Getting over the mental hurdle of camming....

[kaytlinjames]

Sometimes I have such a hard time getting over the mental hurdle of doing hair, doing makeup, getting my toys out, and performing on camera. I end up streaming like every other day and I could do so much better if I increased my time spent on stream.

What do you hotties do to combat this? Do some of you not experience it? I want/need MONEY MONEY but my own libido is pretty low and I have always hated being on camera. I never wear makeup IRL either and my hair goes up in a clip. Couple that with the general distaste for jacking guys off, dealing with broke guys who don't want to tip, having to please low tippers to encourage higher tippers, and weirdos who [insert terrible thing here], it feels like I'm climbing a mountain every time I want to make $50 bucks.

I make about $50-60 in 2 or so hours, which is better than a regular job but not nearly what I want to be making. I'm working on learning how to multistream so I can get more traction for the same amount of effort, but that's another hurdle. As far as looking for alternative work, I have a day job and this is my supplement. It's the only other viable income stream I can currently get, so I need to make it work.

Thanks for listening to me rant I have so much respect for sex workers and the effort they put in -- it's not "easy money" by a LONG shot. The mental load is huge and you guys are rock stars.

 

[Vixxen81]

I had to adopt the Nike slogan, "just do it." Not every night is going to be the same and if one time slot isn't working, try another. I put very little effort into my appearance, I only use the toys I want to use. But at the end of the day, the only true motivating factor is having a successful night.

 

[MarieElise]

The time's gonna pass one way or another, and the reality is you'll probably feel even worse if you don't just get on. Do it enough, and it becomes a habit and overrides anxiety, over time.
Make sure when you are on, you don't ever do anything that you didn't want or feel like doing, at the specific time you did it.
Otherwise, it'll just make it more difficult and feed into anxiety and dread of getting on. Manage your room in a way that makes you look forward to logging in, and don't compromise on that.
No matter who says what; not their room, not their head, not their life energy.

And consider getting into content production on the side, if that's something that is feasible and practical to you & your personal situation.
But plenty of models do really well camming only. It's just harder as a new person these days.
Kick ass & take names Girl!

 

[kaytlinjames]

The time's gonna pass one way or another, and the reality is you'll probably feel even worse if you don't just get on. Do it enough, and it becomes a habit and overrides anxiety, over time.
Make sure when you are on, you don't ever do anything that you didn't want or feel like doing, at the specific time you did it.
Otherwise, it'll just make it more difficult and feed into anxiety and dread of getting on. Manage your room in a way that makes you look forward to logging in, and don't compromise on that.
No matter who says what; not their room, not their head, not their life energy.

And consider getting into content production on the side, if that's something that is feasible and practical to you & your personal situation.
But plenty of models do really well camming only. It's just harder as a new person these days.
Kick ass & take names Girl!

Excellent advice! Content production is also a mental hurdle. I have an OF but only like 7 fans on it. The time balance is rough but ideally I could cam and feed users to my OF. I just have a tough time keeping up. I manage a family of 4 basically by myself so I need like 80 more hours in a day LMAO

 

[kaytlinjames]

I had to adopt the Nike slogan, "just do it." Not every night is going to be the same and if one time slot isn't working, try another. I put very little effort into my appearance, I only use the toys I want to use. But at the end of the day, the only true motivating factor is having a successful night.

I like this approach!

 

[Vixxen81]

Excellent advice! Content production is also a mental hurdle. I have an OF but only like 7 fans on it. The time balance is rough but ideally I could cam and feed users to my OF. I just have a tough time keeping up. I manage a family of 4 basically by myself so I need like 80 more hours in a day LMAO

Record your streams and post that as OF content.

 

[MarieElise]

Personally, I'm not a fan of OF.
I am almost 100% exclusively a SM model for live shows, and SM models are not and have never been allowed to advertise OF, while live camming.
If I had put 13 years mainly into CB, or MFC I would likly feel very differently about OF. But, for me, unless I hired someone, OF just wouldn't be practical for me. And I'm not hiring anyone. That's a nightmare I'm neither ready, nor looking forward to beginning.

When I say content sites, I'm referring loosely to C4S (clips4sale), IWC (Iwantclips.com), MV (ManyVids), and Loyalfans(LF) . Those are my core four. However, I will say that there has been a lot of drama surrounding some of these sites this year, and changes they have decided to make in response to the evolving economy and political climate in the US. Some of those changes have been outlined (and fully rolled out) in some very "interesting" ways. That's all I want to say on that matter, and I will not say anything further on that matter publicly.

I wish there was 80 hours too, I feel ya! Manage a large family also. I have some help, but not enough!