Scale of 1 - 10 how big of an idiot was I

[Karma2Burn]

10+ idiot for grammar alone ..... I couldn't read it, "lol!"

im from brooklyn...sorry

 

[Marceline]

I think never getting emotionally attached is the ticket to success when enjoying a cam model.

This. I'm happy to see an OP of one of these cam model lovecon threads say this.

 

[yummybrownfox]

This. I'm happy to see an OP of one of these cam model lovecon threads say this.

Me too! I'm really impressed with how he's handled all of the replies to his thread. He didn't lash out with "Fuck you guys...you're just dumb whores...we're in love" or anything like that. Plus I think his screen name is awesome.

 

[Smoothie]

you know we can agree on this. some models hat i have visited / made friends with over 7 years have been cool, nice and sexy/funny.. . I think never getting emotionally attached is the ticket to success when enjoying a cam model. Its their job... they need support ..not lurkers....tits and ass is everywhere.. for me it never was about that. Thanks for your reply

Bingo. Don’t get emotionally attached. Friendships with clear boundaries are one thing, but what you described is way beyond that.

Asking for a loan at all should have been a huge red flag. A loan of that size is just crazy. General rule of thumb, IMO: If you can’t resist helping a model with a little extra money, don’t give anything unless you’re cool with it being a gift. Never expect repayment. If the amount is too much for you to part with unless it’s repaid, then don’t give it.

Being close with a model (friends or whatever else you believe is happening) only makes that rule more important, not less.

 

[Karma2Burn]

Me too! I'm really impressed with how he's handled all of the replies to his thread. He didn't lash out with "Fuck you guys...you're just dumb whores...we're in love" or anything like that. Plus I think his screen name is awesome.

thank you miss brownfox.. i came here for opinions and i accept all ... your nick is on point too dear

 

[Karma2Burn]

Bingo. Don’t get emotionally attached. Friendships with clear boundaries are one thing, but what you described is way beyond that.

Asking for a loan at all should have been a huge red flag. A loan of that size is just crazy. General rule of thumb, IMO: If you can’t resist helping a model with a little extra money, don’t give anything unless you’re cool with it being a gift. Never expect repayment. If the amount is too much for you to part with unless it’s repaid, then don’t give it.

Being close with a model (friends or whatever else you believe is happening) only makes that rule more important, not less.

very true for sure and thank you for your opinion

 

[Karma2Burn]

Bingo. Don’t get emotionally attached. Friendships with clear boundaries are one thing, but what you described is way beyond that.

Asking for a loan at all should have been a huge red flag. A loan of that size is just crazy. General rule of thumb, IMO: If you can’t resist helping a model with a little extra money, don’t give anything unless you’re cool with it being a gift. Never expect repayment. If the amount is too much for you to part with unless it’s repaid, then don’t give it.

Being close with a model (friends or whatever else you believe is happening) only makes that rule more important, not less.

Well said!! I was in a dopamine fog for a minute..the 16K I can afford..it was my feelings and disappointment that was hard to deal with.. thank for your opinon.!

 

[CornerStone_]

Well said!! I was in a dopamine fog for a minute..the 16K I can afford..it was my feelings and disappointment that was hard to deal with.. thank for your opinon.!

I'm glad it was money you could afford, because for many of those stories it was not, so that's something positive you can focus on

IMO: If you can’t resist helping a model with a little extra money, don’t give anything unless you’re cool with it being a gift. Never expect repayment. If the amount is too much for you to part with unless it’s repaid, then don’t give it.

I think that's a good rule of thumb not only with models but with pretty much everyone!

 

[Aprilsweetart]

Random..brain works this way sometimes...had to vent ... get a coffee

thoughts…She..my camgirl “girlfriend”…settings..nighttimeUS on CB

SHE: had dream of car..mentioned exact car wanted..many times

connected with social media..skype whatsapp

became girlfriend

love bombed me on birthday with special cake in pass show

tipping heavy all the time

told me she had an ex…he lost his mind when his father died..they couldn’t make it..he was unwilling..

told me she had a son 5 years old..hesitited to do so

daily compliments

gave me more info

on her and her family without going in to details when asked further

changed the subject

asked for a loan…will pay back..as written on whatsappp

gave he loan..told her since she was going to look for a place in Italy to live pay me back when u get settled..but first

going with “uncle” to Germany to look for 2013 santa fe black or white

by chance I looked on face book and saw a picture of her her brother and her “ex” eating pizza in 2018 january

confused,,she lied..found her face book web site and told her while she was driving back from ger..if she even went there what I discovered

she was irate..i was snooping and checking her out..blamed her bro for the web site

but

I knew her real name..her passport and ID

we settled this and she said this was a long ago picture..i didn’t believe it but passed on it

since I had bought a ticket to meet her in Feb172019 on her birthday in Romania

then one day..dindt hear from her for 3 days

finally she was sick ill migraine, liver, back all of this bullshit,,,but I didn’t question

told me her ex came to her apartment..they spoke for hours in kitchen

he wanted her back…she told him I may be your wife but im not your woman..hahaha

all this time for a while..i told her I can get her divorced…but noo

he was he sons hero..they spoke every day since he lived in Austria working …hahahha

then one day..a Sunday..she told me that here “ex” went to her dad and professed his love for her

and since her day…they guy whos car was trashed..and she need to give him her car to drive..and that’s why she needed her dream..was sick she obliged.

I called her phone.. a man answered..i asked for her name…he had no idea who this was..he sounded honest

I mentioned his sons name and he became attentive and I guess asked cuz he can speak English why I wanted to kno about him..the son.. I asked for “d” again…I heard her in the background..this was her phone this man picked up..i heard her child..they were laughing

I finally hung up

she called sonn there after and an argument ensued..they were visiting her MIL and her “ex” was there

this all passed..i don’t know why I was suck an idiot..foolish I don’t know

but

she was leaving for Italy to look for a place that she can raise her son ..a nice place to get him away from her country

then one day

I called her..na…I called her she picked up we started to speak and she was under stress cuz now I was becoming more attuned to her lies and was asking more questions

well..this was bad,,,,her narsasitic devil reared out

she told me this is the last time I would hear her voice on the phone…she hung up

a week later

on whatsapp…we got into an argument..i sent her a picture…she asked why I sent it…but she had a fantasy about it

she told me it didn’t measure up tiny…belittled me…told me while she was in Italy,,she met a nice Italian man

they made love..his was huge..how degrading this was..brutal with no empathy.. I was hurt..she did this intentionally to hurt me…told me other things…I asked for my money

the loan to be paid in full 16,000USD

or I will follow thru with litigation in her country…she said..i told her it was a gift

I demanded my money… the car loan money..she said..what car?? what money?? ehh..never did

my estimate..tipped over 500,000 tokens on her on cb..and for the most part was thinking im helping her out because she is tired, sick, whateva..



I don’t know what happens to the mind..it takes you where it want to if you are not paying attention to things obvious to another person looking in on it

as of now…. a painful reminder when I think about it

how foolish I was and how calculation and evil she was within her greed..words escape me to define this feeling anger disappointment in myself and for what

to make someone else happy while I suffer… she knew

from the very start..how conniving..selfish..without feeling she knew what she was doing to me

it didn’t matter to her..i suppose..i probably am not the only one she has done this too

but it was my detachment from reality..addiction to this feeling..attention…that was the beginning to my end with this person

I don’t exixt to her now..ignoring on all platforms…

my first instinct is to get even fuck her up make her life bitter hurtfull painfull as she made mine..im not that person tho

it was all a game..a show..an act by a skillful scamming narcissistic being..as she remains today

Can we love bomb people by simply making them a cake? So easy now.

This is oof. I'm sorry man. Good luck with your healing and maybe take a break to work on you and your inner love for a while.

 

[Karma2Burn]

Can we love bomb people by simply making them a cake? So easy now.

This is oof. I'm sorry man. Good luck with your healing and maybe take a break to work on you and your inner love for a while.

Sure...love bombing can take many forms..some genuine some with an alternate motive. Thank you for the good wishes...my zen level is high.

 

[Smores]

@Karma2Burn I feel like I read the outline to a James Joyce novel. You need to turn that into a book.

Reading between the lines, had you even met this girl in real life before you started to think of her as "girlfriend"?

 

[Karma2Burn]

@Karma2Burn I feel like I read the outline to a James Joyce novel. You need to turn that into a book.

Reading between the lines, had you even met this girl in real life before you started to think of her as "girlfriend"?

Wow..great analogy. And maybe your right I should write this out as it was played .

I never had met this person in real life..but this was as we both considered it a long distance relationship that with what we spoke of as plans..would lead to coming together. All started in March 2018 and thru out the following months.. and you know, in reading some of these in love with a camgirl threads..my story parallels alot of them..our "connection" solidified.
Our planned meeting was to be on her birthday in February of 2019. With my proactive nature I purchased a ticket to Romania for that meeting. Of course, as you have read, her "ex " husband came back into the picture..although he was never out of the picture and well...there you have it.
Thanks for you comment!

BTW: I wish I would have known about this forum prior to going in blind to something I had no experience with. Internal scars take along time to heal.

 

[Smores]

I never had met this person in real life..but this was as we both considered it a long distance relationship that with what we spoke of as plans..would lead to coming together. All started in March 2018 and thru out the following months.. and you know, in reading some of these in love with a camgirl threads..my story parallels alot of them..our "connection" solidified.

Maybe my numbers are too conservative (or too depressing), but here is my take on the odds of converting an online-only romance into something that is real. If I am talking to someone who is trying to convince me that we are going to have a relationship based on just an Internet interaction, I am going to be 95% sure that they are either running a scam on me, or alternately they just have not learned that Internet chemistry and face-to-face chemistry are not the same thing.

 

[Karma2Burn]

Maybe my numbers are too conservative (or too depressing), but here is my take on the odds of converting an online-only romance into something that is real. If I am talking to someone who is trying to convince me that we are going to have a relationship based on just an Internet interaction, I am going to be 95% sure that they are either running a scam on me, or alternately they just have not learned that Internet chemistry and face-to-face chemistry are not the same thing.

I think you are point on with that 95% take on it... and uffff so many fall for it Admittingly I had a huge lapse in common sense.