Starting to lack confidence!

[Miranda Wilde]

Hey guys. I just joined the forum in hopes I can get some other insights. I've tried looking up confidence issues but I haven't really found anything besides Cam Scores possibly being an issue, in which I'm having as well but I already have a good idea of what I need to do to help raise that.

I was on Streamate for about a month, decided to go to MFC about a month ago, so really only been a cam girl for maybe 2 months. From the start I did great, had a few mishaps and going through the learning curve but for the most part did well and had fun. MFC turned out better because I had more traffic to my room and everyone seemed to have a great time. Considering I've only been on MFC for about a month now, most of my days I average about $35 a night and some nights I've been just under or over $100! Only happened a couple time though. About a week ago I forgot to mute my guests and one of them said I was boring. A minor insult, easily fixed, didn't think it effected me. But now since then, I've completely lost my confidence. Now I'm having a loss for words when people come in and I end up logging off before 5 minutes is up and my adrenalin is through the roof. I'm not one to pull out toys and start playing with myself or getting nude right away. I like to dance, have fun, chat, smile and paint on myself so far. I've teased and touched myself but not to the point where I'm all out exposing myself. Now I have it in my head that if I don't do something interesting right away, that the guys are basically going to insult me or leave.

I'm struggling to keep them in my room now because like I said, the last week something happened to my confidence! I do end up logging back on and trying again after I take a few breaths and drink something but I'm not myself, like a dork in the popular crowd I'm trying too hard and my camscore has shot down from about 1050 to 885 in a week! It sucks! Any suggestions besides boozin it up, cuz that's what I'd love to do at this point! :lol:

 

[Jupiter551]

Ooh wow that sucks, I think though you should register as a model on here then you can discuss it with the others in the model section and they'll probly be able to help you

 

[sweetiebatman]

Oh wow...

What a dick that guy sounds....

My first advice would be to mute guests and basics, they are rarely ever positive

You look absolutely stunning, and I agree with Jup you should register as a model as us Premiuums can only give one side

Keep the faith!

 

[Miranda Wilde]

Thank you both! Yes I will do that right away. He was a dick but I totally forgot to mute the guests, I never really cared much cuz I was new so it was nice to have the extra people talking but now it's a definite no to guests after that. Totally minor and I shouldn't have let it bother me but it did. Thanks again! :dance:

 

[Shaun__]

You could have been juggling flaming dildos while riding a Symbian mounted to a unicycle, and some random jackass would still call you boring.

 

[mynameisbob84]

About a week ago I forgot to mute my guests and one of them said I was boring. A minor insult, easily fixed, didn't think it effected me. But now since then, I've completely lost my confidence.

My only advice would be to not take the teeniest tiniest bit of notice what random internet pervs say. The interent is full of people who will call you all manner of outlandish poop just because they can. It doesn't mean any of it's true, ya know?
That said, I think if you're gonna make a go of the cam thing, you kinda have to be prepared to put up with that kinda thing. Regrettably, no matter what you do, no matter how awesome you are, you're always, always gonna get people decide to hurl abuse at you for no reason. Cos... people be dicks. :twocents-02cents:

 

[JickyJuly]

You could have been juggling flaming dildos while riding a Symbian mounted to a unicycle, and some random jackass would still call you boring.

So true, and most days, maybe it will roll off your feathers like nothing. There's always one dude who manages to find the right moment to get through the armor. That guy sucks. Hehehe. I try to gauge my mood and mute and ban accordingly as not to get hurt feelings and need to make a break for it. One thing that helps me is setting my PM to friends only on days that things feel iffy. Cutting out the "Skype for 100 tokens?", "Wanna watch my cam?", "Paypal?" dudes helps me keep a handle on my anger. :lol: It's really hard, but try not to attach your self esteem to MFC too much. The ups and downs can be brutal. My last paycheck, my hourly average was $75 and this paycheck I haven't even made minimum wage. My camscore fell 700 points.

 

[VeronicaChaos]

You could have been juggling flaming dildos while riding a Symbian mounted to a unicycle, and some random jackass would still call you boring.

The other day I was juggling dildos and someone did call me boring! :lol: I guess I should light them on fire next time.

But yeah, ya gotta let it roll off of you. There's always going to be some twat who has nothing better to do than insult a pretty girl.

 

[Miranda Wilde]

Well I'm glad I came here. You guys are awesome. You're totally right, I shouldn't have let it bother me and I didn't think it would. It didn't in the moment, I just kicked him out and laughed it off. I've had other people say worse and it didn't phase me, like sluuuuuuut, knocks against my tattoos and people saying they know me and are going to make sure they tell everyone I know what I'm doing. That shit didn't bother me but the boring one, yeah... hell if I know, seems so minor but the shithead got to me I guess. I know I'll hear worse as time goes on, just sucks my cam score is crashing cuz of it, it's hard to get it back up there when you're new. :roll:

 

[RogueWarrior]

I'm just gonna call it like I see it, because that's just kinda what I do.

First of all I'm not a model and not female. Not insignificant facts. I have also never been in your room. Another not insignificant fact. Therefore, I am highly qualified to comment on your situation. :mrgreen:

Really, the models here will be able to help you infinitely more than some idiot as myself, but I will say that if your profile is indicative of you, then boring would not make the top 100 of my descriptive terms. Of course, juggling flaming dildos is an interesting concept and..........................

 

[Weirdtimmy]

Guests and basics will say anything to make you feel like a piece of shit. Some $20 premiums will do the same, but really, I'd advise you to ignore it and go about your life with joy and happiness, or at least portray joy and happiness on cam.

I'm sure you're a lovely person on cam to have cared enough to even post this issue on a forum. I'll have to stop by and say hello one of these nights

 

[LadyLuna]

I have to reiterate what the people here are saying.

I've gotten the boring troll when I was in the middle of a group show where I was dancing and having a great time, and guys were tipping on top of the group bit because they loved it.

Second, in the model's only you'll find love, support, and commiseration from the rest of us. Plus, there's some motivation threads, ideas threads, and threads to bitch in. So if you haven't already done so, check out the how to get model status thread in announcements and get approved!

 

[Miranda Wilde]

Thanks guys. Yeah I put in my model name to Amber so Friday I will be able to go to the models section. :dance:

 

[gigolo_joe]

Ignore the little boys in the peanut gallery who have have nothing better to do than heckle the models...a drunken sailor in a 2 bit whorehouse has better manners. They are the scum of MFC! They insult all the models just not you!

 

[Beach_Love]

Ignore the little boys in the peanut gallery who have have nothing better to do than heckle the models...a drunken sailor in a 2 bit whorehouse has better manners. They are the scum of MFC! They insult all the models just not you!

Sadly MFC will attract not just guys like me who love all things feminine and are there to just enjoy the company albeit online of a sexy girl but also those guys who are looking for an outlet to vent their frustration or hatred towards women. The anonymity MFC (and the internet in general) provides makes it a perfect place for them to do so. You were nothing more than a "target of opportunity" and if you weren't online they'd be insulting another model. I'd like to apologize for my gender, I do not agree w/ a lot of what they do when it comes to their treatment of women.

 

[Always_Tim]

About a week ago I forgot to mute my guests and one of them said I was boring. A minor insult, easily fixed, didn't think it effected me. But now since then, I've completely lost my confidence.

There seem to be quite a few guests (and basics) who derive great pleasure from doing this to models.

You need to be aware that they are trying to break your confidence and that what they're saying has nothing to do with what they actually feel about your performance. They'll just say whatever they need to do to cause a reaction in you.

If you can't get past what they say and it continues to bother you, then you'll just have to keep guests/basics muted all the time.

Don't dwell on it. From what you said about the tips you're getting, it sounds like the premiums don't find you boring at all. They're the ones who matter, not the loser basics.