Very worried about a model/friend

[Wuggie]

She's not communicating with any of her fanclub members that I know. Everyone is worried, not just me. One question I have for the cammers on here, her profile every day or so is showing "up for private", I and three other have requested this but had no reply. Could this be a glitch or do you physically have to do something to enable it? It gave us hope when we saw it.

Up to private is a setting, which means she has Plasma enabled with the option to have requests for private pop up for her on her plasma when she's not online on the site. she has a schedule for when this option should be shown

 

[Maxi]

If I set my Telegram profile pic to an ‘animated turd’ it would be probably because I was sending a message to someone I didn’t want to speak to.

She’s already said “I’ll let you know.”

Just wait

 

[MarieElise]

If I set my Telegram profile pic to an ‘animated turd’ it would be probably because I was sending a message to someone I didn’t want to speak to.

 

[Worried Chap]

It's highly possible that she has left the studio or even the industry and isn't responding. I think you might need to accept that if she wants you to know what is happening then she will tell you. From what you have said, she is still active on her communication channels, just not with you. It's no different from when anyone else in your contact list isn't in touch for a while? Do you immediately think they've come to harm?

She's not a studio girl. It's not just me, there are members of her fan club that she usually talks to who have experienced the same and are also very worried. I don't automatically think that someone has come to harm, that would be ridiculous; but given the fact that she told me she was worried for her own safety and that the country has an appalling record regarding sex trafficking, I don't think it's too much of a leap to not rule out something sinister. I pray that I am wrong, and I hope I can report back here that I am a dick of the highest order, time will tell.

 

[Worried Chap]

Up to private is a setting, which means she has Plasma enabled with the option to have requests for private pop up for her on her plasma when she's not online on the site. she has a schedule for when this option should be shown

She doesn't use Plasma .

 

[Worried Chap]

It's all very easy to say these things when you don't know someone, don't judge people by your own standards.

 

[MarieElise]

It's all very easy to say these things when you don't know someone, don't judge people by your own standards.

1) don't tell me what to do. Mind your boundaries & stay in your own lane.

2) the guy above me said it first, it's what everyone was thinking but worried to say. Sorry you don't want honest feedback This whole thing seems very dramatic and trollish honestly, and I agree with what natural 9 said about it sounding very made up.

 

[Ozzie_]

Mate I understand your concern, but you've had many calm, considered level-headed responses and pieces of advice.

Take it all on board and go outside and get some fresh air and exercise. Live your life. Accept that, sadly, you probably will never know what has become of her. Move on with your life, and perhaps stay away from online friendships with people if this sort of thing is going to affect you so badly.


I am NOT unsympathetic, trust me, I have had similar feelings in the early days of my cam visitor life, but you have to get a grip on the harsh realities of what we have here in the webcam universe regarding friendships and relationships. And what we can and cannot know or control.

 

[Worried Chap]

1) don't tell me what to do. Mind your boundaries & stay in your own lane.

2) the guy above me said it first, it's what everyone was thinking but worried to say. Sorry you don't want honest feedback This whole thing seems very dramatic and trollish honestly, and I agree with what natural 9 said about it sounding very made up.

I will tell you exactly what I want to tell you, the same way you tell me what you want to. How dare you lecture me on someone you know nothing about. You are imposing your own own values on someone who I think has much higher one.

 

[misterical]

I will tell you exactly what I want to tell you, the same way you tell me what you want to. How dare you lecture me on someone you know nothing about. You are imposing your own own values on someone who I think has much higher one.

Dude. Mind your manners. You are the one who came here in a mad panic because someone changed their profile picture to a waving cat and didn't reply to your Whatsapp.

 

[Ozzie_]

I will tell you exactly what I want to tell you, the same way you tell me what you want to. How dare you lecture me on someone you know nothing about. You are imposing your own own values on someone who I think has much higher one.

Personal character attacks are not cool, champ. Dial it back a bit.

@MarieElise can speak for herself of course

 

[MarieElise]

Hey guys I’m out but thanks for saying something. Don’t worry about me, though these kind of people make me laugh. Water off of a ducks back or whatever the saying is. I won’t share more of my opinions on this as it would only inflame the situation, and I’m not really that interested in it anyways. But thanks guys for being sweet don’t waste your time though. I always consider the source when someone has something to say about me, or about anything really, as I weigh up how serious to take it lol. Enough said .

ETA: also note how I didn’t even say it, and he jumped on me and is all about attacking me. That’s troll stuff. File closed as far as I’m concerned

 

[Wuggie]

She doesn't use Plasma .

yea, she does... you're acting like a child that just wants to hear what they think is the right thing honestly..



also manners can still be used even when you hear things you might not want to.. jesus F... hell man

 

[AudriTwo]

 

[BrookeRidess]

Others have already said almost everything I would say and mostly more eloquently.

Personally as a cam model, I regularly disappear at random for a period of time and am completely non contact.

This is because I have chronic health conditions that can really mess me up to the point where my digestive system even stops for awhile and I can barely sit up for a few seconds at a time.

I'm very open about this stuff but many people hide illnesses.

I also super recently (actually only back online since yesterday) had a sudden illness then death of a family member.

As much as I dearly love my community on here and on my platforms, I wasn't about to be telling almost any of them what was going on...nobody goes to a porn site to hear about sadder things than their own day!


We try to balance authenticity with giving y'all a positive space to unwind and "take a load off".

Sometimes we just can't handle even logging on.

As others have said, it's definitely for a good reason...but none of us knows what her reason is and that's ok.

She'll either come back or not.

Up to you if you want to keep tipping her while she's not working (trust me when I say it can make a huge difference in stress levels when you can't work suddenly).

I've missed your post. Was wondering of your still trying streamate.com N how ya likeing it

 

[misterical]

I'm starting to think that if this guy was in my inbox every day panicking because I hadn't read a message, I too may change my emoji to a waving cat and fake my own kidnapping by the cartel.

 

[Kevin4U]

Sometimes we all need to disappear and decompress. I'm a knight for a model and I see the emotional labor she puts into her job almost every night.

 

[BrookeRidess]

I'm starting to think that if this guy was in my inbox every day panicking because I hadn't read a message, I too may change my emoji to a waving cat and fake my own kidnapping by the cartel.

I would have banned the first day. I don't want customers like him

 

[misterical]

Is there anyone else like me who, ironically, now wants to know what actually happened to her?

 

[Vixxen81]

Is there anyone else like me who, ironically, now wants to know what actually happened to her?

Not me. Because nothing happened.

 

[misterical]

Not me. Because nothing happened.

Well there is that ha ha.

 

[ElGato]

Not me. Because nothing happened.

Hopefully she's getting some good "me" time on a beach

 

[Vixxen81]

I ghost the fuck out of people all the time. It's for, as stated, my mental health. People are constantly pulling at models and not everyone deserves the attention they are asking for, especially when they are low tippers.

As others have stated I would have banned him immediately.

 

[ElGato]

I ghost the fuck out of people all the time. It's for, as stated, my mental health. People are constantly pulling at models and not everyone deserves the attention they are asking for, especially when they are low tippers.

I do the same and I don't have to deal with all the shit you models do. Those that are close or know me well know if I go radio-silent, I'm just taking a mental hygiene break. Fuck em if they dont understand

 

[Vixxen81]

I do the same and I don't have to deal with all the shit you models do. Those that are close or know me well know if I go radio-silent, I'm just taking a mental hygiene break. Fuck em if they dont understand

Exactly. It's why I don't chase people down, either. If I send you a message and you don't respond, cool. If you do six months later, cool.

I recently lost a very generous but extremely draining tipper. My resentment versus professional courtesy were quickly coming to a crossroad. Then he hit me with taking advantage of him/the situation when it was the exact opposite. (As some of you know from the thread I started, just rehashing it here for evidentiary purposes.)

I have suffered greatly for it financially, but knowing I won't see his name for a while has brought back an openness and playfulness that he squashed. It's.that.draining.

 

[misterical]

I haven't spoken to my mother for about a week. I'd like to think that somewhere, a forum exists where women in their 70s ask strangers whether their sons have been kidnapped and their faces cloned so that they can have their emojis changed.

 

[Vixxen81]

I haven't spoken to my mother for about a week. I'd like to think that somewhere, a forum exists where women in their 70s ask strangers whether their sons have been kidnapped and their faces cloned so that they can have their emojis changed.

There is.

 

[BrookeRidess]

Well there is that ha ha.

I imagine she is having a few days off snuggled in bed with some snacks watching reality trash tv. Or that's what I do on my days off

 

[Christian90]

Dude, this is why you must not involve your feelings with cam girls, they are there only to make money and everything is about money. I know that many girls play love games and this is not ok, as many of us fall for these games. Try to stay detached with your mind and see this camming thing as a fun fact and that’s it. For your sake.

 

[AudriTwo]

Dude, this is why you must not involve your feelings with cam girls, they are there only to make money and everything is about money. I know that many girls play love games and this is not ok, as many of us fall for these games. Try to stay detached with your mind and see this camming thing as a fun fact and that’s it. For your sake.

I wouldnt remove emotions completely. Thats a bit extreme. Platonic mutual respect feelings are totally okay and preferred