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First, just wanted to say how awesome I think all you models are. When I started checking out MFC I was all like "Thats EZ. I wish I could sit around all day making money for something I already did for free!". How little did I know. 2nd Really wish I had found this forum sooner, would have prevented me from contracting White Knight Syndrome and making a fool out of myself LOL.

Anywho, I've been visiting the rooms of two really sweet, smart, funny, and sexy girls and I'd like to continue doing so. At the same time despite my best efforts and everything I learned from the first girl, it seems like I can't help but to "fall" for these girls too. They're both really special, "dream girls". We really have fun hanging out and my tips while not a lot are always really appreciated (both girls students). I wonder if I'm not just cut out for camming?

Thanks in advance for any replies/advice :)
 
Forgot to say that after visiting this site and reading the How To Be a Good Premium thread, was able to apologize to the Model I made such a fool out of myself with and now while I don't visit her room (too weird), we are friends again so TY.
 
Beach_Love said:
First, just wanted to say how awesome I think all you models are. When I started checking out MFC I was all like "Thats EZ. I wish I could sit around all day making money for something I already did for free!". How little did I know. 2nd Really wish I had found this forum sooner, would have prevented me from contracting White Knight Syndrome and making a fool out of myself LOL.

Anywho, I've been visiting the rooms of two really sweet, smart, funny, and sexy girls and I'd like to continue doing so. At the same time despite my best efforts and everything I learned from the first girl, it seems like I can't help but to "fall" for these girls too. They're both really special, "dream girls". We really have fun hanging out and my tips while not a lot are always really appreciated (both girls students). I wonder if I'm not just cut out for camming?

Thanks in advance for any replies/advice :)

first things first.....i hope you know you're not the first or the last to "fall in love" with their "dream girl(s)" at mfc...and if you're a gregarious guy, who likes the social environment of the site as much or more than the nakey, and enjoys a "rush" from tipping your favorite girl, you're gonna find that beauty is more than skin deep

the only simple pragmatic observation i can offer is that each model has a unique set of boundaries...but there are catogories that can be generalized, imo....and my guess is that you are drawn to those who -for whatever reason- won't deny you the pleasure of your "white knight" fantasy....but they won't go out of their way to cultivate it, either (if you feel that happening, you're being played, and need to get out of dodge)....so you will "be the victim of your own devices"....because it's your fantasy, and most of what it is for a model to work at mfc is about moving tokens from your account to theirs, and fantasies of all shapes and sizes are an acceptable way to do that.....

all of which, i'll wager, you are already well aware of......especially since you know you "made a fool out of yourself" with one of them

so one pragmatic solution is to find a model whose boundaries limits your ability to engage them.....one who says upfront they don't have time to respond to all PMs, or whose rooms are too fast paced for a one on one dialog....and if you haven't already, take a look at your tipping style and the reasons that you tip

because the way my mind works is to ask you what it is about your situation that feeds your white stallion and makes it snort when you get some personalize attention? and ask you why "the white knight syndrome" is synonymous with "falling in love" for you......is that how your relationships develop in real?

this is a great topic, that's been talked about here before, i'm sure....and the models here won't pull their punches about it
just the fact you know it's happening will help you sort it out
 
Thought it would help if I added for clarification by "Love" I mean nothing creepy like how can I find this girl, get her to marry me, etc. I mean more like thinking about her too much (Hope she's happy and having a good day, etc.). Don't want too sketch anyone out LOL
 
Awesomesauce, TY for your reply. Super cool name BTW. I've been reading all the other threads relating to the same topic and nothing helps. Maybe White Knight wasn't the best way to describe things (I blame the Bubblegum Kush LOL). I have no illusions about being able to change these girls lives in any way other than by being a nice guy who visits their rooms and tips when he can. I think part of the problem is that while they are both literally 1/2 way around the world, they remind me that b4 my life went to shit financially I used to be friends with and date girls like them (smart, funny, sweet, and sexy, just age appropriate) IRL.
 
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Beach_Love said:
Awesomesauce, TY for your reply. Super cool name BTW. I've been reading all the other threads relating to the same topic and nothing helps. Maybe White Knight wasn't the best way to describe things (I blame the Bubblegum Kush LOL). I have no illusions about being able to change these girls lives in any way other than by being a nice guy who visits their rooms and tips when he can. I think part of the problem is that while they are both literally 1/2 way around the world, they remind me that b4 my life went to shit financially I used to be friends with and date girls like them (smart, funny, sweet, and sexy, just age appropriate) IRL.

if you can tip enough to get personalized attention from two girls.....you're life hasn't gone to shit financially.....
give it a few months :lol:
 
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ive never had the problem, but then again i used to bounce in a topless bar. you dont fall in love with a stripper, a cam model, a prostitute or any other adult industry worker when you are a customer. its an entertainment service, not a dating pool. hell when i was working i wouldnt date the entertainers myself.
 
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Hey Awesome, It's a long story that started w/ me putting aside what I was doing when my Mom got sick since my sister "Couldn't take time off from school" to do it. She now basically ignores our Mom when she's not treating her "Like a burden" and refuses to help financially. While the past 10 yrs have been one shit and/or dangerous job after another, It's got a bit better lately/briefly which I guess is why I started camming when I heard about MFC on the Joe Rogan Podcast. I'm a firm believer in NO FREE LUNCH so now "While I am known to freeload, When I can I prefer to Tip". Bottom line is not looking like things gonna really get better until I give up on being a photo asst, Ive interviewed with and worked for some of the best fashion/commercial photogs in LA but it just ain't happening. Not the end of the world but it's been bumming me out LOL.

So when I can I tip what I can in one lump sum offline w/ a sweet note. I'm a nice guy, sincere in my compliments (some dirty but always along the lines of "pretty kitty", etc.), and since I spent some time on this forum b4 meeting them I know what NOT to expect from them. In general when I started camming I figured out pretty quickly that while a TIP would be preferable, most Models are pretty stoked when a guy stops by to say Hi, asks how they are doing, compliments them on their appearance in a non or only mildy sexually suggestive way, has looked at their profile page, etc. I met one by tipping for a show I caught the last minutes of, she was cute the show was HOTT, her room full but no one was tipping. I wasn't even logged in so by the time I was and had bought tokens she had logged off so offline tip. I met the other one night when I splurged on 200 tokens, she had already caught my eye so I stopped by watched her dance and tipped 20, left her room for a few minutes only to realize it would mean a lot more and be more fun If I dropped the rest of my tokens in her room. We ended up chatting about Skyping sometime (never done it), and when I said MY CAM OFF, her reply was NOW. LOL

The UPDATE is saw one of my special friends today, hung out in her room, had a great time watching her dance, got to chat a bit thru PMs, let her know that I'm in no hurry to do the Skype that I've already tipped her for, and MADE SURE to remind myself that as awesome and as sexy as she is and as much as she likes me it's just ONLINE FUN nothing more. Seeing her really made my day yet once I left her room I wasn't thinking about her (at least not until tonight LOL). I'm hoping that I can continue to separate my feelings from our online relationship. These are two great girls that I just enjoy seeing online even when they're not naked, they seem to really appreciate my company and meager tips, and I really feel good about being able to help a little (both girls E. European students and very smart).

Who knows, maybe Beach_Love will beat the odds and be able to be sexy friends w/ a couple of really special cam girls?
 
I think the best way to not "fall" for a girl on any camsite, would be to get a girl of your own so you're not constantly thinking about the ones you can't have.

I've found myself in numerous situations over the 2 years I've been on MFC where I think about these girls at work, when I get home, when I'm out with friends, it's really quite pathetic talking about it publicly now that I think about it. More often than not, they were Romanian women, who I just adore in general, but I think it was more the fact that I knew I could never be with any of them which attracted me to them more. See, I'm someone who hates rejection and break-ups, even if I'm the one doing them, so knowing they are so far away and the relationship wasn't real to begin with, made me fall for them quicker.

Lately I haven't been doing this, as I've gained confidence and such from talking with the models on MFC, and starting hanging out with more friends of the feminine variety in my social life, and thinking of the models less and less in my spare time. Just my two cents on the situation :)

Good luck!!
 
southsamurai said:
ive never had the problem, but then again i used to bounce in a topless bar. you dont fall in love with a stripper, a cam model, a prostitute or any other adult industry worker when you are a customer. its an entertainment service, not a dating pool. hell when i was working i wouldnt date the entertainers myself.

Cool Beans you aren't a fellow Mass hole are you? Anywho for me I think it's the social aspect of camming that did it, and I wasn't prepared for it. I went Strip Clubs to see naked ladies, not to talk to them other than "thanks for the lapance, it was awesome", if I went to Prostitutes I would imagine it would be the same thing "Thanks for fucking me, here's your money, Id love to do it again". At the same time aren't there dudes that just pay to talk to dancers and prostitutes? At first MFC was just Porn but once I figured out the social aspect I really enjoyed chatting w/ the girls. Just didn't realize that I would end up meeting and becoming sexy friends with two fabulous girls that I would really be into dating if I met them IRL. Since I'm such a cool dude that these girl's truly like hanging out with online, I think our relationship is a little different then if I was just their standard "Hey bb U so hott, do U like big cocck in ass?" "customer". Finally, I would have no problem dating an exotic dancer if she had a life, goals, dreams, aspirations, etc., outside of/beyond working at the club to buy a new BMW.
 
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I really like a lot of my MFC friends. I really look forward to seeing some guys that brighten my day, make me laugh and make my time on cam easier, whether or not they tip. I have given my more personal contact info to several people on MFC (phone number, personal e-mail, and Skype chatting) because I just wanted to be in contact with them more.

However...

Well, this is going to sound conceited, but that's not the intent.

Many members may have two, three, maybe even five or six models that they seriously follow. Models that they want to tip all the time, models they adore, models they want to watch every moment they're online. This is :thumbleft: good!

Every single model (with a camscore of 1000 or over) sees dozens of members a day. Most models have dozens of premium members they recognize. My list of "awesome guys I want to hang out with" is well in to two digits. I recognize that while some members exclusively watch me or me and another model, I am in contact with hundreds of premium members a week.

I treat all members well unless they're assholes. I enjoy having that friendship connection. But I do recognize that it is very, very easy for some members to take my personal attention, friendliness, offering to talk to them on Skype because I want to hang out, as a desire for a more personal relationship. They come in to my room and get a ton of personal attention from me, perhaps not realizing that ten other members are getting the exact same treatment as them. It is very easy to skew the "this model likes me and likes to hang out with me" as "I'm her best friend on MFC, nobody really understands her like I do or can support her like I can." Do remember that for many models, it is their job to provide a fantasy for members to relax in and make every member feel special. Also remember that while I would guess very few models fabricate entirely new personalities and lives for getting on cam, I would guess the majority of models have a more polished "game face" designed to provide a certain type of dream girl during her shows.

My response to any member who falls in love with me is... "I can't tell you what to do. I like you a lot, as a friend and as a cybersex partner. But I want you to remember that while you are important to me as a friend, I have a boyfriend that I'm very much in love with. I understand how it is very easy to feel a connection with someone online, because when I get on cam, I hide my flaws, I always put my best face forward and I work hard to deliver a 'perfect girl' fantasy. But in the real world, I'm not Evvie. I know this is a tough spot for you because your emotions are legitimate, but I would encourage you to remember that Evvie is just an Internet creation and your attraction to her can never develop in to anything more."
 
Weirdtimmy said:
I think the best way to not "fall" for a girl on any camsite, would be to get a girl of your own so you're not constantly thinking about the ones you can't have.

I've found myself in numerous situations over the 2 years I've been on MFC where I think about these girls at work, when I get home, when I'm out with friends, it's really quite pathetic talking about it publicly now that I think about it. More often than not, they were Romanian women, who I just adore in general, but I think it was more the fact that I knew I could never be with any of them which attracted me to them more. See, I'm someone who hates rejection and break-ups, even if I'm the one doing them, so knowing they are so far away and the relationship wasn't real to begin with, made me fall for them quicker.

Lately I haven't been doing this, as I've gained confidence and such from talking with the models on MFC, and starting hanging out with more friends of the feminine variety in my social life, and thinking of the models less and less in my spare time. Just my two cents on the situation :)

Good luck!!

Couldn't agree more about EVERYTHING you just wrote. Unfortunately initial success w/ girls here in LA is largely predicated on Looks or Money. If you don't pull down some decent coin you better better be very good looking. Girls want to know how much you make but don't want to seem rude so they ask just like in SWINGERS what kind of car do you drive. I've had what seemed like good conversations grind to a screeching halt when they found out I wasn't wearing jeans, a gray Hanes T-shirt, and Sambas just to look poor.LOL Not so long ago I got to drive this total Douche of a photog who I had worked for's nice car around. The day before it was like I was invisible in my 2003 VW Golf but in a nice new blk Audi all sorts of girls smiled, etc.

That being said I'm using MFC to work on my "rap" too, putting some serious time in with my 35lb kettlebell to get back in really good shape in preparation for getting back in circulation and meeting a sweet girl IRL. Sometimes though I really wish I didn't live in LA. I will never forget standing in line behind a really cute girl at the supermarket thinking I should bust a move when she was so RUDE to the really nice cashier that I instantly changed my mind.
 
I'd take everything with a pinch of salt. People usually fall for camgirls/people they meet online because they're missing something in their life. Quite often it's company they miss/crave, sometimes even when they have lots of company they're still lonely. Sometimes life is down in other areas and it's a form of escapism.

You've got to stay realistic. If you're falling for a cam girl you are reaching out for things, trying to grasp onto hope/whatever when the girl on the other side is not thinking anything of the sort. If this is the situation then chances are you aren't truly happy with your own life, so do something about it. These girls are NOT perfect. We are normal women who appear to be perfect sometimes simply because we're on camera (generally) looking hot. Also chances are we'll be nice to you, talk to you, you can watch us for ages/interact, which if you're lonely, must be pretty wonderful! If you're having trouble with love/finding love in real life, it would be very easy to put us up on a pedestal, think of everything that girl does as perfect and imagine that life with her would be perfect. Well hey, it wouldn't be, our online selves are always different to our real life selves (unless there's anyone who in real life also talks to a crowd and takes their clothes off on request/tips all the time).

We can provide entertainment/friendship/sexual relief, but do not fall in love with us. If you feel you are doing this you need to take a serious look at yourself/your life before you are ready to spend time with camgirls.
 
Isabella_deL said:
I'd take everything with a pinch of salt. People usually fall for camgirls/people they meet online because they're missing something in their life. Quite often it's company they miss/crave, sometimes even when they have lots of company they're still lonely. Sometimes life is down in other areas and it's a form of escapism.

Couldn't agree more. Until a series of setbacks in my life I used to have a good social life and met and dated a lot of great girls and I have been using MFC to fill that void recently. On the other hand both of my friends are realtively new to camming,are very sweet and genuine girls and I would be very surprised if they weren't just like they were on cam as off. If they weren't just like IRL I wouldn't have bothered to get to know them. I guess that's the underlying problem, for me w/ Porn or a Model that I'm only physically attracted to and not on another level once I've "TCB" the relationship ends til next time. Bottom line is I had no idea camming could be so confusing at times LOL.

That said I am going to take these words to heart as I continue to be sexy online friends with these two amazing girls "We can provide entertainment/friendship/sexual relief, but do not fall in love with us."
 
How could I not fall in love with them? They are both beautiful and forbidden and smart and accented and talented and stuff! It is unpossible they are so dreamy!

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I think you just have to keep shit in perspective, yo. While members do meet camgirls, woo them from afar, meet them, fuck them, get married, have kids and live happily ever after; you kinda have to go into this thing accepting that that's never, ever, ever, ever going to happen to you. Never. Not even a little bit. The second you start to think it might, I'd imagine it's quite easy to delude yourself.
While one model in particular (or in your case, two models) might be the beneficiary of your time and money, the occupier of your thoughts and fantasies and stuffs; to her, you're just one of a dozen, two dozen, three dozen guys she hangs out with on a daily basis. She might like you, she might enjoy your company, she might even consider you a friend; but it can't ever be a good idea to assume that she feels the same way about you, as you do her.
I think accepting all of the above is probably key. Once you accept that, you should be able to log onto MFC, hang out with the awesome ladies, enjoy yourself and then go about your day. And if, against all odds, some beautiful camgirl does fall in love with you, well then that's just a bonus :twocents-02cents:
 
Evvie said:
I treat all members well unless they're assholes. I enjoy having that friendship connection. But I do recognize that it is very, very easy for some members to take my personal attention, friendliness, offering to talk to them on Skype because I want to hang out, as a desire for a more personal relationship. They come in to my room and get a ton of personal attention from me, perhaps not realizing that ten other members are getting the exact same treatment as them. It is very easy to skew the "this model likes me and likes to hang out with me" as "I'm her best friend on MFC, nobody really understands her like I do or can support her like I can." Do remember that for many models, it is their job to provide a fantasy for members to relax in and make every member feel special.

Probably not gonna say anything new here...just adding my :twocents-02cents: from recent experiences...

As someone who gets little out of the adult aspects of MFC -- don't get me wrong, I think my favorite ladies are beautiful and sexy, but the more explicit a show gets, the less interested I am -- I much prefer the personal side.

There is nothing more satisfying to me than logging in and having a model friend PM me to say "Hello" especially when I'm not in her room or when she's not even on cam. When that initial "Hello" turns into a 30-to-45 minute chat, I'm hooked, especially when it occurs multiple times or moves beyond the boundaries of MFC.

But things change over time. If those chats stop, either because she doesn't have the time or interest, or when I'm afraid to initiate one and risk interrupting one she's having with someone else, it's incredibly difficult for a social clod like me who has a great family but nothing to speak of on the friendship side of life. And the more I enjoyed her company and the conversation we shared, the harder it is to accept and move on.

Dammit, it would so much easier if all I cared about was tits, ass, and pussy. :(
 
Beach_Love said:
southsamurai said:
ive never had the problem, but then again i used to bounce in a topless bar. you dont fall in love with a stripper, a cam model, a prostitute or any other adult industry worker when you are a customer. its an entertainment service, not a dating pool. hell when i was working i wouldnt date the entertainers myself.

Cool Beans you aren't a fellow Mass hole are you? Anywho for me I think it's the social aspect of camming that did it, and I wasn't prepared for it. I went Strip Clubs to see naked ladies, not to talk to them other than "thanks for the lapance, it was awesome", if I went to Prostitutes I would imagine it would be the same thing "Thanks for fucking me, here's your money, Id love to do it again". At the same time aren't there dudes that just pay to talk to dancers and prostitutes? At first MFC was just Porn but once I figured out the social aspect I really enjoyed chatting w/ the girls. Just didn't realize that I would end up meeting and becoming sexy friends with two fabulous girls that I would really be into dating if I met them IRL. Since I'm such a cool dude that these girl's truly like hanging out with online, I think our relationship is a little different then if I was just their standard "Hey bb U so hott, do U like big cocck in ass?" "customer". Finally, I would have no problem dating an exotic dancer if she had a life, goals, dreams, aspirations, etc., outside of/beyond working at the club to buy a new BMW.



nah im a north carolina dumbass lol. i should note that i lump everyone into the adult services industry out of convenience, the jobs i mentioned as examples are very different in many ways. the social aspect of camming makes it very very difficult not to view the model as a person instead of an entertainer, so i understand that part. i used those specific examples since they all involve direct interaction of some kind. i saw way too many guys fall for or obsess over the dancers where i worked, so you'd be surprised how easy it is there. i dated 2 dancers over the years myself, just not while i was working with them. i didnt date co-workers when i was a nurse's assistant either... just a bad idea.

and you draw a very salient point about guys ( and some gals) paying dancers and pros for communication of the verbal kind. one prostitute i used to know said that was about 40 percent of her income. high end escorts ive spoken to say about the same, tho i imagine its different for the average street walker.

myself, on MFC its not about the nudity, or the sex, im a lonely bastard currently so i like having a human voice that isnt the televison while im puttering around my room.
 
Beach_Love said:
Isabella_deL said:
I'd take everything with a pinch of salt. People usually fall for camgirls/people they meet online because they're missing something in their life. Quite often it's company they miss/crave, sometimes even when they have lots of company they're still lonely. Sometimes life is down in other areas and it's a form of escapism.

Couldn't agree more. Until a series of setbacks in my life I used to have a good social life and met and dated a lot of great girls and I have been using MFC to fill that void recently. On the other hand both of my friends are realtively new to camming,are very sweet and genuine girls and I would be very surprised if they weren't just like they were on cam as off. If they weren't just like IRL I wouldn't have bothered to get to know them. I guess that's the underlying problem, for me w/ Porn or a Model that I'm only physically attracted to and not on another level once I've "TCB" the relationship ends til next time. Bottom line is I had no idea camming could be so confusing at times LOL.

That said I am going to take these words to heart as I continue to be sexy online friends with these two amazing girls "We can provide entertainment/friendship/sexual relief, but do not fall in love with us."

That is where dangerous thinking lies. Now I am myself when I am on cam, but it is a very different side to myself to how I am in real life. In fact, I think I am more myself on cam after having cammed longer than I first was. It is dangerous thinking that we'll be sweet when we're off cam because we're sweet on cam. It is in our benefits to be nice/sweet to people, not saying these girls aren't. I'm still a nice person off cam, but if I met most members off cam in a general situation, chances are I wouldn't give them the time of day and I would quite likely be rude to them if they showed sexual interest in me.

I think it is a bad idea to go down the road of assuming your favourite models are going to be the lovely people who they are on cam when they're off cam. Chances are this isn't the case. We are not paid to be bitches, the main point men go to cam girls other than the sex thing is that we're generally very upbeat on camera, we chat, we're kind to strangers, we welcome you into our little camming world. But that is what it is, a very small section of our lives, our work lives! I'm a cam girl so I am definitely not saying cam girls are actually bitches/putting on a big front etc, so don't misunderstand me. For example, a girl works in a pub, a regular comes in daily and buys drinks off her, she smiles and is friendly/chatty to him, maybe goes the extra mile now and then to make him happy. It means she is a good barmaid, nothing more. Her smiling and bringing him drinks etc also doesn't mean she's a good person, or even remotely like that when she's finished work!

I had a regular fall for me a while ago, I tried making it better, pushing reality a bit, and said very openly that he may feel he's falling for me, but the person I am on cam isn't really real, it's my job. I can make friendships etc, but it is only a certain part of my life, and that my name on cam isn't even my real name (my real name is Isabel, so not much difference). Anyway at me telling him that my name wasn't mine he got extremely upset. He sent me a fairly long e-mail, not a nasty one, but really going on about a lot of things, and acting like it was my fault etc. Anyway, I was going to send something nice back, but it'd upset me enough that I ended up going for bluntness and telling him to grow up and that this is his issue and he has no right to try and make me feel bad for it. He did apologise and we still speak, but it's been months since then and he still has trouble coming into my room. He's a nice guy, but he was deluding himself. I think yes it's very easy to get wrapped up in fantasy, but in this reality the guy lives on the other side of the world and is older than my parents!
Men, please do not try to put 20 year old girls up on the "you're a goddess!" pedestals, many of us may be very mature, but we are still young! If you're over 30 and doing this, you should know better! I swear sometimes people forget about age difference when looking at cam girls, they see a beautiful, young, maybe kind woman who is available to them, who ordinarily wouldn't be. It's not fair though to stress young girls out when you can't keep your head straight.

I will also tell you, that having hurt this man unintentionally really upset me, for weeks I sometimes got upset whilst camming, a few times I went offline because I felt so guilty. Sure it absolutely wasn't my fault, but it still messed with my head. If you can't control yourself around camgirls, you're not the only one who may be potentially hurt. Don't ever forget it.
 
Most guys probably fall into this a bit when they start out, hopefully the attitude doesn't last too long.

Trust me when I say you'll enjoy stuff plenty more if you don't start imagining feelings and relationships developing. At most, you can have a kind of friendship with some of them - and that's great! Met some very cool people from MFC! You're only torturing yourself if you think it's anything more than that.

As someone said to me long ago and I haven't forgotten - "You see a beautiful, engaging, intelligent girl. She sees words on a computer screen." Keep that in mind.
 
In order to function in life you have to be able to understand who is and is not "available".

I don't fall in love with any of these women because I understand they are "unavailable".

If one of them is available, I'm sure they'd let you know.

(you ladies will let me know right? :lol: )
 
Before I started camming, I was a really nice girl in person, but highly uncomfortable in social situations. So if you approached me on the street, I'd extricate myself from the conversation as quickly as possible while still trying to save both of our dignities. However, when I was at the gas station as a clerk, I was friendly and polite, doing my best to encourage people to shop around instead of trying to get them to leave me alone.

When I started camming, I was bubbly, flirty, and giddy, but none of the uncomfortableness was there. It was closer to how I was in the gas station, but with the flirty added in, since I would never have dreamed of being flirty with people perfectly capable of assaulting me.

Now, I'm paranoid. You approach me on the street, and how I react will depend on the situation. If I'm alone, I'll give you weird looks and start to panic, getting out of there ASAP, not caring about anyone's dignity, just about making sure you're not about to force your way into my pants. If I'm with my partner, I'll be more like I used to be unless you give off creepy vibes.

On camera, I'm bubbly and flirty if it's a good night, and kinda blegh if it's a bad night, though I try to keep my mood up. Also, I can be a bit of a bitch during PMS. IRL, you won't find me in public during PMS unless I absolutely must.

RIGHT! The point. Can't forget the point.

My point is, people tell me all the time what their view of me is when I'm on camera. The truth of it is, I'm human. On camera, I put my best foot forward, because I don't want you to see the darker side of me. Sometimes, my best foot is the darker side, but I try really hard to be friendly all the time.
 
even though I read all your posts and some are very true I can't help but thinking about 1 MFC girl most of the day.
I try to get some distance but on the other hand she makes my day and it starts all over again.
 
Wendsor said:
even though I read all your posts and some are very true I can't help but thinking about 1 MFC girl most of the day.
I try to get some distance but on the other hand she makes my day and it starts all over again.
My advice is find your "Off Switch". It was hard but I found mine (I hope it keeps working LOL). When I see my friend it really makes my day too, but now when I leave her room I just stop thinking about her til I see her again or send her a mail or she PMs to let me know she's on cam. etc. It wasn't easy at first, but as time goes by is getting easier and is starting to feel right.
 
Paulie Walnuts said:
In order to function in life you have to be able to understand who is and is not "available".

I don't fall in love with any of these women because I understand they are "unavailable".

If one of them is available, I'm sure they'd let you know.

(you ladies will let me know right? :lol: )
I've let you know on several occasions, and yet you still won't take the hint. Jeez.
 
Beach_Love said:
Isabella_deL said:
I'd take everything with a pinch of salt. People usually fall for camgirls/people they meet online because they're missing something in their life. Quite often it's company they miss/crave, sometimes even when they have lots of company they're still lonely. Sometimes life is down in other areas and it's a form of escapism.

Couldn't agree more. Until a series of setbacks in my life I used to have a good social life and met and dated a lot of great girls and I have been using MFC to fill that void recently. On the other hand both of my friends are realtively new to camming,are very sweet and genuine girls and I would be very surprised if they weren't just like they were on cam as off. If they weren't just like IRL I wouldn't have bothered to get to know them. I guess that's the underlying problem, for me w/ Porn or a Model that I'm only physically attracted to and not on another level once I've "TCB" the relationship ends til next time. Bottom line is I had no idea camming could be so confusing at times LOL.

That said I am going to take these words to heart as I continue to be sexy online friends with these two amazing girls "We can provide entertainment/friendship/sexual relief, but do not fall in love with us."
I encourage any member who thinks like this to take a very long break from MFC. This is a quite unhealthy way of thinking and in most of the situations I've seen, a red flag for obsession.
 
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