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So next month I will be flying to Vegas to meet my friend who met through streamate. Yes, obviously she's a cam model and I've met her since pretty much the day I started over 3 years ago(thank you porn hub lol)
Over the years me and her have developed a friendship. I used to never do shows, but just tip into gold shows. It wasn't until around half a year into it I started doing shows and that's when I got to know her. And yes I'm pretty sure you guys and girls can see this coming, but I have fallen for her. We didn't end up getting each other number until almost a year of knowing each other. This was mostly due to another member on the site stalking her on Facebook and finding out her real name and number there. So I held off till we got close. But it was around that time I found out that she was actually in a relationship and has a kid. I didn't find out from her but other people on the site e.g.. other models and regulars who know her.
For awhile she seemed very out of it and depressed and she decided to take a break from camming, but she didn't end up telling she was going on and just disappeared. I had to find out from other people and it again at the end of the year she left camming and it seemed like permanently since she had enough working for the studio there. Through out her time camming and when left we still stayed in contact through texts and Facebook. But she would struggle a lot and would ask me for money to help since her boyfriend doesn't do jack shit and would tell me about her relationship problems. It wasn't till last year in June she came back to cam for a different studio and I was actually happy.
She finally left her boyfriend but started to date someone else immediately. It wasn't till then I finally told her how I felt about her. Surprisingly, she respected me more and saw me different and I was getting out of the friend zone lol. I was ready to stop talking to her since I couldn't stand her being with another guy who isn't me and they broke up in October and I immediately asked if she wanted to meet and possibly start something. She agreed to meet but she isn't ready for a relationship and a few weeks later she could see me as best friends with benefits type of relationship if it all goes well.
We usually talk a lot still on the site, via cam2cam and I use the mic feature during shows since her phone is off ATM and she gives me a huge discount deal to spend as much time as possible to talk about pretty much everything (it helps that I use that cam models account to give her an extra percentage lol) and we spend hours and hours doing this. We even watch YouTube videos together and chill and yes usual sex shows.
The only problem is that she still loves her baby daddy since she doesn't want her daughter to know they're broken until she's old enough to understand. I really don't see it much as a issue since I do trust her when she doesn't do anything with him, but he does work now and she barely has time to cam at her new studio because of it
I will be meeting with her in less than 3 weeks. So I want to know cam models and regulars advice on this. How would you approach this? Is she possibly playing me, is she genuinely nice and maybe slightly into me with the information, I've given. How should o approach this? I know we should see where it goes and just have fun. It's pretty much where I'm planning to do with the things we plan to do. Also, if this is going somewhere we did say we would hold back on sex till about 2-3 months and hypothetically when we will get married and how our kids would be, meeting each other's friends and families etc.
I can't wait to hear what advice you all have for me lol. Be honest!
 

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How would you approach this?
With extreme skepticism

Is she possibly playing me
Yes

is she genuinely nice
No clue but I would like to think that she is

maybe slightly into me with the information, I've given.
The information given isn't what I would consider encouraging, sorry.


Be honest!
Your use of friend zone makes me not feel bad about what is probably happening to you.
 
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Whoa slow down about marriage, you haven't even met. I would also refrain from posting her personal life on the internet. She probably told you in confidence. If she asks for money, she is playing you.

Other then that good luck.
I should've cut the personal stuff out, but the money thing is not gonna be a issue anymore. also, I pretty much told her that if it's gonna work we're gonna talk more off the site about 99.9% now once she takes care of some business before I go see her. But I will keep this updated once it happens.
 
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With extreme skepticism



Yes



No clue but I would like to think that she is



The information given isn't what I would consider encouraging, sorry.




Your use of friend zone makes me not feel bad about what is probably happening to you.
Lol yeah I probably would be saying the same thing, but this is pretty much different from any other cam/regular meeting up situation. But hey let's see where this goes.
 

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The only problem is that she still loves her baby daddy since she doesn't want her daughter to know they're broken until she's old enough to understand. I really don't see it much as a issue since I do trust her when she doesn't do anything with him, but he does work now and she barely has time to cam at her new studio because of it
...Be honest!
All too often, people wander in here starry-eyed, swooning with an impractical love that everyone but them can see is a farce. It's a real eyeroller; but then maybe I am a cynic, having been in a number of relationships (both failed, and successfully ended).

I've just got to say, your down to earth hookup tale, complete with a baby-daddy-still-in-da-piture, is a refreshing change of pace.

Oh, and btw, she still fuckin him.
 
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Not possibly playing you, She is playing you.

Here's your options:

1.Stop all contact. Realize what made you so easy to exploit. Change your weaknesses into strengths. Live in reality

2.Go through with the meeting. Enjoy the facade. Get hustled for even more $, get your head fucked with even more.

3.Hidden option. Not for the weak or faint of heart.

I think everyone would strongly advise you to choose option 1, but we all know that you're going to do option 2. So we'll see you again in a few months for your next mental health checkup when you make your next topic.
 
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Lol yeah I probably would be saying the same thing, but this is pretty much different from any other cam/regular meeting up situation. But hey let's see where this goes.
How is it different? Either a) she is playing you or b) she wants you just has a dumb way of showing it.

I say go on your trip, just don't take her on shopping trips or expensive dinners. Do NORMAL date shit. But Vegas is a fun town, go experience it. Maybe take her on cool tourist spots. Gamble a little and go see a show or two. Stop romancing what it could be, and see what she is actually like.

Also what is the 3rd choice @Phoenix4987? I'm not a pussy I can take it.
 
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I sent you a pm because I don't think OP has the gall / mindset to pull it off. I don't want him getting any ideas that will just lead him down an even darker path to failure. As long as he sees her as a person and human, a luxury that wasn't afforded to him since he was merely just a target, then he won't be able to even let his mind wander in that direction.
 
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Ahhh, another innocent cam site customer turned jaded edge-dweller. Let this be a warning to you, OP and all others who dare to tread along this path.
 
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I have another point for you, the person you fell in love with likely isn't real. I'm not saying she's not a flesh and blood person, but (I'm speaking from personal experience) the person on the cam isn't real. It's a persona designed to make people like her, fall for her and throw money at her. Of course she's fun and amazing and everything you ever wanted. The way some of this is worded, it makes me wonder where all you are getting your info since it sounds like not just from her. Real people are not like cam people. In reality, there's mental illness, tooth abscesses and body boils. REALITY IS AWFUL. Cam life is much better (in some respects), but don't fall for the fantasy.
 
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Actually I made a typo there. She isn't "in love" with her baby daddy. She just lives with him... whoops lol
I know that still looks bad, but it's something you gotta know the whole situation the figure out and she only puts up with him for that reason only
 
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I have another point for you, the person you fell in love with likely isn't real. I'm not saying she's not a flesh and blood person, but (I'm speaking from personal experience) the person on the cam isn't real. It's a persona designed to make people like her, fall for her and throw money at her. Of course she's fun and amazing and everything you ever wanted. The way some of this is worded, it makes me wonder where all you are getting your info since it sounds like not just from her. Real people are not like cam people. In reality, there's mental illness, tooth abscesses and body boils. REALITY IS AWFUL. Cam life is much better (in some respects), but don't fall for the fantasy.
I've seen her "cam" personality and her "real" one and I actually did fall for the cam one first, but she did open herself up to me about a lot things. I am or still into the real her.
 
Even if she says she isn't in love...Living with someone is a HUGE con. You can dress it up any way you want, put flowers and a bow on it-- it's still a con.

Since a kid is involved she's going to be involved with this man forever (not that it's impossible to successfully date a mother of course but the fact that she isn't living on her own should be taken into account). Also people who "put up" with relationships for the sake of kids (which isn't healthy at all for anyone despite how old a child is) is sort of a cop out excuse to still be living with someone. How old is old enough to understand?? 2? 5? 10? Being a child of divorce sucks, I was 12 and it was still hard to fully grasp but I'm glad it wasn't a drawn out process of seeing my family slowly drift and fall apart with my parents unhappy but staying together for the sake of me. (went way off topic lol but anyways)

We can't tell you whether or not she's playing you and many times the posters of threads like these already know the answer to that question.

You can't plan much of any relationship. You just have to see where it goes. My boyfriend who was a member of my chatroom & me planned to not have sex for a few months and we fucked the first night we met in person lmao. So I say if you're going through with it do not plan so closely because it rarely will play out the way you expect it to. It's also mainly what you will or will not tolerate in a relationship as well. If you trust her so much enough to plan marriage you wouldn't be here questioning this relationship or her intentions.

I do think it is possible to get to know and fall for the 'real' girl behind the camgirl persona though, rare but fully possible.
 
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I could be wrong but I suspect a lot of (maybe even most) cam girls have multiple personas. The 'all-purpose, hyper-sexual, fun-going public persona', the 'get to know the real me in PM persona', the 'you're not like the other members and I'm so glad I can just be myself without any filters when I'm talking to you' persona, and then maybe another two or three before you get to the really, really, genuinely real them.
 
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Even if she says she isn't in love...Living with someone is a HUGE con. You can dress it up any way you want, put flowers and a bow on it-- it's still a con.

Since a kid is involved she's going to be involved with this man forever (not that it's impossible to successfully date a mother of course but the fact that she isn't living on her own should be taken into account). Also people who "put up" with relationships for the sake of kids (which isn't healthy at all for anyone despite how old a child is) is sort of a cop out excuse to still be living with someone. How old is old enough to understand?? 2? 5? 10? Being a child of divorce sucks, I was 12 and it was still hard to fully grasp but I'm glad it wasn't a drawn out process of seeing my family slowly drift and fall apart with my parents unhappy but staying together for the sake of me. (went way off topic lol but anyways)

We can't tell you whether or not she's playing you and many times the posters of threads like these already know the answer to that question.

You can't plan much of any relationship. You just have to see where it goes. My boyfriend who was a member of my chatroom & me planned to not have sex for a few months and we fucked the first night we met in person lmao. So I say if you're going through with it do not plan so closely because it rarely will play out the way you expect it to. It's also mainly what you will or will not tolerate in a relationship as well. If you trust her so much enough to plan marriage you wouldn't be here questioning this relationship or her intentions.

I do think it is possible to get to know and fall for the 'real' girl behind the camgirl persona though, rare but fully possible.
Even if she says she isn't in love...Living with someone is a HUGE con. You can dress it up any way you want, put flowers and a bow on it-- it's still a con.

Since a kid is involved she's going to be involved with this man forever (not that it's impossible to successfully date a mother of course but the fact that she isn't living on her own should be taken into account). Also people who "put up" with relationships for the sake of kids (which isn't healthy at all for anyone despite how old a child is) is sort of a cop out excuse to still be living with someone. How old is old enough to understand?? 2? 5? 10? Being a child of divorce sucks, I was 12 and it was still hard to fully grasp but I'm glad it wasn't a drawn out process of seeing my family slowly drift and fall apart with my parents unhappy but staying together for the sake of me. (went way off topic lol but anyways)

We can't tell you whether or not she's playing you and many times the posters of threads like these already know the answer to that question.

You can't plan much of any relationship. You just have to see where it goes. My boyfriend who was a member of my chatroom & me planned to not have sex for a few months and we fucked the first night we met in person lmao. So I say if you're going through with it do not plan so closely because it rarely will play out the way you expect it to. It's also mainly what you will or will not tolerate in a relationship as well. If you trust her so much enough to plan marriage you wouldn't be here questioning this relationship or her intentions.

I do think it is possible to get to know and fall for the 'real' girl behind the camgirl persona though, rare but fully possible.
That's funny lol I was wondering if a cam model and their customer ever became a couple. I actually know of a another model who I am friends with that did hook up with another regular i know well, but they have different life's styles and didn't mesh well but still are friends. Even though this regular is still trying to get with her.
But I only came here to get other people's view on this situation since I can't exactly tell my friends or family about this without getting ridiculed for it.
Funny thing is that me and her joked we would get a Vegas style marriage when I'm there and it wouldn't count as official as long as we don't get the marriage certificate (she brought that up. Not me)
I think I may still go see her, but I do agree with the living with her ex thing isn't the greatest idea. But idk how to tell her that maybe she should get her own place without upsetting her.
 
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So next month I will be flying to Vegas to meet my friend who met through streamate. Yes, obviously she's a cam model and I've met her since pretty much the day I started over 3 years ago(thank you porn hub lol)
Over the years me and her have developed a friendship. I used to never do shows, but just tip into gold shows. It wasn't until around half a year into it I started doing shows and that's when I got to know her. And yes I'm pretty sure you guys and girls can see this coming, but I have fallen for her. We didn't end up getting each other number until almost a year of knowing each other. This was mostly due to another member on the site stalking her on Facebook and finding out her real name and number there. So I held off till we got close. But it was around that time I found out that she was actually in a relationship and has a kid. I didn't find out from her but other people on the site e.g.. other models and regulars who know her.
For awhile she seemed very out of it and depressed and she decided to take a break from camming, but she didn't end up telling she was going on and just disappeared. I had to find out from other people and it again at the end of the year she left camming and it seemed like permanently since she had enough working for the studio there. Through out her time camming and when left we still stayed in contact through texts and Facebook. But she would struggle a lot and would ask me for money to help since her boyfriend doesn't do jack shit and would tell me about her relationship problems. It wasn't till last year in June she came back to cam for a different studio and I was actually happy.
She finally left her boyfriend but started to date someone else immediately. It wasn't till then I finally told her how I felt about her. Surprisingly, she respected me more and saw me different and I was getting out of the friend zone lol. I was ready to stop talking to her since I couldn't stand her being with another guy who isn't me and they broke up in October and I immediately asked if she wanted to meet and possibly start something. She agreed to meet but she isn't ready for a relationship and a few weeks later she could see me as best friends with benefits type of relationship if it all goes well.
We usually talk a lot still on the site, via cam2cam and I use the mic feature during shows since her phone is off ATM and she gives me a huge discount deal to spend as much time as possible to talk about pretty much everything (it helps that I use that cam models account to give her an extra percentage lol) and we spend hours and hours doing this. We even watch YouTube videos together and chill and yes usual sex shows.
The only problem is that she still loves her baby daddy since she doesn't want her daughter to know they're broken until she's old enough to understand. I really don't see it much as a issue since I do trust her when she doesn't do anything with him, but he does work now and she barely has time to cam at her new studio because of it
I will be meeting with her in less than 3 weeks. So I want to know cam models and regulars advice on this. How would you approach this? Is she possibly playing me, is she genuinely nice and maybe slightly into me with the information, I've given. How should o approach this? I know we should see where it goes and just have fun. It's pretty much where I'm planning to do with the things we plan to do. Also, if this is going somewhere we did say we would hold back on sex till about 2-3 months and hypothetically when we will get married and how our kids would be, meeting each other's friends and families etc.
I can't wait to hear what advice you all have for me lol. Be honest!
 
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Eddie Murphy saved SNL from being cancelled and this is arguably one of SNL's best sketches of all time. Him making fun of Buckwheat's speech was hilarious. Personally I call it hilarious satire and strongly disagree that the intent on this sketch was to be racist. I have always loved this sketch and think it is hilarious like many other people, and in the context of this post it was in no way meant to be racist in relation to the post or in any other general way as I do not view it racist personally. However I am sure there are many that agree with me and many that disagree with me as this "sketch of comedy" was considered controversial at the time it was aired as well, many thought it was pushing the edge while others did not. What SNL is know for. I just think his singing as Buckwheat is funny personally and he even used the same speech the character Buckwheat used in the actual show "The Little Rascals" such as "Otay!" Hats off to Eddie & Buckwheat! aka Billie Thomas.
 
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