I should have said "woman" in my statement. I was in no way saying that was true about child rape, and I would like to point out that when I said it, we were talking about college students being raped. Here in the US, it's fairly safe to assume college students are above the age of consent.
I did not say if the woman thinks it was rape. I said if the act left the woman feeling like she went through something she didn't want (violated without her consent was how I phrased it though). I'm sure you didn't want to have your head beaten on the floor at the time.
I will admit, I have never been raped, so I cannot begin to understand what you went through. I do know that it's not easy to admit that you've been raped. The closest thing I have is that as a child, my biological mother touched the edge of my vagina in response to my question about what sex felt like. She pulled back right away, and while I didn't feel traumatized or upset by the occurrence, I could see that she realized she had done something bad. I was fine, she was not. Then again, I had no doubts that she loved me, no doubts as to what her place in my life was and my place in her life. After all, she had just got done telling me that sex happens between two people who love each other the way she loved my father. There was no sexual attraction in the encounter on either side. On my side, just a desire for knowledge and experience. On her side, a desire to teach.
Later, I found out exactly why what she did was wrong. I still don't feel like it was that big of a deal. A bigger deal was the bitch who screamed at me the previous year instilling in me a phobia of bathrooms in general and going shit in particular. THAT caused me untold amounts of pain and fear for 20 years! My mother simply caused me to wait until I was 19 to explore sexuality, and to wait until 22 to gain a sex drive. She also caused me to be picky about my partners, and only do things with people I genuinely care about.
As to this whole "men shouldn't worry about taking a woman who is doubtful." BULLSHIT. Men should assume they are about to rape a woman if she hasn't consented, since they can't know how she will view the situation when it is done. I did not feel the need to repeat "if in doubt, back off", as it had already been stated. I was just saying that on the woman's side, if she doesn't feel violated, or guilt, or shame about what happened, then it wasn't rape to her (as in TaschaDutch's case).
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