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Vixxen81

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Hey Cammers,

How many people do you think think you're wildly promiscuous because of what you do for a living? Have you ever had conversations about your "numbers"?
Any thoughts on how that may help or hinder your streams/content?

Is something like what Bonnie Blue did considered promiscuity in your eyes or just a really niche aspect that she cashed in on?
 
I think promiscuity itself is a concept used by the patriarchy to control women. Guys love to fuck yet look down on fucked women. A man who sleeps around is considered a stud while a woman who does the same is a "whore." It's an old-as-dirt double standard that favors men and puts women at a social disadvantage. If Bonnie Blue wants to fuck a million guys, that's her business. And if she can turn it into a business, even better for her.

The average conservative guy and even centrists/liberals can't stand women who get to decide when, where, how, and with whom they have sex. And if a woman dares charge money, the incels riot. We are supposed to be holes for them to fuck when and how THEY want to fuck, and then discarded when we're too "loose" and used up.

Ultimately, I think promiscuity should be deleted from the dictionary and from the face of the planet. It's nothing but a tool to create shame and somebody's unwanted opinion about what a woman does in private. Also, my body count is 5. I prefer pretty vanilla stuff in my own bedroom, which my audience is always a bit surprised to find out. I'm just lefter than a left turn signal in left field and think promiscuity is a poorly thought out theory that has no real basis other than for men to exact some type of power over women.
 
Even though this appears to be directed to the pro's, which I'm not, I'll make a comment. Kaytlinjames is correct, "promiscuity" is a shaming word. Like it or not, that's what our society (most of the world, really) does to anyone who dares to stray from social norms: shame them. The usual word they use these days is "slut". Note that perceived promiscuous behavior is looked at as an STI risk. This is part of the problem in discussing this topic. People equate the two, perhaps unjustly, perhaps not. I suppose the same thing is true with cheating. I'm not sure how to handle that problem.

Back to the question. How cam work is perceived depends on the community. Within my community, which is sex-positive, somewhat poly, and usually kinky, camming is taken at face value: a way to either make money, express yourself, or just (for males) to be a wanker. If anything, it's looked at as safe form of sex, making it LESS promiscuous. FYI: I can to express myself and to please my viewers.

Vanilla people's impressions: Beats me, I'm smart enough not to talk about it to them, both for my sake and theirs. My guess is that they would regard it as less promiscuous than the things I do in real life. I suppose someone who leads a conventional life outside of their camming work would be regarded differently.

And that leaves my audience. What does the Avenue Q porn song say: "Grab your dick and double click." Don't expect too much accurate analysis from them. They're all thinking with there little heads. They see what they want to see. Dress as a librarian, and most will think "Oh my God, a slutty librarian". Whenever I break the forth wall and talk openly to a viewer in private, they almost always accept my real-life living situation readily.

It seems to me that it's up to the cam performer to portray the personality that they want to: Promiscuous or not. Convincing them that you're not promiscuous in real life when you're on a porn site is an uphill battle. If you portray a slut, that's what people will assume until they get other info. In any case, I think that it's actually pretty easy to correct the false impressions that people get from camming given an opportunity to talk with any reasonably open minded person. Forget the closed minded people, they'll think what they want to think no matter what.

Bonnie Blue - had to look that up on the internet. Well, I'd talk that talk to my audience and they would love it. That's my typical for my viewers. I wouldn't walk that walk though. I think that's a stunt, and not promiscuous unless she really liked to do that in my opinion.

Numberst? Numbers?? You mean THOSE numbers? I may be misunderstanding here but: Yes, I talk about them if they ask. Are you asking?
 
Ha no not asking for anyone's actual numbers.

I want to reply when I have more time. Getting ready for tonight's shift at the moment. 😊💜
 
I've always been around much older people and they refer to their sex lives as their social lives. Makes sense to me. No one has ever been slut-shamed or anything like but I was listening to music and Promiscuous came on, it sparked the inspiration for this thread. I don't think anyone's numbers are anyone's business and I rarely get asked on cam about it but I rock the "girl next door" look pretty hard.

But when I have been asked, they seem surprised that I don't have a large number. Made me curious about other experiences.

As for Bonnie -- impregnation fantasies are real and powerful and I've seen dozens of videos on porn hub where that's the end goal for the woman -- get pregnant without knowing which person is the father. Kind of removes any stigma or judgment one may have about the person who got her pregnant. If that makes sense (it probably doesn't hehe).
 
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Interesting. I seldom get surprised reactions from my viewers. I guess it's that my viewers are almost all men and guys understand other guys more than they do women. Also I can obscure my actual partner numbers by emphasizing my kinky relationships. I don't think these are actual sexual partners, just sexual friends. Vanilla people don't quite understand how that works, so the whole definition of "promiscuous gets confused, and by the time we get done with the conversation, they're not surprised at anything.