BJ Shows: Does it matter if the dildo is realistic?

[Jillybean]

Basically I'm just kind of torn between getting this purple dildo and this nearly identical flesh colored dildo. I would use it primarily for POV BJ shows and also POV fucking shows.

I can't explain why, but I really want the purple one. So my question is, does it matter if the dildo is a fantastical color or not? Models, have you ever heard of anyone getting upset when the dildo doesn't give a realistic representation? Members, which would you prefer?

Opinions please!

 

[Nordling]

Basically I'm just kind of torn between getting this purple dildo and this nearly identical flesh colored dildo. I would use it primarily for POV BJ shows and also POV fucking shows.

I can't explain why, but I really want the purple one. So my question is, does it matter if the dildo is a fantastical color or not? Models, have you ever heard of anyone getting upset when the dildo doesn't match a realistic representation? Members, which would you prefer?

Opinions please!

Doesn't matter at all to me, as long as the model is enjoying it.

 

[ButchCoolidge]

Actually, for a POV BJ show, a realistic dildo would be better...just a better visual. As for penetration, really doesn't matter.
Hope this helps!

Cheers
Butch

 

[Miss_Lollipop]

If i'm *watching* a BJ show i prefer realistic cocks.

(and gagging, and spit... ahem..but i think that was not what you asked for..)

 

[Falke]

Nordling really has the best answer: whatever the model enjoys. My favorite model uses a pink/purple dildo for both. I actually prefer that to a realistic ones. I think the visual contrast is nice, but that's just me.

 

[krukstyle]

Basically I'm just kind of torn between getting this purple dildo and this nearly identical flesh colored dildo. I would use it primarily for POV BJ shows and also POV fucking shows.

I can't explain why, but I really want the purple one. So my question is, does it matter if the dildo is a fantastical color or not? Models, have you ever heard of anyone getting upset when the dildo doesn't give a realistic representation? Members, which would you prefer?

Opinions please!

Personally, I would prefer whichever toy the model liked better/was more excited about. In my mind, this would lead to the better overall experience for both parties. Since you really want the purple one, I would say... get that one! If your preference of the purple one will lead to even a slightly better show--it seems totally worth it.

Sure, there are people out there that are probably turned off by weird colored toys--there are probably others that can't stand flesh-colored toys. Regardless, I'm willing to bet that a large portion of the show-seeking cam-watching population are more concerned with finding a desirable/entertaining model than minor equipment details that might spring up during the process.

 

[AmberCutie]

The aspects of a dildo bj show that I enjoy involve watching the way a girl's lips look around the toy, the way she moves her tongue on it, watching her mouth. It wouldn't matter to me what she was sucking on, what color it was, etc. I like very mild and seductive dildo bj shows as opposed to the drooly, eye watery deep throat ones (I know I'm in the minority, but that stuff turns me off mucho) so it doesn't bother me at all if the toy isn't realistic.

edit to add: I don't have a dick, though, so maybe it's different for guys who are trying really hard to imagine it's their dick you're slobbing on...

 

[DuoShi]

The aspects of a dildo bj show that I enjoy involve watching the way a girl's lips look around the toy, the way she moves her tongue on it, watching her mouth. It wouldn't matter to me what she was sucking on, what color it was, etc. I like very mild and seductive dildo bj shows as opposed to the drooly, eye watery deep throat ones (I know I'm in the minority, but that stuff turns me off mucho) so it doesn't bother me at all if the toy isn't realistic.

edit to add: I don't have a dick, though, so maybe it's different for guys who are trying really hard to imagine it's their dick you're slobbing on...

You saved me the effort of typing almost this exact thing. Gimme a slow seductive dildo BJ any day of the week, and I will lose my fuckin' mind from excess happiness.

 

[Misono]

Doesn't really bother me, it's what works best for the model.

Now, if the model magically made the dildo appear from behind her ear at the end of the show, that's a different story...

 

[yossarian]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

 

[The Insider]

I think enthusiasm for it matters more than if it looks real or not

 

[CharlotteLace]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

I can't speak for everybody, but I actually do. I love giving oral in real life, so even simulating it turns me on. The feeling of fullness in my mouth, it feeling naughty to do, imagining pleasing somebody just by using seductive eyes/teasing tongue/soft lips, etc. The thoughts that arise when I'm typically going down on a guy will still surface even when it's "a hunk of plastic."

So yeah, it's possible to feel sexy and aroused even when it's not a real dick.

 

[LilyMarie]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

I don't mind it, but I definitely don't enjoy it either. It is what it is: sucking on a hunk of silicone. I'll happily admit that BJ shows, for me, when I still did them, were all about the show and there was no arousal going on on my side. My realistic dildo doesn't feel, taste or even really look like real dick, so I couldn't even pretend it was one. Not to mention that a man's immediate reactions to what I'm doing are what turns me on about giving blowjobs, and those reactions are obviously kind of lacking if you're giving a BJ to a toy. There's no butt I can touch, no hands on my head, no encouraging moans/sexy words, nothing. It's not arousing. For me. It's still really interesting to read Charlotte's reply though.
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[HiGirlsRHot]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

I don't mind it, but I definitely don't enjoy it either. It is what it is: sucking on a hunk of silicone. I'll happily admit that BJ shows, for me, when I still did them, were all about the show and there was no arousal going on on my side. My realistic dildo doesn't feel, taste or even really look like real dick, so I couldn't even pretend it was one. Not to mention that a man's immediate reactions to what I'm doing are what turns me on about giving blowjobs, and those reactions are obviously kind of lacking if you're giving a BJ to a toy. There's no butt I can touch, no hands on my head, no encouraging moans/sexy words, nothing. It's not arousing. For me. It's still really interesting to read Charlotte's reply though.
:twocents-02cents:

I always figured most girls reactions was that same as Lily's interesting to know that there are few that enjoy it. Although I suspect for many girls it more their exhibitionism side/performance side than anyting. The few times I've been turned on watching a dildo bj show are with realistic dicks. Although for other shows I go for the more interesting shaped colorful toys.

 

[Jillybean]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

No, I don't enjoy sucking on a hunk of silicone.

But I do enjoy doing BJ shows. The feeling of being able to arouse someone else gets me off in an incredible way. On SM I only do BJ shows in exclusive, so I know that it's what he wants to see. And when that's what he wants to see, and he's so into it, it's a really amazing rush that I get.

So I would probably never suck on a dildo on my own, but when there's someone getting pleasure out of me doing it, then that's when it gets good. Lol, I guess I'm a people pleaser. :lol:

And thanks so much guys for the input! Since the dildos are almost identical other than color I will just get the realistic one to be safe since there are some that prefer it to be realistic.

 

[Miss_Lollipop]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

I enjoy them as an exhibitionist type thing. It makes me hot to think of the guys getting hot watching me wrap my lips around a hunk of silicone. If that makes sense.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

The colour of the dildo makes zero difference to my "enjoyment" of dildo shows. The only reason it'd make a difference is whatever the viewers preference is. I love giving blowjobs, I love the feel of it and so long as the guy is clean and healthy I also love the taste of it. Dildos do not represent much of that. I get mild excitement from some of the similarities so that can get me excited, but mainly the only thing that I can really enjoy is that I know it's looking hot.

I would say though from giving blowjob shows that it looking realistic does help. Those who don't care don't care either way, but those who do care and like the idea of pretending it's "their" cock do seem to be put off if the penis is clearly not theirs.

I don't know if you've done blowjob shows before either but if you haven't be careful about the size and material used.
My first realistic dildo was so wide at the tip that I could barely stretch my mouth wide enough to fit it, meaning deepthroat was impossible because I just couldn't fit it down that far. Members are extremely delusional about how big toys actually are. Most dudes in porn have penis's way above average which means an 8-9 inch wide dildo doesn't always look like it's that big. The second problem with this dildo was the material was this weird almost sticky material which not only seemed to attract all the dust in the room if not used it was extremely uncomfortable to use in my mouth or my pussy. Even with lube it would literally rub me raw. Some members want you to be comfortable and happy when you play. I learned that some members don't give a fuck as long as they're seeing what they want.

My second realistic dildo is much better. I picked a much smaller one with a much less wide circumference. The dildo is actually about average size if you're comparing it to real cocks, a little bit above in some places, but of course it's negatives are that members see a dildo that is probably bigger than their own penis as too small to watch. Once even after explaining the pain I went through with the previous toy and saying how happy I was with the second one (and establishing that said member is smaller than the new toy) a member still asked me to use the old toy as it's bigger. Fortunately I've only had someone try that with me once.
The negatives with this toy are pretty much only that it is a little bit too stiff/hard which makes deepthroating a lot trickier as it's very hard against the back of my throat and can slightly bruise it, and that it's a bit "too small".

Basically with realistic toys and blowjob shows I'd go for shape, material and size. Shape is good, I find it much easier to deepthroat a toy if it bends slightly downwards (or upwards and use it upside down). You've really got to find something that you're not going to hate using. Some members want us to anally fuck ourselves with a 12 inch dildo for hours at a time, it doesn't mean we do it. Our mouths are not any different. As lovely as giving head can be, our mouths and throats are not made for penis's or large plastic objects shaped like penis's being rammed into them.

I'm another girl who likes more sensual blowjobs. I quite like how hard blowjobs and deepthroating look so long as the lips remain wrapped around rather than loose and there isn't spit everywhere. I know a bunch of people find that sexy but I have a bit of an icky phobia of spit. Makes me feel sick looking at it. I mean in what world is someone drooling ever widely considered sexy? I don't understand how in porn suddenly it becomes sexy. It isn't just because I'm female though, I know lots of guys who find that stuff gross in porn. I think it's entirely personal preferences.

 

[Irishmut]

Re: what models enjoy

Do models actually enjoy sucking on a hunk of plastic? Seriously, is it arousing at all for you? I just have a hard time imagining that it is.

Haha a 'hard time', puns are fun!

 

[yossarian]

I know a bunch of people find that sexy but I have a bit of an icky phobia of spit. Makes me feel sick looking at it. I mean in what world is someone drooling ever widely considered sexy? I don't understand how in porn suddenly it becomes sexy.

Right? It always make me shudder to think of what she looks like when she eats a burger or something.

 

[CharlotteLace]

I know a bunch of people find that sexy but I have a bit of an icky phobia of spit. Makes me feel sick looking at it. I mean in what world is someone drooling ever widely considered sexy? I don't understand how in porn suddenly it becomes sexy.

Right? It always make me shudder to think of what she looks like when she eats a burger or something.

I dunno, I always view the drooling/sloppy blowjobs in porn more as a "reckless abandon" type of thing. Like, you're so into it and so enthuse and horny that you stop caring what you look like. Obviously a person's not going to drool/spit all over from a burger, unless she's repeatedly shoving it down her throat, gagging, and then bringing it out again.

To each their own, though. But the discussion made me think of this:

 

[VeronicaChaos]

^ Ha, that reminds me of trying to give a blowjob while super high and with drymouth.

It's such a catch 22, man. I love the way everything feels when I'm high but usually I get all dry everywhere. It's the pits!

I have no advice on blowjob toys but I sometimes wonder if it would be weird if my dummy had a weird color cock. But alas, realism. :lol:

 

[IsabellaSnow]

I dunno, I always view the drooling/sloppy blowjobs in porn more as a "reckless abandon" type of thing. Like, you're so into it and so enthuse and horny that you stop caring what you look like. Obviously a person's not going to drool/spit all over from a burger, unless she's repeatedly shoving it down her throat, gagging, and then bringing it out again.

For me the look of spit just grosses me out. Especially when girls or guys deliberately drool/spit. I'm not quite so bothered if it's like a face fuck thing as it's harder to control it, but yeah, spit/drool is so gross to me. That whole thing when a dude or a girl spits on someone else, sometimes letting it hang down... Reminds me of when you're a kid play fighting with a sibling and they manage to pin you down and do that whole spit hanging in your face ready to drop. Maybe I'm just scarred for life from having a fuck load of guy cousins and a brother but it really gives me the heebie jeebies! I think I'd probably find it more gross seeing someone drooling while eating a burger, but it's like when I watch porn sometimes I'll have a moment of getting turned on then full blown cringe, then get turned on again, then cringe. Sometimes I just give up! I think I do definitely have a bit of a phobia of it, it's one of the reasons I don't particularly like babies or small children. They're cute and everything and apparently seem to love me but the whole dribble stuff really grosses me out.

 

[yossarian]

Sometimes I just give up! I think I do definitely have a bit of a phobia of it, it's one of the reasons I don't particularly like babies or small children. They're cute and everything and apparently seem to love me but the whole dribble stuff really grosses me out.

"Why is it leaking? Should we get duct tape?"

 

[Violet October]

I enjoy giving them, but usually keep them to true privates or exclusives because I get even more turned on knowing that the person watching it loves it. It doesn't matter to me that it's not the real thing, because the act is still hot to me and knowing I'm pleasing someone makes it even better. Plus it gives the exhibitionist in me a huge thrill. But f COURSE I'd much rather have the real thing. I can't really get into a submissive head space with just a toy with someone online unless they really have a way with words.

 

[IsabellaSnow]

This isn't really on the thread topic but one negative to blowjob shows is that there's no clear ending. Obviously with a real guy it's pretty obvious when it ends. You can get dildos that "cum" and I think fill them with edible stuff but I've never tried it. For me it gets to a point with a blowjob show that you're just bringing the crowds in and then after about 10/15 mins there's that moment when you just need to stop and move onto the next countdown.
Also bear in mind that when you do blowjob shows the guys tend to suddenly become obsessed with you using that toy afterwards. You obviously don't have to, but it's good if it's a toy you can happily use in all areas.

 

[LadyLuna]

The only thing I recommend is not getting a sil-a-gel toy for bj shows. I know they're not supposed to have a smell or taste, but I've never had one that didn't taste horrible even after the smell dissipated.

Actual silicone is very firm, so go with something with a small circumference if you do get silicone. It's actually firmer than a totally erect penis. But not too small, if it's too small you can't really get a good wrap with your lips (I have this little penis pacifier, it's so small in circumference that my lips can't get a good grip).

Also, how to end the show: if you're not taking instructions from a specific member as to when the cum is supposed to happen, once you start getting tired of it you can say "cum for me!" and then suck really hard followed by acting like it's cumming in your mouth, complete with swallow and lip licking. This seems to work really well.

I'm one of the weird ones. I can trick my mind into thinking it's a real dick, and my imagination can supply the hands on my head. I also brace it in a rolled up comforter with ropes, so I have something to stroke pretending it's hips/butt/legs. Which makes me perfectly capable of experiencing an orgasm off of sucking a dildo. Though I can only do that a few times a year...

Oo, bj vids, totally something I can do during red week! Thanks for the idea girls!