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Does camming make me a bad mom?

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Also, what @BiancaBaker said about CPS is true. Someone actually called CPS on me recently (guarantee it was my ex. He's bitter af) and they closed the case before any investigation started. I did have a cop knock on my door as a follow up, and it did feel like a violation of my privacy, but he told me that my job doesn't matter when it comes to CPS unless there were clear signs of neglect or abuse, which there were not.
 
Thank you so much! Your responses have been very helpful and put my mind at ease a lot. My daughter has no idea what I do and once she's old enough to understand I will have my degree and leave the camming world. I get scared sometimes but I need to remember if they come after you for a legal job, your right that would be discrimination and we deserve the same rights as everyone else.



Did you read what I just said? unless a baby daddy brings you to court (which is what happened to her) and living in a conservative conservative state yes you will have issues... She did not ultimately loose custody (yes she had to go through hell to get it) - but she ultimately won back some of what was taken away- I know she has more ahead of her but her case is extremely rare-

If your friend calls CPS nothing will happen. Your friend cannot take you to court. Your friend cannot file court paperwork to have your child taken away. The only person in the world who can do this is a father. If your friend calls CPS- they will make a report- go to her house (like I said) and do the exam. If she's in a conservative state they may stick around for a while. If she's not and in a liberal state- 1 visit and she will be done (like what happened to me).

I had someone call CPS on me 2 years ago; and said I was exposing my daughter to my work (which was a complete lie) the courts did not get involved. CPS came to my house; did what I said above and left and never bothered me. They SPECIFICALLY told me they do not care what I do. There only concern was to make sure my child was not being exposed to it WHICH he/she ISNT. I have full custody already but they told me even if I didn't they don't involve the courts unless the child is endangered. So I know FIRST hand (since it happened to me) that legally they cannot do anything. They told me as well that the only way they go to the courts is in extreme cases; And even in those cases some don't make it to court.


The only person who can make your life hell in custody cases is the BIO dad. That happens with sex work and non sex work.
 
Thank you so much! Your responses have been very helpful and put my mind at ease a lot. My daughter has no idea what I do and once she's old enough to understand I will have my degree and leave the camming world. I get scared sometimes but I need to remember if they come after you for a legal job, your right that would be discrimination and we deserve the same rights as everyone else.

I just want the information to be legit. These guys who answer are not lawyers OR sex workers w/ children who have gone through the system. Nobody can take you to court but baby daddy. It begins and ends with that; this goes for sex workers or not. Anyone who has a baby and is not married or married will go through a custody battle if they break up. So regardless there will be courtroom drama. Regardless of your job.

Also what Finley said!!! If your partner knows what you do and then down the line uses it against you you can argue he was aware and supported you through the marriage/relationship and is being malicious. The only issue NORMALLY is when the baby daddy doesn't know then finds out somehow and rages- then takes you to court. Honestly if you raise her open minded and understanding and just be honest with her she will never look at you differently. I'll be in this profession until I retire. There is no other job for me; this is it. I run a legit production company; I pay my taxes just like everyone else in the world. My little one is not so little anymore so I have 0 to worry about


BUT just like Finley if any Mom's needs to talk/vent PM Me. I didn't go through crazy court system but I dealt with CPS and you have 0 to worry about. Also everyone keeps mentioning kids being teased over jobs. My little one is almost a teenager and has NEVER been bullied for my job and I'm super out. Kids will get teased for everything and anything.. You know what mine gets teased over a birth mark in her eye.. Kids are evil and mean; this has nothing to do with my job. Kids will get picked on regardless. Honestly unless your super cam girl famous or something I doubt on such an amateur level kids would even know in schools. The first girl I cammed with was a porn star for a lot of years and was super successful and she had 2 boys and they never ever got picked on for her job and everyone knew who she was. I honestly think if your kids going to get picked on it won't be for the job you do.
 
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No I don't believe camming makes you or anyone else a bad parent. Being a bad parent is obviously a pretty subjective term, but I'd probably say that you're a bad parent (or one of the parents is) if your child needs to "get over" their childhood remembering it like a traumatic experience. So I'd say abuse, excessive arguments in the home, unsanitary living conditions, neglect, mixed messages from parents, unsuitable child care, irresponsible parenting, putting your child in an unsafe situation etc. Lots of parents are terrible parents, sounds really harsh but it's true. So I don't think many people can sit on their high horse and judge because you're camming to make some extra income.

Camming while having a child doesn't come under these unless your child saw you camming or cam across graphic images on your computer/phone.
Social harm could come up if your child's teachers, or fellow parents came across your images and no longer allowed their children to play with your child. Social harm could come up in the very rare case that as an adult/teenager they or their friends came across your images. This is so unlikely and at this point they probably wouldn't realise it's actually you if it were done such a long time ago. Just someone who looks like you. I probably wouldn't if I had teenage children! As the chances of someone finding you is reasonable and the kind of bullying would just be mean!

Where you could expose your child to harm comes mainly from the risk of stalking. My advice is not to ever post or send photos of your child anywhere related to camming. I've seen some camgirls doing this and to me it seems like too big a risk to involve anything to do with the sex industry with your children. Then again, I'm old fashioned and think you should limit how much you post photos of your child on the internet, even if it's your facebook. It's unlikely your child would be targeted, but why risk it? Just be extra careful with your personal facebook and anything online which could connect your camming self to your real life self.

Don't worry too much about your friend, it is hard to get over stereotypes. When I was a bit younger I didn't think you should cam if you have children, due to the potential negative exposure you could pass onto them. I didn't think camming itself was bad, just society's reaction to camming. There will be people who will hear you're camming and will instantly think you're immoral, greedy and worthless. Those people don't understand camming and are wrapped up in society's negative view of sex work. I no longer have those views because I've educated myself more on the matter.

At the end of the day, if your child is so young then there isn't much social harm that can come to them, it's much more beneficial to have a mother who is home during the day and still happily earning an income at night, feeling strong and proactive, meaning your child can have a better and brighter future with parents less stressed about their finances.
50 years ago people would have said to any mother who's decided to work part time that she's a bad parent and selfish. They literally would have same the same stuff as your friend. But countless amounts of Psychological research has shown that children form a stronger, healthier attachment with a mother who is happy and working, than a mother who is tired and unhappy full time in the home. Now it's common practice for both parents to work, with women gradually being less shamed for their choices.
This is literally nothing to do with you or you camming, it's just culture and people not liking new things they don't understand.
 
Here's my two cents:

I went through an EXTREMELY public pregnancy. Cammed all through it even when I was hospitalized for my high risk issues. Camming has nothing to go with being a good mom. Being a good mom makes you a good mom. Being a bad mom makes you a bad mom. That's like asking if enjoying anal sex and eating french fries makes you a bad mom. Spoiler alert: it fucking doesn't! Enjoy your anal sex and french fries, though probably not together.

Now for the rest, I still actively cam, film clips, and even have other cammers come stay overnight and film with me in my house. How do I know my kid is safe? Because from the get go I told everyone what I do for a living. My parents know exactly what I do even down to some of the dirtier details. Shit, my dad helped build my cock box and my mom's written several of my videos scripts/is sewing me some fetish outfits right now. My spouse and I have a filmed verbal agreement that if we ever split up, our jobs do not affect our parenting, though he's just as much in the filming game as I am because he's got his own stores and clientele. His parents and all of our siblings know what we do as well, we aren't taking any chances. Our kid knows an age appropriate version of what we do for a living and as he grows up, we'll tell him more age appropriate details. He doesn't need to know that I film porn for a living at age 4, but he knows I get paid to take selfies and play on photoshop and that he's not allowed to be around for any of it.

Our system is we either work when he's asleep, or we take turns on who watches him while the other works. Sometimes we get lucky and my parents can babysit, and when that happens, we cram MONTHS worth of work into one afternoon.

As long as your kid isn't subjected to any of your work, you have a separate private space for your work environment, and you have your ass protected in case shit hits the fan and then flies all over the house, you should be fine. Emotionally I know I'll be with my spouse forever, but logically we know life isn't always predictable, which is why we filmed our verbal agreement about our jobs and kid and told all of our families. Better safe than sorry, especially when it comes to kids because there's just no room for error.
 
I have a son and daughter. My daughter is six and knows I make and sell videos. She is innocent and thinks nothing strange. We will talk about it truly honestly when she is older. You know how that will affect her? She won't growing up thinking bodies are dirty, sex is wrong, fetishes are shameful, that being sexual makes someone a slut, etc. I do worry if someone will know and tease her when she is a bit older but I trust that she is going to be strong and know better. I believe she won't want slut shamers in her life. And of course all of the same goes for my son. Sex and sex work isn't shameful, I'm grateful my children will grow up knowing that.
If you wanted a genuine answer, you wouldnt ask other camgirls , sounds like you want reassurance more than an opinion. (No, im not a troll) Depends on what you define to be a good mom. Can you give your daughter unconditional love as a camgirl? ofcourse. Are you setting a good example for your daughter? well, you tell me.. but yeah, if you want to talk about this more then feel free
 
Wow, I am so happy I was able to find this post. I started camming before I had my daughter and though I still have somewhat been on and off camming after she was born, I've struggled with wondering about the impact it will have on her.

My personal views are much like many of the other girls commenting on this thread, I don't feel as though camming will make you a bad mom or defines you as a parent. I see working in the sex industry as a positive thing in many aspects. I was always "naturally" sexual and felt ashamed about it growing up. I even remember learning what playboy was as a kid and thinking about how awesome it would be to be a playmate! lol
Sex work is just a part of my adult life that my child will learn to accept. I mean in all honesty, nobody wants to think of or hear their parents doing sexual things in a non-sex working family, so why would being a professional in the sex industry make that any different. I mean I'm pretty sure a lot of people's parents have made their own home-porno and nobody is accusing them of being a bad parent.

Society still has a LONG way to go as far as acceptance for those of us in the sex industry, but ultimately it looks as though we are moving towards more sex positivity. I feel empowered thinking that I will raise my daughter to be sex positive and to not feel ashamed sexually. As long as we aren't exposing our children to inappropriate content, I don't see the issue :)

Thanks again to all the amazing comments in this thread. It made me feel 100000% better about my philosophy and choices.
 
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