Models, does it bother you if a member is married/in a relationship?

[Deleted member 57885]

(I'm a member, not a model)
I haven't been on CB too long. From hanging out in pub chat in rooms though, it became quickly evident to me that there are a good amount of members that are married/in a relationship, and not of the open variety. I'm not here to be all 'holier than thou' on anyone, but sometimes there are things that make me have the "well then..." reaction to what people are saying. Context of me asking the question: I remember seeing one member recently say something along the lines of "you're hot, hope you're streaming longer today... otherwise I'll have to get some from the old hag"

It's a controversial subject, but I'm just wondering your thoughts on the matter. If a member is going to your room, flirting, initiating privates, etc.. while doing it all secretively behind their partner's back, does the situation bother you?

I figure there is no truly right / wrong answer on this. I'm just curious everyone's personal thoughts on the matter.

 

[Nigerian Prince]

It bothers me when they make it a point to tell me that they are married and how they like to secretly watch guys when their wives aren't around...

 

[MarieElise]

I don't care, because I have no way of knowing if they are in an open marriage or what the rules of their relationship are in relation to porn.

However... that being said I would ban someone immediately for the old hag comment. 90% or more of the men who visit me either never mention their relationship status, or say respectful things about their wives/ husbands/ SOs. I don't tolerate any shit-talking or disrespectful talk about wives/ husbands, SOs, or even ex's or previous cam models they frequented. I don't want to hear one side of a biased story, and I don't want to hear people bitching, I'm not a therapist, nor am I crutch for weak, unhappy people. They can keep their personal problems to themselves.

Any kind of malicious talk about others is an immediate ban in my room. I definitely don't Mommy coddle, and I find that the majority of men have more dignity than to even go there. So I see that kind of behavior as abnormal and bitchy/ weak. Even if a member comes in talking shit about someone I don't personally like either, I will still ban them. I'm just not into trouble making, gossipy type people. It's one thing if someone I consider a personal friend talks to me about an emotional problem. But the context of making rude, negative comments about others during cam shows, to people the person barely knows, is just so far off imho. Shows poor boundaries and personality issues/ problems with direct honest communication.

ETA; If they are doing it secretly behind backs, and they make a point of telling me, I ban. However lots of men have homewrecker fetish, and are not even married, the whole thing is a roleplay fantasy. So it is something I am careful with, if it feels like its a fetish fantasy.

 

[thinkinboutit]

Its none of my business, and I don't care.

But if a guy starts shit-talking his wife, or comparing me to her, I'll think he's a scumbag.

 

[SaffronBurke]

It's not my business if they're in a relationship or not. I'm here to get naked for money, they're here to get off to me getting naked, personal relationships don't really matter. However, if they're shit-talking their wife, I don't tolerate that. This is a person you're supposed to love, and you're talking about her like that? Not cool. I try to maintain a positive vibe in my room, so that's definitely something I would ban a viewer for.

 

[anabeauty37]

married guys are my favorites, they dont start the love stories that i try to run of .. they come to have fun and friendships.

 

[GoddessKaeli]

Doesn't matter to me. I provide a service, a fetish (Domme) that some wives/girlfriends may not be comfortable with or familiar with. That's why I'm paid to do what I do. I also don't like hearing about the wife/girlfriend or being compared...and if a man puts down or demeans his real life woman that's a quick instant ban from me. I have no patience for that sort of talk. Just let go, release yourself and give in to the fantasy. That's all it is...and that's okay.

 

[AudriTwo]

doesnt bother me that they are in a relationship since im married aswell. i too don't tolerate if he shit talks his partner or compares me to them . im that bitch who calls them out for it. always say "how do you think she would feel if she knew her husband/boyfriend is going on the internet and telling other women he prefers their body over hers. i know if i learned my husband was talking to other women like that, i would be devastated." they either leave, call me a bitch, or be self-deprecating.

i refuse to do homewrecking roleplays because they are icky to me. grew up with my mother being cheated on by both of her husbands. i saw how it hurt her self-esteem and happiness. even if its just play, its too close to home for me.

 

[Kathrynne]

I don't care if he are married / in a relationship or a free member. I don't consider sex on cam sites to be cheating, so I don't care.
I have some married members, they come for different reasons - just to switch from everyday problems, his wife could get tired and he wanted something naughty, just to flirt and be distracted.
There are those who can come in a frustrated mood from a family quarrel, we talk, he will cum and it will become easier for him, the stress will go away and he will return to his wife and they will make up. This happens often.
there can to be a lot of reasons why married members come to cam sites, it is not my business.
What I will never tolerate in my room is a mocking, disrespectful comment about his partner. This is really disgusting. If he has something to say, go and tell her to her face, and not discuss behind her back.

 

[AmberCutie]

doesnt bother me that they are in a relationship since im married aswell. i too don't tolerate if he shit talks his partner or compares me to them .

this for me, as well.

 

[AussieCosplay]

I'm also here to reiterate that their relationship status is not my concern, I'd prefer they have open communication with any partners for their own benefit but it's their life.
That said if they're putting anyone down, especially someone they know, instant ban from my room too.
Zero tolerance policy on disrespectful behaviour.

 

[mike_aussie]

None of my business.

 

[Danigirl]

If I didn't want married men or men in relationships in my room, 70%+ would be gone lol. Not my business. Dudes need to keep the drama and disrespectful thoughts to themselves or get out. I have several lovely members who are married long term and the relationship evolved into comfortable roommates. They are fine with the relationship where it is with their spouse or think it is what it is. They don't want to cheat but still have needs. I don't see what I'm doing as cheating. It's erotica and fantasy.

 

[KenzieCams]

No, it doesn't bother me because I consider myself porn and don't consider porn cheating. But also because I do have a few regulars who are in miserable marriages and I provide a healthy escape. I help them to explore thenselves and pleasure themselves and I show them how to connect with themselves sexually. I also would rather them spend time with me online than cheat with someone.

That said...married men who spend a lot of money on me but have to hide it from their wives....those guys make me feel like shit.

 

[ElektraDivine]

That said...married men who spend a lot of money on me but have to hide it from their wives....those guys make me feel like shit.

Ooo yeah that would bother me a lot too.

Same as everyone else though pretty much, as long as they don't degrade their wife then I don't think it's any of my business. I don't offer GFE or anything like that so I just like to be a sexy fun time in the morning, so I don't think that's ever really crossing that much of a line.

 

[Diana_Devil]

the only thing that would bothers me is when they do not pay for the show and watch for free. and also pretend in many cases to do things for free because you know .....

Then married or not it really does not matter , i am a bussiness not a charity , so no matter the sexual oriantation , marital status and so on , as long as you watch me then have the common courtezy and throw a cent. I am not there to sell myself as a relashionship or look for a relashionship or for a husband , but i am still there to be paid for what i do .

Its like you watch tv and see angelina jolie fuck with brad pitt , or on Oprah ass while she talks about attraction law , you know , you may get a boner on that married or not , and you may also go after in the bathroom masturbate thinking about that , but you still pay your tv contract monthly , money that goes also a small part at those people that you see in tv too, and to those working there hard to show you the Oprah ass and the Angelina and Pitt fucking . And none of them will care if you are married or not because they are entertaiment and they do the job to entertain.