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littlemissvivien

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Since starting on MFC 10 days ago I have been inundated with requests for in person meetings. It isn't even "do you do irl sessions" its "I see you do in person sessions, where are you located?" Every person I have asked won't tell me why/where they got this impression. I have googled myself to make sure there isn't a site out there advertising it or something. Is this just how guys are on MFC? Am I doing/saying something that is attracting this? I joke about "coming over there and spanking your little butt" (lol) but surely this isn't enough to warrant the messages. I had a sub say "real time session" on Onlyfans and I am wondering if I need to ban him? If its mentioned in my twitter DMs do I need to block and ignore these messages? I don't want to lose my OF or twitter because these guys are ignorant. Is it ok to mention Skype on OF and in twitter DMs when I correct them and say internet appointments only?
 
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Sadly, I think a number of members are that way. Clearly define in your profile that you do not, will not, shall not meet with members in person. If it gets brought up in chatroom, or elsewhere, be sure to respond with you do not do in person requests and you'd be happy to do a private/skype date with them.

As to "real time session", I take it as a live private/skype session. Not in person. But, I think the smart way to play that is you're open for an online date with them.
 

littlemissvivien

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Thank you for sharing. On streamate I had plenty of guys try to give their phone number but now this actively seeking me out on socials and, I guess, pretending they can meet me in person is crazy. It is possible the "real time" means online, he did ask where I was located so that's why I think he meant in person. . . . It was just one of many messages that seemed to imply in person and I was very annoyed. I suppose this flood of in person requests is most likely due to MFC allowing me to share my social handles and users saying things on other social media they wouldn't try on MFC.
 
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It’s definitely not just an MFC thing, but a select few members thing. I’ve been asked several times on chaturbate about my location and how they will pay x amount to meet up without even asking if I meet irl first and nothing on my profile alludes to me allowing any such thing. I always say no, I don’t disclose my location or meet up with members in person. They usually leave the room pretty quickly, but if anyone ever became insistent, I’d just block them.
 
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Sadly, I think a number of members are that way.
Indeed. Judging by the number of model bios that explicitly mentions "no irl meets" or similar, this question must come up frequently in the communication channels models use. You sometimes see it in public chats as well, where a grey user barges in and just starts negotiating for escort services thinking it's only a matter of how much money is on the table.

But then again, most guys will tell you the chase is better than the catch, so that could be a thing as well. Still annoying though.
 
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Thank you for sharing. On streamate I had plenty of guys try to give their phone number but now this actively seeking me out on socials and, I guess, pretending they can meet me in person is crazy. It is possible the "real time" means online, he did ask where I was located so that's why I think he meant in person. . . . It was just one of many messages that seemed to imply in person and I was very annoyed. I suppose this flood of in person requests is most likely due to MFC allowing me to share my social handles and users saying things on other social media they wouldn't try on MFC.

I think models always get this, and sadly I think it's extremely more likely to happen with newer models. People trying to take advantage of newer models.

Sometimes I think when a member asks where a model is located, it's more out of curiosity than malicious intent. But, still wise to not disclose unless you want to be in a general sense such as Country or region (East or West Coast as an example). I know some models are more open about being in a particular city if it's large.

As to your OF member, I've had generic/vanilla conversations with models where it's come up that it'd be nice to have the conversation in person over a cup of coffee. Or, in one model's case, we've joked about having a "burger date" because we both enjoyed a particular kind of cheeseburger and each other's company in the conversation. But, when this has come up, it was meant in a very vanilla, non-sexual manner if it happened.

Those conversations were in PM/DM or via messaging app where it was out of the public eye. We both know and understand that the chances of such a meeting actually occurring is not realistic. Both due to privacy/safety concerns as well as distance or just life in general.
 
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ava1992

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Hey! :)

I promise it isn't anything you are doing. People ask me too sometimes. (obvious NO.)
It's definitely annoying lol
I don't really know why they ask.
It's a camming site not a dating site, seems like people would get that haha.

I usually just say "Sorry, I don't do anything off the site." and then block if they get too pushy.

Good vibes :)
Ava/PrettyArtist1992

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I think models always get this, and sadly I think it's extremely more likely to happen with newer models. People trying to take advantage of newer models.

Sometimes I think when a member asks where a model is located, it's more out of curiosity than malicious intent. But, still wise to not disclose unless you want to be in a general sense such as Country or region (East or West Coast as an example). I know some models are more open about being in a particular city if it's large.

As to your OF member, I've had generic/vanilla conversations with models where it's come up that it'd be nice to have the conversation in person over a cup of coffee. Or, in one model's case, we've joked about having a "burger date" because we both enjoyed a particular kind of cheeseburger and each other's company in the conversation. But, when this has come up, it was meant in a very vanilla, non-sexual manner if it happened.

Those conversations were in PM/DM or via messaging app where it was out of the public eye. We both know and understand that the chances of such a meeting actually occurring is not realistic. Both due to privacy/safety concerns as well as distance or just life in general.

Too late to edit. But, I forgot to clarify that these conversations are with models I've come to know over a period of time as a regular in their room, etc.
 
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Since starting on MFC 10 days ago I have been inundated with requests for in person meetings. It isn't even "do you do irl sessions" its "I see you do in person sessions, where are you located?" Every person I have asked won't tell me why/where they got this impression. I have googled myself to make sure there isn't a site out there advertising it or something. Is this just how guys are on MFC? Am I doing/saying something that is attracting this? I joke about "coming over there and spanking your little butt" (lol) but surely this isn't enough to warrant the messages. I had a sub say "real time session" on Onlyfans and I am wondering if I need to ban him? If its mentioned in my twitter DMs do I need to block and ignore these messages? I don't want to lose my OF or twitter because these guys are ignorant. Is it ok to mention Skype on OF and in twitter DMs when I correct them and say internet appointments only?

No its just the members. I find it amusing, really. I know that To us models it's work but some of the viewers seem to think that we are just so unbelievably crazy for sex that we'd just meet them in person - like you do on tinder. They don't seem to get that we are working and that's all.

I've had quite a few offers myself. They try to ask personal information either directly or indirectly so as to ascertain whether a meet up is possible. Mostly though the members just reply with " :(" when I say no but some are quite insistent. Then it's time To just ignore them until they get tired and leave the room or the ban hammer

I would not talk about other video chat platforms on the one you use. So for example, if you're on onlyfans you don't talk about another site. I'd suggest you send them to your Twitter account and continue the conversation there
 

MissCJ

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I get it constantly. I usually just play it off and be flirty, but if they keep pushing, I tell them Im too nervous for that sort of thing. If they continue after that, I remind them it's against the rules and generally the law, too, since it would be prostitution and I stop giving them attention.

I had one guy keep messaging me on all platforms with a price he would pay and I just blocked him.

Lots of guys are lonely and are looking for something and I get that, but I don't want to profit off someone's loneliness or feel like I'm leading someone on. So it's best to be upfront.
 
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I haven't even been camming that long and I somehow got a "regular" that regularly "joked" about me coming to his house. I'm on CB, and these Johns got some nerve thinking I meet in person and do full service because they throw some nickles at me. I ban Johns if they keep asking, just for the sheer audacity and disrespect of the entitlement to assume I do in person and full service because I cam when I have nothing that says I provide those services. I strict because I'm on edge about current events, so if that seems like a lot I fully acknowledge that I'm being very extra, right now.
 
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I haven't even been camming that long and I somehow got a "regular" that regularly "joked" about me coming to his house. I'm on CB, and these Johns got some nerve thinking I meet in person and do full service because they throw some nickles at me. I ban Johns if they keep asking, just for the sheer audacity and disrespect of the entitlement to assume I do in person and full service because I cam when I have nothing that says I provide those services. I strict because I'm on edge about current events, so if that seems like a lot I fully acknowledge that I'm being very extra, right now.
I've shared my camming with just one Indian friend and the first thing he said to me and something he has said to me on multiple occasions is "if you continue to do this, the next step is prostitution. Please listen to me and stop this.etc etc etc "

And I'm like, wtf. It's incredible how people who have no fucking clue about the industry dole out advice as if they know everything. It's like you said, how can they just assume that because we cam, we would actually have sex in person? Like what is the benefit?! This total lack of knowledge and presumption really pisses me off
 
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"if you continue to do this, the next step is prostitution. Please listen to me and stop this.etc etc etc "
It's typical when you have lifestyle, personal or professional choices other people can't even be a tiny bit arsed to try and understand. I'm not going to go into details, but I've had the same useless, negative shit thrown at me for my own choices in life. Carry on. The square pegs and the round holes is a lie.
 

littlemissvivien

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Jul 4, 2020
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I feel as though working on Streamate kept me in a bubble or something. Users from MFC having access to my DMs on twitter, insta, and OF has totally ruined social media for me lol. I gained 200+ followers in the last week across platforms and it seems many of them think I want to meet them. I wish they would have the gall to ask me on MFC in chat so I could ban their asses. I did have my first serious marriage proposal as well, so a week of firsts! An hour long true private that included breeding kink and it turned out he wasn't joking about the breeding part. Wowza, MFC, you fun. There is a fine line between having a sexy imagination/roleplay and being straight up creepy.
 
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I've shared my camming with just one Indian friend and the first thing he said to me and something he has said to me on multiple occasions is "if you continue to do this, the next step is prostitution. Please listen to me and stop this.etc etc etc "

And I'm like, wtf. It's incredible how people who have no fucking clue about the industry dole out advice as if they know everything. It's like you said, how can they just assume that because we cam, we would actually have sex in person? Like what is the benefit?! This total lack of knowledge and presumption really pisses me off

Or, he could educate himself and learn to sex workers and sex work, and stop being a misogynist. Just a thought.

Good luck to you, though.
 
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Some guys just like to stay deluded. Recently I had to type to one how I’m not on cam site to look for my next husband. He acted as if I said “I’m here to find a husband” and continued in his lunacy until I banned him 😂

Eww.:hungover: "Stop. Get some help." Comes to mind.

I've seen some really wild stuff in other model's chats. One of my favorites (I guess we're friends?) get an anti-Asain racist every now and then. "Speak Asian" is so disgusting.
 
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I feel as though working on Streamate kept me in a bubble or something. Users from MFC having access to my DMs on twitter, insta, and OF has totally ruined social media for me lol. I gained 200+ followers in the last week across platforms and it seems many of them think I want to meet them. I wish they would have the gall to ask me on MFC in chat so I could ban their asses. I did have my first serious marriage proposal as well, so a week of firsts! An hour long true private that included breeding kink and it turned out he wasn't joking about the breeding part. Wowza, MFC, you fun. There is a fine line between having a sexy imagination/roleplay and being straight up creepy.
This is exactly why I don't do twitter/install etc. Because I know it's the freeloaders who want to dm without paying. Therefore when someone asks I say, nope, only snap or only fans.

What is a breeding kink? Is that when they say they "want to make you pregnant?"
 
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What is a breeding kink? Is that when they say they "want to make you pregnant?"
It's being turned on by the risk of a (socially taboo) pregnancy. Race or incest fantasies can be a part of the taboo.
The kink/fantasy probably works better in some cultures than in others.
 
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