Cumming on command

[marchards]

I was trained to come on command

How do you train someone to cum on command? Given that there are some women who can't cum at all...

 

[SweetSamara]

I can cum real fast if I have a porno on in the background haha that's my trick for cumming on command.

Mental stimulation just makes it happen for me lol Or if I watch a porn before I come online, it helps me focus more to cum.
God that made me sound like a perv haha

Porn can be a huge help for me too. And if that makes me a perv, then so be it
my problem is I tend to get a bit "cum shy" as I call it. In other words I don't cum well under pressure. Which is why i rarely do cum shows. On streamate its most difficult because every guy that takes u private wants to see u cum. And my body has only ever managed to cum 2 or 3 times in a day.
But this could also be because I'm still learning what turns me on and makes me cum. It's a learning process I suppose.

 

[mav2199]

I can cum on command. I do it everyshow...

 

[marchards]

I can cum on command. I do it everyshow...

You're not quite representative of my target demographic (by which I mean I assume that it's easier for boys than girls), but that's still impressive.

 

[BettyDemure]

I can fake it on command but I sure as heck can't cum on command. If I'm edging and already built up then I can usually manage it in a short(ish) period of time.
Want to kill my lady-boner?
*Tell me to cum right now, or complain that I haven't after 30 seconds - because nothing is sexier than pressure and stress. This is why I tell people 5 minutes minimum for a private chat, I need a few minutes to get there, and that's that.
*Have me switch from doing something that is going to get me to the fateful moment to something that isn't going to do jack for me (I'm not sure where the idea that pure penetration is the best route stems from, but I promise you - it's not; though it can be fun in combination) - trust me, I know how to get myself off better than anyone else .

 

[sagereign]

Depends on my sobriety state LOL. If I'm sober, then no never. Can't do it, especially not on command :c But after I've had a few drinks even if I wasn't aroused beforehand it's like I go into nymph mode lol

 

[Stevieboy26]

I have recently been seeing a woman regularly and she has some how managed to do this thing where I can cum in seconds. I usually take ages to cum, in fact, quite often the woman has given up and I've had to sort myself out, but recently it's been a complete different story but only with this woman. No idea how she does it as I can't do it when I'm alone, but whatever it is, it's good!

 

[Kvothe]

I wouldn't exactly call it 'on command'. I believe it's very much about mindset and self-control (in the sense of delaying pleasure for greater pleasure in the future).

Going solo, I know the spots to target if I want to make it faster, but it still takes time. If I was already edging then it would be achievable soon after deciding to cum.

Similarly with a partner, it would only be if I was already close/edging. I couldn't cum on command from oral even if she tells me to, and forget about hand-jobs (there's no way anyone knows what works for me better than I do, plus if you don't use enough lube they're really painful. Not enough lube + long nails = turtle-neck).

Why the hell did I read this thread title as "Cumming on Cereal?"

Getting sick of milk? We see what we want to see...

 

[ElanaDarling]

I can cum better if i'm told to by someone I like on cam or IRL. (Someone I don't like wouldn't have made it that far) It is all a psychology thing for me. I get off on being controlled and dominated even just if my hubs says "You need to wash the dishes" I get turned on.

I do think it ties into the sub/dom psychology but I don't have to be super into anything for it to get me going like I had never even considered that feet could be something sexual until I got into the cam world and I googled some foot job porn out of curiousity and I'll be damned if I didn't like it... sometimes I think I just like things because they are strange and new.

 

[Auri Amos]

I'm lucky that my partner knows my body super well, so when we have sex he can push me and make me cum on demand. I've only been able to do it with him though, it might be more of a mental thing than a physical thing.

I find to be such a turn off though when members will push for me to cum when they demand though. if anything, it will only male it harder for me to cum. When I do cum shows I'll mainly look away from the computer screen so that I don't get distracted. Hahaha.

 

[Rox240]

I definitely can't cum on demand but sometimes I can get there quicker than usual. It's all about the mind set for me. I'm also one of those girls who cum much faster while watching porn. Most of the time if I'm not building up to it or just playing with myself a bit it takes a while to truly get there. I hate to say this but when guys in my room are demanding me to cum ASAP I usually end up faking it.

I can say that I have learned more about my self and what I do and do not enjoy sexually since I've started camming and that has helped tremendously with my sexual life off and on cam. Who knows, maybe on day I'll be able to find that one thing that makes it possible for me to cum on demand!

 

[Dani Picas]

If I am close I can cum pretty quickly, almost on demand.
If I literally started touching myself two seconds ago or you are playing Mr. backstreet driver and telling me how to get myself off then chances are pretty high that I won´t get off, especially on demand.
In a show I kinda like when a guy says cum for me baby, cause atleast I know that you are there. It´s another way of saying ´I´m so close, I´m gonna cum´. Although the latter is better cause if you say the first too soon, then big mood killer.
Either way, once I knuckle down and concentrate on how it feels rather than reading your text, it can happen pretty quickly.
Sometimes seeing a guy cum makes me cum too.

 

[Dani Picas]

The only time I can cum on command is when it's a denial kind of situation. Where I'm made to hold it back for a very long time, yet keep a vibrator on my clit. The minute I'm allowed to relax it just happens.

It's pretty cool. I like being told, "It's okay to cum now."

I just can´t make that happen! I wish I could! My body is like... do it now, or never. The moment just... passes.

 

[Kotik29]

I think for me the turn on is more about the connection, in cam show you have to use some acting skills but in real life when I am submissive it's because I trust the guy enough and I am completely present and in tune and vice versa. In cam shows I try to go to an actual memory I have this if the feeling isn't quite right, then I can give the members the fantasy they want and I don't feel like a total fake.

 

[Moonsunit]

The fastest way to get me to cum is to tell me not to cum...

 

[moosemeat15]

Hi, I can cum on my own command, not others it is a turn off, but when I wanna cum I'll cum.
I really appreciate patience, if someone ur intimate wants u to cum soon it to is an indication that they want it over with cause of some time frame, or they aint into it whatever it is.
But I feel for u ladies being pushed to do so, cumming is a personal thing even if your doing it on cam. It is your pleasure that your doing but for an audience. You ladies are awesome and great at sharing your sexuality cheers to u

 

[SexyStacia]

I can't come on command but I can come pretty quickly. Whenever a guy says 'cum now bb' I say stuff like 'oh fuck I want to cum so bad'....'Ooooohhh I'm gonna cum so hard' and talk dirty to drag it out for another 30 seconds and then I'll be like 'Fuck fuck I'm so close'....and drag it out for another 20 seconds. And then I'll be like 'oh oh here it comes' and drag it out a lil more till I actually cum. So no I cannot cum on command, but when a guy tells me to cum I can usually make it happen within a minute. Also if the guy is a douche and wants a 2min cumshow (or will leave) he gets sucked into a much longer cum show than his douchey brain really wanted to pay for.

That being said, I have many amazing, sensual orgasms with clients. I also like to have fun with it and I love cumming. One client would book an hour with me and we would see how many times I could cum. Last one we did I got to 13!!! I could barely move.

When I first started camming (only 2 months ago) I would get nervous on cam and fake it. It was just a mental block I had to get over, and it is also much easier now that I have toys and am comfortable.

I loved reading over these replies and thanks for sharing everyone!!

 

[MiaNobody]

I agree with sulu. Everytime someone tells me to cum, its going to push back the time it takes me to a lot. Dont like it D:

 

[KristinKervz]

IRL, a couple of people have made me cum by stimulating my clit with their fingers, but until I got with my current boyfriend, no one has ever made me cum through oral or intercourse. It's definitely a mental thing. When I hear "you gonna cum for me?" or they demand that I cum, I feel pressured, rushed. It kills it. But the first night he made me cum, he had be going down on me for at least 30 minutes. I wasn't trying to cum because I didn't think it was possible. But I was very relaxed and absolutely loving it, because I know for a fact that his biggest fetish is going down on a woman. He just does his thing and he's very slow, gentle, sensual about it. When I'm with him, I'm 100% at ease. No pressure, no insecurities, just pure pleasure. Apparently, all it took was a partner who wanted to enjoy me without so much focus on climaxing. He's even managed to make me squirt on his dick

On cam, I can cum on demand with no problem, as long as I'm given a few minutes to work it up my own way. There's nothing worse than entering a private chat and immediately seeing some copy + paste message "dildo in pussy bb pound hard u squirt." And then "cum bb, cum" every 5 seconds. Buuut, if the guy wants to see me strip, throws a few compliments out there and then asks to see my pussy, tells me to spread my legs or something equally sexy with some masturbation encouragement and orgasm denial, oh yeah. I'm gonna squirt hard the second I'm allowed to.

 

[cara_mae]

Sometimes I can do it on command, but so many guys camming expect it to happen within a few minutes. Sometimes I'll fake it to help get them off, but it usually leaves me wildly unsatisfied. I'm better and cumming on command in person, when I'm really turned on.

 

[Janelle]

Never on command. Commanding me to do something is... usually it makes me want to not do it, HAhHA. But when I will it? Takes time. If I am really turned on, the first one can be quick, like 5 minutes or less. After that though? Multiples, one on top of another, and then more of those with little breaks between. Getting me to stop is the tough part. Hours fly by. I am too often late getting somewhere because of it.

 

[SpankyHam]

I remember reading a report years ago that suggested the inability to orgasm was tied to our " fight or flight " response because during the orgasm you are vulnerable, so being on cam with a stranger telling you " do this NOW!! " may trigger your subconscious into a perceived threat.Masturbation may also play a part in the inability to orgasm with a partner because you get used to being aroused a certain way, I know for me this is true so I try to resist the urge as much as possible for the ( much too rare lately ) occasion when I actually have sex with a real live woman.

 

[Amberlie_]

I voted stop telling me what to do. INSTANT turn off if a guy walzes in and demands that I cum, or that I cum in the first 15 mins or so. Technically I COULD, but there's no way I am going to be rushed. Rather than fake it with these guys I would rather end the show and tell them they might prefer a girl with a different outlook on camming as I prefer to build some real intimacy, and have it feel as though we're actually lovers getting each other's minds turned on as well as bodies.. if that makes any sense.

 

[JFischStix]

I just can´t make that happen! I wish I could! My body is like... do it now, or never. The moment just... passes.

absolutely hate those moments, I've only recently been able to control my body on cumming, and have gotten much better at edging, The WORST thing ever to me is when I get excited to cum and I tense up making the moment pass!

 

[Dani Picas]

absolutely hate those moments, I've only recently been able to control my body on cumming, and have gotten much better at edging, The WORST thing ever to me is when I get excited to cum and I tense up making the moment pass!

Weirdly enough I have been thinking about this and experimenting, if I put pressure on myself to cum, I can do it! Someone else... and no. Weird.

 

[ShayChase]

If it's in public or group I don't have a problem with it (I've had things where high tipper controls the room for a certain amount of time). I feel way more at ease in a not 1 on 1 situation. If I'm in private I find myself nervous and can't.

 

[DFT]

This is a bit off topic, but I don't know that I'll ever find a better thread to ask it. Can you orgasm on your own command?

Maybe I missed a memo and everyone can do this, if so, oops. I found as a child I could tense up in such a way my whole body felt warm and tingled with electricity in a better way than when I touched that frayed cord, wasn't till teenage days I discovered what that feeling was supposed to be there for. "Oh, that old thing?" The genitalia doesn't activate, but the endorphin rush and signal to nap are there: more intense often than sex - which is why I don't do it while driving anymore.

Pretty damned odd question I have, but I never found a place to ask it before. Not that anyone's ever requested, but I suppose I could satisfy myself on command. I'd be insulted too.

 

[EmelieSky]

I have difficulties with cumming. I need a vibrator of some sort most of the time. If I watch porn I can use fingers and sometimes my man can get me of with oral, but it's always
Clit orgasms, never g-spot, although it has happened a few times with a dildo,And I have squirted a few times (one time at cam).

Denial or command is not my thing. If I CAN cum- then I'm gonna cum,And no one is gonna stop me. And be commanded to cum? Uh-uh. Instant pressure and turn off.

 

[CupcakeQuinn]

Silly enough, whenever I was alone I pictured the guy I'm with (just sexually, not relationship-y)... I imagined him saying "Cum for me". One time when we were having sex, he said it. Holy shit. I had never told him about what I thought when I was alone. He just randomly said it. But it made it made it so much easier and better. After, as I was shaking (I clam up afterwards) he said "That's a good girl". Realized I kinda like being told what to do.

*sorry- I didn'r read through every response, so I'm sorry if someone said something similar.

 

[GreenDaisy_80]

God that made me sound like a perv haha

Im total perv and completely understand !