Camming and Weight Gain

[Kylie_Kennedy]

I mentioned in another post i've been off and on MFC for a few years, but I've gained a bit of weight - from boobs up, I look great. My ass looks great. I don't love my legs, but when I wear long socks that cover my shins/knees, I don't thing my legs look terrible.

My stomach, though, has become a problem. In one recent-ish cam session, someone (who was probably just obliviously young) asked if I was pregnant. (I'm not, never have been, never will be.)

Am I overweight? Technically, yes. Am I dealing with it? Yes. (Refraining from eating my allergens - gluten, eggs, dairy, soy, the list is long and I just sort of ate whatever I wanted for most of winter. Hello bloating.)

But its all up in my head now that I can't get back on MFC until I lose weight. I don't know what number, I just feel "too fat" to be on MFC.

(Btw my camscore is at an 850, so I'm not in a bad place to jump back on - if I wasn't going to inherently fail due to my body shape.)

Can anyone - models or guys who see all types of girls - help me get out of this mindset,,, or give me ideas for working around problem areas until they aren't problems, especially if you've been in this situation?

My boyfriend and family has seen me gain the 20 pounds or so since I started camming (and its really been about 40 lbs in 2 years) and is super supportive of me losing the weight however I choose or not to, still thinks I look great, but I'm afraid of going back on MFC and failing miserably due to my appearance. (Note: only my boyfriend knows I have been on MFC and he is very supportive of me continuing to do it if I want to.)

Thanks ya'll xo

 

[Wolf_3_5_9]

For the most part, on MFC especially, I think personality means a lot more than body type. As long as you are confident in your own body, I think you can still find success. There are killer-bodied women that have terrible cam scores because they’re attitude is bad. If losing weight helps with your confidence, go for it. But I think your success will be due to the confidence gain, not the weight loss.

 

[Gen]

For the record, trolls know that lots of women are sensitive about their weight or looking fat so it’s ridiculously common for them to hop from room to room asking when they’re due. Or framing it like a compliment — “mmm I love pregnant women”. This happens to even itty bitty models.

 

[Vera]

I've put on about 30 lbs over the last two years due to weird hormones and recovering from an eating disorder. I've been in a good enough spot that I've lost ten since the beginning of the year, mostly from working out and slight dietary changes. (I tried keto but I felt gross on it.) I totally understand where you are coming from on the self confidence front.

I'm not overweight, but going from a twiggy teen type to a more mature figure definitely messed with my head. I wear a lot of corsets. If I am doing a virtual sex video or something like that, I usually just pull the ol' tiddies out and let my top cover my waist. You can see examples of what I mean on my Manyvids. This also covers my tattoos, which helps for my niche.

One workout I *love* that really helped me get back in shape was Jillian Michaels's 30 Day Shred. It's like $8 on Amazon, it's 20 minutes, and it really helped me tone up. I seriously can't recommend it enough. It's super quick and she moves from one exercise to another fast enough that you don't get bored.

Onto my next point: girls succeed with all kinds of body types: itty bitty, curvy, BBWs, big tits, no tits, whatever. Self-confidence and selling yourself and your personality are extremely important. That all comes with practice, and this forum is a great place to pick up tips and tricks. Work on your sales skills, take some time to exercise if you are able-- it will make your body and mind feel better-- and keep chugging.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

For the most part, on MFC especially, I think personality means a lot more than body type.

I have found that I make WAY more money being fully clothes and offering texting/snapchat services than stripping - I cater to the 9-5 crowd of guys who watches while at work and they just want someone to talk with and turn them on. (Since my boyfriend often ends up waking me up at 7am, I might as well make the most of this time.) Thanks for reminding me of this.

Is there a good way to bring it up as a way to encourage tips that support my weight loss - either just for motivation or for new lingerie, etc?

 

[AwesomeKate]

I have fluctuated between 135 and 165 my whole adult life. I thought the less I weighed, the better. Turns out that is not true. I once found a bunch of dudes talking about my weight gain on a forum and they were saying they liked me better with more weight on me. ^~^ Reading that made me feel a whole lot more confident about carrying extra pounds.

I've gained about 35 pounds recently due to my pregnancy. I can see my double chin on cam now and as soon I start to notice it I cannot stop thinking of it. Here's the thing: being sexy is about pretending you are sexy. Moving in ways that seduce, wearing clothing that highlight your appeal, drawing their attention to the parts of you that look amazing. Lately, when I feel self conscious about my face or legs, I just simply don't show then and instead zoom into my boobs, which have benefitted GREATLY from my weight gain. Or I will turn around and sit in a flattering way for my ever expanding booty cheeks. Focus on the good! You are in control of angles and lighting. Men tend to care a whole lot more about breasts than bellies anyway. I know of a very popular model who wears tank tops everyday and only pops her boobs out over the top, never shows her stomach! No one seems to notice or care!

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

For the record, trolls know that lots of women are sensitive about their weight or looking fat so it’s ridiculously common for them to hop from room to room asking when they’re due. Or framing it like a compliment — “mmm I love pregnant women”. This happens to even itty bitty models.

I just can't believe there are a LOT of guys who have time for this. How freaking sad.

I wear a lot of corsets. If I am doing a virtual sex video or something like that, I usually just pull the ol' tiddies out and let my top cover my waist

I love corsets! What a great idea for covering my stomach, especially since I've decided not to do explicit shows. I love shopping brick & mortar so I can try things on - any good stores you recommend to buy 2 or 3 at? Budget's not an issue.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

I know of a very popular model who wears tank tops everyday and only pops her boobs out over the top, never shows her stomach! No one seems to notice or care!

I don't creep on a lot of other girls (I should really make a perv account!) but this and/or corsets would make me feel 110% comfortable being back on cam. I have definitely been overthinking it! Thank you

 

[Vera]

@KaleighDream Orchard Corsets are a decent midrange brand that seem to fit a lot of body types, and I own a few of theirs. They aren't amazing quality but mine have held up to a couple years of abuse. Lucy Corsetry has a lot of info about good vendors and how to break them in properly. It's a bit of a science. I don't really know of many brick and mortar stores, unfortunately. There are a ton of different cuts for different body types that make longer wear a lot more comfortable.

https://lucycorsetry.com/

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

@Vera Price awesome, thank you!!

 

[TemporarilyWhining]

You will make money anyway - if you were attractive/had a good personality before, that is still true now! It's all in your head.

In Chaturbate, they have bots that allow you to block words. I include pregnant, preggo, preggers (I'm amazed straight guys actually use words like 'preggo'!) among the many others that annoy the crap out of me. I am recovering from many years of eating disorders, and will not allow this job to trigger that again. I love my body because it WORKS - it is not here for anyone's amusement, and if they don't like what they see, they can fuck off! I am grateful to be alive, and all I want is to keep treating it well so it can live for a long time.

Note, a simple routine of hula hooping 20-30 min. a day, every day, can tone up stomach, upper thighs, and even arms a bit right quick! Play music you like, or watch TV, and it goes by quickly! It's the same level of cardio as jogging, but very targeted to ab muscles/back fat. Any kind of dance is good and can be lots of fun.

Dance on cam... it's hard work, but if you want to get paid to lose weight, that certainly is a good way! Work up slowly to an hour a day. Probably, the weight will melt off. Be sure to eat healthy foods, find good replacements for binge foods if stress eating is your problem, and make sure to drink plenty of water and get plenty of sleep! As women, our metabolisms tank when we are stressed out, so yoga is a great thing to do (NOT the ridiculous athletic kind, but the serious meditation kind), to help lower stress. Many women find they lose weight just by lowering stress in their lives and getting better sleep, without making any other changes in their lives at all! They also are a lot happier then, which is way more important to long-term health and to good relationships, than losing 20lbs is.

LOVE YOURSELF. Honor the fact that you are still here. It takes a lot of work. But your worth is not measure by a scale. You are a human being, and you are worthy and sexy, simply because you breathe. If you are a kind person, if you volunteer or are a good friend or a good parent or partner, so much the better! If you are smart, or artistic, or have other talents, even better! Women are HOT, at any size! What is NOT hot? - self consciousness. You need to own that tummy, be proud of those curves. Fake it 'til you make it. Confidence and happiness are the sexiest things a woman can have, and it shows in how women do on tips. Bigger ladies make bank all the time. Focus the cam on parts that you feel are assets in the meantime, like your breasts, and enjoy tips from those who appreciate a real woman's body! Not everybody is into women looking like emaciated 12-year-olds (even though it sometimes feels like that in cam world), and even with a little extra on, you will still find a lot of people are into you if you project the sexiness that you deserve to feel from the inside out.

 

[SaffronBurke]

Is there a good way to bring it up as a way to encourage tips that support my weight loss - either just for motivation or for new lingerie, etc?

Having a tip menu for squats, sit-ups, etc, can make things fun

I love corsets! What a great idea for covering my stomach, especially since I've decided not to do explicit shows. I love shopping brick & mortar so I can try things on - any good stores you recommend to buy 2 or 3 at? Budget's not an issue.

There aren't a lot of good quality corsets offered in physical stores. You can sometimes find some at Hot Topic, but they're over-priced and cheap quality. Orchard Corset and Timeless Trends are both brands that have great quality and are reasonably priced, I have tons from both.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

Confidence and happiness are the sexiest things a woman can have, and it shows in how women do on tips. Bigger ladies make bank all the time. Focus the cam on parts that you feel are assets in the meantime, like your breasts, and enjoy tips from those who appreciate a real woman's body! Not everybody is into women looking like emaciated 12-year-olds (even though it sometimes feels like that in cam world), and even with a little extra on, you will still find a lot of people are into you if you project the sexiness that you deserve to feel from the inside out.

I guess thats why the camworld can be so successful for anyone... guys like all types (emaciated 12 years old or women with real curves!) THANK YOU!

Having a tip menu for squats, sit-ups, etc, can make things fun.

Genius! Love it, definitely going to do this. Maybe my first hour or two will be athletic themed somehow, a "warm up". Hmmm. Now I have creative juices flowing....

 

[TemporarilyWhining]

I guess thats why the camworld can be so successful for anyone... guys like all types (emaciated 12 years old or women with real curves!)

Yes, it really can. It's about how good of an entertainer you are. The body is actually pretty secondary.

Also, to be clear, I'm not trying to body-shame the ladies who happen to be very petite and have a fast metabolism, and naturally resemble kid bodies. Grown women come in all sizes, and all can be sexy. BUT, we know very well that in the online porn world, there is certainly a market for pedophilic porn, and that cam models often will intentionally market themselves to this very harmful segment, focusing on looking very young, not eating properly, etc. It's not good for the men jacking off to it, and it's not good for the cam models trying to fit into that, it's not good for the girlfriends and wives who will never fit into the porn fantasy being portrayed, and it's certainly not good for the real life kids who then get sexualized because their 10-year-old body becomes the ideal of a grown man's fantasy of female sexual virility. I have a curvy body-type, as did my mother, but I have friends who naturally have a very straight up-and-down type of figure, and I find them sexy too! BUT, they are clearly grown women, and don't pretend to be anything else, mentally, or in the way that they behave. They are smart, and beautiful, and strong, just as I am. And not focusing their whole lives on trying to be someone else, or morph into someone else's body. Sexy is being proud of what you are, and not being insecure and chasing after someone else's (imagined) reality.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

@TemporarilyWhining I've creeped on some girls who very much play into looking and acting very young/immature. There is not doubt a market for that, but it's not mine.

I was introduced to the cam world back in 1999, when we all had cams on private servers. Some of it was just livestreaming from our bedrooms, others took it to the level of porn. One of my best friends - who is now a psychologist (shocker) said being sexualized that young really damaged her in real life relationships. I'm sure this up-and-coming generation of girls who are 18 and play it up will face a similar realization and the consequences in real life. It makes me wonder how much is being paid attention to this industry by experts - it sure wasn't a thing in my generation at that age.

 

[TemporarilyWhining]

One of my best friends - who is now a psychologist (shocker) said being sexualized that young really damaged her in real life relationships. I'm sure this up-and-coming generation of girls who are 18 and play it up will face a similar realization and the consequences in real life. It makes me wonder how much is being paid attention to this industry by experts - it sure wasn't a thing in my generation at that age.

Really interesting!

Note, women at any age can play the 18-and-under image... it's pretty easy, because guys rarely can tell age if you have a small body and play up the young style/act. This is the same group of people who often wouldn't notice their wife's haircut for 2 months after she got it. I have had a number of older men in person think I was a teenager. I'm in my 30s. All they know is you look younger than them! lol

As for the sexualization, I felt at 18 like I had already been sexualized on this level for years, so eventually coming to cam work was not a big shocker. But, that will tend to be true for the many of us who were molested/sexually harassed as kids/teens. Sexualizing the bodies of young teen girls in the media has been a thing for a long time, and those messages certainly affect girls, even when they're not in sex work, but just trying to get through their day at school, or walking on the street. But young girls are more likely to be swayed by suggestion, about what is expected behavior to please a man, or about how their bodies should look. They are more likely to not know who they are, and seek approval, and be vulnerable to assholes. So hearing demands and comments on a daily basis for a successful young cam model has got to be really stressful, to try to keep up their expectations all the time, to base what you think of who you are on the constant feedback of total strangers, and whether or not you can get them off. And to feel afraid of growing up because it might affect your income, and your regulars' interest. But really, that's the same thing in the straight dating world. A woman gets older, and sooner or later her "regular" may start to look for the next young model. Pretty hard to avoid the pressure of a world built entirely on male approval, especially if you don't have a great deal of confidence and love for yourself! That's why women and girls need to be great support systems for each other. We are way more than just walking vaginas, waiting to be rated on a scale of 1 to 10 by some gross guy in a track suit scratching his balls on his couch.

 

[Mila_]

Everything I was going to say was already covered by one awesome lady or another, but I am another cam girl who has gained maybe 40 lb since I started and I have yoyoed too and it makes no difference in my success, if anything since I have big boobs I make the most around 165 pounds. I am also self conscious about my belly so I never show it. Look for clothes, cam angles and lighting that makes you feel sexy and don’t listen to the trolls.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

Thanks @Kitsune. I was so used to the notion I had to take it all off / stand up / turn around, etc that I didn't think about leaving my tank top/corset (or other top that covered my torso) and panties on and making money through other actions or services that engage my personality/time/friendship.

 

[AmberCutie]

I've gained at least 15 pounds since I started camming, probably more honestly. I personally am VERY self conscious about it, try my best to only post in flattering angles both on cam and in videos or pictures.

But my most supportive and regular members say they do not mind the extra weight and still think I look amazing, and that makes me feel very good. I still try to limit the unflattering angles, but am working on embracing my current body image. I still beat myself up over some of the food and alcohol habits I just don't want to break that have led me here. But I don't hate my body enough to do anything drastic to slim up as fast as possible, either.

Not sure if any of my words help you at all, but I can commiserate on the feelings. Just know that a major handful of models on MFC ARE the tiny skinny girls, and a lot of members are looking for something OTHER than that, and we can fill that role happily.

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

Thanks @AmberCutie for the kind words It's good to hear it from your perspective that you see guys want girls/women that have curves, even if we're uncomfortable with our bodies for whatever reason. It might take several attempts, but I'm definitely going to try playing around with some different clothing and angles.

For some reason, going from sitting down to standing up - but not standing up on its own - seems to illicit comments about my curves the most. I wonder if there's a way to make that transition less focused on how my stomachs bends/rolls.

 

[AmberCutie]

less focused on how my stomachs bends/rolls.

Really that's my biggest downfall, too. My middle section has taken the bit of excess weight that wasn't nice enough to distribute itself through my boobs and butt/thighs (the areas people LIKE the weight to go to! lol). So my belly and my middle-back are my sad spots right now, and getting up from sitting, or sitting down from standing are stressful. While I know my members may not give 2 shits about them, I'm so distraught seeing them in recorded video of my shows and whatnot, that I am always mindful of camera positioning during these transitions. I cringe when I watch back my cam recordings sometimes.

I'm being all sorts of out there and open with my insecurities right now, but you know, it actually feels OK!

 

[Innocent_Intentions]

I struggle with binge eating. The weight gain overtime has become 12lbs. I’m working on controlling it but the weight is still there and it’s mainly gone to my stomach and thighs. I personally dislike my body, but I know that what I dislike someone could have a huge thing for; which is true! I have guys come into my room and say my tummy fat is cute or how they like my baby double chin blah blah. Regardless, I wouldn’t let your insecurities stop you from making money. It can be intimidating and there are a few A holes, But I think the pros outweigh the cons.

 

[Guy]

Really that's my biggest downfall, too. My middle section has taken the bit of excess weight that wasn't nice enough to distribute itself through my boobs and butt/thighs (the areas people LIKE the weight to go to! lol). So my belly and my middle-back are my sad spots right now, and getting up from sitting, or sitting down from standing are stressful. While I know my members may not give 2 shits about them, I'm so distraught seeing them in recorded video of my shows and whatnot, that I am always mindful of camera positioning during these transitions. I cringe when I watch back my cam recordings sometimes.

I'm being all sorts of out there and open with my insecurities right now, but you know, it actually feels OK!

Do you ever have time to work out at the gym or go on walks?

 

[Ambers Troll]

There is a member for every body type, also remember that as a model you work with a camera: Both have implications for the job.

Body changes are more likely to have members who like you stay/ ignore the change, and new ones who like your current shape arrive. The negative effects tend to be more psychological than real.

The camera angles that you select; don't underestimate the impact on changing others perceptions about your real body shape. Play around with it before going on cam, pick the ones you are most confident with, avoid the ones that you hate.
As an example, many women tend to square things up to the camera, slimming the hips, when slightly more angle gives a shape men are more attracted to. (Ideal hip to waist ratio for men is around 70%, as it turns out size doesn't matter so much.)

Lastly there is fashion choice, accessible clothing that covers up areas that you want to avoid showing. Work confidently and often you can keep these areas covered if you desire that. You will most likely find changes to your body matter little if you feel confident and enjoy the best of what you have.

 

[TemporarilyWhining]

In listing clothing that helps, black mesh tops (long sleeve if you have an arm problem) can work wonders - on cam they can instantly make you look about 20lbs thinner. Also, some guys love them... whether with bra/bikini underneath, or even naked underneath. The only problem is, if the mesh is very fine-knit, it can get really hot under there if you are the type to move around a lot.

The other thing is jewelry, thick belts while naked, or wrapping yourself around a satin sheet. Think about what the camera and lighting catches, and where it focuses. [Def test this before going on air, so you're sure you got the effect you wanted though!] If you choose to have very little or no clothing on, but you have a very long dangly shiny chain that catches the light in front of you whenever you move, or if you grab it and use it to tease... then the camera naturally focuses around that light a little bit, and makes the stomach behind it more fuzzy. Like seeing a squirrel, men will suddenly focus their eyes on your hands, the shiny necklace, whatever you are teasing with and drawing all attention to. If you wrap your naked self around a satin sheet and start writhing in it, that can look extremely sexy on cam (all the better if it's a contrasting color), and also it's easy to place the fabric so it hides the belly, back, arms, whatever you want to hide... the satin then catches light and brings interest. Sparkly mesh bathing suit covers can be great. Delicate lace corsets. For the guys who like pantyhose, you can even wear control top pantyhose (a lot of them prefer nude color, and have a strong preference for actual pantyhose over thigh highs), even with a few sequins sewn in if you want to get fancy, and then when they pay for you to remove, you move so your stomach is not in the shot, all they can see is you sexily sliding the pantyhose slowly off your legs. Writhing inside of a thick belt, or wrapping yourself in a whip if there is a more S&M vibe, can be really hot, and make your waist look smaller. You can also hold big props in front of you. I have tried an endless number of things, because I like prop work, since I get bored just sitting there doing the same thing all the time if the room is quiet. Lace fans are a good one - they look hot, keep you cool, and are a great teasing tool on top of it. It's easy to strategically place them so viewers can only see what you want them to see. Other props - I'm not going to list my whole extensive repertoire here for proprietary reasons, lol!- are not blatant sex objects at all but are associated with sex or coolness in such a way that it makes men click to see what's going on in your room, and they are great to hide parts of the body you want to hide. Masculine objects, for example. Also, a simple clothing option like wearing a tie while naked, really visually streamlines the body, and creates interest for the room.

If you become a foot person, it doesn't matter what your stomach looks like. They will pay to see your toes, the bottom of your feet, and/or close ups of you in various types of shoes. The whole show is from the knee down!

You do NOT need to be naked though to make money. It seems to me in many cases, women make more by showing less. Guys have very strong wiring in their head that says a woman who won't take it all off, is classier, is worth more, is someone they want to impress, and also take care of. Sexist and old-school as that may be, a model can really work it to her advantage. You don't have to do everything they say. You are the one in control. You can be fully clothed and make good money, if you're good at teasing, if you have a personality that people get attached to, or you have talents people want to watch. Or you focus on one body part and a attention and camera angles go there, not elsewhere. There will always be someone to watch. Men are full of demands, but what they don't realize is as a model, when you do whatever the hell you want, there is always another guy to replace them if they leave the room. If you feel sexy, confident, happy, and provide a good show, someone with deep pockets will eventually come along to make that effort worthwhile. And often, their pockets are deeper if you don't get naked, if you don't do vag/anal penetration closeups, etc. Plus, yes, girls with the omibod stuff do make constant bank... but, most of the time it is like 1 token at a time, all damn day, which I personally would find annoying and physically irritating as shit. And even then, you can still make really good money with those devices while still full clothed on cam, "shhh - someone's home/I'm at the office" blah blah blah.

This is not really about sex, or about the body. It's about performance, and also psychology. What will people pay for that involves the least work and discomfort for you, for the biggest payoff? What makes them excited that shows the least? When you experiment around that a bit, you can be very surprised what you find. Some guys, are so turned on by a voice, by dirty talk, you don't even have to show anything but your lips, or breasts on camera, while you whisper throaty sweet nothings at them.

There are a million and one options. It's fun to get creative and see what works for you! Don't look at it as a tough time on cam because you're not where you want to be physically. Look at it as an opportunity, to try fun new things, and maybe be successful in a whole new way.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

Not much to add that hasn't been said already. All you ladies are beautiful in your own way!

From this MFC member's perspective, personality really goes a long way. Sure, looks may draw me in. But, if you've got a great personality, I'm much more likely to stay, chat a bit and tip while I'm there. Being confident, and comfortable, in yourself is a big attribute to the personality, IMO. Not just looks. But, also self-confidence internally.

While a guy, I can relate to the weight gain. I've put on a lot of weight over the years of primarily sitting at a desk for my FT job. It's bad for me as I have been very self-conscious about it. I also have a part-time job that requires a certain level of fitness, at which I'm above minimum but I'm also not pleased with it. So, I'll be working with a trainer for conditioning and nutritional guidance. Kind of sad, since I've always been active. But, finding it hard to get started again and stay consistent due to a hectic schedule. So, figured I need someone to kick my ass once in a while.

Being confident in your own skin is definitely a plus. I've never really been, and for some foolish reason, accepted a personal challenge from a female friend of mine... I can't believe I agreed to it. So, I've got a lot of work to do!

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

Do you ever have time to work out at the gym or go on walks?

This is why I gained weight - I'm dealing with an injury that had me on crutches for most of the last year. I just got my 3rd MRI and I wear a brace 100% of the time (i wore It while camming right after it happened, good conversation starter!). I'm going to the gym for physical therapy now, and getting some exercise walking around town for errands.

This is not really about sex, or about the body. It's about performance, and also psychology. What will people pay for that involves the least work and discomfort for you, for the biggest payoff? What makes them excited that shows the least? When you experiment around that a bit, you can be very surprised what you find. Some guys, are so turned on by a voice, by dirty talk, you don't even have to show anything but your lips, or breasts on camera, while you whisper throaty sweet nothings at them

I've really underestimated the psychological aspect of all of this. Thanks!

 

[theswankyslut]

Having a tip menu for squats, sit-ups, etc, can make things fun



There aren't a lot of good quality corsets offered in physical stores. You can sometimes find some at Hot Topic, but they're over-priced and cheap quality. Orchard Corset and Timeless Trends are both brands that have great quality and are reasonably priced, I have tons from both.

I totally agree! Squats and sit-ups for tips are fun and motivating! And you are beautiful just the way you are!

 

[Kylie_Kennedy]

I totally agree! Squats and sit-ups for tips are fun and motivating! And you are beautiful just the way you are!

Awww thank you

 

[theswankyslut]

Awww thank you

You’re welcome! I know the whole “body image” bs is becoming out of hand with the media making every one wanting to be photoshop perfect. I think its complete s*** and you just have to do what you can for yourself to feel better about yourself. Camming definitely helped me become more accepting of my self image. Don’t get me wrong, I’m trying to lose weight also, but in the mean time I’m okay with how I look because I know I’m working to be my best self.