Loving Fan Gone Mad :(

[AluraCurvyBBW]

Just know 1 thing about forums in general, from someone whose been an active forum member since she was 10. (seriously).

Forums are communities of friends, places of give and take. The good ones (like this one, I believe) are close-knit and protective. Like a little e-village (d'aaaw) The best ones do allow for lots of new village members. But you can't show up to a new village, say 'throw a feast for me' and EXPECT a good response. Now, sometimes you'll get a feast, but if you wanna up your chances, be a part of the village first. Give before you ask and you'll take away a lot more.

I like the way you worded that!

yes one more reason she is crush worthy in my eyes.. smart brainy sexy chick.. yaay :dance:

 

[GreatDane]

When I read the first post asking for feedback, it never actually crossed my mind you might be some weirdo looking to fap to sob stories of models who weren't too careful with information about their personal life. You seemed pretty down to earth and just all around as sane as someone on this forum could be I suppose.

With that said I've had a very, very bad experience with someone I thought I could trust. As LL said now I have a very aggressive dog and a baseball bat I could knock someone's head in with (I don't like guns nor having them around me). I don't know if you want models to come out with details on what happened or what, but if so I'd be more than happy to. Mine is a seriously fucked up cautionary tale.

Oh and welcome to the forums even if it is just for research.

this is why I'm bash my head on the keyboard whenever a model divulges too much about her personal life, even to myself. Cuz while I'm not a sick obsessed mother fucker, the fact that she told me her real name or where she lives or anything of the sort means that she might tell someone else who IS a sick obsessed mother fucker.

It just worries me...

THIS!!!!!!

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

I have to agree. Esp with the wierdos we have had lately on this forum, we are all a little stand offish about people coming in and their first posts being out of the norm (norm being "Hi! Here I am, a little info on me, blah blah blah") also the fact that a lot of people who write "books" on a forum are banking on people skipping the majority and filling it with fluff to get the juicy info they are trolling for. It should be common knowledge to intro yourself on a forum then as said many times before "Lurk Moar". I also got a weird vibe about your posts. Not that your a creeper or a stalker, but something wasn't meshing. Being a writer myself (poetry published in a few large volume collections) I know that we can ramble a bit, but it almost *initially* came off as sketchy to get your info. Also trying to get info for a book might go off a little better if you find us in our rooms, because we might not want to "publicly share" horror stories that we are trying to avoid happen again. Just FYI

 

[RumoredDead]

Hi PinUp,

You comments make perfect sense. I however have never really been active in a forum and was not thinking of the village of which you speak. My bad, and sorry to have crashed the gates such as I did.

Eva,

I suppose if I had done what PinUp and others suggested, I would have been aware of many more things, such as what a close-knit community this is and I would have behaved differently, proceeded more slowly, beginning with a proper introduction, etc., before jumping in out of the blue with such a touchy question. I also might have been aware that you have had a lot of "weirdos" in your forum lately and would have been especially cautious not to seem like just another of those.

I think my extensive rambling came only after I was questioned about my sincerity, and then even more so by boce about anything and everything I had said being true. It made me feel very uneasy to have caused such a reaction and I suppose I went overboard to try rectify the situation and convince everyone I was not a creep, and was who I had said I was. Really not sure why I am giving off such a weird vibe to so many, but much of it might come from me over reacting a bit to boce's questioning of my sincerity, identity and motives for being here.

Also, I was never looking for anyone's specific story to use in mine and fill with fluff as you suggest, I was more just looking for confirmation that this sort of thing exists quite regularly in your line of work, and clearly I have got my answer on that, that it does.

I also mentioned in earlier posts here that I have visited girls in their rooms and spoken to them at length, just do happens not to be any of the models on this forum. As mentioned as well, I am not comfortable visiting girls in their rooms unless I have some tokens to share and my token supply is running thin after a busy holiday season as you can see by my screen shot.

To all,
Again, my apologies to all for crashing the gates of your community as I did, and thus creating what has now become this long bizarre post. Certainly if I could go back, I would have done things quite a bit differently.

 

[PinUpKittie]

D'aawww thas ok

It's something that you learn with time (read: lurking)

I think this one's ok, guys!


AmberCutie & Alura: OMG you guys! I'ma get all blushy and speechless. Thanks to you both 3

 

[Eva_ChangeN]

I wasn't meaning that you were going to fill your book with fluff, just when people go on a forum and make huge posts that are somewhat defensive, it seems like they could be trying to bank on people not reading the majority of their posts. Interestingly enough, this forum we all usually read the entire post, because we are so close. When you think about it, we are online quite a bit thru the day, share info on all sorts of things, see each other naked in our most private areas. We sometimes meet up with each other to hang out or act out some carnal fun. It becomes like a sisterhood, and our members who aren't models are the little brothers sisters and cousins that help glue all of us together. It is also similar to a wolfpack sense there is an Alpha (Amber) and we try to work as a collective without loosing out individual jobs or interfering with others, and still keep the Alpha in the loop. I am in NO WAY saying that anyone is a follower or anything like that, but we huddle close when needed and lash out when our family could be hurt by someone being different than we are used to. You have become more towards a curious lurker than a stalker or a wierdo, but an intro and some lurking would have DEF got you more info than jumping in the middle and trying to find your way around.. Welcome, BTW

 

[LadyLuna]

just when people go on a forum and make huge posts that are somewhat defensive, it seems like they could be trying to bank on people not reading the majority of their posts.

This has absolutely NOTHING to do with the topic... but there was this English Prof in college who everyone said never reads all the papers, just the first and last pages, and maybe the topic sentances. She loved steak, so one of my friends who was a junior at the time said she had put "If you read this sentence, I'll buy you a steak" in the middle of one paragraph a little off from the middle page of the paper back when she was a freshman. She then said "and she never did claim her steak."



On topic, I never got the creepy vibe from RumoredDead, and I'm paranoid O.O I got the same vibe I used to get off my roleplaying friends who were also writers in the "anything goes" part of the forum where we roleplayed.

And I love how we all actually take the time to read all the posts, even if it does take me all day to read through the forum when I've missed a week x.x

 

[Mirra]

Forums are communities of friends, places of give and take. The good ones (like this one, I believe) are close-knit and protective. Like a little e-village (d'aaaw)

We even have some village idiots. ;-)

I think this could be a pretty cool fiction to write and read as there are a lot of potential ideas to explore within the big picture of the story. I'm going to touch on a few of these but if you are a tl;dr kind of person, just go to the last paragraph.

Based on only one story that I'm aware of from MFC that is slightly relevant to your questions, I believe there's a fine line between being a highly devoted fan who hangs out a lot and creepy, stalker fan. How interactions change when the transition starts happening can be easily overlooked at first. As I gather my thoughts on the subject, it seems to me the key indicator of such a change would probably be marked amount of clinginess, a sense of entitlement, and unreasonable requests or even demands when interacting with the model in question.

The thing I think is rather interesting is some of the connections with fans that can make a webcam model so successful can also be the very things that encourage or attract these types of people. I suspect it requires a certain level of constant evaluation of the current situation while on cam for these models to be able to make these connections which their non-psycho friends and fans value so much without putting themselves in danger.

And then there very well may those premiums who have the best intentions but due to a lack of social experience/connections in life come off as clingy or creepy. Have there ever been models who found themselves suspecting of a premium who was perhaps just socially awkward and ended up being a nice guy? Could that guy perhaps be the perfect candidate for becoming a creepy stalker therefore making the models initial apprehensions quite justified. There's really so many elements you can work on and I believe they all hinge upon those connections made between a model and a fan.

To sum up my post, the connections made between a model and a fan can be great and horrible. A certain level of constant vigilance is necessary for model and fan alike due in part to the additional veil effect which exists through the internet. Sometimes a well-intentioned gesture can cause more problems than good.