Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good idea

[LadyLuna]

I hate it when a person asks me for something I specifically mention on my profile that I don't do. It's even worse when they ask for things that I am willing to do, then take me private to surprise me with the things I don't do.

why am I putting this in the public section? because it's important for members to see that it's not cool to do this to someone. And, it's possible that he thought it was obvious from previous actions he had me do that we were doing that sort of thing. But it's not obvious. He didn't ask to do it, and it's something that seriously fucks with me. Enough to make me log off for an hour. (And yes, I know I'm opening myself up to trolls doing this to me all the time. But if it saves even five girls from dealing with this in the future, it's worth it.)

TRIGGER WARNING: the unpleasant surprise was daddy play, with obvious age-play overtones in the initial private

His name has been removed as I did not ask his permission to post, and this was done in exclusive.

Note: as I was talking, my responses are as best as I can remember

public chat:

him: hello luna..are you up for a spanking in private?

[color=#80000FF]me: sounds like fun! Aside from the implements you see behind me, there's also a hairbrush, which... *looks around* I can't seem to find at the moment but I will search for it if you want me to.[/color]

*exclusive invite pops up from the member who wanted a spanking, I explain that I've been invited to exclusive and let the invite accept automatically so the explanation has a chance to reach the members in the room before I get wisked away*

*exclusive starts, I kneel, smile, and wait a bit*

[color=#80000FF]me: hey there, you wanted a spanking, right?[/color]

him: rmove your clothes and kneel

[color=#80000FF]me: yes sir![/color] *as I take first shirt, then panties off, then go back to kneeling*

him: you will be a good and obediant girl for me?

[color=#80000FF]me: yes sir.[/color]


him: do you have hair ties? put your hair in pigtails for me?

[color=#80000FF]me: yes sir.[/color] *I put my hair up using sky blue pony-tail holders*

him: when were you last fucked?

[color=#80000FF]me: I don't talk about my off-cam sex life sir, but I will tell you my last private was about an hour ago and I did cum.[/color]


him: what about in real?


[color=#80000FF]me: I don't talk about me off-cam sex life sir. It's out of respect for any partners I might have.[/color]

him: ok
suck yout thumb for me

*I suck my thumb, and start to wonder if maybe he's looking for age play, but as he hasn't specifically said anything about it, I'm still okay with going along.*

him: good girl

now bend over and spread

*I do as directed. I count to thirty, then look back, nothing, so I retake the position. I count to thirty again, and look back, this time there's writing, so I get where I can properly see it*

him: good girl..now i want you to spank that ass and show me what you can take

*still not seeing the hair brush, I take the paddle and use that, looking to see if there's new directions after each cheek. I always do right side first. After the left side, I spot my hair brush, and hold it up*

[color=#80000FF]me: I found my hair brush sir, that one hits harder.[/color]

him: use your hand now


*so I do so*

him: good girl

you have nipple clamps?


[color=#80000FF]me: yes sir.[/color] *as I grab the bag I keep them in.*

him: ok

*I show him the options, giving a short name for each one*

[color=#80000FF]me: makeshift, vibrating, chained is what I have for nipples. And I have a feathered pair for decorative, but I keep that in another bag in a drawer over there.[/color]


him: chains

*I put the others away quickly, then put on the chained ones*


him: good girl

i want you to lay back and work your pussy for me

*I oblige, and very shortly after I've started*

him: now ask me if you can cum

*I work a bit more to get myself closer*

[color=#80000FF]me: please, may I cum sir?[/color]

him: yes

*I cum, and relax, and continue playing with my pussy*

[color=#80000FF]me: Thank you Sir.[/color]

him: spank it

*I give it a couple light ones, rub a bit, then a hard one, then rub a bit, and alternate like that a few times*


him: where do you want my cock?

[color=#80000FF]me: In my pussy sir[/color]

*I leave off the spanking, but continue to rub*

him: i need to cum now...come close to the camera...hold your slut tongue out nice and straight and BEG daddy for his cum on your tongue

*I ban him and don't allow for future contact, because slipping daddy play in without warning is not nice. Then I log off to calm down, because the idea that I was doing that the whole time fucks with my psyche.*

 

[Rose]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

Ugh, I'm sorry this butwad did this to you. I HATE when people do this and it seems to happen quite a bit. Stuff like that isn't ok, even if it is 'just a word'.

 

[AllisonWilder]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

I have to wonder though if some guys don't just get caught up in the moment and just use it as an alternative word, much like master or sir, since daddy can also be a daddy dom type, which would probably make sense in their line of thought. I've had guys in shows, that are not at all into daddy play, get carried away in D/s shows and just say whatever pops in their head first.


Edit: I'm not trying to excuse/justify something that clearly pushes your boundaries. It's your room, your rules and all that.

 

[Shaun__]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

I am sorry he did that to you Luna, many people can be so self-centered and uncaring of their partner's feelings.

 

[Fay_Galore]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

I wasn't going to say anything because I have sympathy for your situation, but it's the first thing I thought of this morning, so here it goes.

daddy/girl roleplay is very common, I completely understand a lot of people find this extremely uncomfortable or wrong, but fact of the matter is, it is a very common thing in BDSM land. I've been in a (very brief) daddy-dom relationship, and we've never made a link to incest. It's definitely more of a protector-dom and being-protected-sub kind of thing. the word 'daddy' is used in so many different ways then a parent-way, sugardaddy or 'who's your daddy' for instance. Other people I know IRL that are openly having a daddy/girl realtionship are probably the sanest and most intelligent people I know in the fetish scene and give lectures and talks on safe bdsm, the psychology of it and stuff like that. (which of course doens't mean SOME might have a very twisted intake in this daddy-business, but you could argue the same point for pigtails, cat ears, etc.)

I don't mean to attack you, I completely get this is getting to you, but if this is a hard-limit for you, you might want to state that up front with a private? especially if it's going in the direction of age-play. IMO being submissive is very much about stating your boundaries, irl and on cam. to avoid unpleasant surprises. I think we all have our triggers (mine's a very common one in porn, which is very unhandy with watching even vanilla porn) and it's a terrible thing to get confronted with it. I'm sorry this happened to you.

To me, he is not a freak per se for having a daddy/girl fetish.

 

[CharlotteLace]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

I don't think anybody's saying people doing daddy/girl play are freaks. I personally dislike the fetish, but I realize it isn't necessarily an incest fetish. And, like Allison said, some guys just throw that word in there without considering how it might be misconstrued. Not to mention it's hard to think clearly when you're close to climax, so maybe that's it.

However, Luna does make her hard-limits known. From her profile:

I love to please people, but I'm not capable of reading your mind, so you gotta tell me what you want me to do! I get turned on when my senses are engaged. I will NOT answer ?'s about real life. NO taboo, NO bathroom stuff, NO daddy play. Glasses stay ON

Anything else- make sure I can do it then take me private or exclusive!

So she makes it pretty clear that one should check that she'll do what they want, before going private. At the very least, I think he was inconsiderate and dumb for not scrolling down to see her show info and just surprising her with a fetish she clearly isn't comfortable with. At worst, he knew what he was doing and hoping she'd go along.

I've had unpleasant surprises during shows, and they suck. I'm sorry that happened to you, Luna.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

Yeah, this is the camming equivalent of having someone slip a cheeky finger up your ass at the point of climax with no warning, even though you've already stated that your ass is a one way street. Nothing wrong with enjoying butt stuff, but not everybody is into it and for some it can be a really big no-no. So it's always best to get somebody's consent before sticking your finger up their ass (or before you pull them into your daddy/daughter role play fetish).

 

[Ambers Troll]

Re: Trigger warning: unpleasant surprises are not a good ide

You did well L.Luna, you stopped when he lost your consent.
The ban might have seemed severe to some, but fair enough.

Agree with you on unpleasant surprises, have stopped a few pvt experiences from moments I did not consent to, age play being one. You definitely need to be prepared to share a fetish/ fantasy you are not into, if you chose to at all.