My grandma

[AlexLady]

I love my grandma very much. Her and my little sisters are the only true family of everyone I know.


She hasn't moved in a few days and doesn't even know she's in the hospital...

So I'm going to fly out there asap. No one else can or will visit her, even her daughter that's only two hours away.



I won't let her pass like that. Not when she's such a wonderful person and I love her so much.

She deserves so much more than the family has given her and I had to leave them both in danger when I fled to get myself safe.


I'll see you guys when I can.

 

[FifthElephant]

I love my grandma very much. Her and my little sisters are the only true family of everyone I know.


She hasn't moved in a few days and doesn't even know she's in the hospital...

So I'm going to fly out there asap. No one else can or will visit her, even her daughter that's only two hours away.

Sometimes giving some dignity is the only thing one can do.

Best wishes.

 

[Bocefish]

Best wishes.

 

[Daisy]

I'll see you guys when I can.

Good luck Alex, I hope your Grandma get's well.

 

[Anonymous]

I hope everything turns out well Alex!
My thoughts are with you.

 

[LaLaLand_xD]

It is so great you are going to see your grandma. I hope you have a safe trip and I'm sure she will appreciate it with her current condition.

 

[LilyPink]

Bless xx

 

[Mirra]

Have a safe trip. I hope it goes as well as possible given the circumstances.

 

[Mikeythegeek]

Alex, it's the right thing to do. Hope everything goes well. My thoughts are with you and her.

 

[mistahbah]

Thinking of you Alex...

 

[LadyLuna]

*hugs*

 

[morment]

sorry to hear about your grandma, I'm sure she'll appreciate the visit. I know I liked having people visit me when I was in one, even though I was only in for back surgery.

 

[AluraCurvyBBW]

Have a safe trip hun. I hope everything works out

 

[LuxDahl]

I hope things turn out for the best.

 

[AlexLady]

She's looking better. She has some strange mass in her lower abdomen, and they'll find out what it is and possibly remove it when she's better.

She was seeing things, um... confusion? It's usually the onset of aheimers. But they we happy things at least.

But she is back in her right mental state, and by tomorrow she'll be feeling like going home.

There are some legal issues... but when she's coherient we'll help with that.


Her son drove up here too and his wife is a nurse so she's spending a lot of time with her.

So yeah my grandma is doing better. She almost passed on... but her heart didn't stop. I think her heart is big enough to keep her going for years to come; I mean she's only 65.

She might have to move in with someone, and that'd be with my uncle and aunt. They live the closest and they'd take the best care of her. Then I can relax in peace knowing that all the true family members I have are safe. So as bad and sad as it is for my grandma to be in this state, when she's out of it she'll live somewhere safe and with people who love her.


Oh yeah my sister says she wants you guys to know she doesn't suck her thumb anymore. (To those of you who have heard stories about the sister I love so much.)

I'm going to be flying home Thursday. For tonight, while my grandma rests, I'm going to pick on my sister and spend some time with her as well as get to know the aunt I've never met and the uncle I haven't seen for 14 years. They seam like they're going to be a great part of a family I thought was about to get smaller.

 

[Mirra]

Glad to hear things are going so well, Alex! Look forward to your return but don't come back a moment sooner than feels right. Family is so very important.

 

[AlexLady]

Some family is important yeah.


But I'm not needed here anymore, and I can't afford to stay in more ways than one.

She's safe now and will be taken care of, it's time for me to be home and away from all the crazy people again.

 

[tightlockup]

I'm glad your grandma is doing better. I'd say finding unexpected quality family is an awesome thing.

 

[Enon]

I'm experiencing something similar right now Alex. My 84-year-old Maternal Grandmother has either been in a hospital or a nursing home for the past 3 months or so. She went in initially for a fall, but doctors found all sorts of other things wrong with her. She almost passed, and she's no longer very lucid.

Now, after much drama between her mongrel children, her very Christian son has come and taken her to live with him in his home in Georgia. I'm glad she'll be taken care of, but realistically the visit I had with her before her son absconded with her was probably the last time I'll ever see her alive again.

Anyway, I apologize for the diatribe. Just wanted to say that I feel for you.

 

[AlexLady]

Well Enon... I thought about it a lot, and it may sound cold, but I think I'd be ok with my grandma passing on.

She's had a great life and has affected me a lot, and I'd be sad to have her gone... but at that age you just have to be more accepting. That, and she's not in the best place right now.


To be completely honest, if she comes through with this and has to live in the same circumstances I'd be more sad than if she passed.

But at the moment she's getting better and there's hope for her future life.



There's a strange mass on her liver, but we don't know what it is yet.

Also we found out that the kids she thought she was seeing in her head actually fit the description of some children that were in the area that day. She thinks they invaded her house but the memories are repressed. So we're just focused on her getting better for now and we'll worry about things later.

 

[luvsyou]

Damn...I'll be thinking of you Alex.

Probably the best gift you can ever give her is seeing her.

Hope she gets through this and lives many more productive years.

Luvs..

 

[Enon]

You don't sound cold, Alex. You sound like a realist. My grandmother is ready to die, her children aren't ready to let go of her because they all completely lack the tools to process such an event. I personally want what is best for her, and whatever fits best with her wishes.

 

[LadyLuna]

It doesn't sound cold. My mother was in a lot of pain, and I was glad to hear she wasn't in pain anymore when she died.

Though I know you will feel her loss when she is gone, I also understand just wanting her pain to be over.

 

[Mirra]

That doesn't sound cold. That sounds loving. Cold is how I felt when my maternal grandmother died. I honestly didn't care but that's because she never really felt like family anyhow. She was just there and happened to be related to us. She didn't raise my mother and she was not a significant part of my life.

I hope for the best for your grandma, whatever that might be.

 

[athurart09]

I love my grandma very much
:-D :-D :-D

 

[spankamber]

thats so sweet alex, im sorry you have to go through this - i lost all my grandparents a long time ago. stay positive and im here if you need to talk.