How to Be a Happy Cam Girl

How to be happy working as a cam model?

The answer: STOP using money as your main motivation for camming.

Wait, what? Are you crazy?
Aren't we here for the tokens?

Well, yes, but here is how using tokens as your main motivation can work against you.

You make tokens, and feel successful and happy.
You make no tokens, you feel shitty, frustrated, and sometimes even depressed.

I don't know how many cam girls I've seen looking pissed off and frustrated on cam because they are not making any tokens. Then, their mood continues the cycle, because few want to tip the angry girl.
Most want to tip the happy girl.

So how do you stop this tokens = happiness cycle?

Find another reason to be there.

AliceBiscuit shares her music.
@Kickaz started as a way to share her passion for intricate body painting art.
Many great models find meaning in giving and receiving love.
SummerHart loves having scintillating, intellectual conversation with people.
Olivia lives for “avant-garde” performance art.
Some models are extremely happy when playing & talking about video games.
Many girls just want to connect with people and make friends.
Some women genuinely LOVE sex and kink and are there for that!

The thing all these happy cam girls have in common is that tokens are NOT the main thing making them happy. So they don’t ride the rollercoaster ride of unhappiness when the tokens aren’t flowing at this exact moment. They stay happy because they are doing work they care about… and this happiness gives them energy to spend a longer time on cam, and put more effort into their shows. This can make them successful.

An important note is that whatever you are sharing on cam, attracts the same energy.

If you're giving love... you get it back, more often than not. Check out @Miqote's comments section in her MFC profile for an example of this. It's an outpouring of love! She is so naturally caring, that people respond by giving love back to her. If she was naturally kinky, people would respond by being kinky with her! Instead, the kinky girls have a chat room filled with kinky talk and that makes their kinky hearts insanely happy. The music loving girls have their room filled with appreciation for music and that makes them over the moon. We attract what we are. THEREFORE: If you're just there for tokens then you end up simply attracting an exchange of power : their money for your body. This exchange is AWESOME if you're in it for your passion for sex, but if you are more in it for the tokens, you're bound to end up feeling either like you're using others for their money or feeling used for your body, or both. I don't know about you, but I decided I needed to stop doing things that way because it made me depressed!

Everyone has something that means something to them. What do you find meaning and enjoyment in that you would do for -free-? So that on the no-tokens days you will still be happy? It might take some soul-searching, but FIND it, and see if you can work it into your cam show.

Ideas on how to find your 'thing':
1. Think about what your favourite models are doing in their rooms.
2. Think about what you do in your spare time. What do you talk about the most? Is it sex, video games, anime, music, animals, art, food?
3. Write down ten things you'd be happy doing every single day for the next 5 years. Circle the ones you think would work best on cam.

I still haven’t figured out to work my “thing” yet into my cam shows (using my words to help empower others), but I know that from now on, my show is powered by love and not tokens. Love is a good reason enough for me.

LOVE ALWAYS,
Mojito
Cam Girl on MFC and Inspirational Writer

[Note : The approach in this article may simply work best on myfreecams, and the models referenced are all from MFC.]

 

Hey SatanJonez!

I'm glad you said this, and I agree it's important to take a breather if you're in a negative headspace. I just took a one week break and I'm so glad I did!

Here's some more clarity I've come to, to reach for on the slow nights.

Sometimes, you can create something really amazing to share with the world, and no one shows up to partake. Whether it's a cam show, or a math equation, or an amusement park... there's some amazing things out there, but the people that will value them just haven't found them yet.

However: Sometimes, if you wait long enough, with an open mind, those people might find you.
But if you get frustrated, day after day, that there is no one there, and eventually have to give up entirely out of frustration... people won't be able to find you because you're not there anymore.

Watch this video : Caine's Arcade.
It's about a little boy named Caine that built an arcade out of paper boxes. Every day he waited and waited and waited for someone to come play in his arcade, and no one came. But why this story is special is that he didn't get frustrated and rip down the arcade because it was un-played on.
He just kept waiting.
Until something amazing happened (watch the video).

I'm not saying it's easy to -not- be frustrated when shit isn't working on cam. I personally know what that frustration feels like. I know how it feels to be angry on cam - and I know it's 100% necessary to log out when you're at that point.

But I do believe it's within our power to let go of our attachments to how the night goes. And relax, and wait, and keep going, like Caine.
That's when I believe magic can happen.

 

Aw thank you Amber! I just checked out those succession of negative tweets haha. I am not really sure what happened there.

Roger, you're amazing. I was actually thinking about that the other day, and how I could work that into my cam show.
There is a quote that says cam girls are like therapists, but naked. I'd like to build on that.
Last week, I added "5 minute therapy session" to my tip menu haha. "You talk, I listen. My attention is primarily yours."

Thanks for the positive feedback, you are sweet! Your story sounds a lot like mine - I'm pretty new too. There's that period when the "new girl status" is gone but you're trying to build regulars with a new-girl level camscore. It can be tough. From what I understand though, even the popular girls who have a good base of regulars and a higher placement in the site have nights like those, so we all need to able to "shake it off"... because those nights will always exist. More of my thoughts on that:
https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/cam-girls-you-are-enough-public-post.21825/

Have an awesome couple of days off

 

Thanks Brie - I believe in it too

 

Well, yeah! There's assholes out there and in this job, we're gonna meet every single one of them.

My intention of this post is to say that by being your authentic self on cam may attract the kind of people who will truly value you. Ie; that guy who likes your nerdy conversation.

I don't mean there won't be jerks, or... large hoards of jerks. I've yet to find a way around that.

 

That is an awesome analogy.

 

Hi! I have an update on how this concept of making yourself happy on cam has developed for me (on myfreecams.)

I couldn't really come up with some magical thing that I love doing that others would want to watch (like playing the piano) but I've realized that we all have things we like / love to do and we are already doing them in our day to day lives, so why not do them on cam?

More often, I think we need to stop trying to entertain the viewers in free chat, and just entertain ourselves and let them benefit from it. Why? Because if we are not getting tipped and giving them free entertainment that is focused at their wants, we will feel resentful and unhappy. You're not going to get tipped amazingly every day, it's an ebb and flow of good days and bad days, so this approach minimizes the hurt feels.

What I have been doing on cam is exactly what I would do at my house off cam:

- I cook (a lot) - I prep a whole bunch of healthy meals for myself (not cookies for them hahaha, it's aaaaaall for me) and then I have three days of ready to eat healthy homecooked food in the fridge- and I did it all while technically working!
- I work out. I do yoga, and I just bought an elliptical and weights and am gonna try letting them watch me sweat haha.
- I do crafts. This isn't a hugely popular show but some of my happiest times on cam have been when I am sitting in my PJs crafting random things out of popsicle sticks.
- I dance to my favorite songs
- I try on costumes and outfits (love dressing up.)
- I tan in the backyard (when possible, I live in Canada.)
- I watch other cam girls with them on my big screen TV (an expensive activity I try to limit as I feel like I need to tip the models to ask for their permission if I am doing this.)
- And more.

How I incorporate this into a cam show:

Here's my formula.
A-1 activity I like doing
+ B -1 game I have created that they can play to encourage tipping & make things more fun.
+ C Tip Menu
+ D Optional Countdown to something sexual.

Example:
A) Cooking Show + B) Token Keno (Tip one of the following 15 numbers, 3 of the numbers are winning numbers and you will get a sexy prize!) + C) Tip X amount to see my boobs etc D) X token amount until I get in the shower!

 

Thanks Blanx! Also... one thing I've learned since writing this thread, is that if it isn't working on one cam site, try another. MFC ended up not being my style, but I have been successful on Streamate. And I'm exploring other revenue streams on the side too, using MyGirlFund, going to make a clip site, etc.

As for what happened to you at the drive thru - suck that happened! A totally classic example that we can have those kind of experiences in any customer service job, be it in the adult industry or not. I sure met a lot of assholes when I was waitressing!

 

I just re-read this article I wrote 1.5 years ago and I can't believe I never saw what my thing on cam could have been. It could have been what I said here: using my words to empower others. I was really focused on looking sexy and appealing that I forgot my OWN message that I wrote here. I most definitely could have had a talk show style show on myfreecams where I mainly spoke about things from the heart, messages that matter to me, in the hopes that hearing my words may empower others.

Wow, total blind spot. Sometimes it is so much easier to see others paths and struggles than it is to see your own!
Maybe I wouldn't be burned out on camming now, had I done that, rather than gone the sexy route.

Cam models - stay true to yourselves! In the long run, money will flow best when you're in it for you. If you cam in a way that pleases the viewers, but doesn't please you, it can steal your energy, your mojo, your magic. You may just wake up one day and never be able to get online again anytime soon. This is a creative field and you can make your time on cam what you want it to be.

 

Good luck Queen! Drawing sounds awesome. PM me if you need anything!