Is she cheating?

[swordfish_al]

Hi everybody. I’m a cam model husband. My wife and I recently started this camming (5months) thing and it has been a disaster so far. We went into it with the best of intentions but her being on cam has brought out the monster in her.
A little back story...
I’ve been frequententing the site Chaturbate for about 5 years. I’ve never bought tokens or anything just been kind of a lurker. I always admired the guys who had their women on cam and thought it would be cool if I could get my wife to do that. Well after about 4 1/2 years of straight up nagging she decided to do it only because our money situation was in dire straights. Big mistake. Not only did she enjoy it but it turns out she was very good at it. She now has 11,000 followers and then there is that one. I always thought she might run off with her highest tipper but this one didn’t tip at all. He was a regular that would just come into her room and sit there and not say anything. Threw me off completely. The only way I found out was when I asked her if she knew anyone on there personally and she almost started choking. So I started digging and found out everything. She was talking with him offline and doing skype shows with him while I was at work and while I was at sleep. I found their chat log on skype and it was a doozie. Turns out that they were planning to meet in Vegas for a sex trip. I never thought in a million years that something like this would happen but it did. Now the question of the millennium is... was she cheating? Please, I need your help in figuring this one out. Thanks for reading.

 

[JoleneBrody]

What did she say when you asked her about it?

 

[SMuser69]

First you need to talk to her first and tell her WHAT you consider cheating in the first place. It's not cheating till YOU say it's cheating. That line can only be created by YOU for her to then choose to cross or not. If you've never had this conversation then have it immediately.

Second there's no 'pre-crime'. Assume all things are fantasy till there's clear evidence otherwise. A date in Vegas could be a skype fantasy for all you know. Unless you caught her with a plane ticket and a pack of condoms you need to find out from her if this is part of what the client wants for entertainment.

Third. If it does turn out she's cross a line what are you willing to do about it? Are you ready to walk away or whatever conditions you should have mentioned to her under the first part of this. Remember talk and action are extremely different things, it takes a lot to walk away from something like a marriage or long term partnership.

 

[TokenGesture]

I always admired the guys who had their women on cam and thought it would be cool if I could get my wife to do that.

 

[Mila_]

I don’t know if the OP is for real or just typing out a fantasy of his. Let’s pretend it’s real for the sake of the thread...

If your wife goes behind your back to do this with a camsite member, paying customer or not, it is safe to assume your relationship was already dead to her. Do you want to stay with someone who considers you her doormat? Do ask first and if she says it was business ask for proof of transactions.

 

[paige_orion]

Next time, if a woman spends four and a half years declining to participate in a fantasy of yours, you should probably let it go and not push those boundaries. It's like when I see dudes try to pressure their girls into having open relationships, when they clearly don't want to do so. They aren't thinking of their partner's wants - they are thinking of their own fantasies, their own pleasure. Then, they're shocked to find that the girl gets a ton of dates and sometimes, the girl finds another partner they might connect with better. Perhaps someone who won't nag them into doing something they clearly don't want to do. Even then, when the first guys realize that they made a mistake - it usually isn't because they genuinely recognize their actions were wrong and totally unfair to their partner - it's about their own hurt, as much as the pressure was about their own pleasure. Perhaps the hurt could have been avoided with better defined rules, more open communication - but it would have been avoided completely if the boundaries hadn't been pressed until they crumpled in the first place.

Obviously, your relationship isn't open, so this isn't a perfect parallel, and I am not trying to pardon her for not sharing the intimate nature of her member-conversations. But I wanted to compare the similarities of pressuring for fantasies to come to life while ignoring your partner's wishes, and then the shock of fantasies turning sour when they turn messy and complicated, because real life has a tendency to do that.

In this case, I am glad that she discovered a career that she enjoys. That is actually really effing lucky. But it could have gone the other way, and she would have sacrificed her boundaries and hated it, at your request. She might have had to deal with pretty heavy stigma and consequences for a career she didn't even initially WANT, and that is so tragic to me. No model should feel pressured or "nagged" into beginning sex work, especially after being worn down over a period of years. Especially by their partner. Especially if money-constraints are used to add additional pressure to convince her to change her mind. That is so dangerous in SO many ways, and while I am trying to feel sympathetic to the pain and hurt you are feeling right now, I am more than a little horrified that you thought your actions were okay too. There could have been other consequences, just as painful, if she hadn't discovered that she enjoyed it.

We don't know your wife and we don't know your relationship boundaries. For some models who view things as a career, it isn't cheating, it's just fantasy talk. Others have to hide the details of fantasy-talk from partners and work while they are away, not because it is real, but because their partner gets jealous and that could derail said career. I don't know whether you are a supportive partner or not, but considering your statement, "I always thought she might run off with the highest tipper" and you snooping into her Skype conversations with her members - it doesn't seem like you had a lot of trust or security in your partnership to begin with. In other partnerships I have seen, that combination (especially mixed with the sexual nature of the job) almost always leads to jealousy - but it's hard to know what came first - whether the jealousy/insecurity came prior to her intimate conversations or whether it sprang up afterwards. I have seen more than a few camgirls try to balance building their career while soothing the jealousies or fears of partners who cannot be supportive (I mean, not every one can handle being the partner of a sex worker, I get it, and that is okay!) - and it seems like a very difficult, painful & precarious balance to try to maintain. Like with my open relationship examples, it takes a very healthy relationship, filled with trust and communication and mutual respect in order to thrive in sex work, whether you are working solo or together.

If your feelings are hurt and you feel as if she is being deceptive and you feel as if a boundary has been crossed in your relationship, then it has. If you feel as if she cheated on you, then she has. If you feel as if she has been deceptive, then she has. But a bunch of strangers won't really be able to define your relationship boundaries or qualify anything as cheating, because cheating is different to each person, each relationship. Some relationships define cheating as the physical act. Others think viewing porn is cheating. Others may consider their partners spending five years lurking on camsites to be cheating. Others define cheating as flirty talk with the people they're attracted to, who aren't their partner. The point is, the definition of cheating is so personal and so subjective, it's impossible for any of us to answer that question. Only you can determine what is cheating in YOUR relationship. Only you can determine whether a boundary has been crossed, based on the rules that you two have established together over the years of your marriage.

But I hope that this provides you with a very valuable lesson, even though if it is one that hurts. In the future, please don't push your fantasies onto a person who isn't willing & excited to participate in them of their own free will. Because, like it or not, actions set events into motion that cannot be controlled, and sometimes, the consequences are effing painful. Fantasies rarely work out the way you want them to - but they have a better chance of going right if both partners are on board from the beginning.

 

[Mila_]

Next time, if a woman spends four and a half years declining to participate in a fantasy of yours, you should probably let it go and not push those boundaries. It's like when I see dudes try to pressure their girls into having open relationships, when they clearly don't want to do so. They aren't thinking of their partner's wants - they are thinking of their own fantasies, their own pleasure. Then, they're shocked to find that the girl gets a ton of dates and sometimes, the girl finds another partner they might connect with better. Perhaps someone who won't nag them into doing something they clearly don't want to do. Even then, when the first guys realize that they made a mistake - it usually isn't because they genuinely recognize their actions were wrong and totally unfair to their partner - it's about their own hurt, as much as the pressure was about their own pleasure. Perhaps the hurt could have been avoided with better defined rules, more open communication - but it would have been avoided completely if the boundaries hadn't been pressed until they crumpled in the first place.

Obviously, your relationship isn't open, so this isn't a perfect parallel, and I am not trying to pardon her for not sharing the intimate nature of her member-conversations. But I wanted to compare the similarities of pressuring for fantasies to come to life while ignoring your partner's wishes, and then the shock of fantasies turning sour when they turn messy and complicated, because real life has a tendency to do that.

In this case, I am glad that she discovered a career that she enjoys. That is actually really effing lucky. But it could have gone the other way, and she would have sacrificed her boundaries and hated it, at your request. She might have had to deal with pretty heavy stigma and consequences for a career she didn't even initially WANT, and that is so tragic to me. No model should feel pressured or "nagged" into beginning sex work, especially after being worn down over a period of years. Especially by their partner. Especially if money-constraints are used to add additional pressure to convince her to change her mind. That is so dangerous in SO many ways, and while I am trying to feel sympathetic to the pain and hurt you are feeling right now, I am more than a little horrified that you thought your actions were okay too. There could have been other consequences, just as painful, if she hadn't discovered that she enjoyed it.

We don't know your wife and we don't know your relationship boundaries. For some models who view things as a career, it isn't cheating, it's just fantasy talk. Others have to hide the details of fantasy-talk from partners and work while they are away, not because it is real, but because their partner gets jealous and that could derail said career. I don't know whether you are a supportive partner or not, but considering your statement, "I always thought she might run off with the highest tipper" and you snooping into her Skype conversations with her members - it doesn't seem like you had a lot of trust or security in your partnership to begin with. In other partnerships I have seen, that combination (especially mixed with the sexual nature of the job) almost always leads to jealousy - but it's hard to know what came first - whether the jealousy/insecurity came prior to her intimate conversations or whether it sprang up afterwards. I have seen more than a few camgirls try to balance building their career while soothing the jealousies or fears of partners who cannot be supportive (I mean, not every one can handle being the partner of a sex worker, I get it, and that is okay!) - and it seems like a very difficult, painful & precarious balance to try to maintain. Like with my open relationship examples, it takes a very healthy relationship, filled with trust and communication and mutual respect in order to thrive in sex work, whether you are working solo or together.

If your feelings are hurt and you feel as if she is being deceptive and you feel as if a boundary has been crossed in your relationship, then it has. If you feel as if she cheated on you, then she has. If you feel as if she has been deceptive, then she has. But a bunch of strangers won't really be able to define your relationship boundaries or qualify anything as cheating, because cheating is different to each person, each relationship. Some relationships define cheating as the physical act. Others think viewing porn is cheating. Others may consider their partners spending five years lurking on camsites to be cheating. Others define cheating as flirty talk with the people they're attracted to, who aren't their partner. The point is, the definition of cheating is so personal and so subjective, it's impossible for any of us to answer that question. Only you can determine what is cheating in YOUR relationship. Only you can determine whether a boundary has been crossed, based on the rules that you two have established together over the years of your marriage.

But I hope that this provides you with a very valuable lesson, even though if it is one that hurts. In the future, please don't push your fantasies onto a person who isn't willing & excited to participate in them of their own free will. Because, like it or not, actions set events into motion that cannot be controlled, and sometimes, the consequences are effing painful. Fantasies rarely work out the way you want them to - but they have a better chance of going right if both partners are on board from the beginning.

I agree with Paige here that it was shitty to pressure your wife into something she didn’t want to do. A husband should protect his wife not put her in situations that are uncomfortable to her. On the other hand I like to view women as adults and she entered one contract and one pact. The contract was in marriage to the OP. The pact was the idea that she would become a camgirl as a job. For the second not to betray the first you had to sit down with her and lay some ground rules or boundaries, but any partner in a marriage who wants to honor it will not do anything that feels deceptive. If she has been deceptive then that is entirely on her, I don’t think it is fair to shift the blame to the OP simply because he pressured her into camming. These are 2 separate sins with 2 separate sinners

 

[DFT]

First impression was this is a cuckolded Penthouse letter. When I pretended it's real it took a much darker turn. What's he asking for? Asking here for? Permission to call her out with peer support.

He couldn't risk giving up a throw away email to make an account for five years, but sure, it's great if she's exposed to the world. Pressured her, that part is being covered. Within months he gets jealous enough to snoop - and why not, she's no more a person to him than all the models he watched for free - now he wants justification for calling her out for cheating on him. Look at the tags he chose. #Betrayed #Blindsided (laf) #CheatingSpouse #Infidelity. Sounds like a twerp working himself up to shame her into new terms of his making. Divorce? Probably not, she's bringing home the money. Hang the threat of outing her for being a cheater if she stops? More likely.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

Is it just me who feels like this is a troll post? It just doesn't sound realistic where the OP brazenly admits to nagging her for years, admits to having freeloaded for years on a camsite behind his wife's back, and then there's this really unrealistic sounding Skype relationship with a member who apparently doesn't even tip. Nope, I'm seriously not buying it.

 

[swordfish_al]

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Is it just me who feels like this is a troll post? It just doesn't sound realistic where the OP brazenly admits to nagging her for years, admits to having freeloaded for years on a camsite behind his wife's back, and then there's this really unrealistic sounding Skype relationship with a member who apparently doesn't even tip. Nope, I'm seriously not buying it.

Thanks for the response. I know it all sounds fake but believe me it really happened. I felt the same way when I found out like how in the world could this happen to me. We’ve been married for 15 years and this is how it’s going to end? Like I said in an earlier response, she said she just had a crush on his cock I couldn’t believe and still can’t. I’m taking most the blame for this one because it was me who pushed her into it but she really enjoys doing it and love seeing her happy.

 

[swordfish_al]

All I'm reading is...

"Excuse me Cam models I freeloaded for YEARS on a cam site because I clearly don't respect these women who are trying to do their job. Then because of my jerk off fantasies of making my wife into one of these women I don't respect I spent several years cohercing her into becoming a cam model as well and now it's all backfired on me. I sure had no idea while cohercing my wife into SEX WORK that she might enjoy it. I feel so betrayed!!!!"

Dude, she might be cheating but you're so awful I don't blame her.

Thanks for the response. Yes it all has blown up in my face and I feel horrible for convincing her to do this and I do take part of the blame for what she did but am I really that horrible for wanting to share the beauty of my wife? She is an amazing woman I kinda in the back of my head knew she would be successful in doing this. It has done wonders for her self esteem and it makes her feel good when she has an awesome night and that makes me happy to see her happy.

 

[swordfish_al]

Next time, if a woman spends four and a half years declining to participate in a fantasy of yours, you should probably let it go and not push those boundaries. It's like when I see dudes try to pressure their girls into having open relationships, when they clearly don't want to do so. They aren't thinking of their partner's wants - they are thinking of their own fantasies, their own pleasure. Then, they're shocked to find that the girl gets a ton of dates and sometimes, the girl finds another partner they might connect with better. Perhaps someone who won't nag them into doing something they clearly don't want to do. Even then, when the first guys realize that they made a mistake - it usually isn't because they genuinely recognize their actions were wrong and totally unfair to their partner - it's about their own hurt, as much as the pressure was about their own pleasure. Perhaps the hurt could have been avoided with better defined rules, more open communication - but it would have been avoided completely if the boundaries hadn't been pressed until they crumpled in the first place.

Obviously, your relationship isn't open, so this isn't a perfect parallel, and I am not trying to pardon her for not sharing the intimate nature of her member-conversations. But I wanted to compare the similarities of pressuring for fantasies to come to life while ignoring your partner's wishes, and then the shock of fantasies turning sour when they turn messy and complicated, because real life has a tendency to do that.

In this case, I am glad that she discovered a career that she enjoys. That is actually really effing lucky. But it could have gone the other way, and she would have sacrificed her boundaries and hated it, at your request. She might have had to deal with pretty heavy stigma and consequences for a career she didn't even initially WANT, and that is so tragic to me. No model should feel pressured or "nagged" into beginning sex work, especially after being worn down over a period of years. Especially by their partner. Especially if money-constraints are used to add additional pressure to convince her to change her mind. That is so dangerous in SO many ways, and while I am trying to feel sympathetic to the pain and hurt you are feeling right now, I am more than a little horrified that you thought your actions were okay too. There could have been other consequences, just as painful, if she hadn't discovered that she enjoyed it.

We don't know your wife and we don't know your relationship boundaries. For some models who view things as a career, it isn't cheating, it's just fantasy talk. Others have to hide the details of fantasy-talk from partners and work while they are away, not because it is real, but because their partner gets jealous and that could derail said career. I don't know whether you are a supportive partner or not, but considering your statement, "I always thought she might run off with the highest tipper" and you snooping into her Skype conversations with her members - it doesn't seem like you had a lot of trust or security in your partnership to begin with. In other partnerships I have seen, that combination (especially mixed with the sexual nature of the job) almost always leads to jealousy - but it's hard to know what came first - whether the jealousy/insecurity came prior to her intimate conversations or whether it sprang up afterwards. I have seen more than a few camgirls try to balance building their career while soothing the jealousies or fears of partners who cannot be supportive (I mean, not every one can handle being the partner of a sex worker, I get it, and that is okay!) - and it seems like a very difficult, painful & precarious balance to try to maintain. Like with my open relationship examples, it takes a very healthy relationship, filled with trust and communication and mutual respect in order to thrive in sex work, whether you are working solo or together.

If your feelings are hurt and you feel as if she is being deceptive and you feel as if a boundary has been crossed in your relationship, then it has. If you feel as if she cheated on you, then she has. If you feel as if she has been deceptive, then she has. But a bunch of strangers won't really be able to define your relationship boundaries or qualify anything as cheating, because cheating is different to each person, each relationship. Some relationships define cheating as the physical act. Others think viewing porn is cheating. Others may consider their partners spending five years lurking on camsites to be cheating. Others define cheating as flirty talk with the people they're attracted to, who aren't their partner. The point is, the definition of cheating is so personal and so subjective, it's impossible for any of us to answer that question. Only you can determine what is cheating in YOUR relationship. Only you can determine whether a boundary has been crossed, based on the rules that you two have established together over the years of your marriage.

But I hope that this provides you with a very valuable lesson, even though if it is one that hurts. In the future, please don't push your fantasies onto a person who isn't willing & excited to participate in them of their own free will. Because, like it or not, actions set events into motion that cannot be controlled, and sometimes, the consequences are effing painful. Fantasies rarely work out the way you want them to - but they have a better chance of going right if both partners are on board from the beginning.

Thanks for the response. That’s exactly what she said to me about the whole thing that it was my fairy for pushing her into the whole the thing and I do accept 50 percent of the blame for that. The thing is is that she created the whole skype thing just to chat with him offline for free so he wouldn’t have to pay. That’s where it got really intimate and I knew nothing about it. I was supporting her we did have boundaries we were communicating our feelings but she just said she got carried away with that one person because he had a nice cock. Get this she said she only saw his face a couple of times and only heard his voice once when Skyping with him. As embarrassing as it sounds she said she had a crush on his cock and that’s it. She didn’t want to have sexy with him just his cock is that even a thing?

 

[swordfish_al]

What did she say when you asked her about it?

Thanks for the response. She said she just got carried away with the whole cheating fantasy thing and that it was fun to talk about and that she knew she would never be able to pull it off. But isn’t that what they all say when the get caught?

 

[Emberblaze]

All I'm reading is...

"Excuse me Cam models I freeloaded for YEARS on a cam site because I clearly don't respect these women who are trying to do their job. Then because of my jerk off fantasies of making my wife into one of these women I don't respect I spent several years cohercing her into becoming a cam model as well and now it's all backfired on me. I sure had no idea while cohercing my wife into SEX WORK that she might enjoy it. I feel so betrayed!!!!"

Dude, she might be cheating but you're so awful I don't blame her.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I'm still not buying it. If this isn't a troll post, it feels like it's a creative way for someone to get off on a fantasy. Also like:

she said she just had a crush on his cock

"said no woman ever"

 

[ThePrincessLuxy]

Definitely sounds like a pimp/cuck fantasy to me.

 

[swordfish_al]

I'm still not buying it. If this isn't a troll post, it feels like it's a creative way for someone to get off on a fantasy. Also like:

"said no woman ever"

I know!! But it’s the truth. She told me that men’s cocks were ugly but she never saw a raging hard thick cock stand at attention for her. I’m average on a good day. So when she saw another man with that thing she said she lost it and just wanted to try it out. I know this is hard to believe but it’s the truth I promise I’m not trolling.

 

[Mila_]

a nice cock

a crush on his cock

she said she just had a crush on his cock

Go to a clipsite to pay for those fantasies, this is not the place.

 

[paige_orion]

I agree with Paige here that it was shitty to pressure your wife into something she didn’t want to do. A husband should protect his wife not put her in situations that are uncomfortable to her. On the other hand I like to view women as adults and she entered one contract and one pact. The contract was in marriage to the OP. The pact was the idea that she would become a camgirl as a job. For the second not to betray the first you had to sit down with her and lay some ground rules or boundaries, but any partner in a marriage who wants to honor it will not do anything that feels deceptive. If she has been deceptive then that is entirely on her, I don’t think it is fair to shift the blame to the OP simply because he pressured her into camming. These are 2 separate sins with 2 separate sinners

No, you are completely right on this. They are two separate sins with two separate sinners, and I think that's a really great way to put it. Her actions are not angelic by any means, but I was more concerned about his lack of awareness of his own really shitty decisions. This is something I am super duper passionate about because it hits home in a very unpleasant way. I totally acknowledge that I'm not able to stay non-judgy or neutral on this topic - and once I read the part about the years of pressure, the cheating part fell to the background in my mind. I mean, I think we can all agree that being deceptive with your partner is wrong, and clearly, there was deception going on, at the very least. I understand and cannot judge models who hide the more intimate nature of their business away from abusive partners. But when a partner chooses to actually cheat - that decision is 100% with them.

To OP: Normally, out of fairness, I would take this time to explain further on why I don't agree with cheating, and how I understand how shitty it feels to be cheated on and lied to, and how your hurt feelings are totally valid. Being cheated on sucks, dude. But I don't feel comfortable dissecting her actions further, in this case. If someone doesn't see anything wrong with pressuring their partner into violating their own boundaries, I don't want to give them additional fodder for manipulation by going on about how terrible or unfair their partner's actions may be. Especially when you add in invasive tactics like snooping into the mix. All around, the situation seems super toxic and unhealthy, and no one is blameless.

Thanks for the response. Yes it all has blown up in my face and I feel horrible for convincing her to do this and I do take part of the blame for what she did but am I really that horrible for wanting to share the beauty of my wife? She is an amazing woman I kinda in the back of my head knew she would be successful in doing this. It has done wonders for her self esteem and it makes her feel good when she has an awesome night and that makes me happy to see her happy.

Actually, kinda yeah. If she wanted to share her beauty, that's a completely different story. But pressuring a partner into doing sexual acts when they have CLEARLY & REPEATEDLY said no? That's called sexual coercion, buddy. At BEST, it's manipulative. At worst, it's abusive & rapey. All around, it's pretty gross. No means no, and doesn't mean, "Keep asking until I am emotionally exhausted & desperate enough to say yes."

 

[paige_orion]

I know!! But it’s the truth. She told me that men’s cocks were ugly but she never saw a raging hard thick cock stand at attention for her. I’m average on a good day. So when she saw another man with that thing she said she lost it and just wanted to try it out. I know this is hard to believe but it’s the truth I promise I’m not trolling.

Okay, I feel SO MUCH better about this whole thing. This is clearly fake and I can breathe a sigh of relief that there is no girl having to deal with this.

 

[swordfish_al]

Definitely sounds like a pimp/cuck fantasy to me.

Things like this are not supposed to happen especially on a webcam site but it did and I’m embarrassed and so is she. Thais is the only outlet I have to discuss this. I haven’t told anyone about this because like I said I’m embarrassed. I just don’t know how to react. She didn’t physically cheat on me but she did cross the lines and she did get emotionally attached to him in a three month span. Chatting and having cyber sex on skype without my consent. We’re kind of in limbo right now cam and relationship wise. Am I overreacting or am I not doing enough? That’s why I’m here pouring my heart out this is very difficult and I need some real advice.

 

[swordfish_al]

Okay, I feel SO MUCH better about this whole thing. This is clearly fake and I can breathe a sigh of relief that there is no girl having to deal with this.

A girl having to deal with this? What about a man having to deal with this? Yes it happened

 

[swordfish_al]

Go to a clipsite to pay for those fantasies, this is not the place.

I thought this was a place to chat and get advice on things. I don’t know how else to tell you people that this really happened and all I want to know from real people who are on webcams and that have husbands or wives is this considered cheating or what would you do in a situation like mine. It really happened!

 

[Emberblaze]

*coughs awkwardly*

I maybe fell in love with my bfs dick the second I saw it... I mean, it was ONE dick out of the millions I've seen in porn, real life, and on cam. But it caaaannnn happen.

*Reaches over and affectionately pats hers bfs crotch while he plays video games*

(Definitely wouldn't have liked it if he was freeloading in my cam room though, we met through fetlife on my personal account.)

 

[IsabellaSnow]

A girl having to deal with this? What about a man having to deal with this? Yes it happened

While I am 100% certain you're just using this to get off, I want to just address why Paige said this. This may be a fantasy for you, and fantasies are all good (so long as you don't turn them into realities) but nagging a partner into sex work would be extremely fucked up and abusive. Play with it as a fantasy by all means, but for someone to do this in real life, I would be extremely concerned. It's kind of like, it's all good to have domination/abuse fantasies, but actually doing those things in real life aren't ok. So yeah, if this scenario were real, I would have absolutely zero sympathy for the guy. But that's the whole point isn't it? Because cuckold/pimp fantsies

To the OP, I get why you're trying to keep this up, but what you're doing right now is not OK. This may be a camgirl forum and you feel it's an appropriate outlet for you to live this little fantasy, but what you're doing is dragging non consenting parties into your sexual play. This is not OK. We know what you're doing, not only were we not born yesterday, but camgirls are very used to the kinds of sexual fantasies kicking around. If you'd like to engage in this fantasy then you need to discuss it with models first, rather than throwing it onto them expecting us to play along for free.

Also, in future, if you want to go to a group of women trying to trick them into playing along with a kink for free, try to learn more about women beforehand. Literally, women all over the internet going on and on about how fed up they are about seeing random guy's cocks, and how no girl is attracted to random penises. Like seriously, we do not care. I can't say 100% that this is the case, but I have never met a woman who's felt differently. Something women literally laugh about is the idea that a dude would think his random dick pic would make us remotely interested in him. So yeah, your story is just so insanely unrealistic as soon as you started bringing that one in. Only a dude would say such bullshit. What is with this whole dick ego bull? Dudes seem to be obsessed with images of pussy, and even then, seeing one particular random faceless vagina in a huge boatload of other vaginas is unlikely to become the holy grail of all pussy.

 

[swordfish_al]

U

While I am 100% certain you're just using this to get off, I want to just address why Paige said this. This may be a fantasy for you, and fantasies are all good (so long as you don't turn them into realities) but nagging a partner into sex work would be extremely fucked up and abusive. Play with it as a fantasy by all means, but for someone to do this in real life, I would be extremely concerned. It's kind of like, it's all good to have domination/abuse fantasies, but actually doing those things in real life aren't ok. So yeah, if this scenario were real, I would have absolutely zero sympathy for the guy. But that's the whole point isn't it? Because cuckold/pimp fantsies

To the OP, I get why you're trying to keep this up, but what you're doing right now is not OK. This may be a camgirl forum and you feel it's an appropriate outlet for you to live this little fantasy, but what you're doing is dragging non consenting parties into your sexual play. This is not OK. We know what you're doing, not only were we not born yesterday, but camgirls are very used to the kinds of sexual fantasies kicking around. If you'd like to engage in this fantasy then you need to discuss it with models first, rather than throwing it onto them expecting us to play along for free.

Also, in future, if you want to go to a group of women trying to trick them into playing along with a kink for free, try to learn more about women beforehand. Literally, women all over the internet going on and on about how fed up they are about seeing random guy's cocks, and how no girl is attracted to random penises. Like seriously, we do not care. I can't say 100% that this is the case, but I have never met a woman who's felt differently. Something women literally laugh about is the idea that a dude would think his random dick pic would make us remotely interested in him. So yeah, your story is just so insanely unrealistic as soon as you started bringing that one in. Only a dude would say such bullshit. What is with this whole dick ego bull? Dudes seem to be obsessed with images of pussy, and even then, seeing one particular random faceless vagina in a huge boatload of other vaginas is unlikely to become the holy grail of all pussy.

Uhhh, sorry but you lost me at “while” I just realized with your post that I should have went into the men’s section what you said was ridiculous. Obviously you didn’t read a single word that I said in any posts and you are so fascinated about this being a fantasy well it’s not a fantasy. This is my reality and coming on here and sharing this with you and thinking I could get some actual feedback is a true fantasy. Why is it so hard for you people to believe that my wife of 15 years wanted to have sex with someone she met on a webcam site just for the sheer size of his cock? I have no fantasy of being cucked if wanted that I could have taken her to the nearest glory hole for some relief. All I wanted from this was to know where to draw the line so we could both be happy in the webcam industry not to be ridiculed and laughed at by judging people who themselves are not perfect in any way if you are posting in this forum.

 

[paige_orion]

I thought this was a place to chat and get advice on things. I don’t know how else to tell you people that this really happened and all I want to know from real people who are on webcams and that have husbands or wives is this considered cheating or what would you do in a situation like mine. It really happened!

If you want cammodels or members to act as counselors and give advice on your relationship, real or not, you'll have better luck paying one of us to indulge you. When I look back through this thread, I see that you have received plenty of feedback from models and members alike. We gave the answers/time/attention that we thought were appropriate for someone who isn't paying for it, but it clearly isn't enough to satisfy what you need or desire. At this point, pursuing the situation isn't entertaining enough to justify continuing for free.

 

[Marceline]

If a man that didn’t have a cuckold fetish was really being cheated on (or whatever the case would’ve been if this was actually a real scenario) he wouldn’t keep going on about the other guy’s “raging hard cock”. It’s that, and how you blazenly admitted to being a freeloader that led everyone to the conclusion that you have a cuckold fetish and you’re trying to get free jerk off material from this thread.

 

[swordfish_al]

If you want cammodels or members to act as counselors and give advice on your relationship, real or not, you'll have better luck paying one of us to indulge you. When I look back through this thread, I see that you have received plenty of feedback from models and members alike. We gave the answers/time/attention that we thought were appropriate for someone who isn't paying for it, but it clearly isn't enough to satisfy what you need or desire. At this point, pursuing the situation isn't entertaining enough to justify continuing for free.

Wait hold on for a second, I said I used to lurk but now I’m a dark purple thank you very much. I know what a cam model goes through because I am married to one. I didn’t think I had to explain that part. There you go again with the judging assumptions. Why can’t you just be biased and give a straight and honest answer without bringing the pitchforks and torches at me.

 

[swordfish_al]

If a man that didn’t have a cuckold fetish was really being cheated on (or whatever the case would’ve been if this was actually a real scenario) he wouldn’t keep going on about the other guy’s “raging hard cock”. It’s that, and how you blazenly admitted to being a freeloader that led everyone to the conclusion that you have a cuckold fetish and you’re trying to get free jerk off material from this thread.

Here goes another one.