Hi ForceTen, that's a really good idea what that model had done to shift away from doing privates shows, and to announce to members to give them a last chance to do privates. I'm going to do that! It really hit home when you said it's no longer enjoyable for me and that I shouldn't put myself through this. I almost feel like this relationship with this member has been toxic for so long I'm just realizing now in my life that I should be caring more about my own happiness than the comfort of toxic people surrounding me. I'm not going to feel guilty about expecting to be treated the way I want to be treated. I'm going to muster up the courage to tell him I don't want to skype anymore and that I don't feel comfortable. But he's always said things like "when have I ever been rude" or "lady's choice" almost as if he's trying to insinuate he's a good guy and that he's always had good intention. But deep down inside for years, as long as my camming career I've dreaded having to encounter this man(in person) and the time that I finally met him I faked having my periods (sorry tmi) because he took me to some type of clinic where you can get a blood test to check for STDs. I guess you call those a testing agency. So he was already thinking he'd be getting in my pants that first time I visited him. Luckily he is repulsed by the idea of having sex with a woman in her periods so that kept his hands off me and we enjoyed our time together by going to the circus and the restaurant. But boy believe me I was happy to be back home after that trip. Reason why I decided to go see this man was because I was in between moving places and I thought maybe going to visit him I'd save up on some money without needing to spend on temporary accommodation in my city. But honestly after seeing him I just never want to go back and visit because for sure this time he would want to have sex. In my chatroom I've had him get all ampted/fired up because he's "the only tipper in the room" or that other members just like to chat but don't tip. Then he sorta brags how's he's the only one supporting me. It's just not very pleasant at all. But you're right. At the end of the day I have a feeling he will have to respect my choices and if anything yes I've kept email communications to keep him at bay if I ever needed to get the authorities or MFC involved.
Wow, am very sorry to hear that you've had to ensure all of that with him. I can never understand why people take advantage of, or play games with, those they supposedly care about. He just sounds bad all around, especially with what you said he did when you went to visit.
The whole thing about testing, and expecting sex.. Really? WTF?! Admittedly, there's a couple of models I think would be cool to meet, hang out and shoot the shit with over a couple of drinks. But, would never have the nerve to think it'd go beyond that as would feel incredibly lucky just to hang with them for a while. While I've never met a cam model in person, I have met other people I've gotten to know online and it was like long-time friends meeting up after separated for a while. At the same time, I can't say I'd expect meeting a model to ever happen due to security concerns of theirs. Which, I'm fine with.
I think there's a time and a place for saying something like "Lady's choice", as I say it as well. But, it's truly meant in her best interest and would be okay for me. Some people use it condecendingly, which is how it sounds like he did. He definitely sounds like someone you're better off dropping out of your life.
Jus so many wrongs on things with this member. Wish you the best of luck in cutting ties with him, and moving to where you want in your room.
As an FYI, there was a couple of recent threads talking about privates over public chat. Here's a link to one of them if you're interested:
https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/threads/privates-on-token-sites.35314/
Again, best to you
