Bad behaviour example:
I have a deal on for a certain amount of tokens for videos. Someone under tips for the videos.... and still expects to receive the videos... Usually under tipping by not that many tokens, but there's still no way I can back down and send the videos, the dude still underpaid me by about $1, you don't go to a shop and underpay by a dollar and expect to still get your product. Some dudes do this just to try and have control over models, some seem to obliviously not understand that just because the model is all happy and friendly and seemingly relaxed, they're not a "friend" who's going to just let them off tokens, they're actually a business women earning her living.
I had it the other day, nice guy, I still don't quite understand if he really didn't understand or if he was just trying his luck as didn't want to purchase more tokens. I had a video deal for 250 for 16 vids, and then 500 tokens for all my new videos. I thought this was pretty clear that it'd be 750 for all.... he proceeds to tip 488 tokens... saying something in the tip note about how that's all he has and he'll make it up to me in private sometime... Now obviously a private show is another transaction, unless I specifically say so I don't send dudes freebie videos after they purchase a private show off me, so the promise of a future private isn't enough for me to send extra videos.
I asked him which videos it was he was after, he answered "all of them"... I explained that the new vids alone were 500 which he hadn't tipped enough for, and the 16 were an extra 250 on top. After he said something about "only being 12 tokens short" I gave him the shop not excepting short change explanation. He answered "oh, if I tip 12 tokens can I get all of them then?"... Eventually at the end of this story he did tip the 262 tokens.... But I just cannot understand if he just didn't understand what was going on, and how that'd actually be possible as it seems ridiculously clear, or if he was happy to pay full price but was just hoping he'd be able to get away with paying less and not having to buy more tokens.
Even so that equals a badly behaved member. And although this dude tipped me 750 tokens, which usually I'd have been over the moon about, like in Jolene's story, my memory is of him trying to bring the price down.
With Jolene's story, it's not necessarily having tokens, though honestly I think if you're going to have that many tokens showing while you're not actively tipping (even if you've already tipped), it's unfair. We're working on commission, it's not fair to get peoples hopes up. At christmas no child is owed a present, they probably don't even deserve it, but it'd be abominably cruel to hint so obviously at a child that they're going to get something incredible, and then for absolutely no reason give them a different gift. The different gift would still be good, but your heart would still be aching because you'd been expecting something else.
I feel the same with tokens. Camming is a VERY stressful job, members you cannot understand. Sometimes when you're doing everything right and no one is tipping, and your room goes silent... and it's like you either want to shout at people or run away/have a minor panic attack. When you're acting all smiley and sexy but no one's tipping, you have to continue, otherwise you might have some sort of nervous breakdown, and someone comes along and hints that basically they're going to save your night, that everything's going to be ok, that you're going to get an amazing present and you're going to get that amazing rush that comes when you get a big tip, and then they don't..... it's fucked up. This dude wasn't wanting anything, he just wanted to point out he had that many tokens, he wanted to see what she'd do for them, and I very much doubt he ever had any intention of tipping them.
I've had dudes do the same thing, asking what they'd get for big tips, and even though I know there's probably zero chance of it happening I start getting excited, and when they turn around and go "haha I wasn't actually seriously going to tip that much! I just wanted to know what it'd get me! I thought it was so obvious I was never going to tip you that much hahaha", not even so much in a troll way, but a "oh aren't I funny! I mean why would anyone take anything on here seriously?" lots of guys do this. They don't seem to understand just how fucking cruel it is to even hint at tipping those amounts if you have no intention of doing it.
Guys, there is such thing as human decency, before you act think of how you'd feel if you were in the same situation. And I don't mean think lightly about it thinking "oh but it'd be a transaction, it'd be fine to act this way" I mean really think about it from the models perspective. There's no reason you should ever need to hurt a models feelings or piss her off. If you're doing it then I'm sorry but you're definitely in the wrong. I have members who've been visiting me for long periods of time and very rarely, some never upset me, yet I have members who upset me and other models on a regular basis. They are the problem, and as much as they try blaming the models, it's not the models faults, it's how they're dealing with the situations around models. This can be taken in any form of life... if people keep saying things to you/keep getting upset with you for similar reasons/your relationships keep failing, it's not them, it's you. Men as a rule find it harder to change than women do, in relationships there's always a certain amount of change, but women tend to change more to suit the man, this is ok, it's how we are, but it also means that men can be more prone to making the same mistakes again and again and stubbornly refusing to accept that change is needed, or being able to change once they realise the issue.
We only live one life, it's up to the individual to decide what life they want to live. Sometimes living life to the full means accepting your way might not always be the correct way.