jblackbean2 said:
Points show up tho.
So if your points rise they know you have tipped. If to be fair they are getting angry with you tipping other models. Then surely they should be asking you why? not getting angry.
There might be a reason behind you moving on or liking more girls. Try and be honest with the model. If the Model still gets angry then remove from friends and dont go back.
Like bean said, try and be honest, a model shouldn't be getting angry with you unless you are being a douche, look back at your actions and decide it you were, if you really weren't then she's being a douche.
Times that I think are more justified if a model gets angry, or at least will make me angry about this sort of thing:
If a member isn't tipping me or is tipping me very little, yet is taking up considerable amounts of my time chatting to me/is always stopping by my room, does things like tweets me, asks if I'm coming online (and then goes on to not tip or tips very little), and I find out that he's been spending money on other girls, then yes, I'll be pissed off. It's something that happens all the time, usually I keep quiet about it, but if it's really upset me/pissed me off then I will mention something, I only mention it when it's a really big deal though. Otherwise I'll either ignore it or quietly ban.
If a member tells me he's really broke/can't tip and proceeds to come to my room and freeload on me/talks to me in my room and enjoys the general vibe then if I find out he's actually been tipping other girls, then that's another thing that'll piss me off. This just isn't cool.
These examples, though most members do it, I think they are dick moves. Especially when it's a model who's time you're taking up/you act like you're friends with. Most models will accept when members don't have tokens, we're not all heartless money grabbing bastards, we don't want you to starve. But we also do want to be paid for the time and entertainment we give you, and I mean more than the odd few tokens. So yes, if a member is capable of tipping more, and chooses to go and tip another girl those tokens, then yes, it will piss someone off. That other model feels she's been putting the leg work in because she's hoping you're a decent guy and that when you do get tokens you'll choose to sort her out as she's sorted you out. Finding out that they're off tipping other girls is a big slap in the face.
To avoid these situations and times that I don't feel the model is justified in getting annoyed-
When the member is honest that he tips other girls from the start.
When a member doesn't nag a model to get online
When a member doesn't try taking up too much of her time and attention in pm/the chatroom.
When a member genuinely tips a model generously but likes to spread it around models (but doesn't give models the false illusion he only tips them).
When a member doesn't make requests/demands without tipping for them.
Try not to- (if you tip other models and don't want to deal with models getting upset)
Sit in a model's room every second she's on cam without tipping (chatting or not chatting) if you're not tipping regularly.
Make any form of obnoxious comments.
Don't tell other members to tip.
Never act like you only tip one model, and avoid any form of words that imply you're her biggest fan and she's your favourite model.
If you're not doing any of these things and aren't being misleading then these girls may be being over sensitive which isn't cool. But please remember, you're dealing with fellow human beings here, not robotic creatures made for your own amusement. We are girls working hard at a stressful job that doesn't always pay out. It's very unreliable, which means yes it can get on our nerves when members fuck about and take the piss. No you don't have to tip models, but if you're on good speaking terms with them if you have the tokens then you should be tipping them when you're in the room. We do deal with dick things every day, which is part of what it means to be a cam model, sometimes you just have to be really thick skinned, but it doesn't mean that you as a member have to act like a twat. You can be civilised and you can make the lives of the girls you watch that much easier by not playing them around. This may be down time and laughs for you, but this is their livelihood. It is very serious on our side, so please, keep in mind when visiting models that though by all means you should enjoy yourself and tip/visit who you want, you should still keep the feelings of the workers in mind.
Imagine we're all waitresses, and you come into a restaurant every day twice a day, one time of the day you get served by one girl, you tip her small tips or nothing at all, yet you chat to her, are friendly to her, and she gives you brilliant service and smiles and attention. Later on in the day you get served by another girl and do exactly the same thing. Say you do this every day for a period of time, then a new girl starts working, and you drop her a big tip after the meal. Those other waitresses who've been working their arses off being friendly to you, making sure you're ok will obviously be pretty bummed out and pissed off when they find out that you were just being stingy with them. They didn't do anything wrong, you just hadn't taken into consideration that you being in their section meant they earned less money than they should have each day so tipping another girl you've just met is a big slap in the face to both of them.
And as for how the models might have found out- Models can see everything that happens in a public room. We can also log in as guests/basics/premiums. Keep it in mind that we may easily be watching in the public room.
In my career as a cam model I think I've only had about 3 cases of being upset about a member's tipping behaviour in and out of my room. Only 1 of these people have I ever mentioned it to, it wasn't worth it in the end, and I never had a go at them for it, but I'd hoped that they were a good enough friend to understand I needed to get it off my chest. In that case apparently I was wrong. Besides that I've mentioned to members that I'd rather not have graphic info on their tipping habits only a few times. I think if someone were to upset me with that kind of thing again then I still think I'd probably mention it, but I'd still never have a go at someone for something like that.
A difficult part of being a camgirl is that members often want a realistic feel, but they also don't want to have the negatives that come with having a real girlfriend, like the possibility of hurting the girl's feelings, or making that person upset or angry. Mfc is a place of relaxation and a break from reality for many, a place where they can do what they like, so though some members enjoy a model getting upset about stuff, many members want a more self absorbed relationship with a model where she doesn't kill his buzz. I think if you want that then it's something you should tip for in itself, as if you're not tipping much then really, why should a model give you your lovely desert island fantasy paradise break?