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Hey ACF Fam! I have a question that has been on my mind for a few weeks and would love to get some insight and opinions. I am a new model on SM and have been camming for going on a month. I love camming and feel like SM was the perfect site for me to start on, but one thing I’ve noticed is the alarming rate of raceplay requests that I receive during my shifts. Let me start by saying that I am very aware I fulfill a very specific niche for my clients; I am black, petite, tattooed/pierced, wear my natural hair, etc. I’m not sure if it’s the site’s demographics but a majority of my clients are Caucasian males, both young & old. Even when I post that I don’t engage in race play I still have clients that will ask and I can’t help but to feel some type of way. For me it’s a self-respect thing. I want clients that like me for me, not ones that want to degrade and objectify me in order to fulfill their twisted white supremacy fantasy. While I have no issue rejecting the requests (and most people are very polite when I tell them no) I am aware that I could be making more money if I accepted these requests.

I guess my question is ladies, what are your thoughts on race play and how have you handled requests in the past? Also if anyone is brave enough, I’d love to hear about the motivations when requesting raceplay and how it shapes your opinion of the model. I understand that it’s typically WOC that deal with this but all opinions and responses are welcome!
 
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I get requests to humiliate people of different races, and I just can't. I can do plenty of types of humiliation, but that one I absolutely can't bring myself to do.
 
I don't do humiliation raceplay, no mater the race. My raceplay shows are pretty timid. If I'm ever uncomfortable during a show, I will stop. I do however require c2c for any raceplay. And they must tell me exactly what they want. if they want me to say specific things, they must tell me. The person must be the race they are having me focus on. I have had too many flat out racist requests. Had to end shows or reject because I have had suspicions the person was pretending to be a specific race when they sound like a white racist boomer.
 
I guess my question is ladies, what are your thoughts on race play and how have you handled requests in the past? Also if anyone is brave enough, I’d love to hear about the motivations when requesting raceplay and how it shapes your opinion of the model. I understand that it’s typically WOC that deal with this but all opinions and responses are welcome!

I refuse to do it, even if it's the guy wanting ME to degrade HIM. I'm not comfortable with it, and I think that if something makes you that uncomfortable, it's not worth it to do it (even if you could use the money). There are plenty of other guys who will spend on you to do things you are comfortable with. I also know that there are some fucked up people out there who'd probably record the session with you, and then post it somewhere online with the caption "Crazy Black bitch goes on a racist rant." Now you've got an audience of people thinking you hate White people. Lol.

Yes, I agree that guys are usually polite when you turn down their race play requests. I can only think of one time where a guy went off on me for refusing.
 
I refuse to do it, even if it's the guy wanting ME to degrade HIM. I'm not comfortable with it, and I think that if something makes you that uncomfortable, it's not worth it to do it (even if you could use the money). There are plenty of other guys who will spend on you to do things you are comfortable with. I also know that there are some fucked up people out there who'd probably record the session with you, and then post it somewhere online with the caption "Crazy Black bitch goes on a racist rant." Now you've got an audience of people thinking you hate White people. Lol.

Yes, I agree that guys are usually polite when you turn down their race play requests. I can only think of one time where a guy went off on me for refusing.
That's why I'm too nervous to take raceplay requests! I'm always worried someone will record it and post it online out of context. I don't necessarily think raceplay is always problematic (though it very very very much depends on the circumstances and who's asking) but I'm not comfortable with there being footage of me engaging in it potentially floating around.
 
I wrote a reply, but just realized this is in the public section. If you’d like to ask in the MO section, I will gladly tell my story. :)
 
I wrote a reply, but just realized this is in the public section. If you’d like to ask in the MO section, I will gladly tell my story. :)
I originally wanted to post it in the MO section but I’m not verified yet 😕 I plan to re-post in MO once I have access to it.
 
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When I get race play requests, I either flat-out say no or ask them to go into more detail on what they want me to say. There's some guys who ask for race play that just want you to play into their interracial fetish, which in my opinion, is harmless as long as they don't plan on anything disrespectful being said during the show.
If you don't feel comfortable doing race play, set your boundaries & stick to them! I promise there will be men who respect that, and it'll save your mental health in the long run.
 
You cannot escape objectification as a sexworker, sadly.. It doesn't matter whether it's raceplay or not. Be firm with boundaries if you are set on not doing it. Some guys get a power trip from getting people to do things they do not regularly do with bribes.
I only do mild raceplay for custom video buyers, but only because many request I talk down on my own race. It's very mild, though, since I just really want the $ for the custom and I'll only say maybe 3-5 short phrases. Personally, I really don't like degrading or idolizing people for their skin color. I've even denied doing uncircumsized penis shaming because it just.. is dumb to me. A lot of guys say they are asian and want me to shame them while appraising a "white cock", and highkey, I'm pretty sure it's mostly white guys pretending they're asian to get those videos from me, lol.

It's 100% okay to say no once and tell them that is their only warning, and to ban/block if they cannot respect that.
 
I get a looot of requests on NiteFlirt for cuckolding/BBC roleplays and... it makes me very uncomfortable. One guy outright made a “character” that I’m cucking him with, who is a hot BBC guy named Tyrone. (His words, not mine) I was so shocked and uncomfortable that I just stopped responding to the chat. I’m not making $.46 per text to engage in anything that makes me uncomfortable, and it never EVER will be racist bs. Fetishizing/sexualizing a race is nastyyyy.
 
I get a looot of requests on NiteFlirt for cuckolding/BBC roleplays and... it makes me very uncomfortable. One guy outright made a “character” that I’m cucking him with, who is a hot BBC guy named Tyrone. (His words, not mine).

Yeah, that was probably a White guy. LOL. "Tyrone" has become the go-to name that White guys use when they're making a dig at Black guys (not that I'm saying this particular guy is doing that).
 
What does that even mean? Making fun of other races? Worshipping other races?

Bit of both! It's anything where race is a factor, based on stereotypes. Typically, I get white guys who have a cuck fetish and like imagining their wives sleep with black guys. I'll do that, I find it harmless enough, just kind of corny.
 
I am very sensitive at race play at any type. BAn instantelly
I am very sensitive at " i have a big black cock bb" especially in open public chat because its always destinated to make the others feel crappy. BAN instantelly
I am sensitive at any rasist crap like religion , nationality , skinn colour, body aspects and so on. BAN instantelly.
We are all human beings and beautifull.
I understand that many have this fantasy to fuck other nationality , or skinn colours or whatever but damm why the fuck they have to expose it also in such a nasty way and evidence it like they are better or superior.
I mean you wanna get your cock drained off ok buddy but do not point it out that you get your cock turned on and drained throwing to me shit like:

Examples :

mmmm i would fuck your cheese swiss ass until turns black

mmmm mmm i will break your white cunt with my indian cock

did you ever have an egiptyan cock

mmm its my white big cock bigger than a nigga one

mm sure that cunt had a lot of nigga cocks ( white cocks)

yeah bb i wanna fuck your pussy and breed you to make beautifull black kids because white kids are ugly as fuck

ahh i would fuck your nazi white shitty ass so bad

you cheesy white shitty skinn

are you muslim? i would fuck a muslim cunt until bleed( i am not muslim by the way)

do you have kids



AND so on the examples can continue

So i block everyone and everybody that i spot it right away they may ingage in any kind of race , cultural, political, religiously.

I got alrergic lately at theose who ask where i am from, like i mean why the fuck you care , i am here you see you stroke your damm cock so what does even matter where i am from wtf.
 
I was grossed out and scared of raceplay requests at first, but if that's what turns the guy on, and it's in an exclusive show, then i'll do it. I will not do it if there's a chance of other viewers being present. Apparently my size and skintone attract a lot of thsoe requests too and I just roll with it now.
 
Racial fetishization is a hugeeeeee fetish.

I’m Asian, & female, so unfortunately, I’ve been racially fetishized in a sexual way, my ENTIRE life.

When I got into sex work, I started profiting off of it. & then after a few years, I got smarter, & starting making a LOT more money off of it.

There’s so many people who racially fetishize certain races. I believe there is a difference between preference & fetishization though.

What does that even mean? Making fun of other races? Worshipping other races?
 
I also know that there are some fucked up people out there who'd probably record the session with you, and then post it somewhere online with the caption "Crazy Black bitch goes on a racist rant." Now you've got an audience of people thinking you hate White people. Lol.
I was grossed out and scared of raceplay requests at first, but if that's what turns the guy on, and it's in an exclusive show, then i'll do it. I will not do it if there's a chance of other viewers being present. Apparently my size and skintone attract a lot of thsoe requests too and I just roll with it now.

I have only had one guy (one of my best regulars on SM) ask me to do raceplay and with c2c he was brown, so I decided if he wanted me to degrade him that way, it was ok. I gotta admit I was little nervous at first because I live in the racist South and know people personally who are quite racist. However, I only use phrasing he tells me to use at any time, he's never asked me to worship in any way a white/asian/any other race cock - only degrade him a bit - and he keeps the Exclusive going for quite some time. If it started becoming something like "I'd never let your nasty n dick touch my pristine white body," or some shit I'd have to draw the line, because that's too far for me. I'm pretty much ok with raceplay on the whole though, except for straight up mean requests.

On the other hand, someone recording it makes me very nervous since the internet is pretty notorious for not holding back. :bag:
 
I hate it. It's my least favorite aspect of putting myself out there, because I know it's inevitable. They'll specifically request slave/slave master roleplay which completely lacks creativity. I have a troll who keeps making new accounts to antagonize me about it. They have claimed that all the black girls do it and secretly want it and that I also could be making more money. Where? Whom? I see non-poc models and black men promoting the racial humiliation dynamic but I don't know of any black cam-models who make it their premium menu item in the submissive role. I'd also be curious to see the motivation behind the kink and how the historical oppression of an entire population of people is sexy...
 
I've never gone into hardcore raceplay using the n-word and such but have several 'bbc' videos. I won't lie--they sell SO well.. I've phased out my bbc toy on cam because not only was it starting to get physically uncomfortable a lot of the dudes were really pushing it in terms of "mmm yes bb...you like that bbc huh? like an animal cock...like a horse bb" and white dudes wanting me to be 'wrecked' by a black cock etc. There is SO much fetishization in porn-hell, I play into it as a latina & profit off of it myself but that is my choice. I've decided from here on out that even when I do film with the black dildo not to heavily market/tag it as 'bbc/interracial' because I think it's just kinda dumb--whatever roleplay I'm doing or kink I'm doing that should be the focus--not whether or not I'm fucking a poc. I don't view black men as a 'kink' or taboo in any way at all. In this industry white is the default and if you're black/asian/latina etc you're viewed as a fetish and a kink and members think you're sooo exotic and give you weird descriptive words/stereotypes--its icky. We draw our lines where we want them to be and our limits can change over time. For example: I'm still fine with humiliating white guys who pay me to tell them they can't handle my mexican big ass though lol.
 
My only advice:

*If it makes you feel bad but you need the money, do it in a way that you profit off your pain and feel really good about your work ethic when you cuddle all those paid bills at night (read this as UPCHARGE!!!!!!!). Sometimes we end up in desperate situations or paying the bills in ways we don't like. If that's your case, take control of your situation and make it work so that you do not do anything you find shameful or so that your bills are paid well enough that you can confidently stand tall and say "yo I didn't like this, but it put food on the table and that I do like. I did what needed doing."

*If it makes you feel bad but you don't need the money, find a way to enjoy tearing those mother fuckers apart.

*If it makes you feel bad but you don't want to lose customers, find a clever way to reject those asking or ways you can engage in this fetish without participating in the parts that make you feel uncomfortable.

*If it makes you feel bad and you do care about losing customers, quietly ban and move on.

*If it doesn't make you feel bad but you derive joy from destroying what are most likely racist assholes, block, ban, emasculate with abandon. Bite those fuckers heads off.

This generally applies to any fetish, but certain niches can really get us pigeonholed into a rock and a hard place morally. There's no easy answer for this, but my bottom line has always been survive, thrive, then deny what I can afford to. Only you can make the best decision for you in this instance, but ultimately do what you can live with for the rest of your life because these fleeting boners won't stick around, but your guilt and conscience will always be with you. Personally, my shame only lasts for as long as my stomach is growling. That's how I cope with some of the not so savory requests that I've had to accept in the past to do what I needed to survive.

My ultimate determining factor in questionable fetishes is weighing the taboo nature of their kinks versus what I would do if it were my fetish. My personal fetishes heavily involve shame, pain, and degradation. If their kink involves that happening to them, I'm ok with it because it's literally only hurting that person. If their kink does not involve them receiving the actions (being humiliated, whipped, etc) directly, then I'm far less likely to accept it, if at all, because of the risk of someone else being hurt- whether emotionally or physically. Some of us have kinks that require personal shame that we cannot be satisfied in life without, in those instances where the person is requesting the humiliation directly, I feel, morally, it's less questionable than the other way around because I am then providing a safe place for them to receive "abuse" in a consenting, risk aware manner. When one is requesting pain or humiliation for themself, they are not trying to spread it, but trying to cope with fetishes that cannot be erased or set aside within themself. It's far easier for abusers to "dominate" online with things like raceplay requests, so I have never considered a request that could be a facade for abuse.
 
I've never gone into hardcore raceplay using the n-word and such but have several 'bbc' videos. I won't lie--they sell SO well.. I've phased out my bbc toy on cam because not only was it starting to get physically uncomfortable a lot of the dudes were really pushing it in terms of "mmm yes bb...you like that bbc huh? like an animal cock...like a horse bb" and white dudes wanting me to be 'wrecked' by a black cock etc. There is SO much fetishization in porn-hell, I play into it as a latina & profit off of it myself but that is my choice. I've decided from here on out that even when I do film with the black dildo not to heavily market/tag it as 'bbc/interracial' because I think it's just kinda dumb--whatever roleplay I'm doing or kink I'm doing that should be the focus--not whether or not I'm fucking a poc. I don't view black men as a 'kink' or taboo in any way at all. In this industry white is the default and if you're black/asian/latina etc you're viewed as a fetish and a kink and members think you're sooo exotic and give you weird descriptive words/stereotypes--its icky. We draw our lines where we want them to be and our limits can change over time. For example: I'm still fine with humiliating white guys who pay me to tell them they can't handle my mexican big ass though lol.

I too have fazed out all my skin color dildos in gold shows and most exclusives. Too many people making casual racist comments when I'm trying to have an orgasm and put on a show. It didn't matter the color. Everyone gets confetti dildo now!

I will only pull out my realistic ones for on request and they must turn on their cam if I have never did a show with them.
 
They have claimed that all the black girls do it and secretly want it.

Yeah, they're full of shit. Lol. Makes me think of those PBS after-school specials back in the day where the lesson was about peer pressure. Nothing like good 'ole peer pressure to try to get a model to do something she's clearly not cool with. These guys are a trip!
 
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