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I don't think I'll still be camming when I have children. People say, "they are going to google your name and see naked photos." Right, because we all google our moms, right??? :woops: Not like they won't ever see me naked. I'm practically a nudist. I'm nude a lot. I just see nothing wrong with nudity as long as it's not sexual in front of your children. If they asked, I wouldn't lie. i just don't see why they would. I plan on raising my children in a very strict Christian home where internet access is heavily monitored. I also hope they would pick friends that do not view porn underage. Just like I would not discuss my sex life to my children, I would not have to discuss my camming life. They don't need to know everything. But if they were old enough and asked, I would tell them. I am not ashamed of what I do, or I wouldn't do it!
 
My children have 4 legs and fur. I don't plan on spawning. My other half cannot have kids anymore, has a daughter thats grown and chances of my actually getting pregnant are slim.

If I had kids, I'd tell them the truth.

My best friend was a hooker for 30 years. She always meant to tell her son at 18. She died when he was 17.
 
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Miss_Lollipop said:
My children have 4 legs and fur. I don't plan on spawning. My other half cannot have kids anymore, has a daughter thats grown and chances of my actually getting pregnant are slim.

If I had kids, I'd tell them the truth.

My best friend was a hooker for 30 years. She always meant to tell her son at 18. She died when he was 17.
I don't understand why she would want to tell her son that???
 
I don't understand why she would hide it or cover it up like it was a shameful thing. She loved it, and viewed herself as a sexual healer. She fought to get prostitution legalized in my country, and danced when they finally legalized it. She did not attatch shame, or negativity to it and I believe his father has told him now that he's an adult and that he probably has a much better understanding of the extraordinary life his mother led. Hopefully I'll get to see him in December so I'll have to talk to him about it.
 
Miss_Lollipop said:
I don't understand why she would hide it or cover it up like it was a shameful thing. She loved it, and viewed herself as a sexual healer. She fought to get prostitution legalized in my country, and danced when they finally legalized it. She did not attatch shame, or negativity to it and I believe his father has told him now that he's an adult and that he probably has a much better understanding of the extraordinary life his mother led. Hopefully I'll get to see him in December so I'll have to talk to him about it.
Prostitution is a dangerous thing because of the STD rate. (there are STD's you can get even WITH a condom that are incurable). Was she doing it before it became legal? I don't see why you would be eager to tell your children you are breaking the law and putting your life at risk? Everyone with children has had sex. But do you have to tell your children about your sexual endeavors with their father? No. I think somethings are better left kept to yourself. And there are lines that shouldn't be crossed with a mother/child relationship. Just my opinion.
 
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Yes she was doing it before it was legal. I personally don't have a problem with that. Luckily now that it is legalized at home, they can introduce industry standards including STD testing. I'm not saying she would have told him it was all roses, and I doubt his father did. When she was street walking as a teen it was out of necessity and I know she had horrible things happen. Working from home empowered her.

Her relationship with her child was not like that - they were open about the fact that they had an interesting sex life. She was Poly and had another lover in the house while he was growing up. That doesn't mean details. It meant being open. He would occasionally leave the house as a teenager so "you and dad can have some alone time *wink*" when he knew they needed it.

It's not everyones relationship but If I had a child, its the one I would want. I'm so proud of him and of her.
 
*If* I had kids (which I'm doing everything in my power to avoid, but I wouldn't abort if I managed to get pregnant anyway)

When they were young, I would tell them that I did some things as a young woman that many people in the world view as wrong, and that those things were how I fed myself and kept a roof over my head.

When they were older (once they hit puberty and after we've had a serious sex talk), I'd remind them of that conversation, and say flat-out that I was a webcam model, and did my best to follow simple safety rules like never meet the members. I'd then warn them that yes, they might find naked pictures of a younger me on the internet, or even videos.

Why would I tell them? Because I'd rather they found out from me than from their friends. I'd rather warn them before they get scarred for life by seeing their mother naked online.

But then again, I'm also all for smoking pot with my kids so they could experiment with it, and getting them drunk once in the safety of the home, before they get drunk elsewhere. And filming them drunk so they know what they were really like, instead of whatever they think they remember.
 
Chatting with people on the computer. :thumbleft:

No need to go into the full details, and it's not everybody else's business either. They can go back to their 'regular job' that they can't stand. They're not the ones paying my bills, so.....

Besides, if you DIDN'T have a job, people would still talk shit about you, saying you're a 'lazy bum who needs to get a job'. LOL.
 
To be honest, I hope I have brilliant, outspoken children who can understand that there are thousands of jobs in the world, and everyone finds one they like and are good at. I hope that they are embarrassed of the fact that people find their mom hot, and I hope I can tease them and make fun of them with it. I hope, if I have a son, he has tons of friends all of the time because his mom is hot. lol! It is what it is. These are the times we live in, and I believe wholeheartedly that you can raise healthy, happy children all while the fact that you're in the porn industry is never hidden. (Although, always kept away from the children! If I happen to end up knocked up while I'm doing this, I'd rather rent a small studio to work in or something. hmmmmm...)
 
PlayboyMegan said:
I don't think I'll still be camming when I have children. People say, "they are going to google your name and see naked photos." Right, because we all google our moms, right??? :woops: Not like they won't ever see me naked. I'm practically a nudist. I'm nude a lot. I just see nothing wrong with nudity as long as it's not sexual in front of your children. If they asked, I wouldn't lie. i just don't see why they would. I plan on raising my children in a very strict Christian home where internet access is heavily monitored. I also hope they would pick friends that do not view porn underage. Just like I would not discuss my sex life to my children, I would not have to discuss my camming life. They don't need to know everything. But if they were old enough and asked, I would tell them. I am not ashamed of what I do, or I wouldn't do it!

Those people are wrong when they say googling your name will bring up naked pictures. We have alias cam names! haha.
 
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PlayboyMegan said:
I don't think I'll still be camming when I have children. People say, "they are going to google your name and see naked photos." Right, because we all google our moms, right??? :woops: Not like they won't ever see me naked. I'm practically a nudist. I'm nude a lot. I just see nothing wrong with nudity as long as it's not sexual in front of your children. If they asked, I wouldn't lie. i just don't see why they would. I plan on raising my children in a very strict Christian home where internet access is heavily monitored. I also hope they would pick friends that do not view porn underage. Just like I would not discuss my sex life to my children, I would not have to discuss my camming life. They don't need to know everything. But if they were old enough and asked, I would tell them. I am not ashamed of what I do, or I wouldn't do it!

Those people are wrong when they say googling your name will bring up naked pictures. We have alias cam names! haha.
Well, Megan is my actual legal name. Soooo...lol
 
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I am always thinking of this but i don't think that they would know. Maybe those photos of me is already gone when they grew up or i will not look the same as i do on those pics.
 
i hope to be open with my kids. i wish more women spoke out and weren't ashamed about things that are so stigmatized for us: sex work, abortions, casual sex, our periods, body hair :lol:

millions of women throughout history have worked in the sex industry in some way or another, many just one small time, and many their entire working lives. it's one of the only industries where women earn more money than men! of course that is because it IS so stigmatized and not all women are willing to do it, but its something.

and while many areas of the sex industry really are only about the objectification of women (i think- but this is definitely debatable- a lot of mainstream porn and even- no offense to you megan- playboy and other picture-based sex work), camming, to me, is not centred around being objectified. while there is that level to it- 'show tits bb'- a lot of the money we make, and i imagine a large part of what makes it so enjoyable for us, is that we get to be seen as real human beings who are sexual, not sexual objects.

we have regulars in our rooms time after time because they enjoy the company and conversation. guys come on and take us private and tell us they just want us to cum however is best for US. guys take us private just to chat and feel companionship. obviously that's not ALL of the guys on the site, but that's how it is for women in all aspects of life. some want to hang out with you AND have sex with you, some just want to fuck you and leave. so to me it's sex work in the most amazing form!

so i'm damn proud to be a camgirl, and to be able to make a living at it, and to be able to make the life for myself i want to have. and when or if i have kids i really hope that i still feel this way, and can tell my them that i made money by being a regular, friendly, sexual human being.
 
caireen said:
and while many areas of the sex industry really are only about the objectification of women (i think- but this is definitely debatable- a lot of mainstream porn and even- no offense to you megan- playboy and other picture-based sex work), camming, to me, is not centred around being objectified. while there is that level to it- 'show tits bb'- a lot of the money we make, and i imagine a large part of what makes it so enjoyable for us, is that we get to be seen as real human beings who are sexual, not sexual objects.
I fully disagree with you. I'm not being biased because I am a Playboy model myself. If I thought Playboy made women to seem as only sex objects, I wouldn't have posed for them in the first place.
They have a bio, written by the model. The models make appearances. They have videos of the models. They have forums where the models write. They have Playboy Radio where the models talk. And SO many other things to show the unique personalities of each model.
 
i suppose i should emphasize that i don't think women who feel they are objectified should feel ashamed either. i was objectified serving in a bar just as much as i am on mfc, but that job seems far more respectable to 'normal' society than sex work. all women who work in the sex industry regardless of what they do shouldn't be afraid to be open about it.

and megan, just to clarify, i wasn't in any way making a personal attack on you. that is how i tend to feel about mainstream 'mens magazines'. but i didn't mean any offense at all.. when i re-read it i thought it may have seemed a bit confrontationaly, so apologies.

but i do think that the images of women that are presented in playboy, regardless of the attachment of a bio, is pretty one-dimentional and tend to be not about celebrating womens sexuality, but about attracting a male audience.
 
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caireen said:
i suppose i should emphasize that i don't think women who feel they are objectified should feel ashamed either. i was objectified serving in a bar just as much as i am on mfc, but that job seems far more respectable to 'normal' society than sex work. all women who work in the sex industry regardless of what they do shouldn't be afraid to be open about it.

and megan, just to clarify, i wasn't in any way making a personal attack on you. that is how i tend to feel about mainstream 'mens magazines'. but i didn't mean any offense at all.. when i re-read it i thought it may have seemed a bit confrontationaly, so apologies.

but i do think that the images of women that are presented in playboy, regardless of the attachment of a bio, is pretty one-dimentional and tend to be not about celebrating womens sexuality, but about attracting a male audience.
No, you didn't seem confrontational at all. And I did not take it personally at all. But I do feel that you are wrong. So I stated my case against it.
I see no difference between Playboy and camming in the fact that some men are going to see the women as objects, others will see them as individual people.
 
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I think I have to go directly between you two!

Megan, the playboy magazine itself is extremely objectifying of women, but I don't find that an offensive thing. I also find posters of sexy men objectifying of men, and boy do I love to look!

BUT, as you said, the magazine is not the only (or even biggest) part of playboy anymore. So while the magazine itself is objectifying, Playboy as a whole is not.

now, BACK ON TOPIC!
 
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PlayboyMegan said:
caireen said:
regardless of the attachment of a bio
You ignored 4 different other things that I mentioned that Playboy does to show the models as people.


i didn't ignore it. i just disagree with you about mens magazines. i wasn't talking about other aspects of the brand playboy. but regardless, it's not a big deal! i have no disrespect for any women who pose for any magazines at all.
 
This always comes to mind when this topic is raised, lolz.

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PlayboyMegan said:
Not like they won't ever see me naked. I'm practically a nudist. I'm nude a lot. I just see nothing wrong with nudity as long as it's not sexual in front of your children.
PlayboyMegan said:
I plan on raising my children in a very strict Christian home where internet access is heavily monitored.

I'm a lapsed Catholic. I can tell you right now though, that if you plan on being a strict Christian household, the nudity thing is going to have to go. Pick and choose your parts of the bible and your children will be like me--questioning the validity of the entire book and the foundations of the theology itself. Now, that can be good or bad, but it's likely to happen.

My daughter is still young, but as she grows up, she's going to be exposed to the world. That means seeing San Francisco for what it is and knowing that people do all sorts of things for a living. I tell people who ask me in a "level up" system: modeling, performance art, pro-domme or camgirl, porn star. At any point if they seem to panic or get weird, I stop. It's like anything else--you just have to ease into it.
:)
I don't think I'll go into telling her the porn side of things but I do plan on telling her about the webcamming if it comes up and the time is right. If not, then I just leave it at "modeling."
 
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PlayboyMegan said:
Not like they won't ever see me naked. I'm practically a nudist. I'm nude a lot. I just see nothing wrong with nudity as long as it's not sexual in front of your children.
PlayboyMegan said:
I plan on raising my children in a very strict Christian home where internet access is heavily monitored.

I'm a lapsed Catholic. I can tell you right now though, that if you plan on being a strict Christian household, the nudity thing is going to have to go. Pick and choose your parts of the bible and your children will be like me--questioning the validity of the entire book and the foundations of the theology itself. Now, that can be good or bad, but it's likely to happen.

My daughter is still young, but as she grows up, she's going to be exposed to the world. That means seeing San Francisco for what it is and knowing that people do all sorts of things for a living. I tell people who ask me in a "level up" system: modeling, performance art, pro-domme or camgirl, porn star. At any point if they seem to panic or get weird, I stop. It's like anything else--you just have to ease into it.
:)
I don't think I'll go into telling her the porn side of things but I do plan on telling her about the webcamming if it comes up and the time is right. If not, then I just leave it at "modeling."
I guess I should have been more specific. Strict, comma, Christian. Most Christians are pretty lenient on the rules of the Bible, from my experiences. But when I said strict, I meant no pg-13 movies before being the age of 13, heavily monitored internet access, knowing what they are doing and where they are at, ect. I didn't mean to put them together as in strict Christian. But strict AND Christian.
 
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I've studied Christianity most of my life, but I do not claim to understand or know all of the Bible. However, I have never heard that it is sinful to walk around naked in front of your children, or get dressed in front of them. Is there a verse that says that? I am genuinely curious. Maybe you could give me some links.
 
PlayboyMegan said:
I've studied Christianity most of my life, but I do not claim to understand or know all of the Bible. However, I have never heard that it is sinful to walk around naked in front of your children, or get dressed in front of them. Is there a verse that says that? I am genuinely curious. Maybe you could give me some links.

I do not think the Christan bible calls being naked a sin, but modesty is encouraged.

"And those members of the body which we think to be less honorable, on these we bestow greater honor; and our unpresentable parts have greater modesty, but our presentable parts have no need. But God composed the body, having given greater honor to that part which lacks it, that there should be no schism in the body, but that the members should have the same care for one another" (I Corinthians 12: 23-25)
 
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PlayboyMegan said:
Shaun__ said:
I do not think the Christan bible calls being naked a sin, but modesty is encouraged.
I didn't think so. Never even heard it mentioned in a class before.

ask and ye shall recieve:
http://www.openbible.info/topics/modesty
http://www.openbible.info/topics/nudity

don't forget that Adam and Eve covered their parts out of shame.
Thank you for the links. But did you read all the verses yourself? What I got from them (Only about 2-3 verses were relevant) was that you should be clothed so that others may not lust over you, be modest and cover things like your breasts in front of other men.
I didn't see anything about being nude in your own home. Must you be modest while having sex with your husband as well? Is nudity a sin during sexual intercourse? I didn't see anything about that, but I assume not.
I don't think nudity is a sin. I think nudity is a sin when it is used to bring about lust from someone other than your husband/wife.
I could be wrong. But I didn't find a verse in those two pages saying otherwise. Unless I skipped one. But again, most Christians are very lenient about the rules of the Bible.
My babysitter while growing up was the wife of a pastor. I thought the verse below was funny because I remember she always had little braids in her hair and she had nice clothes and expensive purses. But do I think her children were questioning the Bible because she wore braids and had an expensive purse? LOL No, I do not. Although, I wouldn't mind at all my children questioning the Bible, or even trying new religions.

1 Timothy 2:9 ESV

Likewise also that women should adorn themselves in respectable apparel, with modesty and self-control, not with braided hair and gold or pearls or costly attire,
 
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