My big spenders tend to like me, well, because they like me. And I like them, the majority of the time. And I talk to them offline in my spare time, chat with them about their life. I do. They give me money because they want me to do well, and live well. I also want them to be happy, so I never make them believe its anything more than what it is. I have had people who have tried to push my boundaries and sometimes it's hard, not because of the money, but because they so, SO want it to be more than what it is, and I honestly feel badly for them.
It's hard to say its just a fantasy, because I'm just me and they are just them and people are, well, people and are always hoping to find meaningful connections to other people. But this is why sex work is hard, because of the emotional labor involved. I respect the hell out of the ladies who do sex work and don't get caught in the trap of letting their boundaries get pushed or start considering it a "con" to get money out of their clients. It's important to consider the fact that the person on the other side of that computer is a human with human feelings who could just be lonely and want to reach out to someone. We expect our clients to respect our feelings and think of us as human and we need to extend that kindness to the people who are willing to lay down their time and money to support us.
Balancing that with the fact that there are also people who try to take advantage of us is, well, kind of the crux of this story, isn't it? Both clients and models. And muddling through all of that can be incredibly complicated and some people just aren't good at dealing with that.
I think it's shitty that she lead you on, but I'm also not sure how much of this was her being young and well, not handling that component of it well. She might just be a terrible person or she might just not know how to handle what happened.
