will fuck them all the time and cater to them emotionally in exchange for a dinner date or a $60 set from Victoria's Secret.
Most of them are young dudes who landed their first "big" job and feel like high rollers now that they're making 40k and have to dress decent.

 

[yummybrownfox]

When you really sit back and pick apart what guys on SA are looking for, what they really want is a girlfriend who will fuck them all the time and cater to them emotionally in exchange for a dinner date or a $60 set from Victoria's Secret.
Most of them are young dudes who landed their first "big" job and feel like high rollers now that they're making 40k and have to dress decent.

This guy just told me he’s clean and has had a vasectomy. LOL. As if I give a damn. I’m not “raw doggin’” with any of these people, if we get to the point of physical intimacy.

I was reading the SA forum, and there’s a guy on there who was talking about how he requires his SB see him 3-4 times a week. Um...what??? That’s more often than the norm, according to what I’ve always read. And from reading some of his other posts...he sounds like one of those picky SDs who is anal af about things, and requires too much.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Ahhh please don't do this! I usually wouldn't be quite so straight forward as it's your decision in the end, but everything you've said screams that sugaring is not right for you right now. I have used SA and you can meet some great guys there, but it is also a place where a lot of predatory guys go; who are at best looking to trick a hot girl into fucking them for free/super cheap so they can feel powerful. At worst, well, you just don't want to go there. In my experience the shitty guys on that site are scarily frequent, many will be carefully disguised and it can take a while to figure it out. I have actually been in some scary situations because of men on this site, one in particular which still effects me two years later, so while I absolutely don't discredit the sugaring lifestyle as I have met some amazing people through it, I also think to start sugaring you absolutely have to be in a strong mental state to begin with. You should also absolutely not "need" the money, as that creates an uneven power divide and might allow that person to take advantage of you (even if they don't have malicious intent).

The main reasons I would say SA is a bad idea for you right now:

a) It's really time consuming and a general pain in the arse to meet someone great. You're talking about a lot of time responding to e-mails, checking profiles, doing initial phonecalls, working out if they want what you want before you've met up for "coffee". Then meeting for coffee and working out if you even like one another, or finding out if they've lied about such and such. Trying to find a suitable sugar daddy is essentially a full time job which can take months even in a large well off city. If you desperately need counselling then you will be much better off popping down to a strip club or camming for cash. I've tried sugaring once when I desperately needed the cash and it is something I still regret, so I do not recommend. You'll end up opening yourself up to trust the worst kinds. Secondly, most SD's won't give you an allowance until you're having sex, so if it takes you a bit to want to be intimate with someone you may come across problems, or find out after spending a lot of time with a guy that he's not legit.

b) If you're doing it to pay for therapy you may find that sugaring becomes counter productive. While it's great to think of a sugar daddy as a warm caring individual who just wants to help a nice young lady meet her goals, that is a rare picture. Most SD's are there to get what they want and are fine with paying for it. Sure many will come to care for you if the relationship lasts and most legit SDs don't want a cold relationship, but at the end of the day, they're not doing this for charity. Best not to sugarcoat that they are guys who are looking to pay for a sexual relationship. You may find your dream SD without issue, but you would be very fortunate if you did, and the process of finding him could be much more damaging to you (like potentially scary trauma damage). You might also find that in your search for "the one", you will have to go out with a lot of toads, and even if you find the right guy for you, he can ditch you without a second thought if he chooses.

On the other hand, if you want a more genuine relationship with a guy who's willing to help you out, you might want to try a sugardaddy site. There are a few sites which while the same sort of idea, are less geared around a strict allowance arrangement and more geared to wealthy people dating. You will still get your nightmare guys or those wanting to do "pay for play", but in my experience I've found more guys who have dating issues because of work commitments and are looking for a more traditional relationship, though happy to help their girlfriend out financially so they decided to try a different type of site. So long as you use a site like this as an actual dating site and only go for guys who you would genuinely be attracted to and want to spend time with under normal circumstances then you may have more luck. This may not be what you're looking for though if you just want a bit of extra cash without any commitment. But as you're looking for so little you probably would be able to get involved in a more boyfriend type relationship where feelings are involved.

If you do choose to go for sugaring, my advice is to do your research, check if it's even worth it in your area as some areas are not worth even trying, and make sure you know exactly what it is you are looking for and might be able to achieve.

Out of stripping, camming and sugaring (all of which I've done) I would definitely put sugaring as the least empowering and the most damaging to mental health. Stripping would be next, and then camming. They all have pros and cons, but camming is the only one where you remain completely safe and in control of your environment.

 

[Sage Levy]

Although it seems a few of us do have experience with the site, the best place to seek advice is the "sugar bowl" tag on tumblr, look it up and read some of the posts there. When I tried to get into the whole sugar daddy thing, I did my research and heard about it from women who do it for a living and they really helped me to realize it's not as easy as it seems and it can be really stressful. Please do your research and don't jump into anything unless you are absolutely sure you can handle the strain and keep yourself safe

 

[Mintx]

I am going to be honest, and while agreeing that you should look into the sugar bowl tag, if camming and escorting is harmful to you, being a sugar baby is not going to help much more. It is still very much sex work, it is still dangerous, it is still physically and emotionally draining.

I'm sorry and hope you find a solution soon.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

It is still very much sex work, it is still dangerous, it is still physically and emotionally draining.

This so much. My primary impression of sugaring is that it's generally escorting for men who don't want to admit they hire prostitutes and women who don't want to admit they are prostitutes. I have heard too many times from guys who have or are trying to arrange to meet me and then have sex with me for an agreed on amount of money, who have talked about how they could never hire a prostitute because they could never pay for sex, and how "this is nothing like prostitution", as I nod and smile as I take the envelope full of cash before we have sex. It is sex work, there is no point in denying that (except that admitting it would lower your value), in many ways I think it's more dangerous than straight up escorting as you don't have an agency backing you and because you're an amateur there are those who will be there to try to take advantage of that. I think it's not a terrible transition to go to if you're used to camming, I like the relaxed ongoing friendship and interaction you get with camming for example, which is generally present with sugaring, but I assume is less present with traditional escorting.

Also, the sugar bowl while interesting and it does have some good points, you also have to take it with a pinch of salt. It would be like taking advice from an MFC girl if you do phone sex on another site. If I were sugaring in Sydney Australia for example, I would be in my own little sugar heaven where many a sugar daddy is good looking, intelligent and willing to give a generous allowance. Even going to Melbourne the experience was suddenly not nearly as charmed as Sydney, though I was still successful, I had to lower my expectations slightly. Come back to England and if you're in the capital you get a whole load of London time wasters, though you'll probably find someone pretty decent soon enough. But if you go to any other town/city in England you're going to have a really hard time finding someone who's genuine, and there are so many girls looking for that one guy (if he even exists), that chances are he will never exist for you. It's good to look up, but impossible to get decent advice from others due to different geographical regions. Also, what works for one doesn't always work for others because we'll all attract different people. Kind of like camming, you can get basic safety advise, but any more than that isn't that relevant.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Not related to the OP questions but, personally, I've never met or known someone who is in a "sd/sb relationship" - as you call it - who has met her "sugar baby" through a site. Guess things go differently here in Europe.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Also, forgot to mention: sex is always part of the deal and those "sugar babies" - as you call them - for fancy dinners and a bra don't even pick up the phone.

 

[yummybrownfox]

Not related to the OP questions but, personally, I've never met or known someone who is in a "sd/sb relationship" - as you call it - who has met her "sugar baby" through a site. Guess things go differently here in Europe.

Are you sure you’re not talking about escorting?

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Are you sure you’re not talking about escorting?

you don't buy apartments and stuff to escorts, right?

 

[Just_A_Guy]

Are you sure you’re not talking about escorting?

I mean maybe they were escorting, maybe not, who knows, get her an apartment, support her financially and here you go, you have your "sugar baby", your lover, I dont know how you call it.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Not related to the OP questions but, personally, I've never met or known someone who is in a "sd/sb relationship" - as you call it - who has met her "sugar baby" through a site. Guess things go differently here in Europe.

Just because you haven't known someone, doesn't mean it doesn't happen. There are a huge amount of people in the world and only so many use those sorts of sites, yet there are undoubtedly more who end up having a relationship which involves a richer person dating a poorer person and therefore subsidising them, so it's unsurprising that while you've known some people, you haven't met all of them. I do agree that for those who are particularly wealthy and willing to offer the sort of funding that a traditional SD/SB relationship would entail, you probably don't need to go to a site to find a willing party. If you live in London for example, prices are so high that there are so many women searching for exactly that. As a sugarbabe on the other hand, it is not so easy to find someone with enough finances who not only has the mindset to part ways with their money for you, but also likes you enough to choose you out of many others. So while you may get lucky, especially if you hang out at the right parties and know the right people, it's almost certainly easier to just search through a website.

 

[yummybrownfox]

you don't buy apartments and stuff to escorts, right?

No, that sounds like a sugar baby. Some of the stuff you were saying in your other posts...I just wasn’t sure. I’m surprised that you’ve never heard of people finding their SD/SB from the internet. But I think I have heard of some women finding their sugar daddies at golf resorts, etc.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

I’m surprised that you’ve never heard of people finding their SD/SB from the internet.

Believe me, never heard.

Just because you haven't known someone, doesn't mean it doesn't happen.

Well, sure.
Also, I agree with everything else you've said.

 

[Just_A_Guy]

I agree particurarly with this:

I do agree that for those who are particularly wealthy and willing to offer the sort of funding that a traditional SD/SB relationship would entail, you probably don't need to go to a site to find a willing party.

So while you may get lucky, especially if you hang out at the right parties and know the right people,

 

[EmptyKins]

A safe alternative is mygirlfund.com
If you have a few hours each day to be emotionally, semi-physically (mostly pics and videos), and mentally witty you can easily make $80 in a day there.

Some of them are looking for the SB/SD dynamic and because the site forbids any offline contact you make money simply from interacting with paid messages .

There is also a live cam option which not many girls use on a daily basis so it's easy to gain exposure on the front page of camming girls.

S.A. can be profitable if you have a very detailed profile and even a wishlist. Be careful you only post pictures never used any where else online. They even have a wishlist feature that allows members to buy you gifts while you are offline.

Feel free to pm me for more info. But I agree with the other girls who are telling you S.A. is a cesspool that you need complete awareness to enter alone.

If you have a friend to sub as your bodyguard on S.A. dates you might have even more success, just don't go into any situation alone with out an emergency exit or get away plan.