Dealing with hate

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Jan 20, 2017
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When I first started camming everyone treated me so nice now there's just a bunch of trolls. I almost log off earlier everyday just because I can't hide away my tears. I never treated anyone rude unless they were rude, I always treat greys nice and on mfc I try to answer all pms. Should I just turn off greys and pms? Become one of the girls who ignores the room and just says "thank you" once in a while? I have the lowest price tip menu and still people ask for free stuff. I don't understand is it because i'm always at the bottom of the page with few viewers trolls are always trying to make me sad? just so frustrating when i try to keep the chatroom happy and friednly and I get treated like shit.

p.s. i been camming for 4 years just the last year been so stressful.
 

Emberblaze

Cam Model
Jan 9, 2015
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Emberblaze
They target you because you're lower on the page. They assume it will hurt you more than if they targeted a model they knew was doing well and making more money. It's a reflection of them and their pathetic sad existence that they literally have to mistreat people in order to feel better about themselves.

Silence greys for sure. But also understand it's about them and not about you. Some people are just so ugly on the inside that they have nothing better to do than harass women trying to do their job.
 

Mila_

Cam Model
Apr 3, 2015
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The People's Banana Republic of Manila
www.milamcfly.me
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@milarky_
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mila_
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mila_
You can't control other people and jerks are everywhere so the longer/bigger your exposure the more hate you will get, it's just a fact of life. They insult you because THEY have a problem, not you. Once you figure that out, it all slides off.
 

Capryce

Cam Model
Jan 26, 2019
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@EnvyLusty
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capryce
Haters and trolls are everywhere! I don't know if you can ban them forever on your site, but if you can, do it! You don't need that kind of negativity in your life. Please don't let anyone bring you down, usually people are mean to you or call your names out of jealousy or frustration. You're very brave to struggle against that and you should be proud of who you are. Lots of kisses to you :kiss::kiss::kiss::kiss:
 

JigglesJane

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Jan 20, 2019
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@JigglesJane
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JigglesJane
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Penelope_Dreadful
I echo what everyone else has said. I'm sorry that you're going through that shit. I think we all do, at some point, so please always feel safe talking to ACF about it!

I agree with @AudriTwo that trying a new site might be a good plan. It doesn't have to be permanent, but switching things up can be fun and less stressful. It might help boost your ego!
 

Sansa

Cam Model
Jul 23, 2014
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Winterfell
Twitter Username
@Queen__Morrigan
MFC Username
Sansa_
Streamate Username
MistressMorrigan
If you choose to stay on MFC...

For one, silence the greys/guests. Hell, even silence the basics. Most have been lurkers for years, will never go premium. Trust me, you won't lose anything by silencing them in your room. Many of them specifically go from room to room harassing models, especially those who are lower on a page. If they're making you upset, don't give them an avenue to do that. You'll feel better if you don't have to see their rude or trollish comments on such a regular basis.

This also might sound counter-intuitive, but raise your prices. It helps weed out a lot of the freeloaders and jackasses, especially on a site where they can search someone by their rates (like on Streamate).

Honestly though, if your room barely gets any traffic, you might feel better with a fresh start on a new site. You can always keep your MFC account and go back whenever, it never hurts to have an alternative option!
 
Geez sorry to hear that really sucks!

For one, as a quick fix to your mood I find going for a walk (especially as the weather is getting nicer) really boosts my mood and lets me clear my head, or just go out with friends/family for an evening that should lift your spirits!

The problem at hand... honestly the whole internet is FULL of trolls and I seriously thought it was the worst on League of Legends, but it is actually literally everywhere. I'm actually shocked experienced cam girls don't all mute the guests, I thought that was a standard. Regardless, I would highly recommend at the very least muting the guests. They are the biggest of trolls in a models cam room. The guests are like the clucking ugandan knuckles and the premiums are the queens they follow around. Lmao sorry I don't know where that analogy came from, I'm a nerd. You seem to be the kind of person who likes giving and gives so much they don't take anything for themselves, I don't know I get that vibe. As a cam model, you should demand nothing less than respect in your room. Mute the guests that can't tip you, ban members that disrespect you, etc. It doesn't make you a bad person in the slightest, it only shows you respect yourself enough to do these things and trust me your customers will respect you more for it!

I hope that both helps and makes you feel a tad better!
 
Aug 31, 2013
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First of all know there has always been hate, it was here before any of us and it'll still be here long after we are all gone. The good news is we don't have to let it rule our lives. After you log off it might still bother you, but chances are those idiots giving you such a hard time aren't thinking about it any more. Don't let it run your life, be it in the real world or in the camming world; don't give the shitheads that much power over you. Do what you have to do to take your life back, cut the haters out, and do what you want without them ever being in your world again.
 
May 8, 2012
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Trolling is an attention seeking behavior. This is like training a dog. If you respond when they bark, they'll keep barking. Best thing to do is ignore it, don't respond. Focus on the people who are being positive. I'm not saying don't ban, just don't feed them your attention.

Also you might want to report whats going on to an admin. Let them checkout your traffic. There may be a pattern there, some thing they can address.
 
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