feeling sick to my stomach and so upset after a cam session..

[babyblueyou]

i thought i could do this and i still want to.. i am just so discouraged from the past few days of serious camming. i go on for hours and set realistic goals. i dress up as sexy as possible and tease as much as i can and keep a smile on and try to talk to people. people keep coming in and out of the room and i hardly get any tips and people only want to ask me for private. i keep making goals that don't get reached and i feel pathetic sitting there for hours and even smaller goals hardly make it. i just got off cam after being on for almost 4 hours trying so hard barely making shit, and one guy who kept giving me one token here and there was like "ok if youre getting bored then we are going to..." and i fucking lost it and flipped out on him even though i know i should have just ignored it or kept my cool. but it's super disheartening when you are trying your hardest for four hours and just want to succeed but nothing comes of it and him telling me i seemed bored towards the end just tipped me over the edge. i logged off in tears and i feel like such a baby.

it's super hard also when i look at the cams on the front and it's girls who are hardly dong much or interacting and they still have thousands of views and tips rolling in. it just makes no sense to me and i am so emotionally drained. any advice or tips to shake this feeling and get out of this bad cycle? i don't want to be bitter but i am just so frustrated and feel like no matter what i do i can't succeed.

 

[DejaElectra]

How new to camming are you?
Everyone has really bad days. I understand how hard it is to keep your spirits up when you have nights like that, I had a 10 token night a few days ago, it sucked. There are so many variables and little things with how camming sites work that you can't really control, you could be the hottest girl online and not get much traffic. If this is a regular problem, have you tried camming at a different time?

I don't know if it's just me, but for some reason the first half of the month is always really slow for me, then the second half gets crazy. Maybe this has to do when people get paid and pay their rent? It's been that way for me since I've started. See if things pick up in a week or so?

When I feel this way I remember all the great nights I've had, realize that making money camming has a lot of variables I can't control and it has little to do with me, and try to think of new things to do to bring people into my room. Or I completely remove myself from camming for a day if I need it to relax and sleep it off.

Try to keep your head up, we all go through this. You'll have a good night again, but I'm sorry you're feeling so down.

PS: Guys like that in your room are jerks looking for a free show hoping they will wear you down enough to do it. Most common phrase is "if you want to be successful you should do [something you wouldn't do for free] I'm trying to help you!" and then they never tip or tip very little. They are the worst kind of freeloader because they try to make you feel bad about yourself.

 

[Osmia]

i thought i could do this and i still want to.. i am just so discouraged from the past few days of serious camming. i go on for hours and set realistic goals....... any advice or tips to shake this feeling and get out of this bad cycle? i don't want to be bitter but i am just so frustrated and feel like no matter what i do i can't succeed.

Which site do you cam on? I looked for babyblueyou on MFC and didn't find a model with that name. If you're open to some constructive criticism, observations and suggestions, I'm sure some of us would like to check out your show.

Second, you sound very frustrated bordering on despair. It might be a good idea to take a brief step back away from the stress of camming rather than continue to hammer away at a nut that's not going to crack with that approach.

 

[Amberlie_]

If it is MFC or CB and you're being asked for privates, take them! I know you want to build up your free chat room and get tipped there, but heck take the chances you get. More tokens in a shorter space of time will raise your camscore, which will bring you more traffic and the potential of more tippers x

 

[mynameisbob84]

it's super hard also when i look at the cams on the front and it's girls who are hardly dong much or interacting and they still have thousands of views and tips rolling in. it just makes no sense to me and i am so emotionally drained. any advice or tips to shake this feeling and get out of this bad cycle? i don't want to be bitter but i am just so frustrated and feel like no matter what i do i can't succeed.

Comparing yourself to the top models is a fast road to ruin, innit. You have no idea how hard those models worked, or for how long, to build the following they have or how much off-cam work they do to pull in the tokens that they do.

 

[CharlotteLace]

- i dress up as sexy as possible and tease as much as i can and keep a smile on and try to talk to people. people keep coming in and out of the room and i hardly get any tips and people only want to ask me for private.

-i keep making goals that don't get reached and i feel pathetic sitting there for hours and even smaller goals hardly make it. i just got off cam after being on for almost 4 hours trying so hard barely making shit,

- it's super disheartening when you are trying your hardest for four hours and just want to succeed but nothing comes of it

-it's super hard also when i look at the cams on the front and it's girls who are hardly dong much or interacting and they still have thousands of views and tips rolling in.

Congratulations! You're officially a cam model now. All these feelings and issues come with the territory of camming. It's an emotionally draining job because of it's arbitrary nature. There's no consistency to camming success, and there never will be.

Things you can do to help yourself:
-diversify what sites you cam on, see what works best for your personality
-make content and sell it in your room and on content sites
-make a twitter and promote yourself on social media
-keep thinking up new and creative ideas
-think of what makes you unique, and figure out how to market that to your viewers.
-consider taking privates. Why not?
-Don't watch successful models if it'll make you jealous or disheartened. You think they're getting "tips for nothing," but you'll come to find out how much behind-the-scenes they might be doing to get those tips. If you can't watch them and learn, don't watch them. It'll only fuck with your head.
-Realize that discouragement is part of the job.

Seriously. If you can't handle the lows, you won't ever see the highs. But that doesn't mean you can sit on your laurels. Figure out what works best for you, keep thinking up new creative ways to be appealing to your audience, but don't get discouraged on bad days. As a measure of reference, I've been camming nearly 4 years, am typically top couple rows on Streamate, and just yesterday I had a day where I made $12. If you take that shit personally, it'll eat away at you. So, don't.

There's a big reason why most cam models quit inside of 3 months. It's not as easy as it looks, and if you're already thinking you've failed, you have.

 

[babyblueyou]

If it is MFC or CB and you're being asked for privates, take them! I know you want to build up your free chat room and get tipped there, but heck take the chances you get. More tokens in a shorter space of time will raise your camscore, which will bring you more traffic and the potential of more tippers x

yeah, i've done a few privates and made a decent amount but i always feel like that makes the public chat mad but honestly it's the only way i've been able to get decent tips... after i made this post i calmed down and went on more relaxed and did a private with someone for a decent amount and felt a little better after that. i just was under the impression it was bad to start doing a lot of privates so i have been rarely doing them.

 

[babyblueyou]

How new to camming are you?
Everyone has really bad days. I understand how hard it is to keep your spirits up when you have nights like that, I had a 10 token night a few days ago, it sucked. There are so many variables and little things with how camming sites work that you can't really control, you could be the hottest girl online and not get much traffic. If this is a regular problem, have you tried camming at a different time?

I don't know if it's just me, but for some reason the first half of the month is always really slow for me, then the second half gets crazy. Maybe this has to do when people get paid and pay their rent? It's been that way for me since I've started. See if things pick up in a week or so?

When I feel this way I remember all the great nights I've had, realize that making money camming has a lot of variables I can't control and it has little to do with me, and try to think of new things to do to bring people into my room. Or I completely remove myself from camming for a day if I need it to relax and sleep it off.

Try to keep your head up, we all go through this. You'll have a good night again, but I'm sorry you're feeling so down.

PS: Guys like that in your room are jerks looking for a free show hoping they will wear you down enough to do it. Most common phrase is "if you want to be successful you should do [something you wouldn't do for free] I'm trying to help you!" and then they never tip or tip very little. They are the worst kind of freeloader because they try to make you feel bad about yourself.

I joined CB like a year ago and went on occasionally but now have started going on pretty consistently for about a couple of weeks and am taking it more seriously. I know everyone has their bad nights and I am a lot more calm now. I was just getting so frustrated after having an overall bad day and then a bad night camming... probably shouldn't have gone on when i was already a little upset. I'm gonna look at it with a new attitude when i go on tomorrow and try to keep it positive and not compare myself to others. Thanks for the kind response.

 

[yummybrownfox]

i thought i could do this and i still want to.. i am just so discouraged from the past few days of serious camming. i go on for hours and set realistic goals. i dress up as sexy as possible and tease as much as i can and keep a smile on and try to talk to people. people keep coming in and out of the room and i hardly get any tips and people only want to ask me for private. i keep making goals that don't get reached and i feel pathetic sitting there for hours and even smaller goals hardly make it. i just got off cam after being on for almost 4 hours trying so hard barely making shit, and one guy who kept giving me one token here and there was like "ok if youre getting bored then we are going to..." and i fucking lost it and flipped out on him even though i know i should have just ignored it or kept my cool. but it's super disheartening when you are trying your hardest for four hours and just want to succeed but nothing comes of it and him telling me i seemed bored towards the end just tipped me over the edge. i logged off in tears and i feel like such a baby.

it's super hard also when i look at the cams on the front and it's girls who are hardly dong much or interacting and they still have thousands of views and tips rolling in. it just makes no sense to me and i am so emotionally drained. any advice or tips to shake this feeling and get out of this bad cycle? i don't want to be bitter but i am just so frustshorrated and feel like no matter what i do i can't succeed.

If you're talking about MyFreeCams, that site can be especially tough and overwhelming for new cam girls. Any time I used the word "drained" about a cam site, I was referring to MFC. When I cammed on there, I almost never stayed on for as long as 4 hours. It was usually 2 hours...and on some occasions if it's going well, I made it to 3. If you're doing flashes, be sure to put in your room topic how many tokens you require for a flash. That way, you're not getting so many bozos tipping you 1 token and saying "Lemme see ur ass." As tempting as it is to say "Screw this site...I'm not coming back here," at least do one or two pay periods on there. That way, you're not giving up on it too soon.

As for guys getting mad when you accept privates, if these are the same guys who aren't even tipping you or they're throwing you measly 1 token tips every 30 minutes, screw them getting mad or their "hurt feelings." You're trying to make money, and they all know that.

When you get verified model status on here, you'll have access to more detailed threads about MFC and camming in the Models Only section.

 

[AmiGold]

Chaturbate was really buggy yesterday too which I have found makes a big difference. I went on last night and had a crap night too but luckily I Dont have too many of those days but they do get you down, I just say if you Guys Dont want to talk or play I'll come back tomorrow. I also didnt have Any regulars in yesterday which is unheard of, which is why I put it down to chaturbate being buggy.

 

[DFT]

Something that struck me from what you've shared is you've been shamed for taking privates because it makes the public channel mad - where they're not tipping, but have much to say. Sounds like you're taking advice from your chat. Get yourself verified and get much better guidance.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

yeah, i've done a few privates and made a decent amount but i always feel like that makes the public chat mad but honestly it's the only way i've been able to get decent tips... after i made this post i calmed down and went on more relaxed and did a private with someone for a decent amount and felt a little better after that. i just was under the impression it was bad to start doing a lot of privates so i have been rarely doing them.

If no one is tipping you in public then who cares if they get mad? I would simply say..."I'm sorry...no one is tipping toward topic so I'm going to take a private. Be back soon!"

 

[CrazyCatLady]

Also...my regs are all people who I initially did privates with when I was new

 

[ComicOzzie]

There are MFC models in the Top 100 every month who get there mainly thru taking a shitload of pvts every day. Taking lots of pvts can be a good thing.

 

[CrazyCatLady]

There are MFC models in the Top 100 every month who get there mainly thru taking a shitload of pvts every day. Taking lots of pvts can be a good thing.

This. Also I found a method that really works...at least for me.

If I have a public countdown and 1 person tipped a good amount towards it (or multiple people) but it kind of stalls because new people weren't tipping...or just gets quiet...and someone asks me for a private I say (and do) this...

"Hey guys...I was just asked to go private and I think it's a good way to get this topic moving again. If you guys stick around while I'm in private I will take half my private tokens (or just say an amount 100, 300, 500...etc) off of the countdown when I come back and you are still here."

It gives them a "reward" for sticking around and it keeps the traffic in your room.

 

[Ambers Troll]

babyblueyou I do believe you are trying, and have thought about the type of model you want to be...with persistence you will do okay.

Your comments about being confused by girls 'on the front' is normal in someone that isn't. The simply answer to how a model can be tipped for doing little is that she has built up enough social credit with the member to be rewarded for it.

Keep this in mind, most models don't know why a member joins their site, it just doesn't make sense to them because they never would (spend their money for it as a member would). They are happy to benefit from it, but don't really understand it much beyond some concept of lonely guys needing a sex release or some form of interactive porn addiction.
Sometimes I get models (never on the front) ask why I am still doing this, warn me about how I am wasting my time doing this. I find it sweet, but also pretty condescending, very reflective of the model and her attitude toward all members. Top models don't tend to prejudge, taking members as they find them, this form of respect is just one of the things top models do to earn extra/ free support.