The Cam Model Gender Gap

I just wanted to take a moment to discuss the gender gap in the cam model world. This may be rant-y but I just really want to speak my mind to my professional peers on this topic and find it highly inappropriate to bring up professional discussion while models are working. I have been newly introduced to the forum, I apologize if this is a recurring topic of discussion but this is honestly the best place I know of for this; if you know of any better place please do not hesitate to let me know.

A very short background before I begin; I am a 27 year old male cam model and have been camming on CB for over a year now. I have a much more conversational/tease style than anything else, a style that I feel most comfortable with and around in the cam-world. I view adult entertainment as much more than interactive porn and try diversify adult entertainment as much as possible. Camming is a large portion of my income and my primary profession.

That being said, I take this job extremely seriously. I put in the hours on-cam and off-cam. Despite this, the fact that I was born with a penis dooms me to the fact that I will not be taken seriously by my peers. I use the term "peers" loosely because of... well... the main topic of this thread, which I am now (finally, I know I ramble, sorry) arriving at.

In my experience, nearly all male cam models are not taken seriously by female cam models. In nearly every interaction I have with other models (be it trying to make friends in the industry, looking for a potential cam partner, looking for professional advice or feedback, etc.) there is always the air of a hidden agenda: that I am a testosterone-fueled manipulation machine looking for free handouts or something to put my dick in. Many times it has gotten to the point where I don't tell models that I share the profession simply because I don't want to see that "oh.... you're a camguy" face.

I have been blessed to find a few open-minded individuals that will see past the gender barrier; the rarity of this is something that I can not stress enough. I could take this moment to go into a pity-party about all the professional factors working against straight solo male models that females do not have to deal with, but I feel this is an unspoken understanding.

We are all in the same industry. We all deal with celebrations and pitfalls of the same ilk to differing degrees. Why, simply because we have different genital configurations, are males viewed as different (specifically lower) entities entirely? Why is it completely acceptable for female models to discuss our profession and open all lines of communication with other female models but build a wall of trepidation if the model happens to be a man?

I would really like to hear some candid, honest feedback on this topic. It is a constant, disheartening struggle to be putting in the all the same work, dealing with all the same bullshit and feeling all the same pressures as female cam models and knowing that I, inexorably, will potentially never be treated equally.

To be completely honest, I did not expect this kind of reception and I am genuinely grateful for you kindness and open-mindedness. This, in itself, is incredibly encouraging.

I am aware of my competition and have made it a distinct point to NOT pay attention to them. I get room fishers constantly ("I'll do that for free, and more!") and people wondering why I have goals or am looking for tips. Not a fun experience and the looming competition of "exhibitionists" is ever-present regardless of my intentional ignorance of their presence. VERY tough to compete with FREE.

I am aware that I am an.... anomaly, of sorts... I have always viewed my room as a "unique" experience for CB (mostly because 99% of my viewers are gay males and are genuinely shocked that I'm talking to them). I am extremely glad that there is support for what I do. It is exhausting swimming against the tide and, honestly, for me and my peers to be taken seriously and for this "movement" to get and form of traction, I really feel like there needs to be active acceptance from both sides of the gender wall. Knowing that it is there is extremely reassuring and I really hope that it can continue in other forms and venues.

@JoleneBrody - I am glad to say that I had the opportunity to meet and become friends with Thor before he moved on to other interests; he was a great help and inspiration in getting my room fully established to where it is today.

Thank you all for the compliments and encouragement again, things have been really tough lately and knowing I have support for what I do means more than you know.

GemmaMoore said:

As a side note: I'm sure I'm not the only lady on here who's interested in perving on you, so maybe post a link to your CB profile? :thumbleft:

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Didn't wanna plug my room out of nowhere, especially on a first time post but since you asked... =P

Here ya go! http://chaturbate.com/deez_na/

Miss_Lollipop said:

dude. I gotta catch one of your shows....

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I warmly embrace those of all races, religions, political affiliations and genders in my room but I do have to say, having the presence of females in my room is something that is sorely missed.

2 straight weeks of 20ish non-tipping gay men that wanna fuck my toes gets old and repetitive after a while...

Miss_Lollipop said:

.... but.. i like to fuck your toes bb.
Show toe.

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"mmmm spread dem toes bb so hawt" :roll:

LilyMarie said:

I have to ask: What does 'DD' mean? Is it the new bb? :confused2:

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Took me a bit to figure it out, it's short for "daddy" which really kinda creeps me out.

LoreleiRose said:

[I don't wander out of Models Only very frequently, but if I may just say—Gemma's guess about Deez being a "very sweet, hard-working model" is something I can vouch for. He's a great MFC premium, and a super fun model to watch on CB!

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Thank you so much for vouching for me, Lor (and for everything else over the time we've known each other)! It means more than I can put into words.

Here's the deal on my end to sorta elaborate. Camming, on either side of the camera, is not a sexual experience for me. It is social. The word "entertainment" spans so much more than just sexuality and my personal sexuality is a very in-person thing. When I visit models, I go to hang out and I try my hardest to compensate them for the services they are providing for me as I can. I don't expect anything in return for this since services have already been rendered (providing a venue, entertainment and interaction). Anything beyond just chatting is entirely up to the model's discretion and I will and have never push(ed) that. I have actually turned down content offered to me and had them give it to other regulars by several of my favorite models, not out of a lack of attraction but because I see my model friends as friends who are working, not as sexual objects. It's just not that kind of relationship for me. I jerk off on my own time (and need to keep in mind holding off for potential private shows...), I don't jerk off when I'm hanging out with my friends. That's just the way I see it, might be weird, doesn't mean I'm not sexually attracted models I visit, it just means that my sexuality doesn't function that way.

Shaun__ said:

I have thought about cam modeling just for the experience of it, but deep down inside I am afraid I would be alone in an empty room.

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A lot of times that's exactly what it is.

I took 3 months off over last winter because I was pulling 4-5 hour shifts every day and not getting more than... maybe 5-7 people in my room? It's really discouraging and you need to be a very resilient and resourceful individual to not only draw in viewers and get them to tip (or even talk) but to get them to come back.

You'd be surprised at what niche markets are out there that are untapped and you might fall into one of them, who knows? If you are seriously considering getting into it, get a game plan ready, be prepared for empty rooms and slow nights (as they happen to EVERYONE) and find what your "thing" is.

Best of luck if you choose to give it a shot!