The Musings of a Perimenopausal Cam Model

[misterical]

I have a notice on my cb room "It's CHATurbate not lurkurbate"

I see the same guys who will sit an entire shift with the model I moderate for and neither speak nor tip. Every single day.
I mean granted they're not being a nuisance but I'm completely baffled as to what purpose they actually serve in the webcam ecosystem.

 

[Vixxen81]

I see the same guys who will sit an entire shift with the model I moderate for and neither speak nor tip. Every single day.
I mean granted they're not being a nuisance but I'm completely baffled as to what purpose they actually serve in the webcam ecosystem.

I've had the same gray user in chat for 13 years. Makes no sense whatsoever.

 

[Schnauzevoll]

I see the same guys who will sit an entire shift with the model I moderate for and neither speak nor tip. Every single day.
I mean granted they're not being a nuisance but I'm completely baffled as to what purpose they actually serve in the webcam ecosystem.

Tbh to me they are a nuisance especially when it is slow, no interaction at all creeps me out, kick/24 hour ban

 

[KingMarti]

I see the same guys who will sit an entire shift with the model I moderate for and neither speak nor tip. Every single day.
I mean granted they're not being a nuisance but I'm completely baffled as to what purpose they actually serve in the webcam ecosystem.

I had one the other day say "how about a flash since I dedicated so much time to being in your room" like he tips...in 1's...in the last 7 days I think he's at 10 tokens

I find lurking to be more of a nuisance than people talking shit tbh, it's off putting to be in a room of people and no one is interacting in any way. Best way to explain it is imagine throwing a party, everyone comes, sits and just stares at you not saying or doing anything else.

 

[KingMarti]

I've had the same gray user in chat for 13 years. Makes no sense whatsoever.

I had one (registered) on CB after 6 years of not saying anything or tipping I was like fuck it and banned him... Now he's on stripchat with the same username

 

[Vixxen81]

I had one (registered) on CB after 6 years of not saying anything or tipping I was like fuck it and banned him... Now he's on stripchat with the same username

Unreal.

 

[misterical]

Tbh to me they are a nuisance especially when it is slow, no interaction at all creeps me out, kick/24 hour ban

Yeah, I'd say the vibe I get is "creepy" too. And I'm not the one being watched, so I can't imagine what it must be like from her perspective. Like someone staring through your window for 6 hours and not even waving.

 

[Vixxen81]

Sooo this Surburban Wives show is pretty damn juicy. The last episode absolutely shocked me. That's not exactly an easy feat.

 

[Schnauzevoll]

Yeah, I'd say the vibe I get is "creepy" too. And I'm not the one being watched, so I can't imagine what it must be like from her perspective. Like someone staring through your window for 6 hours and not even waving.

after a while i sometimes go very very VERY close to my camera and whisper or just stare and tell them it will be a very boring day if we continue to pretend that we are at a funeral

 

[ts_cammer98]

I just think of the guy in the bathtub from the Truman Show. Like I defiantly have a few viewers who are in the room at least 90% of the time I'm online. Yes they have never tipped, and one of them is always fucking purple!!!! uugggh like wtf, your in my room for at least 60 hours a month and you can't tip 1 damn token, but you've tipped others?????

 

[yummybrownfox]

On MFC they don't see any indication when PMs dont arrive?

I don't know.

 

[rockin_rod]

it's off putting to be in a room of people and no one is interacting in any way. Best way to explain it is imagine throwing a party, everyone comes, sits and just stares at you not saying or doing anything else.

Good analogy. And it seems like these assholes party-hop for the best they can find.
So many of the silent freeloaders seem to bail out of the room en masse as soon as any action slows up, yet return like a flock of seagulls chasing a dropped french fry as soon as a goal is reached.

 

[AmberCutie]

I don't know.

On MFC they don't see any indication when PMs dont arrive?

It should automatically pop up text in their PM window that says “this model is currently only accepting PMs from people on her friend list.”

But we all know nobody reads anything these days lol

 

[yummybrownfox]

It should automatically pop up text in their PM window that says “this model is currently only accepting PMs from people on her friend list.”

But we all know nobody reads anything these days lol

Yeah, that's what I thought too. But a lot of these guys don't bother reading (and processing) the shit that's right in front of them...including room topics.

 

[Vixxen81]

Just had a guy PM asking for custom content -- never seen him before, he didn't tip me, and got offended that I didn't see his pm and stomped off like a petulant child. "guess it's too much trouble to get a response from you."

 

[Vixxen81]

tipped 1 token -- wish i could cum in that mouth then spit it back and forth

 

[misterical]

I just think of the guy in the bathtub from the Truman Show. Like I defiantly have a few viewers who are in the room at least 90% of the time I'm online. Yes they have never tipped, and one of them is always fucking purple!!!! uugggh like wtf, your in my room for at least 60 hours a month and you can't tip 1 damn token, but you've tipped others?????

I see those guys all the time. Arrive as a light blue and beg for stuff. Then disappear for a while, return as a dark purple and continue the begging.

 

[AmberCutie]

tipped 1 token -- wish i could cum in that mouth then spit it back and forth

 

[MarieElise]

Sidenote; as a perimenopausal woman also, I finally found something that works for me. Everyone is different though and different things will work for every person. I asked for HRT because it was getting so bad. And they started me on birth control pills as a form of HRT. However I have never been able to tolerate birth control pills due to always having very exaggerated side effects from them, that are more serious than a lot of people typically get. At this point in my life I've been tried on about 11 different types of birth control pills, and every single one of them has resulted in some crazy, VERY extreme side effect. Every. Single. One. I'm talking stuff my doctor has never even heard of before in all of her many decades of practice.

So they switched me to the estrogen patch, and then progesterone pills at night. That is working for me. Not a super high dose of estrogen. Not a super high dose of progesterone. It's actually working out really great. Over the course of about 5 years my perimenopause symptoms got so bad that they were definitely impacting my relationships, my ability to work, and all kinds of other things ( my sleep, my digestion all of it). So far fingers crossed the estrogen patch is working for me, with progesterone pills before bed.

My medical situation is complicated though and I have several other pre-existing conditions which I take medication for. So definitely not saying this would work for everyone. But I'm thankful that it's working for me. Wanted to bring it up here in the public part of the forum, so if other ladies read, they are aware of some of the many options. I tried exercising and diet. I exercise like crazy and I eat so healthy. I did that for months, and it didn't barely even make a tiny dent. I guess some of us just need something.

There are probably other options too. I know there are natural options & all kinds of stuff.

I have ADHD too though which is a structural difference in the brain that is genetic. Perimenopause is known to affect the dopamine system quite a bit, which is the system that is already affected when a person has ADHD. So it's not uncommon for people with ADHD to have very extreme symptoms during perimenopause. A lot of women start to have symptoms of in attention and things that are usually associated with ADHD. People who already had a problem with that, crash out completely, because it was already bad to begin with. According to the research I've been doing and the stuff that doctors are writing about in books and putting putting out there. I am medicated for ADHD and everything. But the perimenopause got to the point where the medications weren't barely working anymore. But now that I'm taking the hormones along with with the medications for the ADHD, it's working normal again. Anyways back to work

 

[brandonsully]

Honestly, just trying to survive perimenopause one stream at a time