Okay, I never get involved with threads like this because people just let their emotions and personal experiences take complete control and blind them from seeing the entire picture - and understandably so. It takes a long time and a lot of self-discipline to sit back and look at things for what they really are, rather than react with a knee-jerk emotional outburst.
To be fair, I scanned this thread a bit until it derailed for about a page, so I may have missed a bit and I'm sorry if I'm repeating anything, but the closest I saw to what is really going on is in
@Miss_Lollipop 's post above.
We will
never know what happened between the two
actual individuals unless there is a court case, even then we may never know. It's really none of our business. It's for the courts to decide and if the allegations are true, I hope there is as much support for the victim as possible. If the allegations are
not true, I hope there is as much support for the victim as possible. That's my personal stance. None of us are cops (at least involved in this non-reported case), none of us are on the jury and it's really none of our business... so why are we talking about it? Stoya
made it our business.
Unfortunately, very few people here are realizing that these two performers are professional entertainers posting on their business Twitter accounts - ironic because most of the people responding are performers as well, myself included. What happens off-screen is very different than what happens on-screen and just because we have the porthole of Twitter to give the
illusion of "peering into their 'real' identity" doesn't mean that it is reality. Entertainers are personas, every move is calculated, every Tweet has purpose. Even Deen's crude joke tweets - which he does quite often, if you follow him - have a purpose. All it takes is one public statement taken out of context or one public accusation and that individual's associated career can be destroyed - regardless of gender, subject of accusation, etc.
When it comes down to it - this is not a matter of whether sexual assault is wrong, whether there's a predator on the loose, whether we're all in danger, whether Stoya or others were victims, etc. - this is a PR move. Why did she say what she said publicly? Only she knows. None of us do and there's a strong possibility none of us will
ever know. What we
do know... is that their names are flooding adult media channels right now, this forum included. There's a saying in the entertainment industry, usually accounted to P.T. Barnum (of Barnum & Bailey Circus) and Oscar Wilde that is loosely paraphrased to "any publicity is good publicity".
Another thing I wanted to comment on, which I saw scattered around here and other media channels, is the fact that Deen has apparently not said anything in response. There is literally nothing he can say to absolve his accusations, nor does he have any obligation to feed into the media frenzy that is being imposed on him (assuming he is not
in on it). His Twitter feed is continuing to do exactly what it is intended to do - publicize his work and work persona. If people want to demonize him or Stoya, that's entirely their personal choice, but seriously... all of this stuff is like watching kids play with action figures.
My only comments regarding sexual assault of any kind (since this thread is not titled "general thread on sexual assault" or anything like that) are this - We, as adult entertainers, have a very unique and important opportunity to educate our visitors and regulars on safe sexual practices. Besides actions in our personal lives, that is the only preventative, productive action we can take - I highly encourage that if we feel strongly about the subject, we do so.
