There have been members who were excellent at helping my conversation that I always smiled when I saw them come into my room, but they never took me private. Conversely, there are members who take me private but never talk outside the private. In private, I love the show so much, so it always brings a smile to my face. But I don't look at the member list on any of the sites, so until someone either talks, tips, or takes me private, I won't even know they are there.
For these members, I do feel sexually attracted to them during the private, but afterwards I don't. It goes back to how I am, really. I don't like wanting something from someone that they don't want to give me. And being in a committed relationship, I'm not going to be actually sexually attracted to anyone else. I'll revel in the fantasy, but if the reality came along I doubt I'd feel anything, because I don't want to hurt my actual partner. Again, I'm used to suppressing my desires for the greater good. Example: I love and hate pain. I hate it because it makes me scared I won't be as useful anymore. I love it because I like it. But the fear of not being useful is stronger than the desire to feel pain, so I still react badly to pain. Fear of giving someone a bad experience is always the stronger emotion for me, so I suppress any desires that would lead to that.
So, while there are plenty of guys who as soon as they take me private I get very happy that they want to give me a show, and I do sexually desire them during the private, that desire goes away after the private is over, because of real life things.