What changes are you making to push yourself closer to success?

[oyabeelovely]

A few weeks ago I stumbled upon the “what’s one thing holding you back from success?” Thread and could empathize with so many of the models there. Someone recommended starting a thread to see what people are doing about it(the things that are holding them back) ****i couldn’t find one but if you do feel free to redirect me***** while things like mental and physical illness aren’t things you can simply change what other changes have you made to your life, schedule, mindset, routine that are pushing you closer to success?
As a new model I feel like I’ve tried so many different things and every new change feels better like I’m getting somewhere and if I feel like I’m taking steps backwards I research and switch it up again.
I was having issues with consistency, anxiety, depression these last few months.
What I’m doing about it?/what I’ve done....
I’ve rearranged my finances and vanilla job so that I have set times and days scheduled for camming. I also started setting up a list of content I want to record, things I want to research, content that needs to be edited basically anything relating to sexwork etc so if I’m laying around thinking I don’t have anything to do I just check that list and start working on the things I feel like tackling. I’ve also gotten a bit more creative about cam angles (I live in a trailer and there is limited space) It’s only been a few days but so far I’ve made good progress. I lost some regulars because I had to change my times BUT I feel SO much better and know new regulars will come.

 

[Violet Dawn]

I haven't fully implemented it yet, but I've vastly changed my attitude surrounding camming.

It's less of a "This is a secret about me" to "This is part of me, but not all of me" mentality. Like, I am a sex worker. But I'm still me. I've always associated who I was with what I did. Now I just want it to be another quirk.

It helps me because it makes me less anxious and I change my mind less about how much exposure I am getting.

 

[Deleted member 35180]

1. Stop hiding it, this is what I do, this is me, in all my splendor, and it is both terrible and awesome.

2. Take the absolute best care of myself possible, drink water, eat less salt, got to the gym and lift heavy weights 2-3 times per week, call friends, sleep, stretch, have meal replacement shakes and immunity boosters and alllll that.

3. Be a professional, incorporate my business, keep every single receipt, let the "business" make money while I sit back and take a small meager paycheck. Invest back in toys, lighting, my hair, my face, my gym membership, anything that will make me healthier and happier, hell, the book "Verbal Judo"....

4. Getting better with stating boundaries, without apology. Period.

5. Moved into a new space conducive to camming, most of the time, but more so that there is never anything to hide here. If I was in a place where I could cam 24/7, I probably would. Most of the time is good, it lends to built in breaks.

6. Get allll the social media and don't be afraid to put myself out there, realize that some people are HATERS ie negative people and are going to hate me NO MATTER WHAT I do, so I might as well do me.

Good luck out there.

 

[Deleted member 45270]

Since motivation and discipline is my issue, I'm working on getting back into streaming near daily, even if it's only for 10-20 minutes. I find that once I tell myself to "just get online for a few minutes," I end up staying for at least an hour anyway since the hardest part of *getting online* is done and over with, and time flies by when you're having fun.

Good luck everyone! Every small step forward is still progress

 

[Deleted member 35180]

I forgot to mention being willing to pay my dues. If they want a group show, fine, if they want me to bark like a dog, I bark like a dog. Saying yes to anything reasonable and not being a princess. Making my videos affordable as hell. Making videos daily. Giving up dating and all other personal luxuries while I focus on this, but still keeping time for good friends so I don't go nutty. Watching porn to get turned on as hell as well as not actually getting laid in my personal life so I is thirrrrsty.

 

[Ori Adair]

I'm working on being flexible. I started out trying to cam six days a week and my health tanked immediately; I used what I learned from those first hours on cam and started to focus on putting in quality time on cam every other day.
Now I use non-cam days to stay on top of housework, budgeting, groceries, cooking, gardening, and socializing with my partner and friends. Having my life sorted out makes me happy, and I think that shows on cam.

 

[leaves]

make friends who will follow you and support you.

 

[pussyboy_prince]

Started waking up at 6am and camming first thing in the morning every day. It’s been awesome- I’m making more money than ever before (on cam), and by 10am I’m already finished earning my money for the day and have the rest of my time to focus on other stuff. It’s amazing!

 

[Sterling Silverthorne]

I struggle with positivity and procrastination, which in turn lead to embarassment and avoidance, which leads to depression. I've started making small steps and it shows. I changed my wallpaper on my computer to a slideshow of different images, positive, funny, or both - it helps more than I thought it would. They certainly help me get into "work mode". I bought a big whiteboard and laid out all my inner work ramblings that I tend to be anxious about and mull over constantly. It has my schedule, to do list, video/photo themes, an earnings bar graph that I fill in with colors as I earn, and some other stuff. I am very visual and it helps me feel better by, "Yeah, I only made $10, but look how much it takes up on the bar!" and I don't feel so bad. Also, I've more or less made, "It's ok. It takes time. Breathe," my mantra. I am personally surprised at the inner sexiness and bodily confidence camming has brought out in me.

 

[Violet Dawn]

Started waking up at 6am and camming first thing in the morning every day. It’s been awesome- I’m making more money than ever before (on cam), and by 10am I’m already finished earning my money for the day and have the rest of my time to focus on other stuff. It’s amazing!

This this this.

I used to never want to wake up early, but if I do then I make more. My ONLY thing is sometimes it takes me a little bit to get "into productive mode"

but all I need is some water, some pumping myself up and I'm good to go. It's a lot easier to get done then later.

 

[Vera]

I set a routine. I struggle with severe ADHD and am taking a break from Adderall because, after years on it, it was sapping my personality.

I wake up around 8:30, eat breakfast, and work out. Then I answer emails and do back end work. From 12-3 I shoot, then I edit until my partner gets home. If I finish early, I make it a point to spend some time outside. A long as I don't deviate from this routine, I am able to be productive. I also deleted my Reddit account and culled who I follow on Twitter so I am less inclined to waste time there.

I still have bad days, but compartmentalizing my responsibilities and maintaining a routine has changed my life. Working out has been huge as well.


Self discipline isn't about willpower, it's about making the right thing easy and the wrong thing hard.

 

[Mara_Jayne]

Everything @Vera said is what I am trying to do. I have to make sure I am out of bed with a washed face and dressed around 8am even though I get Max 4 hours of sleep, or I will waste my day falling asleep and eventually spiral into a sad slump after a week of it. It's very hard to start a routine but it does help a lot if you push to stick with it. I'm not very productive yet because I'm still trying to stick with my set routine but I'll get there.

 

[Amber Megan]

I take care of my mental and physical health: try to eat healthily, drink plenty of water and have a positive attitude. these tips can make you feel and act better no matter what kind of job you have

 

[MissJasmineUK]

• Having a daily routine - Creating one has been easy, but that hard part for me has been actually sticking to it .
• Going to sleep and waking up early everyday.
• Eating at regular times and not skipping meals.
• Self-discipline when it comes to regularly getting online and releasing new content.
• Sacrificing doing fun stuff IRL so I can stay focused on more cam-related things.
• Future step - incorporate regular exercise to daily routine, that doesn't involve rolling around on my bed

 

[Autumn Alexander]

• Consistency - I'm really pushing to stick to my schedule and make sure I cam on time
• Positivity - A lot of times I'll set up and have a really negative feel like- "will I do good", "will I tank today", etc. But when I'm on cam I try to stay positive and be my best self.
• Motivation - Constantly researching and striving to do better than I did yesterday.

 

[Anatomica Doll]

• self-motivating myself to think more positively (i.e. WHEN they tip, instead of IF).
• daily exercise routine for my well-being.
• consistency of camming for four or five days out of the entire week.
• social media networking; this has been steadily working for me on twitter, but i'm trying to push myself on tumblr for more exposure.
• budgeting.
• slowly but surely customising my cam room to my liking. my best friend already helped me put up a tapestry and fairy lights. i need more gothic necessities, though.
  
• push out more content like clips and photosets.

 

[MojitosJourney]

-just turning the cam on and being me rather than wasting time with makeup and show planning if i don’t feel like doing those things. Knowing I have enough to give just as I am and letting my energy flow authentically.
-finding and asserting my boundaries
-letting internet troll remarks in my cam room roll off of me
-knowing that i am not powerless to the internet and i ultimately have the power to create whatever vibe in my room I desire. I don’t have to be what they want and go with their flow .... I be What I want. I go with my flow.

 

[CurvyJ]

For me its more technical things at the moment. A better room set up, better webcam, better lighting ect. I am still working out when to sleep because we've been starting our show after the house settles for the night. I wish I was able to wake up and do a show. I also need to learn how to make myself more..."attractive'" to our viewers...I dont really know how to take care of my face or makeup beyond eyeliner/shadow and mascara. Im super excited to set up our room and have a beautiful place to stream. Im also excited to invest in pretty panties and lingerie which is something i've never had much of in the past

 

[DejaElectra]

I also need to learn how to make myself more..."attractive'" to our viewers...I dont really know how to take care of my face or makeup beyond eyeliner/shadow and mascara. Im super excited to set up our room and have a beautiful place to stream. Im also excited to invest in pretty panties and lingerie which is something i've never had much of in the past

I want to give you big hugs for what you said. Confidence is sexier than anything makeup will do for you. If you want to learn makeup because it's fun (I love makeup) or it gives you the confidence boost to own your sexiness, then by all means, go for it, but don't do it because you feel your looks are inadequate. It will drive you mad.

Also, don't go too crazy with the lingerie, I think if you ask any long time cam model "what was your biggest money dump early on" they'll say overspending on lingerie, myself included Maybe you shouldn't be camming in torn up granny panties, but seriously cheap shit from China is all you need. I feel like my $3.99 lingerie gets requested more than my thousands of dollars of Victoria's Secret.

Sorry for injecting my 2 cents.

Also, thank you OP for this thread. I have to really think about what I'm actively doing and add my list when I get back since I'm heading out right now.

 

[CurvyJ]

I want to give you big hugs for what you said. Confidence is sexier than anything makeup will do for you. If you want to learn makeup because it's fun (I love makeup) or it gives you the confidence boost to own your sexiness, then by all means, go for it, but don't do it because you feel your looks are inadequate. It will drive you mad.

Also, don't go too crazy with the lingerie, I think if you ask any long time cam model "what was your biggest money dump early on" they'll say overspending on lingerie, myself included Maybe you shouldn't be camming in torn up granny panties, but seriously cheap shit from China is all you need. I feel like my $3.99 lingerie gets requested more than my thousands of dollars of Victoria's Secret.

Sorry for injecting my 2 cents.

Also, thank you OP for this thread. I have to really think about what I'm actively doing and add my list when I get back since I'm heading out right now.

Thank you so much, Id like to be able to hide the bags under my eyes properly sometimes lol And Im totally fine with cheap sets, but i never had much of a panty collection before so now id like to at least get through a week or two without the same ones showing up

 

[AmiGold]

Letting go of goals, when I stopped concentrating on tokens they seem to tip more.
I make more with less make up than with more and sexy lingerie sends them running.
Confidence and friendliness seems to have helped a lot. Not letting the trolls get to me or making fun of them helps here. Consistency and staying on and chatting when it gets slow, I used to log off but now do longer shifts and actually find I have more fun which gives a better vibe in the room. Oh getting a good microphone really helped as they can hear me wherever I am in the room.
Hmm I will add if I think of anything else

 

[Alexis Curley]

One of my biggest concerns since I started camming is getting sufficient rest. I usually cam for long hours 8 - 10 hours shifts during most of the weekdays and then I get two days off. I manage to sleep more in my days off, but I still feel that I'm pushing too much and I should sleep more. So, my new project is to get at least 6 hours of sleep every night, but it's still a 'work in progress' thing.

 

[CurvyJ]

One of my biggest concerns since I started camming is getting sufficient rest. I usually cam for long hours 8 - 10 hours shifts during most of the weekdays and then I get two days off. I manage to sleep more in my days off, but I still feel that I'm pushing too much and I should sleep more. So, my new project is to get at least 6 hours of sleep every night, but it's still a 'work in progress' thing.

I agree with this so much!

 

[Lua Moon]

Being happier. As general as that is, I’ve suffered with depression and anxiety for a really long time and I’ve never been able to hold down a steady day job because of it. I’ve always been interested in camming but I’m the kind of person that constantly doubts themselves and worries that I’m not good enough. What do I have to offer? I started camming two weeks ago and after a few sessions of logging on and trying to be “sexy” I’ve now just started logging on and just being my lame goofy self. People seem to respond a lot better to that and it’s been really helpful for my self-confidence. Naturally we all have “down days” on cam when it’s quiet and nobody is tipping but I’m learning not to take it personally and sometimes people just can’t be in your room. But yeah, tldr; I really hope that this is the year that I get better. Whatever that means.

 

[Lua Moon]

Being happier. As general as that is, I’ve suffered with depression and anxiety for a really long time and I’ve never been able to hold down a steady day job because of it. I’ve always been interested in camming but I’m the kind of person that constantly doubts themselves and worries that I’m not good enough. What do I have to offer? I started camming two weeks ago and after a few sessions of logging on and trying to be “sexy” I’ve now just started logging on and just being my lame goofy self. People seem to respond a lot better to that and it’s been really helpful for my self-confidence. Naturally we all have “down days” on cam when it’s quiet and nobody is tipping but I’m learning not to take it personally and sometimes people just can’t be in your room. But yeah, tldr; I really hope that this is the year that I get better. Whatever that means.

Jesus, I totally rambled here. Sorry everyone.

 

[JesseBangs]

@Lua Moon That was so not rambling I relate super hard thank you for sharing

Kay now my turn to ramble? XD

1. I find it difficult to strike a balance between cam and personal life, which I know can a tricky part of this work. I am allocating more time self care, personal goals and switching my brain into chill mode, so that I can be more productive when I am working on cam related stuff. The thing is, I've never loved a job like this, so it doesn't feel like work. I end up burning out without realizing I'm doing it because I'm enjoying myself and there are so many different ways to be productive. I've always found it tricky to switch out of work mode, even with jobs I haven't enjoyed much, so I know this will be challenging.

2. I want to come up with a time management strategy and implement it. My creativity&focus tend to go where ever they want too, and I haven't learned how to reign them in. I'm also on the fence about weather or not I should even try to change this behavior. The creative energy and ability I gain from the motivation I feel at these times where I'll go ham on a project for two days straight with little rest and then crash for a bit is phenomenal, so maybe I should just keep going with it. The end result is always good. I am considering the possibility that this is a thing I should simply embrace. And I'm fortunate enough to have a job that allows me to do just that.

3. I'm a perfectionist and I forget to pat myself on the back when I am doing well, and tend to focus on what can be improved instead of celebrating my accomplishments. I know this is incredibly important to longevity for me and want to continue to love cam the way I do . I've been working hard to be more gentle with myself and realize that I am doing very well.

I know maybe this is maybe a cross between a post that would have gone in the other thread//this one; but I'm still in the midst of figuring out concise solutions!

 

[Natalie_Lavender]

1-I’m a mother of three, so tightening up my mid-section is a huge one on my “to do” list. But for now I have no problems rocking my curves & stretch marks. I’m actually more confident with them now than I was when I was married.
2-Learn OBS. My mod sent me a fantastic link for all the instructions, I just need to make time to master it. I know the PIP capabilities would do wonders in my room.
3-I’d love to invest in a Lighting kit. I’ve cammed during daytime hours, with a natural light filtering in through my window, and the picture is amazing. So I know I’m going to get one. It’s only a matter of time & finding the right one (if there is such a thing).

I’m happy to say that there would have been more things on my list, but I’ve managed to accomplish majority of them in the last few months.