How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professional?

[korimadison]

I have slowly been building a solid group of followers over my first few weeks on MFC. One in particular is an awesome tipper, he's also the main reason I'm doing decent on there. However, when we Skype sometimes he just wants to talk about life & I've already overstepped some of my personal boundaries (he knows the age of my son & I know he feels that we've "connected" on a deeper level). I HATE Skype for numerous reasons, the main one being that I'm not very good about laying down the law (meaning when the time they've tipped for is up, being all hasta la vista baby). SO since my big tipper & I have gotten to know each other more than I would have liked I don't feel comfortable getting off on Skype & being all sexual one-on-one with him. I don't want to lose him as a participant of my room though, what do I do?

 

[VeronicaChaos]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

This thread may be of help.

https://www.ambercutie.com/forums/viewt ... 32&t=17481

 

[PunkInDrublic]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

I HATE Skype for numerous reasons

Shouldn't offer shows that you hate, even if the guy was pressuring you or he's your big tipper. Just seems like a bad idea.

I don't want to lose him as a participant of my room though, what do I do?

You should be like "Yo guy, I won't be doing anymore skype shows for you but please keep giving me money". I don't know, is his money really worth it? Guys that think they have a special connection with any of the models are creepy, and will only get creepier, so good luck with whatever you do.

 

[JimsX]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

I just realized that I might be creepy :lol:

There is a model I talk to off-mfc everyday and she also does shows for me. We just have a rule: the show is the show, and then we go back to normal. It was odd for me at first, but I genuinely like chatting with her (and having shows), so I accept it. I know the alternative :lol:

 

[Jessi]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

I just realized that I might be creepy :lol:

There is a model I talk to off-mfc everyday and she also does shows for me. We just have a rule: the show is the show, and then we go back to normal. It was odd for me at first, but I genuinely like chatting with her (and having shows), so I accept it. I know the alternative :lol:

Theres a vast difference between
"Im a special unique snowflake, Im not like other guys, we connect on a deep level where I understand and know her like no one else does"
and
"I genuinely like this person and we enjoy chatting about a variety or topics other than camshows"

 

[JimsX]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

Theres a vast difference between
"Im a special unique snowflake, Im not like other guys, we connect on a deep level where I understand and know her like no one else does"
and
"I genuinely like this person and we enjoy chatting about a variety or topics other than camshows"

Whew! Thanks for the save! :lol:

 

[mynameisbob84]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

I have slowly been building a solid group of followers over my first few weeks on MFC. One in particular is an awesome tipper, he's also the main reason I'm doing decent on there. However, when we Skype sometimes he just wants to talk about life & I've already overstepped some of my personal boundaries (he knows the age of my son & I know he feels that we've "connected" on a deeper level). I HATE Skype for numerous reasons, the main one being that I'm not very good about laying down the law (meaning when the time they've tipped for is up, being all hasta la vista baby). SO since my big tipper & I have gotten to know each other more than I would have liked I don't feel comfortable getting off on Skype & being all sexual one-on-one with him. I don't want to lose him as a participant of my room though, what do I do?

I think you owe it to both yourself and your tipper to be honest and upfront about your boundaries, yo. There is a risk that you'll lose him as a tipper but I'd wager every cam girl at some point or another has to make a choice between continuing uncomfortable communications with a member and being tipped by them, or putting a stop to those uncomfortable communications and losing that member's tokens :twocents-02cents:

 

[Always_Tim]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

It's best to deal with the situation as soon as possible. If you let it continue it will only become harder for both of you.

 

[SinSeraTea]

Re: How to find the balance between sweet/flirty & professio

The way I think about my boundaries and etcetera on cam is that I have a responsibility to keep myself feeling safe and happy so that I can continue to do this and make money.

I learned early on in camming that when I do something I'm not quite comfortable with for money and not excited about for money I feel really terrible about it and often have a problem with the member. I end up feeling victimized by them. Because I need the money so bad.

Now I don't engage people who want anything that I don't want. I tell them to try back later from the get go.

But sometimes we end up in situations where our boundaries have been crossed for one reason or another and we didn't say anything until it is too late.

You have NOT made your bed and thus have to lie in it now continuing on.

I usually treat these things like problems that I don't have the solution to. Perhaps ask your feller for help in that you feel you've crossed your boundaries for him and are feeling bad and you know that he doesn't want you to feel bad after a session with him. And you'd like to scale things back and wonder what he thinks would help.

If he disregards your needs. He is not a keeper no matter how much money you can get from him.

This is just one dude. There are others who will not be dicks to you. There is something on the internet for everyone.