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Does camming help / hurt or not affect your personal sex life?

Discussion in 'Sexy Stuff' started by Amalnia, Apr 8, 2018.

  1. Amalnia

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    Just wondering - I think it's obvious that watching too much porn/camming can have negative consequences in regards to sex/relationships, and was wondering how it was/is for women who cam? Can most simply compartmentalize camming, and once the camera is off just go about daily life with a spouse, make love the same way as if you did not spend hours in front of a cam? Is there a way to mentally separate the two? And a step further, beyond sex, how does it affect emotions between you and a spouse/partner?
     
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  2. asia_lynn

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    It does not affect my relationship or sex life in any way
     
  3. Dan Epstein

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    The so called "obvious" we are fed from Rashida Jones and a few bloggers has no sufficient basis.
    There's a tendency of amateur social science academics every now and then, to make an assumption, treat it like a maxim, or an axiom, present it as a law of nature and try to back it up. It is usually presenting sex work as corrupting or debilitating, or even victimizing.
    A cam model and a cam viewer are not less nor more capable of a problematic relationship, than anyone living in a routine highly saturated with screens and technology. In other words, we are no more objectifying and shallow than any of your Smartphone addict friends :)
    Was I writing a long feisty post again?
    :)
     
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  4. JickyJuly

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    I would say no effect other than that my husband and I both are at home. Being able to work that way has many advantages, but it also means you're always together. Not sure that it does anything to my sex life, but can be taxing on a relationship. Other than that, I can't really think of anything. If something were to happen to my marriage, I wouldn't bother with dating though. I'm not sure how single camgirls manage to keep the faith alive in dating land. After seeing so many men behave badly, it would be hard to go on first dates. Honestly, picking someone who has proven himself decent within camming might feel better to me.
     
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  5. Carmita Bonita

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    It doesn't change anything negatively for me...if anything it improves it because my partner will get horny hearing me camming in the other room and I end up getting fucked right after I finish my shift lol.

    A lot of questions I've heard guys ask in general about this is "do camgirls get sick of sex because they use sex toys" etc? But to me, masturbation and sex with another person are both 2 very different experiences. I can masturbate all day long and still enjoy sex with my partner more than ever. My body doesn't get 'desensitized' from cock because I use dildos like some guys assume the same way I'm sure jerking off doesn't make a vagina and the experience of being with another person desensitized/less intimate/less enjoyable.

    Masturbation for me vs masturbation for work vs sex with a person are all different
     
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  6. Sophy Bellini

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    It does not affect my personal life and hopefully it wont.
     
  7. Miss_Pixie

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    No, it doesn't. I think camming is making my sex life better in the sense that after a long shift my holes are pretty much relaxed and I can take my hubbie in the ass... which helps because if i want to do anal it takes me hours to get that butthole ready and lose so I can enjoy it.
     
  8. Redvelvetkatt

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    it adds MORE kink to our already totally filthy sex life. He loves to watch when I cam, and LOVES watching me do SPH or domination privates....after I log off we fuck like beasts. He likes to watch when Im online and thinks its sexy.
     
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  9. Oddi

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    It improves my sex life for sure. It really boosts my self-confidence and self-esteem and all those people telling me how sexy I am, I mean... it gets a girl hot! The power of words. :eyebrows: Trust me on this one (to any dudes reading this) when a girl feels sexy in her mind she is way more likely to jump your bones in a passionate frenzy. :eek:

    Umm another positive thing it's brought to my life already in such a short time (I've cammed 3 times so far), is its really helping me to explore and understand my sexuality in a way I never could before. I'm learning my own boundaries I never really thought about before, as well as things I really enjoy that I didn't realize before. Healthy sexuality = healthy sex life :D
     
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  10. QuinnieDD

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    Personally it helps me get my kinkier side out of the way on cam so that I can be more chill and calm for my boyfriend who is into more soft and loving sex which I also love. I think camming allows me the opportunity to explore the things I want to try sexually and have fun too with some of the cool regulars I have in my room.
     
  11. Ambers Troll

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    ...this answers most of the masturbation myths/ excessive masturbation myths. The physical side must take some adjusting to if you play heavy but then it would be as usual I expect.

    The psychological arguments elsewhere for and against online porn or camming interactions in terms of variety might have some validity. Using sex as a form of entertainment, physical challenge, or for a dopamine hit can be fun, but can also cause a withdrawal when you abuse it.
    I think most people, myself included, discover what they love most and return to it as any excessive novelty phases wear off.

    I have heard that for porn, much of the pleasure for the content makers come from the physical challenges (i.e. how long can I last, can I find that position, or create that reaction from a viewer?). I guess a performer could get bored with that and have it filter into their personal life, but I imagine that these would be rare; there are always new and interesting sex acts out there.

    Cam interactions are a different kind of sex act than with a partner... for member and for model. I've heard a sex worker used the term 'friendlier form of sex' compared to that with a partner to describe the interaction with her clients when asked about it; cam interactions are definitely 'friendly' in this same way. Not emotionless necessarily but emotionally light.
    It can never hurt those who understand it for what it is: no separation of life on cam and off cam needed as little of each has to do with the other.
     
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  12. Imrauin

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    It helps mine, since it boosts confidence and sexual stamina(have to edge for long so the show doesn't end)
     
  13. Imrauin

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    though I think we(specially males)must be careful and not spend much time/money watching cams. Pornography can be addictive.
     
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  14. Primaltime

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    Overall I would say it's an improvement. As a nearly 40 year old man my libido has begun the natural back-end slide. But performing shows plays to my exhibitionist side and gives it a real jolt.

    The only real issue is that as a solo male, the cum show is by far the most important part of the show, and if I want it to be truly impressive I generally have to avoid cumming for 36-48 hours before the show, which can sometimes annoy her.

    The upside is I'm always ready to go down on her to tide her over until after the next show!
     
  15. Hazel Klariss

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    My partner loves my new skills as a mistress and roleplay, and loves my lingerie collection so in the love dept everything is rosy!
     
  16. Lunasha

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    I can't say how it will be in the long term, but for now it definitely makes us more horny. (My partner is 100% supportive so we talk about my camming preparation all the time)
     
  17. Innocent_Intentions

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    I don’t think it changed the amount or type of sex my partner and I have. But it has made me more confident in the bedroom. I know my angles a lot better. Teasing/seduction has become second nature at this point lol. Plus, I twerk a ton while camming; something my partner loves but I would never normally do in everyday life because I wasn’t good at it. Now I’m pretty bomb at it and it drives him crazy.
     
  18. Kaili Croft

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    No, and I am glad it doesn't. If it did I'd fix that anyway....
    It's my job and if they dont pay my bills I dont pay them no mind.
     
  19. Kaili Croft

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    totally agree x
     
  20. A Little Batty

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    I actually don't have a lot of sex ^^'
    In fact, I've only had sex twice, with the same person, in the last 4 and a half years.
    It's not that I don't like sex, but I don't really just go and seek it.
    I'm more than happy to masturbate until I find a partner I want to be with.

    I actually really enjoy masturbation, hence the attraction to this industry lol
     
  21. BlondAlina

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    I have more trust in me and i started to love more my body and the shapes. I never considered myself atractive but starting be cam girl improve a lot of thinks. Im more confident to go out and meet guys, more fun, im very sure on me. Since many members told me they love my boobs, over summer i dont wear bra anymore. Its fun to see all guys with big eyes following my body in a store loool
     
  22. Emberblaze

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    If anything my sex life affects my camming.

    "Harder BB."

    I CAN'T. MY MAN FUCKED ME TOO HARD BEFORE HE LEFT FOR WORK.
     
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  23. TeraWest

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  24. Ori Adair

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    I've never been good at dirty/explicit talk, but after a month of camming I'm finding it A LOT easier to communicate clearly with my partner. No more "um"s and long silences while we're deciding what we want to do together, and I'm not afraid of something sounding sexy in my head but ridiculous when I say it out loud -- if it happens, I just laugh it off and carry on.
     

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