Question for Models: Is it dangerous to send a photo of myself to a camgirl that i really don't know?

[Adihcam]

I have been frequenting a SC model's room exclusively for the past three weeks trading tokens for her company. It has been fun and exciting, i look forward to our time together any time we can meet. Last night she requested a photo of me. I'm a little apprehensive. Is it safe to share a photo of me? She works at a studio that has multiple rooms that models share, I don't know if my photo could potentially fall in someone elses hands for blackmail down the road. This model and I have a great relationship now, but if things turn south because I see her less in the future i don't want this to have a negative affect.

She has also offered her snapchat for me to share a photo if im not comfortable sharing it via SC private messages.

The thing is i feel like i really want to share a photo of myself... the other side of me thinks... maybe she just wants to see me because she thinks positively of me and we've been having fun when in pvts and she wants to know what i look like.

Seeking advice on what more experienced models think.

 

[MarieElise]

If I were you I would not do it.

Sounds like she could be planning something to even ask. 3 weeks is absolutely no time. Even if it were an innocent request, you should protect your emotions from such dopamine rush induced, emotional rollercoaster-type impulsive ridiculousness. Just an opinion from someone likely older and more experienced than you. Take it or leave it.

Unless it's of just your penis, then go for it if she asked first. But I doubt that would make you nervous of blackmail, unless you have your name and address tatooed on it or something lol

 

[Wuggie]

I think it's as simple as: If you do not feel totally comfortable with sending the photo to someone, DON'T... cam model or not..

That said, if it's only the whole blackmail thing you are worried about, sending a clothed picture shouldn't leave much for blackmail at all, especially on Snapchat since she has offered you to just send it there I guess? but again, the first line in this post is the most important, you HAVE to feel comfortable with what you send, always. else simply do not do it!

this is of course just my personal opinion and how I have always handled pictures

 

[Adihcam]

If I were you I would not do it.

Sounds like she could be planning something to even ask. 3 weeks is absolutely no time. Even if it were an innocent request, you should protect your emotions from such dopamine rush induced, emotional rollercoaster-type impulsive ridiculousness. Just an opinion from someone likely older and more experienced than you. Take it or leave it.

Unless it's of just your penis, then go for it if she asked first. But I doubt that would make you nervous of blackmail, unless you have your name and address tatooed on it or something lol

Thanks MarieElise... 3 weeks is a short time but weve had 5 privates together and feels like we've built a relationship (i know this is her doing her job well). This would not be a photo of my penis... it would be a photo of me fully clothed.

 

[Adihcam]

I think it's as simple as: If you do not feel totally comfortable with sending the photo to someone, DON'T... cam model or not..

That said, if it's only the whole blackmail thing you are worried about, sending a clothed picture shouldn't leave much for blackmail at all, especially on Snapchat since she has offered you to just send it there I guess? but again, the first line in this post is the most important, you HAVE to feel comfortable with what you send, always. else simply do not do it!

this is of course just my personal opinion and how I have always handled pictures

I guess if i really think about it... what could she possibly do with a fully clothes photo of me that would damage me?

 

[Maxi]

If you’re coming onto a forum to ask then it means you aren’t comfortable so my advice would be don’t. Why have something extra to stress about in life?

I’ve shared photos in the past but only with a model who I was completely comfortable with doing so.

 

[misterical]

I guess it's up to you to decide because you know the model involved (as well as you can do in this situation anyway). As someone else has said, unless you are smeared in molasses with your dick in your hand and an orange up your ass then you should be fine in terms of blackmail.

A quick point though, Snapchat is better because the image disappears and you are notified if they screenshot it. Another quick point - don't use a pre-existing photo of you as that can be reverse image searched and could lead to your identity being discovered which is obviously critical info for anyone who IS trying to blackmail you. Take a fresh photo.

 

[MarieElise]

Yeah if you have a wife, you may not even want to send a clothed photo of yourself tbh. I don't think it's really that safe to send a clothed one ether, given you probably have an extensive chat history, and have likely told this person things about yourself. Even if you are not doing something sexual in the picture, you are chatting and met this person on an adult site. If someone were motivated to blackmail you for real, they can do a lot with a clothed photo and some context/ screenshotted chats alongside.

If you are single maybe not as much a risk, and not to think about. Married or in a relationship, whole other ball game.
Or ofcourse if you're a preacher/ politician who preaches against porn etc, again... not something I'd do.

 

[Vixxen81]

I have never asked for a photo of someone. Seems like an overreach. But, I do tell people they can send me photos of places they visit that I have never seen before. I wouldn't send it to her.

 

[tokensarentforkids]

maybe she just wants to see me because she thinks positively of me

If she was trained by a Colombian studio she is about to fall in love with you.

 

[rockin_rod]

NOT a model, just replying as I have been asked to send photos many times; only ever did so for 2 models though.
Doubt it's part of any master plan for blackmail.
It could be genuine curiosity/interest in your appearance.
It is also a fairly common tactic for studios to encourage models to make 'personal' connections to try and hook you more firmly through flattery.
(OMG, you look just like Chris Hemsworth, mmm makes me so hot, let's go pvt)

 

[Adihcam]

Another thought i just had is that all she has is my SC profile and our chats, both of which do not have much info on me, I've never given her a phone number or email address, the only bit of personal info she does know is that I live in Portland Oregon, but so do over 700,000 other people. If i give her a photo she has no way of knowing my email address or phone number or any other way of correlating it to me or my address; so I'm starting to this there isn't much she can do with it and there is really no harm in it.

 

[bamdicted]

If the request was made during a private she might want your picture just to have a visual of you to help her on her way. Women have the same need for visual stimuli as men do

 

[Vixxen81]

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If the request was made during a private she might want your picture just to have a visual of you to help her on her way. Women have the same need for visual stimuli as men do

We absolutely do not. Some women respond to/or need visual stimuli but it's pretty much well-known that women respond to emotional/auditory stimuli rather than visual. I have never once had a client where I was like "yes I want to actively watch this guy get off." My husband? I'll watch him jerk off until his dick falls off. Some rando on the internet? Nah.

Edit to add: Every woman I've ever had the porno preference convo with? We all like gay porn. Every single one of us. Guy on guy.

 

[Ich Bin]

Another thought i just had is that all she has is my SC profile and our chats, both of which do not have much info on me, I've never given her a phone number or email address, the only bit of personal info she does know is that I live in Portland Oregon, but so do over 700,000 other people. If i give her a photo she has no way of knowing my email address or phone number or any other way of correlating it to me or my address; so I'm starting to this there isn't much she can do with it and there is really no harm in it.

There's a saying I heard a long time ago but don't remember who to credit. Can be applicable to many aspects of life.
"Know what you are getting into and be comfortable with it."

You don't know what you're getting into and, it seems, you are not really comfortable with it.

Just another thought to consider.

 

[Marceline]

Every woman I've ever had the porno preference convo with? We all like gay porn. Every single one of us. Guy on guy.

Really? I’m basically straight, but on the rare occasions I do watch porn it’s soft core girl on girl, haha.

women respond to emotional/auditory stimuli rather than visual

But totally agree with this. I’d rather watch videos of my partner and I or be on the phone with him than anything else. Random penis doesn’t do anything for me.

 

[cbhours]

It's not a studio thing it's a common sense thing. Ask for a photo of a person, praise them.

 

[Ozzie_]

If she was trained by a Colombian studio she is about to fall in love with you.

Yes, because Colombians are the ONLY models who do love cons

 

[misterical]

If she was trained by a Colombian studio she is about to fall in love with you.

You know, this is a horrible misconception about latina studio models. They are no more likely to be running a love con than anyone else. In fact, if you read between the lines, most of the guys who come on here talking about being in love with models actually con themselves. They look for something that isn't there and inevitably convince themselves that it is there.

To my great shame, I have to admit to occassionally being guilty of taking these guys accounts at face value myself and suggesting that they were being set up. My view on that changed recently when I had some direct correspondence with a guy on here who posted about possibly being "conned" by a Colombian studio model. He was convinced that she'd taken him for a small fortune. When I actually calculated what she had received in her hand, based on Chaturbate's cut and the studio's cut, what she had "conned" him out of every month wouldn't have paid for the lowest level of Netflix subscription yet he was convinced she was love conning him. If she was, it was the longest of the long cons. In a years time she might just have managed to buy a new air fryer from his contribution.

 

[misterical]

The only thing I would warn about with dealing with studio models is there is a high chance that the model won't be the only one able to access any correspondence you have with her. So I'd suggest only sending things that you would have no problem with Jorge the monitor reading or seeing.

 

[Hiunds]

It's not a studio thing it's a common sense thing. Ask for a photo of a person, praise them.

Yep. I get asked for photos a lot if I am tipping a lot and/or have seen the same model a few times. Sometimes I send one (a photo I only use for this purpose so it can’t be reverse image searched)

The response is almost always “wow you are so handsome! I like your eyes! Your photo really turns me on” haha.

 

[Erika]

I asked a long term cust for a pic once, he turned on his cam and it shocked me bc i imagined him looking totally different vs his screen name. i probably would have gone more years not knowing if i didn't ask and it's nice to put a face with the name. yall build relationships with us and we want to see you. i bet she means no harm. can u turn on your webcam for her? as a model I encourage video chat, i love seeing u guys especially when the hands get busy and the chat slows, i see you are still there and paying attention.

 

[Maxi]

When I sent a photo of myself it was totally unsolicited and after about six months of being a reg with an independent model. It just felt a polite thing to do..?

I think it was me with a sea lion on a beach

 

[Miss_Lollipop]

Facial recognition technology is very good these days. I don’t want to scare anyone, but I want to say .. in recent years due to some shitty online harassment and blackmail - I have learned more about how to find people than I ever should have.

If you send me a photo or let me screenshot your webcam if you have a presence anywhere online, I bet I can find you.

Example: let’s say you got married years ago and you v didn’t post your wedding pics but your wedding photographer had one or two listed v on their portfolio. In that photo is one of your bridesmaids and a date/location.

I look for the bridesmaid w a face search and I’m able to find her v public Facebook and in her friends I find your wife.

I once had a member find my parents because I posted a clothed photo of me at a splash pad playground in my home country and he knew the color of the walls in my parents motel.

He went through all the splash pads in nz and then searched those towns for motels with this wall color. Found a pic of my mum and dad from the paper standing in front of their business and then found me.

This stuff is all if you’re hard to find, most people are stupid enough to geotag pics or have a pic of themselves on a linked in.

And these methods I mentioned are all available to the public - PI’s and law enforcement folks have access to even more.

Point being: don’t send a photo unless you are comfy with her knowing all your info, or you are incredibly certain you have no online presence AT ALL including in photos friends or others may have posted, the news etc.

 

[KingMarti]

what could she possibly do with a fully clothes photo of me that would damage me?

Short answer... a lot. long answer... it depends on how good you are at protecting your information online. Information is like a stray thread, as soon as you have a little, you can keep pulling on it to get more and more, from a photo of you, someone can get your name, from your name they can get your address, phone number, email address, date of birth along with other information that is required to pass security checks. From there, there is a whole bunch of stuff that can happen.

This is why there used to be a big thing about never using any real details when signing up for any site, it opens you up to a whole load of issues because you publicly give out way to much information. The whole convocation about over sharing personal information on the internet seems to have gone away when IMO it's more important now than it was 20 years ago due to the amount of people using the internet that dont understand just how accessible that information is or really understand what can be done with it. Same way people dont understand why you shouldn't post pics where your keys are visible (for those that dont know, you can clone a key from an image, yes it's a skill, but there are a fair amount of people that can do it, and im like 80% sure there's tutorials on youtube on how to do it.)

Is this likely to happen from sending a model your photo, no, but it is something that's possible.

 

[AussieCosplay]

So long as you also make sure to tell her what your first pets name was, your birthday, etc...should be fine.

Jokes aside, if you don't feel comfortable doing something, don't do it.

On the technical side, many online creators are very aware that posting photos online usually also posts the meta data which absolutely includes gps location in most cases.
That and anything you've said in conversation and you can be opening yourself up for identity theft or whatever else.

This is actually something that us models have to be aware of, not usually the viewers!

Now, that said, I personally give basically no shits as I'm very open about what I do and live in a city where all the geeks have about 0 degrees of seperation...I got caught camming by friends on literally my first stream.

TLDR: If you are hesitating, listen to your gut. She's not crying herself to sleep without your picture, and you don't owe her transparency.

 

[Smoothie]

Facial recognition technology is very good these days. I don’t want to scare anyone, but I want to say .. in recent years due to some shitty online harassment and blackmail - I have learned more about how to find people than I ever should have.

If you send me a photo or let me screenshot your webcam if you have a presence anywhere online, I bet I can find you.

Example: let’s say you got married years ago and you v didn’t post your wedding pics but your wedding photographer had one or two listed v on their portfolio. In that photo is one of your bridesmaids and a date/location.

I look for the bridesmaid w a face search and I’m able to find her v public Facebook and in her friends I find your wife.

I once had a member find my parents because I posted a clothed photo of me at a splash pad playground in my home country and he knew the color of the walls in my parents motel.

He went through all the splash pads in nz and then searched those towns for motels with this wall color. Found a pic of my mum and dad from the paper standing in front of their business and then found me.

This stuff is all if you’re hard to find, most people are stupid enough to geotag pics or have a pic of themselves on a linked in.

And these methods I mentioned are all available to the public - PI’s and law enforcement folks have access to even more.

Point being: don’t send a photo unless you are comfy with her knowing all your info, or you are incredibly certain you have no online presence AT ALL including in photos friends or others may have posted, the news etc.

This is a great example.

It’s a mistake to be like “well, I know I’m personally careful online, and I trust this one person who is asking for the photo.”

It’s not just about you and the other person trusting each other. You have to trust that everyone you know hasn’t left photos of you (or your loved ones who are easy to trace back to you) on public profiles. And you have to trust the people AROUND that other person, too. People you may not even know exist could have access to that person’s same network, same machine.

They might keep their passwords in an unsafe place and fall victim to a snoop with bad intentions. List goes on and on. It’s not enough that you and the other person both have good intentions.

Short answer... a lot. long answer... it depends on how good you are at protecting your information online. Information is like a stray thread, as soon as you have a little, you can keep pulling on it to get more and more, from a photo of you, someone can get your name, from your name they can get your address, phone number, email address, date of birth along with other information that is required to pass security checks. From there, there is a whole bunch of stuff that can happen.

This is why there used to be a big thing about never using any real details when signing up for any site, it opens you up to a whole load of issues because you publicly give out way to much information.

I go a step further from not using real personal details. I don’t reuse the same fake aliases anywhere.

 

[AudriTwo]

I hate to come across as paranoid, but you never know what the stranger on the other end's intent. If you personally are not feeling easy about sharing photos of yourself, dont. Cammodels are strangers with a sexy persona. Sure their intentions might be pure in the moment, but you never know what the future may lie.

Im too recommending dont have any public identifying information tied to any accounts with payment process for service/acess. Not just on porn sites.

 

[darcyduke]

I am always amazed that people send pics of themselves to cam girls, but there we go! I definitely wouldn't if the situation was reversed...

 

[glory1891]

I have a picture of myself as my profile picture everywhere. I don't feel like i need to hide anything or do anything to be ashamed about.
I understand some situations deserve more consideration and private treatment.
I don't really think that people want to see me but if they want, they can. Even just for a quick vibe scan, i don't mind.
It is a decision for yourself to make, what do you feel comfortable with.
My doofus opinion, you can't be blackmailed if you commit to it.
Maybe not my place to have an opinion on this, i don't know. I'm still looking around.