Ok so! I know there are ALOT of posts about this but I think mine is unique enough that it merits a separate post. So I've been "dating" this camgirl for a month and things were going great. We had the boyfriend/girlfriend talk and we set some pretty clear boundaries. She, of her own accord set the boundary that she would never tell viewers things like "my love" "I think about you"(in a non sexual way IE like you just popped into my head and I miss you) etc. And great, I trusted her word and was happy with this boundary.
Now the other day a long time viewer pops in and she goes "Oh my love is here" and she LIT UP. Then when he was leaving she goes "Write to me later, don't let anything stop you. I think about you, I think about you all day" and there I was feeling completely and absolutely devastated and betrayed. That was literally THE boundary and she broke it. When I confronted her about it she said she only said it because her job requires it. Am I wrong for not being ok with this? Am I right to be upset and feel angry and betrayed? If she lied to me about not saying this to anyone else, what else is she lying about? There's also the fact that past her saying I'm her boyfriend she does nothing to make me FEEL this way. Outside of her camming we only talk a few minutes at night before she goes to sleep if at all and yet she's up late at night online posting pictures and talking to who knows. No one in her personal knows about me in ANY way and she refuses to budge on this and her own mother knows she's a camgirl. And we literally have no sexual intimacy outside of work, or personal for that matter.
My question is, should I be ok with this? Am I being unreasonable or dramatic for feeling hurt and betrayed? Am I being unreasonable for feeling like I'm not being treated like a boyfriend at all given we have no kind of intimacy or acknowledgement outside of work? I'd really like a model's opinion and please be brutally honest. If I'm being a jerk and unreasonable I will go apologize to this lady immediately.
Now the other day a long time viewer pops in and she goes "Oh my love is here" and she LIT UP. Then when he was leaving she goes "Write to me later, don't let anything stop you. I think about you, I think about you all day" and there I was feeling completely and absolutely devastated and betrayed. That was literally THE boundary and she broke it. When I confronted her about it she said she only said it because her job requires it. Am I wrong for not being ok with this? Am I right to be upset and feel angry and betrayed? If she lied to me about not saying this to anyone else, what else is she lying about? There's also the fact that past her saying I'm her boyfriend she does nothing to make me FEEL this way. Outside of her camming we only talk a few minutes at night before she goes to sleep if at all and yet she's up late at night online posting pictures and talking to who knows. No one in her personal knows about me in ANY way and she refuses to budge on this and her own mother knows she's a camgirl. And we literally have no sexual intimacy outside of work, or personal for that matter.
My question is, should I be ok with this? Am I being unreasonable or dramatic for feeling hurt and betrayed? Am I being unreasonable for feeling like I'm not being treated like a boyfriend at all given we have no kind of intimacy or acknowledgement outside of work? I'd really like a model's opinion and please be brutally honest. If I'm being a jerk and unreasonable I will go apologize to this lady immediately.