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[Garduskippa]

Are we talking about food yet?

 

[Marceline]

Yes, I split about 50/50 in my relationships. Except if someone has a windfall. Like if I win a contest or inherit a bunch, then I go splurge on my partner.
He does the same when he has good financial luck, too.
If I was with one of those guys who doesn't clean or cook or raise kids, then he'd be paying for everything, but thankfully, I'm not.

I did develop true feelings for a member once, and when he stopped paying, I realized...wait - this is the only guy I'm dating rn who is spending absolutely $0 on me.
(Yes, I date more than one person at a time, and I'm open about that. The other main guy won out though, because he was spending money on me, and not acting insecure...so)

I just think even in the rare instances feelings do develop, it's doomed. It's too difficult a situation to navigate, and too many insecurities.
The few couples who have made it work must be very intelligent and perceptive people, who are great at transparent communication. I just don't believe most people have the relational or communication skills to manage such a complex and rare relationship situation. When it is real, which is less than 1 time in 100, and probably more like 1 time in 1000.

I love to splurge on gifts when it’s my boyfriend’s birthday or Christmas or something like that. But when it comes to dates and stuff, I want my man to do most of the spending. And when I do get married, I want my husband to be the breadwinner while I take care of our family and the household.

I know that lifestyle isn’t for some (and a lot of people these days would argue that it’s demeaning to the woman, though I don’t feel that way at all), but it’s what I think would be the most fulfilling for me.

I’ve never had intimate feelings for a member, because I’ve never allowed myself to get close enough to any members. Even though there has been members that I thought were really attractive and I got along well with. Because you’re absolutely right, it would be an incredibly difficult situation to navigate.

Not only would there be insecurities on both sides that each party would have to overcome because of how they met, but there’s a very slim chance that the model and member would be living anywhere close to one another. Even without the sex worker/client dynamic to contend with, long distance relationships are hard af to make work.

Like, I have no clue how people can start off a relationship with it being long distance and make it work. I lived down the street from my boyfriend for years before we both moved and became long distance. If we hadn’t built that bond in person before we ended up living three hundred miles apart, I have no idea if we could’ve made it work.

Then, you don’t have that separation between work and your personal life. The model will always be at risk of getting doxxed if her member turned boyfriend gets angry. My work life is my work life and I don’t mix it up with my personal life, because no matter how much you think you can trust someone, you never know what someone is truly capable of. I would hate living with the knowledge that one person had the power to fuck up my life by doxxing me, because they were privy to my work and personal lives.

 

[MarieElise]

I love to splurge on gifts when it’s my boyfriend’s birthday or Christmas or something like that. But when it comes to dates and stuff, I want my man to do most of the spending. And when I do get married, I want my husband to be the breadwinner while I take care of our family and the household.

I know that lifestyle isn’t for some (and a lot of people these days would argue that it’s demeaning to the woman, though I don’t feel that way at all), but it’s what I think would be the most fulfilling for me.

If my BF made enough to afford that, I'd 100% go that route. Not demeaning at all. My Mom and Dad did that, and I was blessed with an early childhood where I was able to develop really deep and close bonds with my mother, which last to this day. Best memories ever! I'm someone who had a 3.8 GPA, did Grad school, had a whole separate career blah, blah, blah... nevertheless (for me) staying home w kids has been the pinnacle.

I was raised to not be that way, but actually the most fulfilled I've ever felt in my whole career (of all the careers I've had) is actually working part-time from home, and raising kids.
It is extremely satisfying and happy!

I would 100 percent have gone the full route and not worked at all, but my partner doesn't make enough for that, and I spend a lot, and live West Coast, where the cost of living is insane. But I can't blame it just on that. I want to live a lifestyle where if the guy is footing the bill, he has to be making major dollars, and the guy I fell in love with does not make major dollars.

I’ve never had intimate feelings for a member, because I’ve never allowed myself to get close enough to any members. Even though there has been members that I thought were really attractive and I got along well with. Because you’re absolutely right, it would be an incredibly difficult situation to navigate.

Not only would there be insecurities on both sides that each party would have to overcome because of how they met, but there’s a very slim chance that the model and member would be living anywhere close to one another. Even without the sex worker/client dynamic to contend with, long distance relationships are hard af to make work.

Then add in that the guy can now sit at home and suffer watching the model take show after show after show with other dudes, while she doesn't have time to hang out with him that night, because she has to hit her quota.
It's a recipe for disaster that only the most secure of males could handle.

Then, you don’t have that separation between work and your personal life. The model will always be at risk of getting doxxed if her member turned boyfriend gets angry.

Yeah, honestly, every negative tag or bad thing a troll says to you, you start to wonder about.
Because you know there's someone out there with feelings for you, who is probably/ could be watching you (at times) get fawned over by other guys.
Even though the reality is that most of the ones spending are married, and it is purely just a sexual "rub one out real quick" type of thing for them hehe.
But it's pretty hard to believe that even the strongest and most secure of men, isn't at some point going to get extremely pissed off at that, and want to lash out.
If he's not right there with you, you know. And he feels insecure and doubts that maybe you're putting one over on him, or trying to, in the back of his mind.

When it really does happen, it's heartbreaking (on both sides).

 

[rockin_rod]

I just ate a Cornish pasty.

OMG Ginster's?? I really miss those since I left the UK. Best. Pasties. Ever.
Unless of course you're in Cornwall and find a good bakery that makes their own.