Would you date a cam girl?

[Kassie_Lynn]

Well, my husband and I were dating back when I started it.
I brought up my interested in doing it one day, and he just came towards it with a neutral mood and I explained how it would work to him (I was in a studio back then, so it'd be like me going to work and then coming home).
He knew the monetary potential, plus the work was relatively easy on me, so he actually didn't mind at all. He was thrilled if anything that I'd be doing something that makes me happy while making money doing it.
He has never said one negative thing about it.

Now we're married, and he knows I'll always be going home to him.
My camming is my job, nothing more. It's a nice environment with social opportunities, but my husband will always be my husband and the man I lay in bed wih every night, period.
And I think it's never bothered him before because he knows I love him and only him.

 

[Kassie_Lynn]

Now, if I wasn't married, yes I wouldn't mind dating a cam girl.
In fact, I enjoy camming-related things with my husband. I'd enjoy the same with my girlfriend I'm sure.
It would be nice imo because we both would cam, so we'd both understand the job and the lifestyle as well.

 

[UniCornX]

Yes of course I would date a cam girl. There is nothing wrong with that kind of lifestyle. For me it is the person that counts, not what one is doing to have a life. Anything except something illegal or kind of crap to make money, but that´s not the topic.

 

[Ambers Troll]

I don't see why not... for myself I see pluses and minuses in dating a cam girl.

One definite personal plus includes someone who understands the physical pain I often go through, working wet (including sensitive regions), back pain, the discomfort of being stuck in repetitive positions and actions. One definite minus is knowing her day may lead to serious irregularities in intimacy and sexual drive, that may throw me.
A big minus would be to be assessed on my behaviour as a member would be. A big plus would be knowing that she chooses me over all those others who desire her.
Minus, living with models (day to day) seems difficult, most of you seem so messy, busy, or too distracted for much extra from camming. Plus, 'sleeping' with models I have met must be amazing.
The so called 'easy money' a model earns must be both a plus and minus. I have no idea on how you integrate this, do you really want to sleep in a bed (no matter how good/ luxurious) paid for in others fantasies of your partner?

For myself in years of camming, meeting 100's of models can honestly say, I have only been tempted to date or even only meet a very few models... in each case logistically impossible. To answer the question, should I find myself dating a model some day, I wouldn't mind too much, there is enough to share to make a relationship with the right woman.

 

[DoeEyed]

Excellent topic. I thought about doing camming as soon as I turned eighteen, but was in a long term relationship at the time and knew the jealousy would be too much of a problem for us. That being said, I'm sure there are plenty of partner sets out there that could make it work.

I've got a dear friend who originally was going to go into camming with me when I started a couple weeks ago, but it didn't end up being something she wanted to continue. ( More power to her, I'm glad she knows her own limits ) but I think another deciding factor was that she does have a serious partner right now and, although he said he was alright with it, I think it made both of them a little uncomfortable. Although she was open with him and he knew how it worked, she was constantly nervous he'd pop into one of her shows and get jealous that she was flirting with someone else. All the while he swore up and down he didn't mind because he understood it was just work, but he was still incredibly relieved when she said she probably wasn't going to pursue it as a career.

Moral of the story: I'm confident that some people out there can definitely make it work! I just hope one day I'll be a part of one of those relationships. :whistle:

 

[Paul_T]

Would you personally date a camgirl?

As a generality, yes. I have no problem with the job that cam models do. And specifically yes, there's one in particular that I would love to date, and I hope to god she doesn't find and read this post.

What do you see that's good or so bad about it?

I feel like it's a stupid thing to worry about right now, but sometimes I wonder what I would do about being on the cam site if I were dating her. I've seen people -- both big tippers and small -- that have been quite open about having a crush on her, and I know she's sensitive about her room getting the wrong idea about the site members that she hangs out with in person. She doesn't want everyone to think she's dating them and I guess that's a very quick and common assumption that people make, and some of them get ugly about it. I'd be worried that my presence in chat while in a relationship with the model would be disruptive because of that, and I would stop watching her cam to avoid that if I had to. Yet I really enjoy being there. It's not a small thing to me to miss that.

I don't know. I can understand the objections people would have to the model doing her thing while they were dating, but on the flip side just because you don't have any moral problems with what the model does (and this one does very little in that regard anyway) it doesn't mean there wouldn't be challenges besides what you find acceptable about what they do and who they are.

It's never simple, is it? Relationships are hard enough as it is, it seems like dating a cam model is just asking for trouble when the feelings get real. I hope anyone who tries understands there's probably going to be challenges, and they go in with their eyes open. Be respectfully upfront about what the model does (or might do in the future), don't save those conversations for later.

As for me... I'm hopeful I'll get the chance to ask her out sometime this year. If she says yes I'm going to shit my pants.

I hope she's understanding.

 

[eyeteach]

So I do notice that many guys love us and are so kind to us while we're on cam, but in real life guys are not so accepting when it comes to dating or being with someone that cams my bf hates its!

So my question to you all (cammers and non camera)
Would you personally date a camgirl?
Why or why not ?
What do you see that's good or so bad about it?

If she agrees to it and we have common interests then yes, I'd date a cam girl.
Why not? Shouldn't she experience me at least once in her life? (HEAVY sarcasm)
Good: Obviously she has great taste in guys :thumbleft: Hopefully she's doing well in her cam work so she has her own money and wouldn't be beholden to me.
Bad: Living in the Bible Belt, well, you can obviously guess the bad; plus, I would be worried about stalkers.

 

[Albert_1]

Would you personally date a camgirl?

Absolutely.

Why or why not ?

I'm very open mined and laid back. I can't think of any aspects of the job that bother me, hell under different circumstances I could see myself trying to earn a living camming.

What do you see that's good or so bad about it?

The only potentially problematic thing for me would be explaining it to my crazy family.

 

[Shaun__]

A better question would be would a cam girl date me, and do you have her phone number. In all seriousness my frequent seven day work weeks, and occasional extra long shifts make me much more of a questionable quality date, than someone who entertains professionally while naked on the internet.

 

[kinkyxcrystal]

I would definitely date a camgirl I think it would be neat to have someone I can talk to about camming who really understands. We could even do sexy g/g shows together which could be an awesome way to spend time together while also bringing in the $$$. It might suck if we're both working long hours but that can be said for any job. At least with camming you dont have a commute to work and you can take days off as you please.

 

[Cassidy Nicole]

No. Them bitches be crazy.

 

[Snowie1969]

We could turn the question around and ask: Camgirls, would you date a customer?

Would I date a camgirl? I do not know! It would depend on a lot of things. Do I know in advance she's a camgirl? Or do I find out after having been in a relation for months or longer that she has been a camgirl all the time?

Over the years I have come to meet, and say goodbye to, a lot of wonderful ladies, and I know I would not have minded if some of them would have ended up being my partner!

 

[LexieBlair]

Well, my husband and I were dating back when I started it.
I brought up my interested in doing it one day, and he just came towards it with a neutral mood and I explained how it would work to him (I was in a studio back then, so it'd be like me going to work and then coming home).
He knew the monetary potential, plus the work was relatively easy on me, so he actually didn't mind at all. He was thrilled if anything that I'd be doing something that makes me happy while making money doing it.
He has never said one negative thing about it.

Now we're married, and he knows I'll always be going home to him.
My camming is my job, nothing more. It's a nice environment with social opportunities, but my husband will always be my husband and the man I lay in bed wih every night, period.
And I think it's never bothered him before because he knows I love him and only him.

That's great that your hubby is so supportive. Mine is also very supportive.

 

[Sevrin]

We could turn the question around and ask: Camgirls, would you date a customer? !

I don't think that's a fair question to ask in a public forum. After all, cam models are simply people making a living at their jobs. Cam site members, especially frequent visitors, are people who use cam sites as a primary means of socializing with members of the gender they are attracted to. What brings members to cam sites says a lot more about our ability to form successful relationships than what brings models to work there.

 

[zippypinhead]

We could turn the question around and ask: Camgirls, would you date a customer? !

I don't think that's a fair question to ask in a public forum. After all, cam models are simply people making a living at their jobs. Cam site members, especially frequent visitors, are people who use cam sites as a primary means of socializing with members of the gender they are attracted to. What brings members to cam sites says a lot more about our ability to form successful relationships than what brings models to work there.

My answer to the question, "would you date a cam girl?" is more along the lines of, "I wouldn't date anyone." So, while my first reaction was to disagree, in reality, as far as for myself, I know that I visit camland as a bit of a surrogate for attention I don't really wish to seek offline, and your assessment rings true to me. I still like chatting with pretty girls, and I still like seeing them naked, but I'm not all that into the idea of relationships in general, and cam girls are really the perfect middle ground for me.

 

[mutantdonut]

I had this convo with a friend (a fellow mfc user) deriving from the same question, but in a two-pronged scenario.

Question A: would you date a known camgirl (both started dating when the girl was already into camming and guy was already aware of it)
Both our answers were yes

Question B. would you date a girl who wants to start camming? (girl was not into camming yet when both started dating, but she eventually decides to pursue it).
My answer was still yes, but his answer was something along the lines of "i don't think i'm comfortable with that"


With the first question, there's already an acceptance to CamgirlJane's profession given that she's was a cam girl at the start of the relationship, which is why my friend is willing to date a cam girl in that scenario.

However, the second question had a different feel to why my friend is hesitant. His thoughts were something like, "I exclusively experience my gf's sexuality before her interest in camming, and i wouldn't be comfortable with her sharing it with the general public."

Interesting how the two questions played out.

 

[RogueWarrior]

Would you personally date a camgirl?

To answer that question specifically: Yes.

However, if we delve deeper into my answer, hypocrisy may reveal it's ugly head.

Date? Definitely. Serious long-term commitment? It's gets kinda fuzzy.

I don't really know that I could give a real answer about that unless I'd been in the situation.

So, any of you ladies want to start dating so I can figure it out? For research purposes only, of course.

 

[Zoomer]

Hmm, some predicates:

I'd date a woman.
Cam girls are women.

So, deductive reasoning... what do you think the answer would be?

Honestly, I'd be dating the person not their career. So unsure why it's a question

 

[Nordling]

To expand on RogueWarrior a bit, yeah, what does the OP mean by "date?"

"would you go on a date with a cam model?" (possibly a single event)

"Would you date a cam model?" (can mean "dating," like committed or semi-committed relationship)

To meet someone you like or admire for a drink or coffee is certainly no big deal.

To commit to someone for an unknown length of time, it would depend on a lot of factors, none of which include her job.

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Hmm, some predicates:

I'd date a woman.
Cam girls are women.

So, deductive reasoning... what do you think the answer would be?

Honestly, I'd be dating the person not their career. So unsure why it's a question

I don't think it is nearly that easy to separate a person from their career. I won't date a drug dealer or a con artist (knowingly at least ). I know guys who wouldn't date a lawyer and some that wouldn't date stripper. I know woman that won't date an investment banker (vampire squid wrapped around the face of humanity, relentlessly jamming its blood funnel into anything that smells like money) and some that won't date somebody in the military and other that won't date an artist. For the most part this was based on personal experience by the people, except for the investment banker that was principal.

So I think it is perfectly reasonable question.

I think my answer is similar to mutantdonut friend, if they were camming before I met them no problem, if they started afterword I'd be uncomfortable.

 

[Zoomer]

Hmm, some predicates:

I'd date a woman.
Cam girls are women.

So, deductive reasoning... what do you think the answer would be?

Honestly, I'd be dating the person not their career. So unsure why it's a question

I don't think it is nearly that easy to separate a person from their career. I won't date a drug dealer or a con artist (knowingly at least ). I know guys who wouldn't date a lawyer and some that wouldn't date stripper. I know woman that won't date an investment banker (vampire squid wrapped around the face of humanity, relentlessly jamming its blood funnel into anything that smells like money) and some that won't date somebody in the military and other that won't date an artist. For the most part this was based on personal experience by the people, except for the investment banker that was principal.

So I think it is perfectly reasonable question.

I think my answer is similar to mutantdonut friend, if they were camming before I met them no problem, if they started afterword I'd be uncomfortable.

Neither drug dealer or con artist are "careers".

Choices around not dating people you've listed are nothing to do with the person and everything to do with the career and your friends preconceived notions. It sounds like they're tarnishing an entire profession from the experience of one person (or two). That individual could be a statistical anomaly. The bad experience in dating that person is because of the person - not their job (although I'd grant a soldier could be deployed away from home for months at a time - which is possibly not acceptable for a family life for some?).

Either that, or they've simply generated a negative view of an entire profession and decided that people are their profession. But people are individuals... we all differ.

So yes, I can separate an individual from their job. It's the personality and behaviour of the individual i'd be going on...

 

[jujoji]

...

So my question to you all (cammers and non camera)
Would you personally date a camgirl?
Why or why not ?
What do you see that's good or so bad about it?

Since there are at least two cam models that I would date? Yes, I would date a cam model.

These two in specific, I love their minds, we share similar passions; there is some age difference, so I would worry about that.

The good would be a cam model has her own income, her own sense of self-sufficiency. A woman who doesn't need to date me, but still chooses to, that's pretty flattering. By no means would this be the only good thing; just after barely two hours of sleep this is one that comes to me.

The bad? A worry about her forming an emotional bond with someone else. I know that physically she could turn off the camera and be with me; but I'd be insecure about the emotions. Admittedly this is one that I hate when it happens to one of my model friends; but it would still naw at me. I would just hope to be a better person than my fears and worries.

Also, free time to be with her. Many models seem to have little free time, always working the hours I'm free. It's a job, yes.

 

[curvyredhead]

Yes

and i have.

 

[mutantdonut]

Hmm, some predicates:

I'd date a woman.
Cam girls are women.

So, deductive reasoning... what do you think the answer would be?

Honestly, I'd be dating the person not their career. So unsure why it's a question

I don't think it is nearly that easy to separate a person from their career. I won't date a drug dealer or a con artist (knowingly at least ). I know guys who wouldn't date a lawyer and some that wouldn't date stripper. I know woman that won't date an investment banker (vampire squid wrapped around the face of humanity, relentlessly jamming its blood funnel into anything that smells like money) and some that won't date somebody in the military and other that won't date an artist. For the most part this was based on personal experience by the people, except for the investment banker that was principal.

So I think it is perfectly reasonable question.

I think my answer is similar to mutantdonut friend, if they were camming before I met them no problem, if they started afterword I'd be uncomfortable.

Neither drug dealer or con artist are "careers".

Choices around not dating people you've listed are nothing to do with the person and everything to do with the career and your friends preconceived notions. It sounds like they're tarnishing an entire profession from the experience of one person (or two). That individual could be a statistical anomaly. The bad experience in dating that person is because of the person - not their job (although I'd grant a soldier could be deployed away from home for months at a time - which is possibly not acceptable for a family life for some?).

Either that, or they've simply generated a negative view of an entire profession and decided that people are their profession. But people are individuals... we all differ.

So yes, I can separate an individual from their job. It's the personality and behaviour of the individual i'd be going on...

Shit. I'm way late on this response. I saved this response in my drafts so i can marinate the thought a little more, then completely forgot about it. Fuck it i'll post it anyways.

I understand what you're getting at Zoomer. Yes, how a job affects identity perception is its own issue, but i think there's another issue overlooked here.

I'm guessing the OP asked the original question since cam modeling is an extraordinary job, potentially affecting relationships in ways unlike most other professions, especially when the woman wants to cam while the dude may not be comfortable with the idea, thus profession contradicts with relationship. Not every guy is open to their S/O sharing her sexuality to the public, because it's commonly private between the two partners. And therein lies the potential complication. That's why the question might not be as easy for others to answer as it was for you.

Let me challenge you with this question: What if your gf/wife aspires to become a porn star? Would you be comfortable with your S/O having hundreds of sexual partners as a means for earning a wage?
Your answer might still be yes, but what percentage of guys would also support this idea of their partner?

I'm not saying it's right, but it's the way it is.

 

[Todds45]

I haven't actually dated but I have hooked up with one. I like my models curvy, this one in particular is quite zuftig but is major confident. She is a student in Northern California. Very money hungry. I made the offer of 15000 tokens for an offline get together, and it was like throwing meat at a tiger. She was DTF. I would do it again. Might find one not as money hungry or as needy.

 

[Alexandra Cole]

I haven't actually dated but I have hooked up with one. I like my models curvy, this one in particular is quite zuftig but is major confident. She is a student in Northern California. Very money hungry. I made the offer of 15000 tokens for an offline get together, and it was like throwing meat at a tiger. She was DTF. I would do it again. Might find one not as money hungry or as needy.

I think you should send her another 15k with an apology for being the sort of insecure boychild that would write a post like this one.

 

[PunkInDrublic]

I haven't actually dated but I have paid one to fuck me and I am somehow not embarrassed by this and quite proud

Neat

 

[FoxyBea]

I probably wouldn't date a cam girl while I am also a cam girl. A lot of people are saying that would be convenient but I disagree. Yes, I'd have someone who would really understand my work complaints and know for sure they don't have secret issues with what I do, but I couldn't get serious and live with another cam girl. Yeah, having a live-in G/G show partner would be awesome, but I feel like in all other areas it could become difficult unless we had a ton of expendable living space. I'm moving into a dorm with my best friend in the Fall, and she's also a cam girl, and I am dreading it.

As a retired cam girl, though, I'd date one.

EDIT for this response:

Camgirls, would you date a customer?

Nope. If I met someone outside of the site and they happened to be a member, I wouldn't care. My current S.O. is an MFC member, though he only discovered it after I started working there. BUT, I would not date a member that is specifically my customer. Though I occasionally experience genuine joy from the company of some regulars while I'm not working, it would take a lot for a customer to get enough of my personal attention for it to even cross my mind that I may be attracted to them, and then even more for me to consider meeting them.

ANOTHER EDIT (sorry): I feel like any customer of mine who actually respects my job wouldn't know how to go about pursuing me, and rightfully so. I have no patience for the "I'm not gonna tip you because I want to know you as more than a cam model" fuckers. Like, what are you doing here, buddy?

 

[DeadCamzzz]

I feel like any customer of mine who actually respects my job wouldn't know how to go about pursuing me, and rightfully so.

I'm not really sure what you mean by this. If genuine relationships happen between models and members I'd bet that the model initiates it if she likes the member. But as far as knowing how to pursue? Considering that starting off it's an online-only interaction that the model has control over I have no idea what you mean. If you mean you don't let them get that far emotionally, that makes sense.

Are you talking about guys attempting to date you in real life without telling you that they know you from a porn site already? That's a whole level of creepy I haven't really heard of happening from any models i know.

 

[Kokoro]

I've had people date me in the past that were drawn in by me being a camgirl and model initially, find out that it's not all that great, and then try to get me to stop. It doesn't work like that, dude. If all you wanted was arm candy it has its price.