Big Toys......Whats the allure?

[The Insider]

I have wondered for some time what is the allure of big toys from the woman's/models point of view.

I know some will say "it stretches, a baby comes out of there" that's true but a baby doesn't come out of there 5 times a day 7 days a week with a Wednesday matinee and 2x on Sunday.
My feeling is (sry, can't think of an elegant way to say this is) organ meat is not as resilient as muscle meat. Once it's stretched and torn it doesn't heal tighter and doesn't have the same capacities as muscles.

"Big" is certainly relative. I know in porn movies they seek out the smallest women possible (usually like 4'11 to 5'2) because compared to a small woman even an average sized cock looks big.
But I figure if you are 18 you gotta be pretty tight, what compels someone to sit on bedposts, inflatable spade shaped butt plugs, those horse cock-ish dildos the length of a mans arm and fist sized in circumference.

I remember my ex-wife being pregnant and us going to all the classes etc. We both felt a natural birth best, not a now common c-section by appointment, feeling why cut open parts of the body just for ease when natural way has be it for millennia.
The day she gave birth I recall seeing the doc pick up the scissors to cut the perineum for an episiotomy and hearing the sound it made, i had a chill up my back. But it healed.

I've never seen a model who used huge toys, double fist (front & back), bed post etc take a break & return and be so tight that tooth pick sized dildos felt huge.
If you are in your mid 20's and you are taking those horse cock dildos balls first now with ease isn't there a point that comes when it's felt maybe it's time to take a break?
I'm sure plenty of guys would be overjoyed to hear their gf/wife/etc say "put it in my ass baby" but not because "put it in my ass baby cause i can't feel anything in my pussy anymore"

So whats the allure and once you know it's never gonna shrink and you can only keep going up in size where/what does that lead to ?

I'd love to hear the opinioons on the pro & con side

 

[vlad.mazare]

There's surgery to make it tighter again.

http://www.wellnesskliniek.com/en/vagina-tightening

 

[The Insider]

Yes I know there is surgery but honestly is that the answer to everything ? I can fuck bowling balls now so lets do something more invasive, cut the body open, slice out the torn up bits & sew it back up......rinse and repeat

 

[Rose]

Erm, pretty sure the vagina is a muscle. Not sure what's making you think it isn't, but it is. It's made to stretch and retain its shape. :twocents-02cents:

 

[LadyLuna]

I had a huge dildo (by accident) once. I used it a bit too much, got too loose even on weeks when I didn't use it.

So I used nothing but fingers for 2 months, and voila! Back to so tight I had to stretch it a bit for normal-sizes again.

 

[Rose]

I had a huge dildo (by accident) once. I used it a bit too much, got too loose even on weeks when I didn't use it.

So I used nothing but fingers for 2 months, and voila! Back to so tight I had to stretch it a bit for normal-sizes again.

That's because like any other muscle, it can be trained. :mrgreen:

Unlike with cases of vaginismus or similar conditions, the vagina cannot be trained and will not stretch at all (OUCH!!!!) without surgery or the reverse (prolapse, owwie!) where it won't stretch back. For the 'average', healthy vagina, it can be trained to stretch to 'unimaginable' sizes and then snap right back to its 'resting' size.

Sexual health facts are fun! :dance:

 

[southsamurai]

just a note on genitals in general
guys have different sized peni. this is a fact. everyone knows it and everyone accepts it (unless they have a tiny one in which case they pretend its ginormous)

apparently most guys dont realize that the vaginal vault of women varies a good bit as well. the height of the woman makes a difference as far as depth goes to be sure, but less than you would think. women with most forms of drawfism still have a 4 -8 inch depth to cervix, same as average height women.
also, the minimum diameter (if you can call a muscle shaft circular enough to have one) varies a good bit. since as far as i've ever read it is inside of half an inch at the biggest we can assume that the really tiny ones are very god damn tiny. i personally know 3 different women who are only able to use the infant size speculums at their gyno. to generalize for those not familiar with the instruments thats about the size of a pinkie finger. and we have all seen pics, film or (omfg, please not me) live performances where things as large as a football or traffic cone are successfully inserted.

if you come at one of those ladies with very very tiny vaginas with a toy that is the thickness of two fingers and 4 inches long they would probably slap you. but (and i know only through anecdotal evidence) even one that small can become used to penetration and relax enough to enjoy peni in the 6-7 inch range with conversant thickness.

also, just a pet peeve of mine. no childbirth does not "ruin" a vagina. even after multiple births most women return to their normal size and shape. of course there are exceptions, but heck there is no such thing as a 100% when dealing with medical issues.
nor does a lot of vigorous sex change the labia, the vagina or the clitoris permanently (barring injury or infection) labia have almost infinite variety of color, size, texture and shape. so educate yourself before you make comment on one.


now as to why big toys are liked? personal preference, pure and simple. everyone likes what they like, and most of the time can't even say exactly why. not a direct answer, but its the truest one

 

[MissyLuvsU]

Kegelsssssss.

 

[zippypinhead]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

 

[The Insider]

I'm talking about on a regular basis, not a once in a blue moon thing. Every model I have seen here or on other sites it's always a progression over time to bigger & bigger and bigger. If my rectum or vagina was hanging open like a slack jawed moron 5min after pulling the toy out I, me personally would begin to think what the hell have i done.

This is the vagina, the most personal thing a woman has and the center of her reproductive life. I guess it's like if it's that important why take it to the point where you can push your cervix outside your body and penetrate it with a finger sized vibe. I'm curious to know why

 

[LilyEvans]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

We can definitely feel them, although I'm not sure all of them are pleasurable for every lady. I don't have any experience with them myself but I am told that glass toys with little bumps all over them are fairly unpleasant. I have a realistic dildo made of some sort of hard rubber, and the bumps/ridges/"veins" on that can be really uncomfortable unless I am suuuuuuuuper wet'n'ready.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

We can definitely feel them, although I'm not sure all of them are pleasurable for every lady. I don't have any experience with them myself but I am told that glass toys with little bumps all over them are fairly unpleasant. I have a realistic dildo made of some sort of hard rubber, and the bumps/ridges/"veins" on that can be really uncomfortable unless I am suuuuuuuuper wet'n'ready.

Agreed I'm generally an always wet kinda girl, but man, if it's dry down there ouch...However when wet to me at least it feels really good.

 

[Rose]

I'm talking about on a regular basis, not a once in a blue moon thing. Every model I have seen here or on other sites it's always a progression over time to bigger & bigger and bigger. If my rectum or vagina was hanging open like a slack jawed moron 5min after pulling the toy out I, me personally would begin to think what the hell have i done.

This is the vagina, the most personal thing a woman has and the center of her reproductive life. I guess it's like if it's that important why take it to the point where you can push your cervix outside your body and penetrate it with a finger sized vibe. I'm curious to know why

Unless you're in active labor and dilating, the cervix is not open. It opens just the teeniest amount during the menstrual cycle to allow everything to pass, but beyond that it stays relatively closed. Even if you had a severe vaginal prolapse (what you just described, but is NOT caused by using large toys) you still wouldn't be able to penetrate the cervix unless you had some other health problems.

Also, you must not have met very many women at all. Personally, I have never used bigger, bigger and bigger toys. Generally speaking, I use smaller and smaller or do absolutely NO penetration at all. So that statement is very wrong. Not every woman who practices sexual penetration always goes bigger and bigger. Some women don't even do penetration at all (shocker!).

The vagina is also not the most personal thing a woman has (that's fairly offensive and with that logic, you're only as important as your dick which really isn't important at all) and it's NOT the center of her reproductive life. If we're using that logic, the uterus or the brain would be because those are the powerhouses of the whole reproductive cycle. Also, not all women have a vagina or a uterus. For example, my mother's had a partial hysterectomy and doesn't have either anymore. She has a reconstructed "canal", a vulva and ovaries.

Sorry if I seem testy in my replies. It's fairly upsetting to me that so many people have access to the internet and are so very misinformed about human anatomy, sexual wellness or reproduction. Considering that everyone has/had genitals and was birthed somehow, this stuff is pretty important to know.

 

[Lintilla]

I'm talking about on a regular basis, not a once in a blue moon thing. Every model I have seen here or on other sites it's always a progression over time to bigger & bigger and bigger. If my rectum or vagina was hanging open like a slack jawed moron 5min after pulling the toy out I, me personally would begin to think what the hell have i done.

When it comes to camming it's probably not because it's the girls' preference... it's more that the guys demand it. I know that when I'm on SM I try to avoid letting the guys pick the toy and to avoid letting them know I even have something bigger around because they will ALWAYS pick the biggest toy I have, seems like, and if it's nothing but that all night I'm not going to be able to stay online long... So I think your question is really more of a question of why it has such an allure for the guys, not for us.

But yeah, as others have pointed out... sure, after a break on cam the muscles may not return to "normal" immediately, but "never gonna shrink" is just not a real thing at all. The vagina is meant to stretch. Unless it's something super extreme and the girl is forcing things when she shouldn't there is probably no actual damage being done.

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

They do for some women, I'm sure, or there wouldn't be so many of them? Personally I really dislike anything that's got more than minimal texture, especially if it's a hard material like glass. No knobby bits for me, especially smaller ones (as opposed to something you might more accurately call a bulge?) I just find that they hurt and I can't use a toy like that for more than a couple of minutes if at all.

 

[Rose]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

They're supposedly to enhance the experience, but not all vaginas work the same way. Some vaginas have concentrated nerve endings closer to the cervix, some in the middle, some near the vulva, etc, so the placement of the 'enhancements' makes a big difference as to how that woman will experience that toy.

Personally, anything meant for penetration with texture (bumps, ridges, nubs, etc) is incredibly painful for me whether I'm wet or not. If it's not smooth, it's just not going to work and past a certain point, I won't be able to distinguish any of the texture. :? It just feels like lots of pressure. This is totally personal preference though.

Not to make light of your question, but this would be almost like asking why does a guy prefer a blowjob over a handjob or sex (just an example)? It's just personal preference in most cases.

 

[Anonymous]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

I have this, but the swirls are uncomfortable for me, so I don't use it:

But I LOVE this one because it's a good G-spot toy without all those bumps and shit.....

And I've never had any desire to use the big toys.

 

[Rose]

just a note on genitals in general
guys have different sized peni. this is a fact. everyone knows it and everyone accepts it (unless they have a tiny one in which case they pretend its ginormous)

apparently most guys dont realize that the vaginal vault of women varies a good bit as well. the height of the woman makes a difference as far as depth goes to be sure, but less than you would think. women with most forms of drawfism still have a 4 -8 inch depth to cervix, same as average height women.
also, the minimum diameter (if you can call a muscle shaft circular enough to have one) varies a good bit. since as far as i've ever read it is inside of half an inch at the biggest we can assume that the really tiny ones are very god damn tiny. i personally know 3 different women who are only able to use the infant size speculums at their gyno. to generalize for those not familiar with the instruments thats about the size of a pinkie finger. and we have all seen pics, film or (omfg, please not me) live performances where things as large as a football or traffic cone are successfully inserted.

if you come at one of those ladies with very very tiny vaginas with a toy that is the thickness of two fingers and 4 inches long they would probably slap you. but (and i know only through anecdotal evidence) even one that small can become used to penetration and relax enough to enjoy peni in the 6-7 inch range with conversant thickness.

also, just a pet peeve of mine. no childbirth does not "ruin" a vagina. even after multiple births most women return to their normal size and shape. of course there are exceptions, but heck there is no such thing as a 100% when dealing with medical issues.
nor does a lot of vigorous sex change the labia, the vagina or the clitoris permanently (barring injury or infection) labia have almost infinite variety of color, size, texture and shape. so educate yourself before you make comment on one.


now as to why big toys are liked? personal preference, pure and simple. everyone likes what they like, and most of the time can't even say exactly why. not a direct answer, but its the truest one

Just felt this needed to be quoted so it can be seen again and commended.

You're THE only guy, hetero or otherwise, that I know who actually knows this information and got it correct. Thank you for taking the time to be well and accurately informed. Kudos!

Edit: for clarification.

 

[AllisonWilder]

I'm talking about on a regular basis, not a once in a blue moon thing. Every model I have seen here or on other sites it's always a progression over time to bigger & bigger and bigger. If my rectum or vagina was hanging open like a slack jawed moron 5min after pulling the toy out I, me personally would begin to think what the hell have i done.

This is the vagina, the most personal thing a woman has and the center of her reproductive life. I guess it's like if it's that important why take it to the point where you can push your cervix outside your body and penetrate it with a finger sized vibe. I'm curious to know why

Not every model goes to bigger and bigger toys over time because they need to, some just like the feel of something really filling them up. It's incredibly satisfying.



Also, if the models you're watching are fucking bedposts and shoving huge things in their vagina and you don't like it, watch different models.

 

[Lintilla]

Can I just mention for no particular reason that every time I see a girl on whatever site fucking a bedpost that I want to cover my eyes and hide under my desk? I'm a ridiculous klutz, and I know that if it were me one of my feet would slip and I'd be impaled all of a sudden. Seeing that makes me really really super duper uncomfortable. One of the girls in the SM ads right now has a pointy bedpost and oh god no no no no no stopppp!

 

[The Insider]

Sorry if I seem testy in my replies. It's fairly upsetting to me that so many people have access to the internet and are so very misinformed about human anatomy, sexual wellness or reproduction. Considering that everyone has/had genitals and was birthed somehow, this stuff is pretty important to know.

I didn't fall of the turnip truck and I am very informed, perhaps you feel a need to be abrasive toward my but why ? I can find abrasive on Jezebel

I tried very hard to word my post without having to name models but if you are unaware there are models that penetrate their cervix on a regular basis, also their urinary tract, accept bed posts front & back, push their cervix outside their body etc....

I'm sorry you feel so utterly offended rose but if you have some personal issue with me please pm it.

I just had a question i though interesting

I didn't say i was watching any on a regular basis..............I just asked why

 

[zippypinhead]

Well, I guess this is just going to be another drama wank. One more thread to avoid...

 

[AllisonWilder]

Alright, here's a similarly silly question with a likely simple answer:

Do all those fancy dildos with the knobby bits and corkscrew shapes actually "enhance" pleasure, or is it cosmetic? I can't imagine that some of those things actually feel comfortable.

I think this answer is going to vary from girl to girl, but personally, if it's not smooth, I can't use it. A little ridge that's more decorative than meant for pleasure will be okay, but the rest just are really unpleasant.

They're really pretty to look at though! :lol:



Edit!

I have a question that's aimed at the fellas. What types of toys are visually appealing to watch a girl on cam using on herself? I know the answers will vary, but I'd still like to hear (read) what you think is nice to see.

 

[zippypinhead]

Edit!

I have a question that's aimed at the fellas. What types of toys are visually appealing to watch a girl on cam using on herself? I know the answers will vary, but I'd still like to hear (read) what you think is nice to see.

Well, there is some drama to size, and weird shapes isn't there? I'll admit that I've been sucked in by the sideshow factor of women stuffing huge things inside of themselves, but what's usually going through my mind as I watch is something along the lines of, "I hope she doesn't hurt herself."

Mostly, I want to see a woman give herself real pleasure, so whatever does it for her, does it for me. Usually, as mentioned, that means smaller toys and no penetration, and I like that. The best masturbation show I've ever seen featured one of those little love egg vibrators. Hell, even those big ugly Hitachi massagers are fun since they seem to legitimately get the job done, even though they usually completely block the view.

 

[southsamurai]

I have a question that's aimed at the fellas. What types of toys are visually appealing to watch a girl on cam using on herself? I know the answers will vary, but I'd still like to hear (read) what you think is nice to see.

well i'm equally enamored of two camps. one is the weird ones for the chuckle factor... you know, tentacles and weird animal shapes etc... just funny as hell to me.
but for more erotic enjoyment i like them as realistic as possible when it comes to dildos, vibrating or otherwise. big enough to see clearly on a regular monitor window, but not so big it makes me cringe. (i also have a weird thing where i can't watch toy BJs, it just wierds me out in a bad way for some reason)
for non insertables it comes down to whatever gives a good sensation. if the lady is enjoying herself, im happy.
(though i am a bad example, i sit at a desk to use my comp and the nerve damage wont let my "enjoy" myself properly so i can only go by aestehtics, not what might turn me on otherwise)

 

[LaceyRoyce]

You don't know how a vagina works Insider. It just does NOT react the way you're talking about.

A vaginal prolapse is not caused by large toys.
Neither is a cervix that can be penetrated.

Pee-hole penetration is called sounding, and CAN be conducted safely if done with a sterile sounding KIT.



I've been fisted. It was incredible. I noticed no difference.

The only difference I notice after i take LARGE toys (and i have some very large ones) is that my vagina is more.. er.. 'raw'. LIke i can feel that i've been fucked. I've NEVER been able to gape.

I've NEVER done the 'progression' you talk about. I started with a very large dildo, off cam and my bedpost when i was around 16. Yes. I fucked my bedpost at 16. LOL.

THEN i went back to fingers.....
Then when i started camming i had a medium sized dildo, small glass toy, and fingers.
THEN i got a few larger dildoes (the initial large one had been retired) and played with them.
Then i switched back when i didnt like the sore feeling i got....
Now i will go for a week (seems hormonal with me?) where i really want LARGE toys...
and then other weeks where i just want medium to small.



My anatomy is VERY small (3-4 inches deep, stretches to 7 inches MAX) and relatively 'tight' in diameter.

I love the ridges the girls are describing so I think that varies from woman to woman.



I also see this thread turning into drama, and can understand why rose got testy. You used some pretty insulting and hurtful words when describing womens vaginas. We are sensitive about it.

If i started describing how guys with erectile disfunction look like limp, wet noodles, hanging around floppily between a guys legs, useless and lifeless, and utterly unattractive... i dunno i feel like it might hit a few raw nerves.

 

[southsamurai]

I'm talking about on a regular basis, not a once in a blue moon thing. Every model I have seen here or on other sites it's always a progression over time to bigger & bigger and bigger. If my rectum or vagina was hanging open like a slack jawed moron 5min after pulling the toy out I, me personally would begin to think what the hell have i done.

This is the vagina, the most personal thing a woman has and the center of her reproductive life. I guess it's like if it's that important why take it to the point where you can push your cervix outside your body and penetrate it with a finger sized vibe. I'm curious to know why

since i think this is the post that made the ladies feel icky (and i said think, i could be wrong) let me restate it in more clinical terms and perhaps answer from a more... ummmm distanced... viewpoint.

if a model chooses to progress through larger sizes of toys it seems that some men may connect it with prolapsing of the uterus. when a gentleman who doesnt have some medical background sees such an event he may well feel disturbed by it, and wonders why someone would do so voluntarily.

i have seen the phenomenon of which insider speaks, it just isnt what he thinks it is. and it isnt a very common thing. alas, i also believe he is referring to two separate things. one is commonly called "gaping" and is when any given sphincter is dilated to an unusual degree, usually after vigorous penetration, though not always. this is simply the muscles of the anus or vagina being very very relaxed due to stimulation, stretching or it can be achieved with certain drugs (most of them only by injection)

the other event i think is the very rare and disturbing prolapsing of the uterus. normally this is not a good thing to see, or experience. ok erase that. it is never good to experience. there are a few performers who have chosen not to have this condition corrected and have a niche market due to it.
also, there are some women who due to illness, injury or very rare genetics do have rather deformed cervixes. i have seen medical photos of such things and while fascinating from that standpoint it is not pleasant. some of the photos i saw included a cervix that was so enlarged due to injury that you could visualize the interior of the uterus.
it is my opinion that if you see a cervix on cam in what is known as a gyno shot then you have run across the rare lady who can, because of a very shallow vaginal vault and a lot of practice, open, or gape, her vagina so that it is visible. on camera it might look rather large, but i promise you that it is much smaller than you think it is.
i can also promise you that if it was due to dildo use she would be in such discomfort that she would not be able to sit there and show it to you. that would be so close to impossible as to be so.

as to why any given model might (and please notice i am theorizing, not stating it as a fact) progress to larger toys; it might be that either she is growing in her knowledge of and comfort with her body as she cams and thus is exploring new things she didnt previously think she could handle, or she is playing to her specific audience. some men are fascinated by the idea of putting very large things in a vagina for some reason.
since camming is a job the model might choose to progress to a larger size to generate greater income regardless of the pleasure it does or does not give her. in other words, its a guy thing and she is doing it for her members who like it.

and just a note on word choice since it seems to happen a lot. referring to anyone's body parts, even in the abstract, by unflattering terms is going to get you nothing but hard feelings. i suggest that any dude who wishes to refer to female body parts use clinical terms. dilated vs gaping like a slack jawed moron for example lol.
if you are talking about something that makes you feel uncomfortable or "grossed out" take a bit of time before you post and look up the medical terms for the body parts. it will give you a bit of time and thought to divorce yourself from the feelings you may have and let you speak in a way that carries your meaning without bias. this will allow you to ask questions about delicate matters and not upset anyone. (and yes, i am using insider's post as an example because well it is here, but it applies in general. not giving you a hard time dude)

damn, how do i always end up doing essays on here?

 

[lordmagellan]

If i started describing how guys with erectile disfunction look like limp, wet noodles, hanging around floppily between a guys legs, useless and lifeless, and utterly unattractive... i dunno i feel like it might hit a few raw nerves.

HA! I don't need to have ED for it to look like that!


I think it comes down to something really simple in regards to women using larger toys: some of them just like it big. You know how there are guys who like girls with small tits and then guys who like girls with big fucking tittays? And then there are the guys who like girls who get implants? And guys who like girls who used to be guys, but felt that wasn't who they really are, so they're girls now? It's called variety. Different people with different preferences. It's really that simple.

And like Lintilla said, some of them may be caving in to demand. Kind of sad in my view, but if they're willing and able- more power to them, I say.

I'm not trying to sound crass and combative, but some of your assumptions about the vagina seem rather, well, ignorant. I cringe every time I read or hear a girl say they'd never fist "because their pussy isn't that loose, or they're not a ho." It doesn't work that way. It has nothing to do with being worn out or well used. If anything, it's more like being warmed up and prepared. I've heard that a woman who can fist, or use bigger toys, is actually able to do so because she has MORE control of her vagina, rather than less. This is because there's muscle; it's trainable.

I kind of want to stick a rubber ball in my wife now and yell, "Squeeze! two three Release two three..."

Pee-hole penetration is called sounding, and CAN be conducted safely if done with a sterile sounding KIT.

Arguably the strangest sensation I've ever experienced.

I have a question that's aimed at the fellas. What types of toys are visually appealing to watch a girl on cam using on herself? I know the answers will vary, but I'd still like to hear (read) what you think is nice to see.

I'm with Samurai. I like the weird things, but that's mostly because I like weird things. More important to me is what does it for the model. If she's genuinely enjoying herself, then the experience is that much more enjoyable.

 

[lordmagellan]

damn, how do i always end up doing essays on here?

I blame Camstory. That guy's just a bad influence. :lol:

 

[AllisonWilder]

I kind of want to stick a rubber ball in my wife now and yell, "Squeeze! two three Release two three..."

I want you to do this. And then I want you to come back and tell us how it went. :lol: :lol: :lol:

 

[The Insider]

and just a note on word choice since it seems to happen a lot. referring to anyone's body parts, even in the abstract, by unflattering terms is going to get you nothing but hard feelings. i suggest that any dude who wishes to refer to female body parts use clinical terms. dilated vs gaping like a slack jawed moron for example lol.

I understand exactly what you mean. I'm familiar with all the proper terms. Not trying to offend anybody. If i wanted to visit a forum where everyone was absolutely offended by everything, again, i'd visit Jezebel. I felt using slang was better because It was such an off the cuff question, I didn't think i'd need an hours worth or research first to get the proper terms.

I'm not trying to make fun of people who do that. I've been in this biz & around cam sites more then 10 years. I've been married, have a child, I'm very well acquainted with women, their parts and how they work.

My feeling (and i reiterate, it is simply my feeling) is that if I had a vagina and was young and anticipated I wanted children in the future I would feel that it wouldn't be a good idea to keep putting larger and larger things inside me. You run the risk of perforating the vaginal wall, scarification of the cervix & uterus.
I Just wanted to know how does it all come about?