Relationship's And MFC

[apoe_lacks]

I posted this question to twitter and Amber RT'd it. But i really didn't get response so ill try here.

1) Users: How does your spouse/significant other feel about you spending time and more over money on MFC/Cam sites or on porn over all.

2) MFC/Cam models: How do you feel about users who used to tip you well but, no longer tip as much or at all and still hang around your rooms?

My Answers:

1) My wife know's I spend time on MFC and knows I Tip. She was a lot more supportive in the past then she is now. I think that she thinks money could be spent on more important things now. even tho she does lurk on my account sometimes.

2)Why I'm interested in an answer to this question. As stated I don't have the money I once had to spend on Models i once did. For me it came down to a choice. I could tip in rooms or Keep buying the content of the 2-3 models that I have been watching for sometime. I choice to keep buying their content and spending less time in there rooms. Mainly cause if i'm in room and not tipping i feel like a free loader.

thoughts and comments would be appreciated.

 

[THE MOLLIE MARIE]

As a performer, I would be fine with the member choosing to do either of the options you presented. At the end of the day, it's your money, spend it as you'd like. Spend what you feel comfortable with. I think most performers who have been around for a little bit realize that members come and go, things change, nothing lasts. But as long as the "menu" is there, pick what you'd like to have and place your order.

As long as the member isn't so entitled to think that their past spending dictates future perks and treatment, or that they can hold it over a performer's head to try and guilt them into giving more than they are willing to for the member's current spending, either works. No ordering off the menu... This is the main behavior performers dislike when it comes to a change in spending, not the change itself. Some members try to act like a performer owes them for what they've spent in the past, ignoring the fact that they have already received what they've paid for. As if it is a favor to pay for the services that we offer, and we should be ready to return that "favor." You seem to be very consciously trying not to freeload, so I don't think you'll have an issue with this.

 

[Mila_]

You sound like one of the good ones!

Personally, I am a human so if someone spends a lot of time in my room I develop good feelings for them, so if one of my beloved members couldn’t tip me as much anymore it wouldn’t be an issue, I would still be happy to see them although I would wonder if it was something I had done.

The things that would bother me in that scenario are:
1) You no longer tip me much, but I realise you are spending a lot on the site so you must be spending them in other rooms. This would disappoint me and I would probably stop giving you special treatment.
2) Like @THE MOLLIE MARIE said up there, you don’t tip but still expect special treatment or special perks. This would make me resent you and feel like you take me for granted, I would tell you off publicly and if you persist I would ban.
3) You make a huge show in my room about the reasons for you not tipping... apologizing profusely, telling sappy stories, lies and drama taking away from my show and making everyone focus on your problems instead of on having fun in the room. This would be unacceptable and you would get a permanent ban.

If you just interact normally without doing the above and maybe lower the interaction some to make space for tippers to chat, then I would love to continue to have you around.

 

[LadyVonPiper]

Hi! To answer your question: as long as they help keep my room active and fun, I'm personally always happy to have regulars in my room. No matter how much or little they tip. I care more about being supported, and support comes in many different forms. I often preach in my rooms and on social media that there are dozens of ways to help me for free. Effort goes a long way, and money doesn't equal effort.
I gave her 5 dollars, he gave her 50. But I only had 5 dollars, and he had a thousand.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

1) Users: How does your spouse/significant other feel about you spending time and more over money on MFC/Cam sites or on porn over all.

I'm currently single, so don't have to worry about what my SO feels about on this. When I was married, my wife went from being okay with porn to very much a prude over the years. She would publicly joke about innuendo, and similar things. But, when in private, she'd tear into me about even looking at someone as well as accuse me of only touching her for want of sex. As you can imagine, any intimacy dried up, and I was lucky if we had sex once or twice a year.[/quote]

1) My wife know's I spend time on MFC and knows I Tip. She was a lot more supportive in the past then she is now. I think that she thinks money could be spent on more important things now. even tho she does lurk on my account sometimes.

2)Why I'm interested in an answer to this question. As stated I don't have the money I once had to spend on Models i once did. For me it came down to a choice. I could tip in rooms or Keep buying the content of the 2-3 models that I have been watching for sometime. I choice to keep buying their content and spending less time in there rooms. Mainly cause if i'm in room and not tipping i feel like a free loader.

thoughts and comments would be appreciated.

Priorities change, and people do as well. Both Mollie and Mila gave some great info on how they view us members, and examples of our time online. I'm similar to you in that if I don't have the tokens to visit for a long time, I'll drop in say "Hi" and visit for a few minutes. Or, I'll do offline tips. I'm not much for content, so I'm happy to just tip. I've had models comment that they don't mind if I stay and visit, as they enjoy my being there. But, I tend to feel like a freeloader if I don't have the tokens to tip. I have really cut down on the list of models I visit too. Lack of time, significant reduction in income, and also general lack of interest in some of the models I used to visit are all contributing factors.

 

[Lelo1]

Your wife is right, if money is tight, You two need to work together, and do what's best for your family. If you can't, that might be a sign that you need help with an addiction.

I get what it's like to feel like your obligated to tip. Some people feel so obligated that they change their nick name just to get away from it. Or they start over with a new account. Most models are going to understand if you just tell them, and your chill about it. That or just take a complete break, cut it all off.

 

[Mila_]

When I was married, my wife went from being okay with porn to very much a prude over the years.

In the great words of Marilyn Monroe "Men grow cold as girls grow old" and a woman who was once okay with her SO watching porn because she felt sexy and didn't consider it a threat can start to resent it when she sees herself aging in the mirror and her husband's interest in having sex with her dwindles. If you want your wives and girlfriends to always be okay with porn, make sure you make them feel desired and attractive by initiating sex often.

 

[Gen]

My opinion on my partner tipping would depend on his/our financial situation. If he was often broke or not treating me often, but was tipping heaps to models, I wouldn’t be okay with it*. If our finances were intertwined and he was spending a lot, id wouldn’t be okay with it. “A lot” would be determined by our financial situation. My comfort level would also be dependent on our relationship - are we doing well in the sex department? Is he going to call me a prude or get defensive if I say I’m uncomfortable with his use of porn sites? If we were struggling and trying to work on improving our relationship (or worse, save it), and he wasn’t using that time to pull back on camgirls and put more effort into us, that’s a problem.

* by “not okay with it”, I mean: fill your boots, but I’m not gonna be here for it.

 

[JoleneBrody]

As a model, if you were my regular I would appreciate a little heads up (only once, never needs to be mentioned again) and for you to tip me while I’m live for the content you are buying. That way you are able to buy content and hang out without feeling guilty and I don’t have to feel like I lost a good chat friend. It encourages others to tip when they see you tip too, so extra bonus.

 

[Emberblaze]

As long as my partner wasn't spending in a way that was negatively affecting our finances or ignoring me for porn I wouldn't mind. I'd be so happy he was paying for his porn to be honest.

I can have a slight jealous streak but it would only be if I felt like I was being left out of the loop. If my partner comes to me and is like "look at this hot/funny/entertaining cam model I'm going to be fine and not find myself comparing myself to her or anything (because people can have all different "types" and one person can't be all of those) But if it was something he tried to hide from me I'd probably be upset. Unless it turned out that the model fulfilled some type of fetish they were afraid to share with me or just didn't want to partake in with me. (For example I find cuckolding roleplay hot. But I have ZERO desire to cuck my boyfriend or even touch another man. It's just something I like to fantasize about in an alternate universe where I'm not me and he isn't my boyfriend)

As far as members not being able to spend as much my thoughts basically echo what has already been said.

 

[apoe_lacks]

Your wife is right, if money is tight, You two need to work together, and do what's best for your family. If you can't, that might be a sign that you need help with an addiction.

Sorry the Addiction thing made me LOL. These questions really are not about me or my wife its more about the other people. My wife and I where talking about it with some friends a few weeks a back and where taken back that my wife is so open minded about porn and my friends wife thought it was wrong to even look at porn once you are married let alone spend money on it. Plus since I know for a fact her husband is on MFC and has spent money on there. He just keeps it from her. so that's why I wanted to know if other couples where the same way or open about it like me and my wife.

 

[Lelo1]

oh ha ha, good luck with that, they can't even find men who don't look at porn anymore.
Porn study had to be scrapped after researchers failed to find ANY 20-something males who hadn’t watched it

 

[AudriTwo]

2) MFC/Cam models: How do you feel about users who used to tip you well but, no longer tip as much or at all and still hang around your rooms?

Annoyed if not at all. Just tip me a few bucks if I'm providing you any entertainment. I'm on the mindset spend what you can afford and want.

 

[apoe_lacks]

oh ha ha, good luck with that, they can't even find men who don't look at porn anymore.
Porn study had to be scrapped after researchers failed to find ANY 20-something males who hadn’t watched it

Yeah but how many of them keep it from their wives/GF is my point.

 

[SaffronBurke]

Sorry the Addiction thing made me LOL. These questions really are not about me or my wife its more about the other people. My wife and I where talking about it with some friends a few weeks a back and where taken back that my wife is so open minded about porn and my friends wife thought it was wrong to even look at porn once you are married let alone spend money on it. Plus since I know for a fact her husband is on MFC and has spent money on there. He just keeps it from her. so that's why I wanted to know if other couples where the same way or open about it like me and my wife.

A bunch of coworkers at an office job were discussing porn watching one day, one said she doesn't like her man watching porn because "what do they have that I don't", which seems to be sort of a common thing in society, and leads to men hiding their porn consumption.

Personally, I find masturbation and sex to be two different things that serve two different purposes - sometimes you want me-time, sometimes you want us-time. I watch too much porn myself to EVER judge a partner for watching too much, and am the kind of person to find some porn that my partner and I both enjoy to get things started to now and then. I find open communication and honesty to be extremely important, so as long as they're not breaking the bank on their porn habit I really wouldn't care.

 

[Mila_]

Yeah but how many of them keep it from their wives/GF is my point.

I would assume many as tons of women are not okay with their husbands watching porn and even those who are would probably consider camgirls different from porn as you are interacting with another person. Especially if you do private shows, that is potentially much more problematic than watching a clip.

 

[Gen]

Also wanna add, you’re gonna get very different answers from camgirls and dudes who sign up to camgirls forums than the general public. I’d say my opinions are conservative on ACF and liberal irl. My hunch is that the average woman knows/assumes her partner watches porn but doesn’t know the details of the amount or variety that he likes.

 

[Deleted member 37064]

In the great words of Marilyn Monroe "Men grow cold as girls grow old" and a woman who was once okay with her SO watching porn because she felt sexy and didn't consider it a threat can start to resent it when she sees herself aging in the mirror and her husband's interest in having sex with her dwindles. If you want your wives and girlfriends to always be okay with porn, make sure you make them feel desired and attractive by initiating sex often.

There were a lot of issues that I won't get into. But, it was never an issue from me in terms of wanting to be intimate with her.