How do you feel about your significant other watching Cams??

[BrieLovexo]

How do you feel about your significant other watching webcam models?

This questions is mostly geared to cam models or former cam models but if you are a member your insight is more than welcome too!

And if you aren't okay with it, does your significant other know you aren't okay with it, and do they still continue? How do you cope with your partner watching cam models or is it your HTDO?

If you are okay with your significant other watching cams, what crosses the line for you? (tipping, privates, pms)

Also, if your signicant other watches cam models and porn, is there a difference there to you? Would you rather them do one over the other?


Or are you just "not my business what aid my significant other gets off with"?

I'm curious where cam models stand on this subject.

Thank you

 

[cherrybomb1111]

It doesn't bother me. I watch cam models too. Ive always been sexually attracted to women. I'm going to watch female porn and cam models.. how can I tell my boyfriend that he can't? I do set limits on tipping. I mean I work way too hard to earn my tokens and make ends meet for us to blow it all on other models. So we probably spend a couple hundred tokens every once in a while, but nothing too crazy.

 

[BrieLovexo]

Also another question... would you set a limit to how much they watch cam models? If your significant other was watching it daily or a lot during the week, would that get in the way of your relationship??

 

[cherrybomb1111]

Yea definately. I mean my boyfriend doesn't really show an obsession with watching cams. At least not when I'm home. Who knows when I'm at work. But yes if he was watching cams all the time when I was home, I'd have to remind him that he had a real flesh and blood girlfriend right in front of him.

 

[KrisMay]

My boyfriend watches occasionally, and it doesn't bother me. But if it ever crossed over to a point where it seemed like an addiction, or if it was interfering in our social life, I would probably ask him to cut back.

 

[ExcellaExe]

It doesn't bother me when my partner watches cams. I figure as long as they aren't spending money they don't have then it's none of my concern. Unless they start forming an emotional bond that exceeds what I see as model/member or friend basis, then I don't mind at all. If anything, I'd be upset if they were watching cams and not tipping. I don't date scrubs and don't support people freeloading in rooms lol

 

[Ann_Sulu]

Not sure how many do this, but I've had several couples watch me before, whether cammers or otherwise. They always seemed to use it as a sort of bonding time where they get to know myself a bit, then have a little fun in paid chat or through tips in free chat.

Dunno I always thought those folks were cute, and that's how I'd like to try to do things with a partner.

Really the only way I'd have a problem with it would be if say replacing me with porn.

 

[EspiKvlt]

He doesn't, but if he did, I wouldn't care.

I watch them, too.

 

[Nikola Tesla]

If you are a cam model and you don't want him to watch cam models that would be the definition of hypocrisy

 

[Gen]

If you are a cam model and you don't want him to watch cam models that would be the definition of hypocrisy

How? To me there is a difference between performing and viewing.

Is a dude a hypocrite if he watches porn but doesn't want his girlfriend to be a porn Star? A lot of camgirls say yes (I've seen Tumblr posts going around saying as much) but personally I'd say no. Curious to hear your thoughts on that part too, if you want.

 

[Nikola Tesla]

For those who understand no explanation is needed. For those who don’t none will do. ~ Jerry Lewis

It is the practice of engaging in the same behavior or activity for which one criticizes another

 

[Sevrin]

Do models ask to find out if every tipper's SO is okay with them frequenting and spending money on internet models? Of course not. Just because a guy's hooked up with a cam model doesn't automatically mean that he's any less a perv than every other guy. If you're assuming that every member is being responsible and sensitive in their perving habits, you're probably mistaken, but you have to give your dude the same benefit of the doubt. If he's blowing money irresponsibly, it doesn't matter if it's on cam girls or football wagers or stamp-collecting or anything else.

 

[MFCGod]

If you are a cam model and you don't want him to watch cam models that would be the definition of hypocrisy

Modelling is a job and could well be a necessity if it's the sole source of income

Watching cams is recreational

It's not the same thing

If a model said their partner couldn't be a model, that would be hypocritical.

 

[Vera]

There are such an absolute plethora of variables that goes into this that it is impossible to answer. Talk to your partners. Seek therapy as appropriate. Then evaluate. It varies from relationship to relationship.

Any answer I give otherwise would be an unfair and incomplete.

Not trying to be shitty, but most of these questions are solved by TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER.

 

[ExcellaExe]

There are such an absolute plethora of variables that goes into this that it is impossible to answer. Talk to your partners. Seek therapy as appropriate. Then evaluate. It varies from relationship to relationship.

Any answer I give otherwise would be an unfair and incomplete.

Not trying to be shitty, but most of these questions are solved by TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER.

Communication is the key to any relationship, and is especially important when dating someone who is either a sex worker, or you yourself are. I like to say for me there are three pillars for a relationship that have to be solid, like a foundation: trust, communication, and intimacy(which doesn't need to be physical at all, emotional intimacy is a thing). Without one, the other two can't support everything by themselves.

 

[Nikola Tesla]

Modelling is a job and could well be a necessity if it's the sole source of income

Watching cams is recreational

It's not the same thing

If a model said their partner couldn't be a model, that would be hypocritical.

Now you are just splitting hairs.

 

[ramblin]

Now you are just splitting hairs.

Joe is a baker and bakes and sells 100 cakes today. Joe's SO buys and consumes 100 cakes today, blowing more money than they can afford and risking their health. Joe cannot be concerned about his SO's activity, because they've basically done the same thing today.

 

[Loreen]

Although I'm 100% straight, I watch random (female) cams sometimes, it's entertaining. I see nothing wrong with it and I have nothing against it for my boyfriend to do the same

 

[BrieLovexo]

There are such an absolute plethora of variables that goes into this that it is impossible to answer. Talk to your partners. Seek therapy as appropriate. Then evaluate. It varies from relationship to relationship.

Any answer I give otherwise would be an unfair and incomplete.

Not trying to be shitty, but most of these questions are solved by TALKING TO YOUR PARTNER.

Hi I'm not sure if this comment was for the OP but I made this thread because I'm curious how people feel about this subject within their own relationships and experiences!

 

[BrieLovexo]

If you are a cam model and you don't want him to watch cam models that would be the definition of hypocrisy

I agree to some extent but depends on the personal situation.

But for some different perspective: let's say, you sold alcohol for a living to pay bills, would you be a hypocrite if you didn't want your SO to part take in alcholic activities?

I think yes it would be some what of a hypocrite if you drew the line completely but i don't think it would be wrong to set some limits/boundaries with what you are okay with your SO doing.

But... like I said depends on the personal situation because if it calls for addiction of alcohol, webcams or whatever it may be then I don't think you're being a hypocrite for not being okay with it

Also what do you think if it was a former seller/performer?

 

[HoneyBadgerFriendly]

I'm sure many people THINK it is not a problem, but lets see what happens when the rubber hits the road. I'm pretty sure most people, except swingers, don't appreciate seeing their XO lost is desire with another.

 

[AerynShade]

I don't care if my partner watches porn or cams, nor if they read/write erotica. I care if they overspend and put themselves/us in financial trouble. I used to watch models on MFC with one of my exes.

 

[ExcellaExe]

I'm sure many people THINK it is not a problem, but lets see what happens when the rubber hits the road. I'm pretty sure most people, except swingers, don't appreciate seeing their XO lost is desire with another.

Well considering I've been in relationships where I watched a boyfriend watch cams, pretty certain I can say I don't care. I also don't care when partners go to strip clubs. I care when there's been a breach of boundaries, aka they spend too much so that we get into a tough financial spot or they form a physical or emotional bond that goes beyond model/client. I respect other girls hustle. /shrug

Also, poly relationships are a thing and don't require people swing.

 

[Tristyn]

Overspending would bother me, but otherwise I don't care at all. Watching and spending/tipping in moderation is totally fine.

I'm polyamorous, though, so there aren't a ton of restrictions on what my partners can or can't do to begin with.

PS: Non-monogamy can exist without swinging, haha.

 

[JickyJuly]

Same as I feel about him going to a restaurant. Be polite. Tip properly. Don't make a mess. Don't spend money you don't have. Eat with me later if I'm hungry and don't want to eat alone.

 

[Mira_xo]

If you are a cam model and you don't want him to watch cam models that would be the definition of hypocrisy

I disagree, because think of it the other way around. If I watched porn occasionally, I still wouldn't be okay with my boyfriend going out and having sex on camera for money.

Hypocrisy would be if I was a camgirl, but I didn't want my boyfriend to be a camboy. Not that hypocrisy is always necessarily bad, but what you stated is not hypocritical.

 

[Mira_xo]

To answer the OP:

I watch & tip cam models. I don't get off sexually from models, but they do provide entertainment/inspiration/friendship to me.

My SO does not, but I wouldn't care if he did as long as he didn't spend outside of our limits or form a romantic/strong emotional bond with another girl!

 

[HoneyBadgerFriendly]

this over spending thing seems to be a recurring thought. Is this a problem with your fans and partners? Sure could be as I am always amazed at how much some of the tippers drop on a model in the course of a day, week, etc.... I know some of these people are fairly well off, but I'm seeing folks drop thousands of tokens in the course of a day and come right back the next day.

 

[ItsGemmaBB]

How do you feel about your significant other watching webcam models?

This questions is mostly geared to cam models or former cam models but if you are a member your insight is more than welcome too!

And if you aren't okay with it, does your significant other know you aren't okay with it, and do they still continue? How do you cope with your partner watching cam models or is it your HTDO?

If you are okay with your significant other watching cams, what crosses the line for you? (tipping, privates, pms)

Also, if your signicant other watches cam models and porn, is there a difference there to you? Would you rather them do one over the other?


Or are you just "not my business what aid my significant other gets off with"?

I'm curious where cam models stand on this subject.

Thank you

Also another question... would you set a limit to how much they watch cam models? If your significant other was watching it daily or a lot during the week, would that get in the way of your relationship??

I don't think there's a problem with partners watching cam sites together or apart nor do I think there's any issue with tipping other models. I think what's important here is communication. Talk to your partner about what you are and aren't okay with, and let them know they can trust that the friendship or tipping relationship they're engaging in with whomever they're tipping. If you trust your partner, first and foremost, there should be no issue.

My limit would strictly be if my partner was keeping a relationship that became more emotionally or personally based from me. If we have an understanding that we can see other people in that way, okay, but if not, no go. And I mean, overspending isn't cool, either, obviously.