I came up with conclusion that I've had a problem during all these years in camming.
I've never accepted any pvt invitations without discussing the details of it first (and I'm a pvt based model so my main income comes from privates). My pvt shows are mostly vanilla and catering to innocent fetishes. I'm not into hardcore and I always think that hardcore is what those strangers are gonna demand during the show, at some point.
Also, I'm so grateful for all the unexpected big tips from strangers but I've been rejecting and fearing it on an unconscious level because I think "what if that dude starts demanding something I don't do? I'm not ready for that. I don't want to disappoint people who pay but I've got my limits and I won't do anything I don't want to do, for any amount of tips".
But anyway, other people's expectations just leave bad taste in mouth and ruin my mood and general vibe of my streams.
No problem with freeloaders so far. They don't pay me and I don't pay attention to them. The problem comes with people that are more than happy to pay.
I prefer everything to be made clear and discussed. So no unpleasant surprises for both of us.
I've got my audience and I've been doing pretty well. But new users are a huge opportunity too. And I get tired of this fear and this need to explain my rules every time someone new wants to have a deal with me.
Also, I feel like I overcomplicate things but I can't stop because this fear of dealing with unexpected and upsetting consequences haunts me.
I want to know if someone has the same problem. Any advice is appreciated because it's more of a mental issue rather than a practical one.
I've never accepted any pvt invitations without discussing the details of it first (and I'm a pvt based model so my main income comes from privates). My pvt shows are mostly vanilla and catering to innocent fetishes. I'm not into hardcore and I always think that hardcore is what those strangers are gonna demand during the show, at some point.
Also, I'm so grateful for all the unexpected big tips from strangers but I've been rejecting and fearing it on an unconscious level because I think "what if that dude starts demanding something I don't do? I'm not ready for that. I don't want to disappoint people who pay but I've got my limits and I won't do anything I don't want to do, for any amount of tips".
But anyway, other people's expectations just leave bad taste in mouth and ruin my mood and general vibe of my streams.
No problem with freeloaders so far. They don't pay me and I don't pay attention to them. The problem comes with people that are more than happy to pay.
I prefer everything to be made clear and discussed. So no unpleasant surprises for both of us.
I've got my audience and I've been doing pretty well. But new users are a huge opportunity too. And I get tired of this fear and this need to explain my rules every time someone new wants to have a deal with me.
Also, I feel like I overcomplicate things but I can't stop because this fear of dealing with unexpected and upsetting consequences haunts me.
I want to know if someone has the same problem. Any advice is appreciated because it's more of a mental issue rather than a practical one.