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MarcelineMuff

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Aug 12, 2014
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I am literally shaking as I post this for you guys, please be kind as this is a really weird time for me right now. I'm leaving to meet another victim's advocate in an hour.. My goal by posting this is to share my story and ask for your support in sharing it. I've been contacted by a handful of girls since coming out that have asked for help in shaming our abuser. Please help us give him the worthless, nasty feel he did with us. I left his name as X, but if you click a link to my dropbox on any evidence it will show one.


I have been a victim of rape and sexual assault within and outside the sex industry. Given recent events though, I'd like to share today about what happened to me on the day of October 29th. My name is Juno, I am a camgirl currently, but sometime ago I wanted to be in porn. This story is centered around an active self-proclaimed BDSM society group leader/photographer/ clipmaker we will call him X. But for the record he goes by a few names and if you'd like to see these names, it is placed in the documents I have mentioned and have no problem messaging any person these links. This lengthy record has a immense amount of evidence and photos of my extreme sexual assault.. so please bare with me as I'm trying to make sure there can be no confusion with what he has done.

Compiled links for those looking at document:

Image 1: https://www.dropbox.com/s/wky2ntomshj8d83/IMAGE1.png?dl=0
Image 2: https://www.dropbox.com/s/e2ub54qopd9f5yx/IMAGE2.png?dl=0
ImageP2: https://www.dropbox.com/s/gr0qar2kmc25i2z/IMAGE2PT2.png?dl=0
Image 3: https://www.dropbox.com/s/y788jxag9olrhni/IMAGE3.png?dl=0
Image 4: https://www.dropbox.com/s/rw5vfzslldeorar/IMAGE4.png?dl=0
Image 5: https://www.dropbox.com/s/tjo8674dmxbfclo/IMAGE5.png?dl=0
Image 6: https://www.dropbox.com/s/74i6x1f1skneka7/IMAGE6.png?dl=0


I had learned of X originally from my Mom, who was an active member of FetLife within the local groups he's involved in. Sometime after her divorce, my mom and himself had a Dom/Sub relationship. My Mom and Dad divorced when I was 19, as if it wasn't challenging enough, that ended my relationship with both parents (both by their OWN choice, not mine). I hear my Dad got married and mom is sharing someone within an interactive Poly relationship. I start with this tid bid of info, because my mother and I shortly reconciled for a month since her divorce to tell me this bit. She later again, decided not to answer any calls or texts again for some time before this whole ordeal.

I was contacted by X first on his personal Gainesville Fetlife member account. Immediately, I declined his performance opportunity repeatedly, disgusted that someone would attempt to fuck both mother and daughter as some sort of trophy award or story I considered. He then told me he would add me here and message me on his "professional" account. *See image one!* On his "professional account" he insisted he had no clue I was his previous submissive's daughter and had heard about me through my prior porn agent. Prior porn agent, had highly encouraged me to follow through, as being a porn performer it isn't good to turn down sets, especially with little to no expierence.. So I changed my mind after leaving my agent and went with X after his promises of non sexual fetish and rope work *See image 2 & Pt.2!* We had a phone call sometime later where we discussed basics. I had made aware I had not been STD tested yet and we would have to wait until after. He reminded me no sexual acts will be taken so it was uncalled for. We also discussed my limits, scenes, and the obvious, let's not tell my mom or post to FetLife where she is friends with his personal account X (see image 5 later where he states verbal agreements don't count). Everything sounded like a lot of fun!

After agreeing to do these scenes he emailed scripts, *see image 3!*

On the day of recording he greeted me with coffee and was very sociable. We relaxed at his kitchen table with my printed perform consent form and without hesitation he asked if it was my first scene. I laughed and admitted to it because I knew I was noticeably jittery, but thought his beaming smirk in response was a bit out of place. We made small talk and I made so sure to thoroughly read and sign my contract, that he later broke. I got ready and promptly became suspicious when entering his set… As he had placed nipple clamps out- a hard limit on my newly pierced nipples. I instanteously initiated redisscussing my limits. He insisted it was a huge deal in his script and sarcastically made comments about me being a newbie, withdrawing a feeling of responsibility of being a good porn performer. I agreed to test the different sizes of nipple clamps. I became rapidly uneasy and said no more, and he backed off and that was that. He was upset for all of 30 seconds and retained his normal stature, which relieved me, as I already felt guilt seeping me through me for being a "bad performer" on my first scene. We began recording our rope suspension scene soon after. As he tied me up, he started rubbing and sliding the rope on my piercing holes. I screamed instanteously and whispered "you know you're not suppose to do that". I thought being quiet and cute would make it less obvious to audience. He retorted with something along the lines of "I know but I like it".. It continued.. Later leaving my one of nipples infected and unable to work my online camming account for a few days for it's distorted appearance.

Later on ward while being suspended and completely unable to move, he started fingering me. I was stunned, it is apparent on camera for his video.. and then he performed oral sex on me.. Though he had distinctly stated several times nothing sexual in all messages and his written script. We completed recording an hour late. Before I left he had applauded my work and persuaded me into continuing working for him.. I wasn't sure, but I said yes, because I knew I could always cancel when he calls.

Days succeeding, I saw my photos on X, his personal Gainesville FL FetLife account, where my mom could easily see. I urgently called and made sure he was able to talk at that moment. I started barraging him with questions. "Why did you break our agreement?" "Why are your work photos on your personal page now?" He quickly got off the phone call dodging them, promising to remove all photos of me there. After contemplating his trust and professionalism, I sent him a polite few messages affirming we wouldn't be working together. He response was very hostile and poorly written. These photos display his outrageous radicalizations with mistreating and breaking contracts, begins to inform me I have no present value as a performer, and justifies telling my mom "because I'm either a porn star or not". He concluded his argument with he's just going to break our verbal agreement because it wasn't a binding contract. *See image 4!* I also included two last text messages he had sent to my mom, November 3rd, 4 days after our scene. Here he lies TWICE and reinstates after the scene, he had done nothing sexual to me though he has video proof *See image 5!*

I am not the only woman X has assaulted. When a fellow FetLife member, made a note centered on clearing the air of recent accusations of another porn performer, X made a comment on her post sympathizing with victims.. In light of recent events, I felt I should and could say something about his false front. He never responded.. *See image 6!* It disgusted me because in his own way, X likes taking advantage and breaking new women in BDSM as well. Since my comment, I have been contacted by several people who both know and were assaulted by X. My goal now by telling my story is too warn my local community of his actions, as he is a "BDSM leader" of several groups with access to many young newcomers in FetLife BDSM groups and encourage others in similar situations. I sincerely appreciate any and all support, please feel free to share this wherever and as much as possible!
 
Maybe @AmberCutie can move this post into the original thread where you wanted it posted. Sending you loves your way, that's just awful and terrifying to be put in that position. I'm sorry that you had to go through that :(
 
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Maybe @AmberCutie can move this post into the original thread where you wanted it posted. Sending you loves your way, that's just awful and terrifying to be put in that position. I'm sorry that you had to go through that :(
@MarcelineMuff I am not sure what other thread/place it should be, unless it was meant for the model's only section.
 
So sorry this happened to you. I do have one question however, in the last drop box image, it seems to me that Hojo-jutsu is siding with you, at least the way I read it, and I reread it several times. In any case, what he did is awful.
 
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Read your story. Tried to imagine being in your shoes (can't really). I don't know how to rate your post. It made me mad.
 
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Thank you for your support guys :h: I just got back from the appointment and will be filing things in at the department very soon. I'm really looking forward to closure.


So sorry this happened to you. I do have one question however, in the last drop box image, it seems to me that Hojo-jutsu is siding with you, at least the way I read it, and I reread it several times. In any case, what he did is awful.
That comment was a response of his. The response was to a note written by a pornstar on fetlife about the J.D. accusations.. it's why I posted it, it hurt my feelings to see my abuser try to relate to victims of the same kind of hate.
 
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What a disgusting man e.e It doesn't matter if it was a verbal agreement, being in the porn industry doesn't change the fact that you have to respect the performer's hard lines and privacy wishes. And the way he kept pushing it and manipulating you after you declined is horrible. So sorry that you had to go through that, sending hugs and good luck to you. Hopefully others new to bdsm will see this and be warned.
 
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Unfortunately I don't think it's uncommon for these "big name" fetish guys to abuse their status. I've been in and out of the scene for about 6yrs but it's the same everywhere. Sometimes someone who is generally highly respected in a community and is very involved will have a horrible abusive side to them. Maybe they were always like that and it's just the power of being so well known and liked that makes them act on it. Maybe they've been abusive scumbags forever and just put on a happy face for everyone. This is in every community. I think it makes the news most when it's a pastor or congressman, but the truth is any community can have this situation. Someone who feels like they're so popular that they are above it all and can do whatever they want.

Popular teachers, photographers, and models have been outed as complete assholes before. It's happening with James Deen right now. Oh but everyone loves JD....surprise he's a rapist.

I know that when you read that first paragraph, it might seem like I'm writing you off. Oh, this is old news, it happens everywhere. I hope you don't take it like that. It's more of a rant on how fucked up people get when they have enough power in a community. There IS some stuff you can do about it. But like all of these situations, outing your abuser can make some people just dislike YOU, because they think you're lying. Be prepared for drama and backlash. The kink community is filled with cliques and drama like any other close-knit group. Make sure you have a few close friends. Anyone else can fuck right off.

I think you should post this in ALL your local groups. And any groups that deal with photography. There are probably more people X has abused. Most of them are probably young girls like you who might be new to the scene. But there are going to be assholes. Regardless of what people say, show your proof and stick to your facts.

In the future, if you do anything like a suspension or photoshoot that isn't in a public play area with DMs walking around (dungeon monitors- people hired by the play space to make sure everyone is following the rules), bring some friends with you. I went to a photoshoot once and was fortunate that I came with my Dom and his girlfriend/sub. The guy was a photographer and said he knew bondage too. Well the bondage he did was horrible and he was a creep too. He kept offering to take pictures of me too, even when I had said, numerous times, that it was just my girlfriend getting the pictures done. Had we not been with our Dom, I think it could have been a lot worse.

I know big name riggers, I'm friends with people who do rope photoshoots every other week. These people have the same kind of following. They have a book, they have a professional Fetlife account, or they run a munch, or they host this party, or all the girls are waiting in line to be tied up by him.....whatever it is, DON'T trust them. Always have a friend nearby. Always tell the friend your plans. Always tell them what to look for. Your friend should be kinky too. Your friend should understand that when anyone is submitting for a BDSM photo shoot, video, or just being tied up for fun, that the submissive loses power. The submissive might not be able to say things the moment it goes wrong. Your friend needs to be the one to step in and go "Hey! Hey ah, you aren't supposed to finger her. Wait. Stop the scene. Take the gag out. Okay look at me, Marceline, are you okay? Do you want him to stop? Do you want to be untied?"

Does it suck that it has to be like that? Yes. Does it suck that you should probably bring a man any time you are getting anything kinky done? Yes. Should it not be this way? Of course. But this is how it is and it's what I do any time I'm with someone new. I go to parties and on the forum for the party, people make posts saying they want to tie someone up, or they want to do some impact play. I would never let those people do anything unless I have known them for quite some time and seen them work with a submissive before. I think it's crazy how "doms" just walk in and expect to have someone to spank or tie up.

I have a lot of anxiety about the scene because of situations like this. Even though it's the only place I feel warm and fuzzy and happy. My suggestion is find some kick-ass people. Yes, be in a clique with them. These people are your kinky family and will be your support group if shit hits the fan. They will believe YOU when something bad happens. If they don't like someone, you be careful with that someone. If they are doing a scene with someone new, you ask if they want you to watch for problems. Have each other's back. The only way the GIANT ASSHOLES who abuse people will get caught and stop is if we all work together.

And to end this long rant....I'm really sorry for what happened. This person is a tool and belongs in tool hell with all the other tools who are teachers/mentors/lesser gods and abuse their position. If I ever meet this guy at a kinky event, I will punch him in the nuts.
 
Unfortunately I don't think it's uncommon for these "big name" fetish guys to abuse their status. I've been in and out of the scene for about 6yrs but it's the same everywhere........

And to end this long rant....I'm really sorry for what happened. This person is a tool and belongs in tool hell with all the other tools who are teachers/mentors/lesser gods and abuse their position. If I ever meet this guy at a kinky event, I will punch him in the nuts.

I definitely agree with everything you said and appreciate your support and advice immensely. I hate coming out with this story... it's really embarrassing.. & having others publicly support me means a lot. I agree, girls should abide by the male buddy rule, unfortunately researching and listening to references of producers isn't nearly enough. Thank you for understanding, I have been isolated by the local kink communities and purposely outed as a performer to my home town.. but also disappointing this post has been read hundreds of times with little support from girls I had hoped would understand.. especially after seeing everyone so supportive about JD.. I'm just hoping that through this "feminist fad" there will be more women not afraid to take a stand and support each other. Again, thanks :h:
 
What a disgusting man e.e It doesn't matter if it was a verbal agreement, being in the porn industry doesn't change the fact that you have to respect the performer's hard lines and privacy wishes. And the way he kept pushing it and manipulating you after you declined is horrible. So sorry that you had to go through that, sending hugs and good luck to you. Hopefully others new to bdsm will see this and be warned.
Thank you :h: I hope they will too!
 
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I definitely agree with everything you said and appreciate your support and advice immensely. I hate coming out with this story... it's really embarrassing.. & having others publicly support me means a lot. I agree, girls should abide by the male buddy rule, unfortunately researching and listening to references of producers isn't nearly enough. Thank you for understanding, I have been isolated by the local kink communities and purposely outed as a performer to my home town.. but also disappointing this post has been read hundreds of times with little support from girls I had hoped would understand.. especially after seeing everyone so supportive about JD.. I'm just hoping that through this "feminist fad" there will be more women not afraid to take a stand and support each other. Again, thanks :h:

I wouldn't worry too much about the views/responses on here. A lot of people browse the forum for advice and information. Chances are that you've helped people understand abuse in the kink community, even if those people didn't respond. I'm one of those people who always raises her hand in class or ask a stranger for directions so if I have an opinion I'll say it, haha.

Also many of us aren't in the kinky community, so perhaps some people feel that they aren't qualified to respond. It just happens that I am, and I've been in a situation where someone in the kink community tried to ruin my reputation amongst the kinky groups I frequent. I've also had the "rumor" situation, both in and after high school. It's so mentally exhausting and for such a silly reason. Like what kind of sad, pathetic person goes around outing people as a camgirl? Or outing someone for ANYTHING. I just wonder and feel bad for people that need to put others down.

And maybe models saw my novella and thought everything had been said LOL. We are all here for you though, and I can guarantee that even though you might not get many responses (models are busy girls!), everyone sympathizes with you and supports you. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Eat some ice cream, dance with your cat (or whatever pet you have), and do some things that make you happy. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself and outing that man as a scumbag. That takes more balls than that stupid asshole has, that's for sure!
 
I wouldn't worry too much about the views/responses on here. A lot of people browse the forum for advice and information. Chances are that you've helped people understand abuse in the kink community, even if those people didn't respond. I'm one of those people who always raises her hand in class or ask a stranger for directions so if I have an opinion I'll say it, haha.

Also many of us aren't in the kinky community, so perhaps some people feel that they aren't qualified to respond. It just happens that I am, and I've been in a situation where someone in the kink community tried to ruin my reputation amongst the kinky groups I frequent. I've also had the "rumor" situation, both in and after high school. It's so mentally exhausting and for such a silly reason. Like what kind of sad, pathetic person goes around outing people as a camgirl? Or outing someone for ANYTHING. I just wonder and feel bad for people that need to put others down.

And maybe models saw my novella and thought everything had been said LOL. We are all here for you though, and I can guarantee that even though you might not get many responses (models are busy girls!), everyone sympathizes with you and supports you. I hope you have a wonderful weekend. Eat some ice cream, dance with your cat (or whatever pet you have), and do some things that make you happy. I'm proud of you for sticking up for yourself and outing that man as a scumbag. That takes more balls than that stupid asshole has, that's for sure!

Thank you, KinkyCasey :) I have been watching musicals with my fur babies in my free time. That could make sense, I hope so.. However, it doesn't change the amount of views on my post, which is hundreds.. It's a pretty embarrassing thing for me to come out about.. I honestly was hoping and didn't expect to find my sexual account to be sob story or entertainment you just browsed. I will be fine though, I'm super grateful to have a strong support system at home and work. Thanks again, small comments and support are what's keeping me going, it means a lot! Enjoy your weekend too :)!
 
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I'm sorry this happened to you, and I think you're very brave for sharing it. I don't think people are just browsing for entertainment or something, just that not everyone has something to add. I know you mentioned James Deen getting a big response, but that's also a dude that many people had been following for a long time, and the issue grew bigger than just him into a huge discussion about rape culture and legal vs moral obligations that you probably wouldn't want on your post anyways. I just think it's a bit different and not necessarily the kind of reaction you'd want. Anyways, I'm sorry you experienced that & thanks for sharing! :h:
 
What happened to you was horribly wrong regardless of whether it took place in a BDSM encounter or not and regardless of what was agreed on. A sexual assault is a sexual assault. It's great that you had the courage to post this so others could be warned. Stay strong.
 
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