Hey all -
First time poster - been on Streamate as a member (not a model) for a while, and I've read a lot of the threads here as a unregistered viewer. I am in a new situation (and one that I presume has happened to guys before) for me and I have a sense of what to do, but wanted outside opinion.
No, this is not I'm in love with a cam girl thread. No big words like that. I am just very much in like
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I've been a regular member with a cam model for over a year. She's great (of course she is, right?). We have a good time and we are a lot alike - she says this often too. Went from Stream to skype, and I have dates with her there every couple weeks or so. We really respect each other, have fun times, laugh like hell, turn each other on, and of course an occasional deep talk. We always go over time and I'm the one who usually cuts it off as I don't want to take advantage of her generosity. She even took me on a date on my birthday and demanded I should not pay. She's said really lovely things, and yeah, we're looking into hotels for me to visit. We exchange emails frequently, but not close to every day. She's 33, I'm 48.
Here's the thing - financially things are tighter then before and I can either save and travel to go meet her (she's in Europe), or keep seeing her online - not both. I find this embarrassing and frustrating. I'm not going to cripple myself financially over this. And there was a thread here were a model said if she liked a guy enough, she'd stop charging. So that's up to her, but she hasn't suggested it yet and no way I am gonna ask for that. I'd feel like a beggar. I'd love to just "date" her and not watch the clock and bank account during the date like most other folks in a long distance romance, but ... that's not the situation.
So I was thinking of just telling her, as embarrassing as that feels - I really want to see you regularly, but I have to choose which I can do. I've never had to have a conversation like that before, and I worry I will seem less of a man in her eyes, or look like I making a sideways request for free time with her. She already told me she dropped two guys she met as a model because she lost respect for them. I know she cares for me, but we are not boyfriend and girlfriend. We're just two people a long way apart who like, respect, and occasionally lust after each other. But until you actually meet, it really is just a kind of fantasy - even if you are just in a regular long distance thing.
But another part of my head is saying yeah, you want to visit Europe anyway, but what if you fall for each other? Can you afford to keep traveling to see her until you get to a point where one of you wants to move? Should I just fade away instead? Wouldn't it make more sense to find someone closer and just spend time with that woman and save the credit card for dinner? But then there's her, and her damn smile, and laugh, and this thing between us I really like and might regret if I don't follow it.
Thoughtful advice is really welcome.
First time poster - been on Streamate as a member (not a model) for a while, and I've read a lot of the threads here as a unregistered viewer. I am in a new situation (and one that I presume has happened to guys before) for me and I have a sense of what to do, but wanted outside opinion.
No, this is not I'm in love with a cam girl thread. No big words like that. I am just very much in like
.I've been a regular member with a cam model for over a year. She's great (of course she is, right?). We have a good time and we are a lot alike - she says this often too. Went from Stream to skype, and I have dates with her there every couple weeks or so. We really respect each other, have fun times, laugh like hell, turn each other on, and of course an occasional deep talk. We always go over time and I'm the one who usually cuts it off as I don't want to take advantage of her generosity. She even took me on a date on my birthday and demanded I should not pay
. She's said really lovely things, and yeah, we're looking into hotels for me to visit. We exchange emails frequently, but not close to every day. She's 33, I'm 48. Here's the thing - financially things are tighter then before and I can either save and travel to go meet her (she's in Europe), or keep seeing her online - not both. I find this embarrassing and frustrating. I'm not going to cripple myself financially over this. And there was a thread here were a model said if she liked a guy enough, she'd stop charging. So that's up to her, but she hasn't suggested it yet and no way I am gonna ask for that. I'd feel like a beggar. I'd love to just "date" her and not watch the clock and bank account during the date like most other folks in a long distance romance, but ... that's not the situation.
So I was thinking of just telling her, as embarrassing as that feels - I really want to see you regularly, but I have to choose which I can do. I've never had to have a conversation like that before, and I worry I will seem less of a man in her eyes, or look like I making a sideways request for free time with her. She already told me she dropped two guys she met as a model because she lost respect for them. I know she cares for me, but we are not boyfriend and girlfriend. We're just two people a long way apart who like, respect, and occasionally lust after each other
. But until you actually meet, it really is just a kind of fantasy - even if you are just in a regular long distance thing. But another part of my head is saying yeah, you want to visit Europe anyway, but what if you fall for each other? Can you afford to keep traveling to see her until you get to a point where one of you wants to move? Should I just fade away instead? Wouldn't it make more sense to find someone closer and just spend time with that woman and save the credit card for dinner? But then there's her, and her damn smile, and laugh, and this thing between us I really like and might regret if I don't follow it.
Thoughtful advice is really welcome.
