Ladies how do you deal with...

[JerMajesty]

Sad sacks in your room :-D


Meaning that one , bring the mood down type of premium...


Just asking cause I see it happen...well...almost every time..haha I like conversation, and I try to bring positive energy to the chat or at least keep up with what everyone is talking about...


But when I see someone typing ... Oh my wife left me :icon-cry: , i have cancer :icon-cry: , i have no job :crybaby: ...seriously dampens the mood and it makes me feel like not typing anymore and leaving ...


kill joys essentially...or buzz kills ...that make you wanna feel sorry for themselves...

How do you deal with those type of regulars?

 

[PlayboyMegan]

I ask them to take it to a PM (or PM them myself) so my whole room doesn't have to deal with it. I care about my regulars and I have sympathy for their situations, but 300 other guys who are horny and don't know them, probably don't want to hear it. So PM is best.

 

[Kittycatpurr]

I ask them to take it to a PM (or PM them myself) so my whole room doesn't have to deal with it. I care about my regulars and I have sympathy for their situations, but 300 other guys who are horny and don't know them, probably don't want to hear it. So PM is best.

This this this ^^

Ultimately my regs all know that the room gets fucked up if they turn into debbie downer so they don't do it in public chat, but on the occasion when someone who i know but isn't what i'd consider a good reg did this to me, I banned him and sent a PM explaining that i couldn't have him using my room as his negativity dumping ground but that he could come back in if he agreed to keep it to PM (he hadn't been).

 

[JoleneBrody]

If it is someone I know and do give a shit about I'll pm them. If it's someone I don't know I just say "that sucks" and instantly move to something happy. I just don't really give it attention. People pick up on this pretty quick.

 

[LindseyDoll]

It's not a situation I've run into much, except for being told things like "I don't have a job or I would totally tip right now" and things like that. I mostly get comments along those lines about being unemployed. To be honest I never really know what to say. I don't want to be a bitch and tell them they have to tip or anything, and I totally understand where they're coming from... I just wonder why they feel the need to tell me. They could just quietly not tip and it would be less uncomfortable for the rest of us.

 

[AmberCutie]

If it's someone I'm familiar with then I may say something like "Oh that sucks, but you're here now so let's enjoy the view" and if it's someone I've never talked to before there's a good chance I'll just ignore them. If it's the latter, there's a good chance they are just going from room to room trying to find the one girl who will give them the pity they want, and by ignoring them I'm avoiding that whole song and dance.

As much as I like to be there emotionally for some of my MFC friends, my public chat is NOT the place to bring it to my attention. If you feel the urge to discuss something depressing with me, here's how to go about it:

Step 1 - really evaluate how close of an Internet friendship we have. If we've only spoken a few times, and especially if some of those times were sexy silly things, chances are I don't consider us close enough to be part of your pity party.

Step 2 - if you still feel it's appropriate to discuss it with me, send me a DM on Twitter (If I am not following you there, chances are Step 1 didn't make sense to you) or an MFC mail or a PM on this forum. It's best not to do any of these things while I am actually on cam.

Step 3 - wait. If a few days go by and I haven't acknowledged your message, I may have chosen to ignore it. I am a cam girl, after all, not a therapist, and if I've ignored your message it means I'd rather not dive into the emotion ocean with you.

 

[sweetiebatman]

I saw this in a room the other night, someone was claiming to have cancer in public chat

To me, and I'm sure this might not apply to 100% of people who do this but i would question someones motives if they were giving out that level of personal detail as to me it would suggest someone is looking for attention,

If I were in that situation i wouldn't want to tell strangers if I had an illness/personal problem

 

[AmberCutie]

I saw this in a room the other night, someone was claiming to have cancer in public chat

To me, and I'm sure this might not apply to 100% of people who do this but i would question someones motives if they were giving out that level of personal detail as to me it would suggest someone is looking for attention,

If I were in that situation i wouldn't want to tell strangers if I had an illness/personal problem

In this situation, I wouldn't be surprised if their hoped outcome was the model taking pity on them, sending them a PM and discussing it in more depth, and then once the member feels the model has enough sympathy for him, he asks for something free. A picture set, a video, a special shout out... SOMETHING free. It's then that I'd recommend anyone hoping this scheme works to try the same plan on a vending machine and see how fast the vending machine spits out a free bag of skittles due to the requester's sympathy story. :snooty:

 

[sweetiebatman]

Tried that once Amber, I wont lie, I was pretty drunk and the Vending machine stayed strong to its credit :lol:

 

[jennavalentine]

if it's someone i know i tell them to PM me. i also feel this way about people who talk about NOTHING all the way in my chat room and take up the whole feed.

 

[FrecklesXxX]

If it's someone I'm familiar with then I may say something like "Oh that sucks, but you're here now so let's enjoy the view"

^This. A guy came into my room a few days ago saying how depressed he was because his gf broke up with him, then went on about taking a whole bottle of his medication. That's how he introduced himself. I was like, "well at least you're here, and now we can have some fun together & get your mind off of what's bothering you." That plants the notion that it's time to move on and focus on something more tangible. :violin:

My husband is a *little* less compassionate. His response: "You should've talked him into maxing out his credit cards and clearing out his bank account to send you tokens since he won't be needing his money anyway."

 

[CamillaJay]

Man it seems I've been handling this the wrong way. I have two regulars who have only tipped me one time each. One of them lost his job and is kind of a negative person depending on the day and the other has health problems and is always looking for my attention and saying things like "did you see what I typed". Yes it gets really annoying but I thought I was being nice and understanding by not blowing them off, not really realizing that hmmmm maybe that's why no one else is talking especially with the dude that had lost his job. Sometimes the other members will say something uplifting which is nice but yea I'm not gonna deal with it anymore. just gonna tell them to say it in pm.

 

[JoleneBrody]

Man it seems I've been handling this the wrong way. I have two regulars who have only tipped me one time each. One of them lost his job and is kind of a negative person depending on the day and the other has health problems and is always looking for my attention and saying things like "did you see what I typed". Yes it gets really annoying but I thought I was being nice and understanding by not blowing them off, not really realizing that hmmmm maybe that's why no one else is talking especially with the dude that had lost his job. Sometimes the other members will say something uplifting which is nice but yea I'm not gonna deal with it anymore. just gonna tell them to say it in pm.

Or not at all. If they feel they really need to vent to you they should send you an MFC mail that you can read when you are not busy working. When I do take it to PM for someone I really like it is not an everyday issue and I still make it very brief but let them know I'm sorry for them and will try to make them smile. You can't let it ruin your attitude and vibe though. Constant pming every single day will be even more distracting. If they do it everyday it will probably be best just to put the nix on it all together.

 

[Jupiter551]

Yes it gets really annoying but I thought I was being nice and understanding by not blowing them off, not really realizing that hmmmm maybe that's why no one else is talking especially with the dude that had lost his job.

Well it's to your credit that you have compassion for other people, though as others have said people can also try to take advantage of this at times.

I ask them to take it to a PM (or PM them myself) so my whole room doesn't have to deal with it.

Yeah but whose PM, your PM? That would get old fast lol

 

[Rose]

Basically what most of the other models have stated. "I'm sorry honey. I hope you're having more fun now." Then change the subject. If it's a regular then I may pm with them some to talk. If it's not I typically assume they're just trying to get free content.

 

[JerMajesty]

Some of the senior citizen premium members of mfc are repeat offenders of being sad sacks..

Would you treat them any differently?

Example..everyones having a fun conversation

In comes gramps with a sad sack depressing ass comment...that sorta focuses attention on him on how :crybaby: his situation is...

then everyone in the room feels sorry for him thus the happy mood just turned sour... :snooty:

 

[Jupiter551]

How about Szia? He's old and just a general tard, how do you deal with him??

 

[ComicOzzie]

A related thing I am seeing in several rooms now is the unsuccessful model who comes in and bitches about how much MFC sucks and how much she hates her job. Always uplifting!

 

[LailaBaise]

How about Szia? He's old and just a general tard, how do you deal with him??

Back when I was a noob Szia used to come in my room and pretend to be my friend. I had the UK blocked at that time, which caused a lot of fuss in the lounge because English girls were rare back then. So guys would be demanding to be allowed in my room and using tricks to bypass the block (which AdminLeo fixed for me after I told him) I then found out Szia had been posting screencaps of me in the lounge for the British guys. :roll: while offering sympathy to me at the same time over the issue. I confronted him, he pleaded ignorance, or insanity, I forget which and said that I shouldn't be a cam model if I have to block an area. It was the flaming principle! Obviously I no longer block the UK and am happy with that decision. But the moral of the story is, that not only is he an auto-playing attention whore, he is also a sycophantic-snake in the grass-buttsucking-energy vacuum.

 

[innesx]

If it is a regular, I'd ask him to email me. If it is someone else, I would say "aw I'm sorry that sucks" and move on.

 

[JerMajesty]

what does a sadsack gain by tweeting to a model how crappy his situation is...


cheerful model : goodmorning hows everyone doing

sadsack : not so good _____( insert bad situation here ) blah blah blah

model : @sadsack feel better

sadsack: too expensive ..cost a lot of $$$$ cant afford it blah blah blah




haha...seriously... some people.. <_<

 

[PlayboyMegan]

what does a sadsack gain by tweeting to a model how crappy his situation is...


cheerful model : goodmorning hows everyone doing

sadsack : not so good _____( insert bad situation here ) blah blah blah

model : @sadsack feel better

sadsack: too expensive ..cost a lot of $$$$ cant afford it blah blah blah




haha...seriously... some people.. <_<

hahahaha I totally understand if a guy wants to confide in a model if he has known her a while. I just find it super odd when a guy does this the first or second time in my room. I would NEVER open up like that right off the bat. So weird to me.

 

[naughty_natasha]

Im still pretty new to camming...but how do you react when a a man tells you that he wears women's lingerie and sticks toys in himself? He asked me how i felt about it, and I couldn't even respond. I didn't know what to say lol. Do you think he was just trying to see my reaction? i know there are many different fetishes, many that im sure im still not aware of...but how do i go about dealing with the more extraordinary ones?

 

[alexa7]

Im still pretty new to camming...but how do you react when a a man tells you that he wears women's lingerie and sticks toys in himself? He asked me how i felt about it, and I couldn't even respond. I didn't know what to say lol. Do you think he was just trying to see my reaction? i know there are many different fetishes, many that im sure im still not aware of...but how do i go about dealing with the more extraordinary ones?

Just wait if you ever decided to do cam to cam... some things just cannot be unseen! :crybaby:

 

[naughty_natasha]

haha i can only imagine...ive done a few c2c, but its only been the same thing: watching a guy jerk off. certainly nothing exciting yet lol

 

[Jupiter551]

I'd forgotten about this thread but I guess it's kind of relevant to me at the moment as I had some pretty bad news (as I related in another thread) but have been very consciously NOT bringing it up to people on MFC - a little in pm but not, I think, to the point of feeling sorry for myself and so forth - and certainly never in public chat.

And frankly...there's no point, even for the depressed person, to bring down a whole group of other people. Yesterday after I got my bad news I went and hung out with Amber and her regs, and specifically not having to think about it for a while really brightened my day.

Obviously it's not going to change the hard facts, but you wonderful ladies and your amusing and friendly regs can make life a little more positive in even the most difficult times so thankyou for that :thumbleft:

 

[AmberCutie]

I'd forgotten about this thread but I guess it's kind of relevant to me at the moment as I had some pretty bad news (as I related in another thread) but have been very consciously NOT bringing it up to people on MFC - a little in pm but not, I think, to the point of feeling sorry for myself and so forth - and certainly never in public chat.

And frankly...there's no point, even for the depressed person, to bring down a whole group of other people. Yesterday after I got my bad news I went and hung out with Amber and her regs, and specifically not having to think about it for a while really brightened my day.

Obviously it's not going to change the hard facts, but you wonderful ladies and your amusing and friendly regs can make life a little more positive in even the most difficult times so thankyou for that :thumbleft:

You did great with it, thank you for having the brain capacity to go about it right! And I'm really flattered that you chose to hang in my room, and super glad we could distract ya for a while.

 

[Rose]

I'd forgotten about this thread but I guess it's kind of relevant to me at the moment as I had some pretty bad news (as I related in another thread) but have been very consciously NOT bringing it up to people on MFC - a little in pm but not, I think, to the point of feeling sorry for myself and so forth - and certainly never in public chat.

And frankly...there's no point, even for the depressed person, to bring down a whole group of other people. Yesterday after I got my bad news I went and hung out with Amber and her regs, and specifically not having to think about it for a while really brightened my day.

Obviously it's not going to change the hard facts, but you wonderful ladies and your amusing and friendly regs can make life a little more positive in even the most difficult times so thankyou for that :thumbleft:

You were very pleasant when you came and visited my room the other night as well. Kudos for letting me breach the subject and not doing it yourself. :thumbleft: I think you were a good model of an appropriate way to handle situations like these.

 

[LindseyDoll]

Lately I`ve been getting this from models on chaturbate. Sometimes they come into my room and complain that they have hardly anyone watching, or that they can`t get tips.
I really have no idea what to do in that situation. I usually just tell them that their avatar is pretty and wish them luck.. :?

 

[LacieLaPlante]

Lately I`ve been getting this from models on chaturbate. Sometimes they come into my room and complain that they have hardly anyone watching, or that they can`t get tips.
I really have no idea what to do in that situation. I usually just tell them that their avatar is pretty and wish them luck.. :?

You know.. once a model did this and I just gave her suggestions and tips on how to get better, a few things you would learn here like, explained camscore a bit to her and said that it will go down if she isn't making tokens, to try little breaks to ensure it wouldn't fall too far. And later the guys said that was a really cool thing for me to do, I got a 100 token tip out of it.