This poll sucks, or sucks a pole.

[camstory]

I am very curious about others interest in giving and/or receiving oral sex. This is a very simple either, or poll. If you had to choose either giving or receiving oral sex which would you choose? You can think about that as the next time it is an option, or for the next month, year, or the rest of your life, and comment on those if you want, but i am looking for an over all answer. For me the answer would be the same for all, and is very absolute, but I have the impression it is not so absolute for everyone. I have purposefully asked the question in a non gender way i think, to allow the question to be as broad as possible. Though now that i think about it, I guess it might be a different answer for some ppl who would answer the question for both male, and female? That too might be interesting to comment on, if you care to. In fact there may be a lot here to comment on, that does not occur to me b/c i am so definite about my mind set i have not given it a lot of thought otherwise.

If it is not already clear what my answer is, I will answer the question myself and comment on why latter.

 

[CharlotteLace]

I would rather give oral. I've had limited sex partners, and none of them were exactly adept at eating out, so it never really did anything for me. Because of my lack of experience receiving, I'm not very comfortable with the act anymore. It makes me nervous and distrusting of my own body, and I start to worry about my partner's reaction to my body's taste, feel, and smell. This discomfort is a big deal for me because I'm almost always confident of my body during sex, even if I'm not the aggressor. But getting oral sex is uncharted territory for me.

Giving, on the other hand, I feel fairly skilled at. There's something mentally comforting about the thickness and feel in my mouth, and I have everything under my control. I know he's enjoying it, and I enjoy giving him pleasure and controlling the sensations. It's a power trip for me to look into his eyes and watch him squirm and moan. I feel confident in giving, and that confidence makes me happy and more satisfied with sexy times.

That being said, I do occasionally fantasize about receiving. Not so much for the sensation, but for the overall focus on my body's pleasure. Getting every bit of the attention during foreplay, and just lying back and enjoying it, that part's appealing to me.

 

[curvyredhead]

GIVE

I have never enjoyed receiving oral...ever.

 

[pg240]

I'm a giver for sure. And fortunately for me, my wife enjoys it -- and she thinks I'm good at it.

 

[Crumb]

I'll be giving all day any day.
Cunnilingus is almost the main event for me.
Lie back, relax and let me go down... if something is not working for you, tell me, direct me, I will take instruction, I will listen, on how to make it an enjoyable experience for you. if I hit a good spot, say "keep doing that" and I'll keep doing that.

 

[Ann_Sulu]

I'd not likely turn down the offer if someone wanted to go down on me, but I'd say I'm much more into giving oral, I love giving head after I've cum not sure specifically why.

 

[Gen]

GIVE. I love giving head. Every once in a while, I want to receive it but it's much more often that I'll want to give.

 

[Rose]

I HATE getting. HATE HATE HATE. Least favorite thing ever. If that's the only thing on the menu I'd rather have no orgasm than recieve oral. It's not because my partner is bad either. I HATE the way tongues feel and any slobber just immediately ruins all pleasant sensation for me.

Nope. Nope. Nope.

 

[southsamurai]

head is ok, but for me receiving its foreplay only (ive only twice in nearly 40 years came from head). now giving head? i can happily go down for hours until my tongue cramps. favorite. thing. ever.

 

[AwesomeKate]

I'm too nervous about my anatomy and smells to enjoy receiving. Unless I'm drunk or high, then I'll push your face down there and love it.

Giving head is my biggest turn on. It gets me the wettest possible. Like, dripping down my thigh. I also think I recently discovered that I have a G-spot in the back of my throat??? I haven't researched it, but when it's deep inside my mouth it feels very similar to it being deep inside my pussy.

yummmmm

 

[NoelleBright]

I can't live without either.
I am absolutely no help. :lol:

 

[Aella]

Am I the only selfish one here? =s
My current fuckbuddy is like Batman, and my vagina is like Gotham.

 

[mynameisbob84]

Am I the only selfish one here? =s
My current fuckbuddy is like Batman, and my vagina is like Gotham.

I'm just as selfish. My cock is like a key, and... my hand is like a key hole... or something.

 

[camstory]

Kate, just in case you didn't notice the "CamStory, right under, The following have thanked AwesomeKate" just above, well then,
Thank You Kate, you are truly Awesome!

Thank you all, who have weighed in on this, and especially those who have taken the time to comment. We thus far have no one on the receiving end who wants to comment. I hope someone will at some point. It is just as worthy, and if you consider us givers need, need, willing recipients than it is not a selfish act. In Fact I would make the argument that it may well be the givers, who, when you consider certain factors, are the shellfish lot.

While I was off on some journey with a drunken Kate digging her fingers into willing flesh, and me yelling, "Let go of my ears, I know what I'm doing!" two post, (make that three) have come in. and we now have a golden glowing vagina projected high above city hall.

I am finding this tough to post on, b/c there is so so much I could say. When I start to think about it all my head feels it will explode in sharpnel of 5000 words. So I will post when I can stop thinking and just exhale a soft warm breath of the simple zen of it.

 

[Anonymous]

Giving is definitely better.

As for receiving...well, I've never been impressed. :sleepy1: Except for that one time. :shock:

I love the smilies on here...lol.

 

[AmberCutie]

:shock:

 

[jeff98902]

I'm too nervous about my anatomy and smells to enjoy receiving.

my partner's reaction to my body's taste, feel, and smell.

I feel that most girls feel the same as Kate and Charlotte.
I voted, "I Would rather give oral stimulation." making a woman orgasm with my tongue is fantastic.
Most men that like giving oral pleasure to females her scent and the feel of her anatomy are big part of why we like doing it.
Granted it is difficult to find many women that are comfortable and trusting enough to let men give them oral pleasure.

 

[southsamurai]

now i will admit i have run into some funky aromas in my career as a cunning linguist. but in those cases an illness or environmental factors were involved (smoking, weed, and some foods tend to make human secretions a bit bitter and funky).

a healthy, clean set of genitals shouldn't smell bad, though it may smell strongly. there is a huuuge difference between the two. that musky, fleshy, female aroma is pleasant. add in pheromones and it becomes flat out arousing and appetizing. just because the scent permeates the room after a while doesn't mean its a bad thing.

as to anatomy, unless there's a cock down there i've rarely seen a punanny that by appearance alone was unattractive (if there's a cock down there, and its your's then you aren't a female anyway. if its someone else's that's a different issue lol). heck some of the traits that women seem to worry about just make oral more fun for the giver. larger labia? more to play with. very fleshy inner labia? the same. large clit? c'mon that is fun for everyone involved.
small labia or clits have their own allure as well, though they require more ..... precision... while a fella (or lady) is taking a trip down south.

i wont launch into a paen to the flavors of female nether regions, well not beyond saying "yum!", but that is another thing people worry about too much. if you're really worried make sure to eat some fruit regularly (pineapple particularly) and then you have sweet wholesome goodness. or perhaps indulge in some food play (though avoid stuff with too much sugar in it) whipped cream, maybe some chocolate syrup on the outer parts, call it a girly sundae and enjoy! (dont forget the cherry! or if you lost yours already, a store bought one will do just as well since you still have the box it came in )


anyway, my point is unless your partner has some hang up, just lean back and enjoy. if your partner has a hang up, may i suggest a new partner?

 

[AmberCutie]

Lol, I guess I'm the only one who still gets shocked at camstory's words and posts.

 

[NoelleBright]

Lol, I guess I'm the only one who still gets shocked at camstory's words and posts.

You're not. :shhh:

 

[Alexandra Cole]

Love to receive, love to consume.

(I voted for what I'm craving right now.)

 

[camstory]

and I have everything under my control. I know he's enjoying it, and I enjoy giving him pleasure and controlling the sensations. It's a power trip for me to look into his eyes and watch him squirm and moan.

Yes, exactly, swap out the he's for she's, and yes this ^^^. In my life otherwise I am not a person that has had, or taken much control, and it took me awhile to be ok with admitting that it is very much about control. People often think of the giver as being submissive, which it can be for sure, but when the giver gets in tune with the receiver's being and sexual emotion so well that they gain very close to the same amount of control that would be typical of bondage play, the giver is definitely not the sub.

I feel confident in giving, and that confidence makes me happy and more satisfied with sexy times.

I Find this feeling of control so erotic, that I can reach orgasum, and often do much faster this way than any other. (Working through that and keeping focus on your prey is a challenge within a challenge.)

if something is not working for you, tell me, direct me, I will take instruction, I will listen, on how to make it an enjoyable experience for you. if I hit a good spot, say "keep doing that" and I'll keep doing that.

Try telling your partner to refrain from any verbal communication at all, and instead listen/feel/sense, their body/breath/movement for your ques. It frees them up to relax that much more, and when it is right, it becomes a magic thing. (I once heard somewhere Wynton Marsalis describe what it is like to play jazz when everything is working, that was one of the sexiest things I have ever heard, but I know nothing of music.)

He's been there, done that. Some words are too pure to be BS.

As for receiving...well, I've never been impressed. :sleepy1: Except for that one time. :shock:

Even Rose who hate,hate,hates it try to keep an open mind, it can be that one time with the right person. Unless of course you are determined it can not be.

And finally@Amber, I do not wonder that some of what I post is shocking to some, but this would not be one that I would have thought so shocking. But, one can not always know what might shock a person. It was not my intent, but I will keep it in mind, if a shock is my desire at some future point. :mrgreen:

 

[HiGirlsRHot]

Lol, I guess I'm the only one who still gets shocked at camstory's words and posts.

I've learned to expect the unexpected from camstory's posts.

While I am more than happy to go down on a girl, and have not had complaints and one ex definitely expected it, blowjobs are so great that I definitely would rather receive. Another unexpected thing is the survey result and do wonder if it is a generational thing.

When Bill Clinton famously trying to argue that getting blowjob from Monica Lewinsky wasn't sex. I think pretty much everybody over 35 at the time laughed at him, but some teenagers and early 20s thought he had a point. Blowjobs weren't something that woman as rule generally enjoyed at least publicly. It was more if you go down on me I'll give you a BJ.

One thing that his piqued my interest on MFC, is almost all the models brag about how good a job they do giving blowjobs, even among girls who lack confidence in many other areas. I have heard almost no girls in their 20s say something bad about giving BJ, even a couple of non model 20 somethings I have talked have no problem giving blow jobs.

Shaved pussies and girls that like to give head two of the best things about the 21st century. v :dance:

 

[southsamurai]

oh, just to brag a bit; i recently hit an all time record while giving oral. 5 hours, nearly non stop. i truly couldnt eat the next day my jaws and tongue were so sore. my partner had her first experience with squirting ever (and 2nd, and third, but thats tmi). it was uber awesomeness!

 

[Rose]

Even Rose who hate,hate,hates it try to keep an open mind, it can be that one time with the right person.

I'd rather pick up dog poop with my bare hands all day long than recieve. It is one of my biggest turn offs, and yes, I've had enough partners down there to know it's not because of their technique or skill level. I just hate it. I'm game for fingers or genital to genital contact all day long though. Just don't make any mention of wanting to go down or I might just dry up.

Edit: I'm not hung up on smell or taste either. I could care less about being embarassed about those. If you want to taste me, you'll just have to lick me off your fingers.

 

[NoelleBright]

oh, just to brag a bit; i recently hit an all time record while giving oral. 5 hours, nearly non stop. i truly couldnt eat the next day my jaws and tongue were so sore. my partner had her first experience with squirting ever (and 2nd, and third, but thats tmi). it was uber awesomeness!

Oh man, that is just too much for me. I once had a boyfriend go down on me for over an hour and I was practically a zombie the next day. Arching your back and writhing around in bed for that long causes some damn serious muscle soreness in my experience. It was all I could do to even fall out of bed the following morning.

 

[Nordling]

Ha ha! Yes, to paraphrase Bill Cosby, "all I wanted was some good sex, not a self-sacrifice."

 

[LadyLuna]

I chose that I would rather receive, for a very simple reason.

I have received oral a whole... uh.. four? maybe five? times in my life. I have given it millions of times. I remember one experience receiving oral that blew my mind, and I wish to experience that again.

I do love giving oral, so this is just for "if given the option" kind of thing. Not for "I'll never suck cock again!" And I have never eaten pussy, and doubt I'd like the taste, but I might be able to get past that if I like the girl enough to do it to begin with.

To be honest, it's incredibly rare for my pussy to experience another person touching it with anything other than a dick. The novelty of the experience alone makes it feel incredible to me. But, I do love being fucked too much to really complain about it.

 

[Anonymous]

As for receiving...well, I've never been impressed. :sleepy1: Except for that one time. :shock:

Even Rose who hate,hate,hates it try to keep an open mind, it can be that one time with the right person. Unless of course you are determined it can not be.

That was me who posted the "I've never been impressed, except for that one time" quote.

Even Rose who hate,hate,hates it try to keep an open mind, it can be that one time with the right person. Unless of course you are determined it can not be.

If a woman tells you that she hates something sexually, it's not necessarily an invitation for the guy to be like "Well, you need to do it with me, baby, 'cuz I got skills!" LOL. I see what you're saying, camstory, because like I said before, I've been impressed by the skills of one person. But that person had literally done research on the subject of 'how to give orgasms', so yeah...lol.

I will tell you something that I do not like, and that is being fingered. But I used to worry that if I said something, I would offend the guy. So I just never spoke up, and I just "dealt with it." SMH. That's not good, and in the future, I'll definitely be handling that differently because I really dislike it...lol. I used to think to myself Okay, okay, enough already...I want the dick!


Everyone is allowed to have their own preferences and favorite things. Some of us just want to kiss...stroke and suck dick and get it hard...and then fuck.

 

[southsamurai]

oh, just to brag a bit; i recently hit an all time record while giving oral. 5 hours, nearly non stop. i truly couldnt eat the next day my jaws and tongue were so sore. my partner had her first experience with squirting ever (and 2nd, and third, but thats tmi). it was uber awesomeness!

Oh man, that is just too much for me. I once had a boyfriend go down on me for over an hour and I was practically a zombie the next day. Arching your back and writhing around in bed for that long causes some damn serious muscle soreness in my experience. It was all I could do to even fall out of bed the following morning.

yeah, we were both pretty damn immobile. since we didnt stop with oral i had to bring her breakfast... and lunch in bed lol. i was hobbling around on my cane for two days. WORTH IT!